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Threesum for COUPLES – how’s it like? Very curious...

March 28 2010

Can I ask the couples out there - how’s threesome experience like for you and your partner? (I am not just referring to singles' orgies/ threesomes) I was once married and boy, married sex is boring sex, albeit the fact it was merely 6 months old!! How do you couples (married or defacto) – do it?? I can only say the last time I was into one, I just kicked the girl out of the bed, literally. I didn’t want to share one bit! And the man was not even someone I cared about. I got territorial and he thought it was hilarious. But thinking back, if I could acted that way with a meaningless encounter, let alone with someone I care about!! What a dilemma. The shrink just dismissed it as ADD syndrome. Bastard. So questions – was it awkward the first time round? How has your feelings shifted for your partner after that? Also in the event when your partner desires it and you don’t, would you be comfortable for him to proceed without you? In all honesty, did jealously ever strike? What happens when your partner start to pay her more attention that he would for you? Or when he keeps asking for the same person to join in? And to clarify, threesome or manysome in situations when I am the only female – purrrrfectly acceptable, no issues with that at all J, just not the other way round. So who decides what sex to bring into the relationship? Grateful for the insights, I am re-training myself, in preparation for highly improbable but possible upcoming marital phase!

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16 years ago

ADD? lmfao.. what a cop out. I can only guess that you like to be placed in the centre of attention in the circle of three.. and I do not mean that in any detrimental sense... someone logically has to be in the middle so to speak... so why not you? Fair enough. As for resolving the "issues" ~ anonymous group sex provides an opportunity for no hang ups. To avoid them, couples could always play seperately :p Hugs Stalky

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16 years ago

maybe you should try a couple of guys at once.

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16 years ago

Hi Stalky, Retraining is right so that I can restrain myself from kicking girls off the bed :))) Ahhhh...so there are issues involved. I must message you to find out more! Have a beautiful day, xx Anna

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16 years ago

Hey Anna' you have given it alot thought hey.. As a couple who have not played the 3 card game yet we're probally not all that qualifyied to answer your questions' but we 're just as curious as you. The question for us is' are we ready' answer is yes... what' if anything would stop us... Like you' (read your profile ) we're fussy and probally too selective' so that limits our chances.. Shareing my man ? Well' with Mr JJ being quite good on the eye' I have already come to terms with that whoever I share him with.. there will be some sort of a attraction. But' nothing wrong with that.. Its nice to fuck something nice..yes ? Will I be jealous... umm No' we already come this far so if I thought I would be jealous I shouldnt be here. You lasted 6 months and got bored with sex in your marriage' well' after a few years it doesnt get any better ? So... here we are.. realist about where were at in our life' ... and all sexed up and ready to share with the right people. Anyway' thats a beginners point of veiw... PS.. dont know about kicking the other girl outta the way but... LOL

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16 years ago

I don't know if this quite relates to the topic but this is just my experience with open relationship. I used to go out with this girl for about 4 years and during that time we were into the swingers scene a little. It was all fun in the beginining and went on like that for about 1 year or so. After that, I couldn't helped but noticed that she seemed to take on a liking for this particular person in the swingers scene and would spent more time with him than I would had liked. Yup as you can guess, it ended up pear shape between us. The last I heard she had moved in with the guy whom had also "broken up" with his partner! Now I am not saying that this wouldn't had happned if we were not into an open relatonship. It probably would had the same outcome one way or another but to happen in front of my face, that was quite a confronting experience. I don't know if that answer any of your questions. I would be interested too to hear what other couples had to say on this issue. Ciao, Hotrod

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16 years ago

Well we didnt have a 3some until after 19 years of marriage and then only after it being a regular fantasy in our sex life for a long time so the relationship stuff for us had been sorted years ago. For us the more you give sexually the more you seem to get back. When I share my beautiful bride with another guy I derive my pleasure by seeing her having so much fun as the centre of attention. When she shares me with a lady its same for her. Whether shes plays with lady or not. And hey what guy doesnt love watching 2 ladies playing lol. But we love 4somes most of all because every one needs are looked after we can swap, we can watch. we can be watched, the girls can play, the ladies can can both get two guys if they take turns he he and so can the guys. So maybe for you 3somes (fmf) arent your thing so try a foursome or go bi and and share the lady with your guy. The gift is really in the giving for us. Best of luck!

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16 years ago

JJ and Srfun, Those are great insights. Thanks! I hear what you are saying and totally agree on all those concepts in theory. Only time will tell if I can transform that into practical lessons. Great idea to go foursome, at least I won't be bored enough to kick anyone :) Poor girl had a bad fall. Ok when I do get a long-term man that I need sharing, I know who to go to first!! hehe... xx

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16 years ago

Yup' like the idea of a foursome... Hey' who wants to be a spectator when you can be part of the main attraction. ? SO' Anna... IF you can find a guy lucky enough to catch such a gorgeous piece of woman.. ( big ask ) lol... then we can try and find a possy for you to test out that vicious girl removing kick you so good at.. he he.. reluctantly' I'll just have to submit to being the object of attention... uh huh... uh huh... well' someone has to do it.. lol. Cheers Mr JJ x

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16 years ago

Yup' like the idea of a foursome... Hey' who wants to be a spectator when you can be part of the main attraction. ? SO' Anna... IF you can find a guy lucky enough to catch such a gorgeous piece of woman.. ( big ask ) lol... then we can try and find a possy for you to test out that vicious girl removing kick you so good at.. he he.. reluctantly' I'll just have to submit to being the object of attention... uh huh... uh huh... well' someone has to do it.. lol. Cheers Mr JJ x ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ OK OK one can only try and I can only hope! hahahahaha... perhaps given the circumstances, its wise to incorporate a really low bed, best if its a futon on carpeted flooring, so that even if the kick cannot be restrained, the impact on the landing is minimal!!! HAHAHAHA xx

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16 years ago

Gotta hand it to you Anna.. Just goes to show what a wonderfull thoughfull person you are... How many would have just let the poor bugga fall to the floor...hmmmm .... but not you.. Solution ? Go out and buy a futon so the fall is short and only likely to cause minimal injury... now how considerate is that....... what a woman. lol.....

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