M50
The white-anter
February 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I used to swing as part of a couple ( a few years ago now) my partner was exceptionally well hung ( One big prick in more ways than one but thats another story) - the girls constantly went gaga over this..till they found out what a lazy lover he was ( I disgress)........and my man or even me was constantly sms by the ladies of the couples we had played with..requesting that my partner be allowed otu to play......um hello - what part of "We play as a couple only" on our profile did you not read nor comprehend ?????? Still didnt stop them.....women can be beyond predatory when they want something..manipulative as... .....of course the man loved it...it infuriated me........I wouldnt dream of doing this to another couple..but swinging teaches you many lessons doesn't it ? and your values are often not the same as others Sadly I have no real solution to this issue..as my man often succumbed and played behind my back - ultimately this was the breakdown of our relaitonship All I can say is this....this person is no friend...a true friend will take a bullet for you........not your man !!!! Ditch the bitch..........plenty of others out there that Im sure would be proud to be your friend... Good luck with it all ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Unfortunately yes, I have come across a white anter at work. He is a" friend" to my face but undermines me any chance he gets, so he can a assume superiority over me in the workplace. I'm pretty sure if I had an attractive girlfriend he would be trying to fuck her behind my back too!! It's so sad because he has many abilities & talents, so he does 'nt need to do what he is doing, but I think he is very insecure in himself. One day I hope he grows up & out of it - the sooner the better!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
we need to end friendships.This person is actually not your friend and doesn't wish you well,quite the opposite....I agree with Shinas...''Ditch the bitch''
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RHP User
13 years ago
As my mum says to me..".never call anyone a b*tch as it makes you look jealous because they've succeed at what they set out to do..." I like to call these so-called friends PENNIES.. * They are two Faced * They are NOT worth my time. * They have little value (of themselves). THEY ARE NOT A FRIEND!! If you have to see her professionally at work...SMILE be friendly and polite. Say nothing..held your tongue it will make you a better person... Have to ask...where's your partner stand in this..Is he man enough to say "NO" to this woman?? Is she really going behind your back or is he encouraging it for her to behave in such a way?? FOXY I do agree with Shina and Freda. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
what they said.....I have one...a 'supposed' friend, who has seen fit to approach my wife...on the 'sly'.... his day is looming, for betraying not only my wife and our friendship....but for his betrayal of his own wife.... i'd see him lose the lot...except that hurts his wife as well....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am damned if I can read into the OP that it is female friends of Mrs Playful4u secretly hitting on Mr Playful4u. Interestingly enough, the first three women all read that it this way. Do they know something more about the predatory behaviour of girlfriends ??
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RHP User
13 years ago
... SuperFox :-) And op, as t'others have said; maybe time to recount your "pennies". Best of luck with it all. KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess we just assumed (myself included!) :-/ but either way the one pursuing is not someone worthy of their friendship :-( KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
This one sounds personal.....Why is it called "white-anter" ???is it something common with the Caucasian population? :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' I am damned if I can read into the OP that it is female friends of Mrs Playful4u secretly hitting on Mr Playful4u. Interestingly enough, the first three women all read that it this way. Do they know something more about the predatory behaviour of girlfriends ?? YEP! Agrees with Cavey!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I did ASSUME Good pickup......... Perhaps the OP can enlighten us...but either way...the person is no friend...
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RHP User
13 years ago
...just give him/her a big punch on the nose and repeat it weekly until it stops or you feel better.Sometimes there's sound logic in brute force and ignorance.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe not??? Thanks Cavey. :-) I think I answered it to the best I could...but needed more Information.. The OP did mentioned sees that person (female??) once a week?? Now I am confused!!! LOL Well I have come across Pennies (as I call them)before... nasty creatures they are.....I choose to walk away as would not classify them as a FRIEND... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you don't like something you don't keep banging your head against the same brick wall repeatedly as your head gets sore after a whileDitch em as they are not true friends.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sounds like it's time for some tiger-balm in the lube.
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RHP User
13 years ago
LOL... That's funny as! I did that once...accidently used Deep Heat instead. Guess its one way to set some balls on fire!! ;-) Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok, I agree with cavey here, the sex of the predator is unknown, however, it's not needed. I'm assuming there's a "we play as a couple and not alone policy" in place with this relationship. So the issue here is trust OP. If you trust YOUR partner, why is this even an issue?? You can't control the 3rd parties actions, only yours, so, allowing this 3rd party's behaviour affect you this way lowers you down to their level.There is another side though. If its YOUR partner telling you about this 3rd party's advances, I'd be asking why it is they feel the need to?? Why not just deal with it, put them back in their place and move....so perhaps your partner likes these advances??
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RHP User
13 years ago
His nickname was Victa.....as in the mower. He was renowned for trying to cut everyone else's grass!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It really does take two to tango. "Ooops, she fell over and landed with her legs in the air and as she was lying there I slipped and my penis accidently fell into her pussy" Just does not cut it. Some people are just incorrigible flirts. Most of the time they do not even know that they are doing it. You all profess to trust your partners. Why would they play around when they have "permission" to play after all. So where is the issue here? Surely you trust your partner enough, who I am assuming is also adult enough to take care of themselves, to put this person in thier place without a problem. On the other hand, this person may be of the opinion that if they ask enough times, your partner may just give in to them. Talk to your partner, get thier take on this. It may not bother them at all. They may see this as harmless behaviour and it quite possibly is. . On the other hand...if this was MY partner, some other woman was hitting on him on a weekly basis I would probably slam her into the nearest brick wall with the threat of bodily harm if it continues.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But if you collect enough of them, you can spend them as a dollar..By selling thier story to a women mag..~laughs~ Quoting 'SuperFox' I like to call these so-called friends PENNIES.. * They are two Faced * They are NOT worth my time. * They have little value (of themselves).
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N4November
13 years ago
#next_pages_container { width: 5px; hight: 5px; position: absolute; top: -100px; left: -100px; z-index: 2147483647 !important; } Quoting 'justforfunisall' His nickname was Victa.....as in the mower. He was renowned for trying to cut everyone else's grass!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
they love to munch away at your house, in the dark,then suddenly no house..to white ant someone is to undermine them,usually without them being aware of what is happening.
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RHP User
13 years ago
My comments would have reflected yours perfectly. I once worked with a woman whom I caught chatting up my husband at a party. He humoured her, but never would have done anything with her. At a later time it turned out she had picked on another work mate's husband and had an affair with him. Made things very difficult for her At work.
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RHP User
13 years ago
An open foe may prove a curse, But a pretend friend is worse
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playful4u
13 years ago
The White-anter is a sad little man from a couple we know who have a profile on RHP. Well spotted Cavey50, I should have clarified the white-anter is a male trying his luck with Mrs P. I like the pennies analogy Superfox :) Friskyeatin, a white-anter = a saboteur, a person who spoils the others’ plans secretly while being friendly with them. Ghostbusters, I guess the attention was a novelty. Freya, that is a good quote Thank you all for your comments and wisdom
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RHP User
13 years ago
i dont think the OP is making comment on his partners behaviour...ratherhe's commenting on someone elses...who should know better...the guy is here with his wife too, so what reason...other than being a sad little man, could he have that would justify 'back dooring' another here? pisses us off too, that people think so little of others, and their relationships, that play behind a partners back is acceptable...liars and cheats...whatever the motivation, are hateful selfish people, who only consider themselves.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Still a "Penny" in my books!!!! I`ll just change the Queens head to Kings head...LOL Backdooring, Victa or what ever you call it as a couple... Is just not on!! I see it as Choc top Double-dipping.. I read this all the time with couples...why then if there's an agreement with each other..why would one go flirt/cheat with another...I mean ya got the whole cake why spoil it by cheating?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox'Still a "Penny" in my books!!!! I`ll just change the Queens head to Kings head...LOL Backdooring, Victa or what ever you call it as a couple... Is just not on!! I see it as Choc top Double-dipping.. I read this all the time with couples...why then if there's an agreement with each other..why would one go flirt/cheat with another...I mean ya got the whole cake why spoil it by cheating?? - Posted from rhpmobile have to agree fully...we get this all the time...the male of a swing couple...who wants to play 'on the sly'...for one reason or another...its amazingly stupid in our eyes.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Wouldn't be just males in couples wanting extra on side...females as well would too yeah? LOL would that then be called "A penny for choc-Top double dipping".... ;-) Foxy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
their little mistakes. i have had a few girlfriends who like my husband, good taste is what I think they flirt with him all the time, and if they wanted some of that, well he is a big boy , Iam sure he can make up his own mind i have a male friend who has had a crush on me for years, he flirts and hugs me all thetime neither of his wives , he was married twice,are worried as its flirting and I do not fancy him Just go to the friend and say, I will not be pleased if you fuck my husband/ wife and they will tell me anyway so how about you find some other distraction as your my friend. I meet my husband when he was goingout with another woman, he fell for me and thats just the way life is at times. white ants can only seduce a person if they let them, they do not take your lover ,wife,boyfriiend,husband by force. No need to worry about them if your relationship is strong
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox'Wouldn't be just males in couples wanting extra on side...females as well would too yeah? LOL would that then be called "A penny for choc-Top double dipping".... ;-) Foxy lol........we dont usually apply gender to it..but our experience is with males...primarily. but yea...there are women who do the same.........why slide around behind veils of deception...when all you have to do is ask? its amazing that anyone in a 'swinging' partnership could or would need to be deceptive........- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are spot on there girl. build the house out of iron instead of tasty wood...and the whiteants will go where they dont get broken teeth :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had this in reverse.. a friends wife made her intentions very clear at a NYE party just gone.. I knew both her and her husband in a casual sense for about 2 years.. what I didnt know was he was caught out screwing one of his staff and I think she was using me to try and get back at him.. A very sexy classy lady normally , she asked me if I would like to dance with her.. I obliged thinking nothing of it. The proposition was unashamedly clear, she told me what she wanted to do to me.. Tempting , but not my style to hit on another mans wife.. Is this a 'white ant ' in reverse ?
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