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Time to flip the coin.

July 26 2010

I've been reading more of the BBW v's slim chick posts, which bring up interesting points on preferences, health, self-esteem and different norms between different body types BUT it's all been about the girls. How about us blokes?So guys and girls let rip with your opinions on what you like and dislike in a man's body and what you think is healthy or not.I consider my body as the boring description of "average". I'm a bit over 6 foot and in the low 90kg's although working at getting that to the mid 80's which I think is ideal for my stature. So in reality should I be describing myself as a "bit chubby" or maybe even obese as if I go off the old BMI I should be in the mid 70kgs, which is ridiculous as last time I was there was when I was a skinny surfy teenager!So how comfy am I in my skin? Pretty comfy, although when I see all the ultra-fit guys on here I often think I might not make the grade. I'm comfy getting my kit off and enjoying myself with the lights on even with other sexy bodies around although I don't look in the mirror and think I've got an awesome bod, I don't think my average bod photographs well hence I do woose out and hide my pics in the pg. So am I one of these fat old guys who baits with my hot young wife? I love taking photos of her and I think she's much nicer to look at. I hate posing for any photos, I'm the one always pulling the funny face in family photos!I like a range of women's bodies from the taut and tight to the nice and curvy, now if I have to quantify this then I guess the most attractive range for me would be size 8-14. So am I narrow minded or does this range mean I need much more than just body to get me really attracted? So girls do you have a range and if so how would you describe your range of attractive bodies? I have quizzed Mrs Pup on this and her range seems huge, like she thinks my bod is damn hot god love her! What I do get from listening to her and other female friends is that for a woman in general the PERSONALITY thing is way more important than the body. Mrs Pup is definitely one of those, a guy can be absolutely hot stuff but if he's arrogant or a dick then she's just not attracted.OK enough of me, boys and girls it's now your turn to have your say on us boys and our many different shapes and sizes.

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Mrs W here, and I have a range. My first requirement is that I don't want to feel like I'm going to break a guys bones if I jump on top of him. So he has to weigh more than me and be a fair bit taller than me. Weighing in at 60kg and being not too much taller than 5' means that these requirements are not too hard to meet. Having said that, I have come across some of those super skinny shorter guys and I am generally not attracted to them at all (except in exceptional circumstances which I will come back to). Second, obese is not cool either. To me it shows a lack of respect for one's own body, and I like a guy to be able to hold himself up over me which obese guys can't really do. Third, muscles are nice, but extreme muscles are a turn off for me. Don't know why, I am friends with a lovely body builder. I just don't like them. So what I am getting at is that range of guys in the middle (which I think most of the population falls into) is just right for me :) The exceptional circumstances have occurred when I have gotten to know someone skinny or obese (but not muscle bound) really, really well and their amazing personality have made them irresistible to me. And it has occurred. But never in a one-night-stand or playing with strangers type situation. So I'm picky and I know what I'm attracted to, but that's ok with me ;)

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Interesting reading a perspective from a male on body shape and size...How would I describe the range of attractive bodies I like...Well, my husband is 6'4 and around about 90 - 95kgs. I find his body absolutely delicious! (His personality is of course awesome too!!) He would probably be considered "average" also. I think if he was in the ideal weight range he would look like a skeleton! Mid 70's is not a good look on such a tall guy... I'm attracted to tall guys and always have been...To be honest, I'm not overly fussed by a guy's body as in shape. As long as he is tall *laughs* I'm 5'8 / 5'9, so anyone taller than me.... this isn't to say that I total rule out guys shorter than me. I'm thing logistics....There obviously has to be some physical attraction, and personality does contribute a lot, for me anyway. I don't think I could fuck a guy JUST because he was tall.

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I'd like to hear answers to this one as a guy with a gut. Mrs wewantit has a similar take on it, that personality is more important than a body and I'm the same, I like women of all sizes, you're all beautiful and deserve to be treated like princess's. But it has happened when we've met another couple that the female wasn't interested anymore after we met up. Dont know for sure why not, but I suspected my size was part of it. Thats fine and all, no hard feelings. It just makes me wonder if women just wanting a one nighter or casual partner really care about personality? I'd assume probably not and say personality would matter more in a prospective relationship yes? The Huggable Mr wewantit.

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    im the same as Mrs Pup if he has the personality of an ape then im out the door so id take ugly and a beautiful person over drop dead gorgeous and an arsehole any day but i will also draw the line at a really huge gut...you know the ones with giant beer bellies and no arse and skinny legs....i figger between my huge gut and his, no matter how big the cock is, it would never reach lol but i think Mr Pup...although i do admire Mrs Pups butt...i think us girls should have a chance to perve at your gorgeous face too...come on fair is fair after all so come on Mr Pup get those pics out...funny faces and all lol xxRxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    REAL..... I classify myself as average in our profile, and hubby as athletic. He has muscle, he keeps very fit and active and for his age I rarely see a guy that is as fit looking as he is in couples/guys profiles .So in a way, he has set a standard for me.Im not going to want to play with anyone that doesnt seem to look after themselves ...shallow perhaps but that is my right as any other player on here to choose who they pick and play with. In saying the above there is a couple out there somewhere ..... who I know the guy is probably how you have described yourself Mr Pup. They are an awesome couple and we have had a ball with them both. So whilst we have an idea of what we are attracted to, we dont tend to blow off anyone straight away unless it just doesnt feel right for both of us. I tend to be a " Lil Miss Fussy" ...can you tell?? type and Mr Sat definatly has a broader stream of what he finds sexy! Guys in general I have found are like this.Personality definatly plays to both our fancies, but considering we are here for" play" and not "stay" it s definatly more of attraction first. Now Fantasy....RHP land style... My thing is definatly abs abs abs...the type that you can run your fingers over and feel each defining muscle..omg!!!

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    i just went into the Pups, Wewantit and Saturn65's profiles and the only ones with male pics out and showing are Wewantit and they have nice face shots of the both of them....apart from one of Mr Pups arse (which was very nice by the way and your bod looks fine to me) come on boys let us see your faces...hell you cant be uglier than me lol yeah i understand it takes a bit to get a good shot sometimes....when i was roxxy it took my best friend hours to get shots of me and the only decent ones she took were the ones i had up lol so i get that its hard but come on boys...give us a look...be proud of who you are xxRxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    while i was typing the above 2 more couples show up lol so i go into Mrs S and Wilko23's profiles and the only ones that have hubby pics is Wilko23 and my what a honey he is hehe....i have seen pics of Mr S and he is adorable so once again....come on guys dont hide from us, show us your gorgeous faces ohhh and back to the weight thing...i like a man taller too and not really skinny, so a little bit of meat is great doesnt have to be muscle just more...yeah that made sense...NOT xxRxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    6'1" and 65 to 75kgs, 67 at the mo. got down to55kgs month and a half ago but was bit crook.was 85 in my late teens early 20's but had ta workroooly hard ta get there. mega protein diet andbusting weights. must be time ta find myself a new head cook andbottle washer....ahahahahahahahahahahahahahamind you 70kgs on a 1200 to 1340cc bikegoes rooooly hard...ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaEarls stunt double

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    You didnt look hard enough..Either that or Mr Sat looks a hell of a lot like me if I was unshaven!!! The first pic after our profile shot is indeed Mr Sat lounging on our chaise all yummy 6 foot of him.We have face pics in PG the ususal yada yada there. I too think it important to see what the other half looks like..ps( whispers...) if you are still keen to see more chk out apollo66...but ssshhhh I didnt tell you that!! ;)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    well you had me courious Mrs Saturn and i checked out that Apollo fella and gosh what a hottie he is....hmmmm wonder who he belongs too...my lips are sealed i wont tell a soul...promise i also went back to perve on your profile (oh shit sorry..i mean look ;-))and nope unless your man has boobs he is restricted so i cant see him....the first 2 are both restricted :-( i dont feel like i need glasses now lol xxRxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    TassieRose is a guest and can't see that pic of Mr Saturn at all cos it's restricted. Oh for the days when we used to know which of our pics were restricted!On the topic, personality is more important here than body type or looks...Cheers... Mrs P'

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Said in my best Maxwell Smart voice... Phew Tassie in a way that kinda makes me feel better, have been wondering since you posted that if I really could be mistaken for Mr Sat!!! At least you perved on Apollo so you got the gist!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I am lucky enough to have a guy that I am more than happy with body wise, if anything he wants to get bigger but I keep telling him that too much muscle is sometimes not a turn of for us girls. For myself tho as long as a man looks after himself and has a lil definition and is not overweight I'm fine.....i guess it's sometimes hard to say but after all with these kind of things there has to be physical attraction and we all have our tastes etc :) Oh and please guys if you act like a jerk it's still a turn off no matter how good you look ;) xoxoxo

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I think my hubby is a honey too..... lucky seeing as I'm married to him ;) We figured that couples are just that, couples. Therefore we figured we'd better put an even number of pics of both of us up, warts and all, so that both the male and female halves of other couples can check us out to figure out if they want to meet us. It seems to be working ok for us so far :) Mrs W xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    here here well said i know this standing all to well both myself and my man

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I have been with guys who have athletic bodies, been out with guys with a bit of padding and even was engaged to a larger shaped guy...so for me it is definately personality that shines through better than weight. Mr Pups you cracked me up with photo comment...I am the same..for some reason when a camera is pointed at my face, it instantly turns into a deer with a spotlight shining on it...I remember there was an episode on Friends with that and one of the guys face just contorted whenever the camera was pointed at him...made me piss myself!! Mrs W I so agree with the really muscular guys...for me (and I am only speaking for myself) guys with huge muscles are a turn off...saw a guy tonight as my daughter was reffing basketball...he was about 5'2 and had huge muscles and a head the size of a pin...just didn't look good at all. Defined is nice...but not over the top. Mrs Saturn you have the right to be "Lil Miss Fussy"...it's your body after all...and we all have the right to like what we like!! Rose I agree, he could be "Mr Body Beautiful", but if he has no personality at all or is an arrogant arsehole..then there is no way I would touch him!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Arrghh now politeness dictates I reply to each and every one!!!OK I'll try and summaries but one thing I have to say is that everyone is way nicer when replying to this topic directed at men than at women and this goes for guys and girls. From the other fat v's skinny posts it's interesting that women are harder on each other - take note girls and be nice to each other, you're all self-conscious to some extent as are us blokes!Firstly Saturn said something that hits a chord with me, she's partnered with a guy with a very impressive body and he kinda sets the standard for her attraction to other guys. I get this and when we've had a couple show interest in us where the guy is super fit and especially super-gym-fit-muscle-bound then I'm hesitant to meet as I think there's no way the woman will get off on me and I don't want to be the one that has to be "taken for the team" so they can enjoy my oh so adorable wife! Again this shows a little insecurity on my part but it also is pretty logical. Now if I didn't like Masterchef and thought I was one I reckon I could get a bod like Mr Saturns (with a bit more gym time too). As it is I get a moderate amount of exercise for having a sedentary and stressful job and I like to wine and dine my dear Pups to. This keeps me in the "average" bod range Now I just don't think my "average bod" is pin up material so I think full nudie shots of myself just look silly. I'm going to have to teach Mrs Pup the finer art of photography and harden up and do some modeling, after all isn't this all about extending ourselves physically and emotionally?Sweetiepie, you're just so damn spoilt - as you should be of course!!!Mrs W - your take on things sounds similar to ours, Mrs Pups best sex has been with someone who was just about her physically most un-ideal (shorter, skinnier, lighter - makes her feel like she's huge) but this was a friend that we love dearly so there was more emotional attachment. So Rainbow your best big-O might be with some skinny short-ass guy out there!!! Just goes to show that the clitoris is deeply connected to a woman's deeper conscience.Tassie you're a darling, as for face pics I've commented profusely about this in other threads before. Would be nice to be so open but we don't have the trust in the wider community's acceptance of these activities and even less trust in the safety of sites like these. You can see more verbose ramblings on this topic in these other posts.Earl ya skinny arsed muso I think we're going to have to come over and cook you some food mate! What are you going to play for us?Summer, spot on, he looks like he's nearly getting too ripped but I'm sure he's pumped for the photos. Again, we've had a wink or two from you but haven't replied mostly from missing it but looking at your pics I'd be asking myself if I could really spark your interest when you have such a fine specimen of a man!! If I could then please let me know so I can stop the drooling and get in touch! Oh and Mrs Pup says NO to your guy getting any bigger, he'll do just fine for her the way he is!Funloving, what can I say, I'm developing a rather randy crush on you the more I read your postings. I love your style!So keep going guys and girls, let's hear what more people have to say and does anyone have a solution to how we can discuss the same issues with women without it turning nasty or is that just an impossibility?Big hugs for all and some slap and tickle for those who fancy itxxxMr Pups

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Lighting and angles baby!! Its all about lighting and angles...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    soooo can the Saturns please come over and show us step by step how to get naked and take some great photos

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Not really but I don't mind a bit of extra padding at all however I do prefer some muscle tone and definition, especially in the arms :) I wouldn't mind ample if they had a handsome face but I wouldn't wanna be squished! I'm only wittle! I wouldn't be with a guy shorter or skinnier though - been there, done that, not pleasant - too much bone clashing and corked muscles.I understand the hesitation in the male counterparts posting images of themselves in the public gallery. It is true that the females quite possibly are harsher critics when it comes to choosing playmates. Especially when the female lists herself as "Very Attractive" because it's a little intimidating and we all want to punch above our weights - oh what a pun! - but the reality is not everyone is going to find us attractive.

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