M38
Time wasters!
January 27 2013
Comments
-
RHP User
13 years ago
With your very last line.... & i agree... honesty would be much better than wondering ...
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, you are probably right. For a lot of people the reality of it all is a bit scary. That is why meeting first for a drink without the pressure of playing with a total stranger is much better. I know from your other thread you are into that role play of meeting a stranger for sex but I think actually pulling this off is probably rare, especially from a woman's view point were she has to think of safety too.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Some people can easily get caught up in the on-line emailing back and forth...for some people they like that little addiction - buzz of receiving mai/textl...While It can be fun at first, especially if that person has caught your eye/attention...After a while people get caught up in fantasy thinking and imagination goes a little wild....Sometimes if emailing back and forth people imagine that person by the little things they say...What people need to do is HEAR what they have to say by having actually meeting.People forget - PEOPLE ARE REAL - people do live outside emails, text messages and phone chats...FANTASY IS FUN- but it won't take you far...The reality is when the real magic appears.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
When the mood strikes you and you want it now. They think you are only joking and never show up and message with weird excuses- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I think not! Perhaps you should re think your strategy as this one obviously isn't working. You seem too impatient to just get it on, that is probably why the older guys get a guernsey.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Where people are in the habit of 'shopping' for the best deal, negotiating and comparing. Have you tried a swingers club/party or Craigslist?
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I am old , I dont get periods
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I actually had a situation like this we had met but getting together again just never happened he left the country temporarily I travelled had my period a couple of times we both had unexpected work commitments etc etc.....at times I had been too interested in seeing someone else.. He has even said I may be the one that got away and I too say we may never know?? Sometimes things happen deliberately sometimes timing isnt right.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
You could teach me tuscanred :p- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Did you post this Forum as a way to pick up the ladies??? ;-) ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Your still only young,don't rush things so much,no need to,jsk
-
RHP User
13 years ago
blond_gypsy, welcome to internet dating. It is the most difficult of all forms of dating as people get cold feet at the last minute due to safety concerns. No one can gaurantee that the person you are trying to meet is the one whose photo appears in the profile. Lots of scammers on here wanting to rip you off. I had a very bizarre thing happen to me twice. I was communicating with two different women at two different times offsite. They both sent me naked photo's of themselves thenn broke off communicating while I was trying to organise a meet and greet with them. Very dangerous thing to do from their point of view if I had chosen to use those photo's to set up a false profile or posted them on the net. I simply deleted them.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blond_gypsy'You could teach me tuscanred :p- Posted from rhpmobile come down to Mandurah and make sure you have an apple I will provide the cane ...evil grin but if your a good boy, then you shall be rewarded by taking the orals
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'blond_gypsy'You could teach me tuscanred :p- Posted from rhpmobile come down to Mandurah and make sure you have an apple I will provide the cane ...evil grin but if your a good boy, then you shall be rewarded by taking the orals I am sorry I must have misheard.... who is going to be taking orals?? hahaha
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'tuscanred' Quoting 'blond_gypsy'You could teach me tuscanred :p- Posted from rhpmobile come down to Mandurah and make sure you have an apple I will provide the cane ...evil grin but if your a good boy, then you shall be rewarded by taking the orals I am sorry I must have misheard.... who is going to be taking orals?? hahaha you do your study, and they test you its called " taking your oral exams lol"
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Hey Blond Gypsy...There are a fair few pretenders on here....I know you have met my better half ;-) (northerntantra) - she has also had experience with countless pretenders - I get vicariously pissed off....Danny
-
RHP User
13 years ago
There are lot who get off on just chatting. Some just can't take the next step. Though after a several chats if its going no where say straight out. If they ignore or start getting nasty. You block and move on. Plenty of fake profiles out there - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Blond_gypsy, People will always have there own way of going about things but overtime these sites are so simple to workout. You're probably thinking "what is it".....don't worry it'll click one day and then you'll laugh about it lol.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' Hey Blond Gypsy...There are a fair few pretenders on here....I know you have met my better half ;-) (northerntantra) - she has also had experience with countless pretenders - I get vicariously pissed off....Danny She speaks very highly of you and you make a very handsome couple!I wonder is it more typical of younger men to do this? Never understood the point of faking a profile. That's a lot of effort just to masturbate over a stranger on the internet...
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously, less energy on what others do, more on how you carry yourself in the world. Whatever your standards are, the first question is always whether or not YOU live up to them. We all fail from time to time. We're all less awesome than we wish we were from time to time. If that's what uou wish she'd said then perhaps tell her that, rather than vent self-righteously. Let it go and move on gracefully, say I :)
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' Seriously, less energy on what others do, more on how you carry yourself in the world. Whatever your standards are, the first question is always whether or not YOU live up to them. We all fail from time to time. We're all less awesome than we wish we were from time to time. If that's what uou wish she'd said then perhaps tell her that, rather than vent self-righteously. Let it go and move on gracefully, say I :) But I'm British, self-righteous venting is a past time.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
""hey I'm sorry, the idea of meeting a relative stranger for sex was thrilling but now faced with the reality it terrifies me""I'd have a lot of patience, even empathy, for someone who 'fessed up to being scared and backing out. Just admitting that much takes chutzpah.Internet "trolling" just to waste someone else's time... that seems somewhat juvenile.Although, once, recently, on a different site, after a particularly horrendous period of fakes, wasters and weirdos, I wrote someone an introductory message that was designed to be the opposite of *everything* they had in their profile/requirements. I was an internet troll for a day. Well, about an hour, actually, because they went absolutely nuts and got quite offended.I didn't like my time as a troll :(
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blond_gypsy' But I'm British, self-righteous venting is a past time. Did you say British??? That's caught my attention............OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH The British accents make my knees very weak, does things to my body out of my control and puts very wonderful erotic thoughts in my head.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' Quoting 'blond_gypsy' But I'm British, self-righteous venting is a past time. Did you say British??? That's caught my attention............OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH The British accents make my knees very weak, does things to my body out of my control and puts very wonderful erotic thoughts in my head. Well if you called I could wax lyrical about Jeremy Clarkson and penions and the rate of inflation and other things Brits like to talk about.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blond_gypsy' Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' Hey Blond Gypsy...There are a fair few pretenders on here....I know you have met my better half ;-) (northerntantra) - she has also had experience with countless pretenders - I get vicariously pissed off....Danny She speaks very highly of you and you make a very handsome couple!I wonder is it more typical of younger men to do this? Never understood the point of faking a profile. That's a lot of effort just to masturbate over a stranger on the internet... I am so shocked, do people really do that? puts tits away and blushes... I had no idea at all hands kid a tissue just incase you get a cold
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with you. At the moment I am not as free with my time as would like and have thus written that in to my profile. When I was single and had all the time in the world and didn't have to co-ordinate husband and lover I would chat for a night, a few phone calls then meet. One particularly horny day when I had the day off work I logged in and had invited the first sexy guy who started to chat to me over within half an hour of looking at his profile. He arrived within 45 minutes, after sneaking off from work! A nice quick encounter was fabulous. So unsafe when I think about it. I normally didn't invite guys home.. I met them out... but I had NEEDS! lol
-
RHP User
13 years ago
If a guy doesn't want to meet straight away, i.e. a few days, but wants to chat and send endless emails, I figure his profile is fake. Do guys on RHP who are here wanting sex actually turn women down as they want to go down the sensative route where we get to know each other for 5 weeks before meeting??? I don't think so.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Blonde_Gypsy, unfortunately that's the way of the world. People don't want to admit to their fears. Have you tried inviting the ladies out to drinks first with no expectations? Then charm them into bed from there. You may need to change your strategy. When I was single, I always required a meet'n'greet in a public place before ever agreeing to sex with someone.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I actually usually offer a meet and greet first, but there are always the ocassional time wasters. usually turns out that they're just dudes with fake profiles.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'blond_gypsy'I actually usually offer a meet and greet first, but there are always the ocassional time wasters. usually turns out that they're just dudes with fake profiles. you shock me fake profiles................never!
-
RHP User
13 years ago
We coped it today, class it as set up lol. As long as we learn from it then we'll all be happy.
-
Cheekyarses
13 years ago
There will always be time wasters! The thrill of the chase The thrill of someone taking a slight interest The thrill of viewing nude hot pics, cam etc. Unfortunately ppl should be honest from the beginning n say they are only on the site to make Internet friends - they don't want to meet ever or do anything ever! It's just a fantasy for them! But yes time wasters are just that!
-
RHP User
13 years ago
I had a date for tomorrow but put my back out at work so how does this sound when the person doesn't know you yet, had to ring and cancel.
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Am I a "victim"... Short story: In contact with a couple. Her pic, he does all the messaging. Says to be into cuckolding scene (sure, why not). Wants to meet at nude beach. I'm already booked the suggested day (only a few days away). I suggest another date. He now wants to make it a "role play" of random pickup, except she won't know in advance. I suggest they share face pics (I'm suspicious now). Goes quiet for a fortnight or so. I nudge. He says "who are you again". I remind them/him. He delays because 'she is away', and studiously ignores my suggestion of face pics or a meet / greet. Bogus, right? - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Honestly I just freak out. It's been 11 years since I slept with someone new and I just can't take that step but I've been honest with the only 2 people I have exchanged emails with. One was pushy sent naked pics and wanted me to in return so I ignored them the other I'm still getting to know How do you take that step What happens if they think I'm gross because my pics are more flattering than I am in real life- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Tabitha, your post made me want to get in the car and drive right there to show you how very overblown your fears really are.- Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
13 years ago
Not every initial meeting has to result in sex..I would say it's probably because they are seeking attention more than anything as their guy at home is giving none to them..They are complete time wasters..Something that pisses me off is people blocking you when they view your profile, flirt or reply to a message. I dont bother anyone if they are not interested or dont reply after a initial message. What I would say to people like that is FIRSTY, Look and read your own profile, if you come across like a couple of leg openers, then highly likely you will be treated like one..Just for that I'll be adding an extra note to my profile...
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15123 Comments: 88159
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1417 Comments: 10229
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2521 Comments: 11677
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2506 Comments: 9759
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 1009 Comments: 5265
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1303 Comments: 5776
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 782 Comments: 1988
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 867
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share