The thrill of the chase and its hidden dangers

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  funtimescouple1

  5 years ago

  We believe the keys are both being invested and comfortable in what you're doing, good regular communication and the need to be doing it as a 'value added' to your relationship, not to try to repair a broken one. We talked and fantasised about it for years before taking the plunge so there was absolutely no jealousy and we love the boost we get from flirting and playing with others.

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  5 years ago

  Well you're aware that may become a problem for you. So that's a good start.

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  2EssesExploring

  5 years ago

  You sound like you are in the ball and this is a very real threat. I have seen it consume some close friends and even myself in another relationship. The core is the most important and you should both keep really close discussions on everything you’re feeling. For us the less is more approach is working extremely well, so much so that the discussions about what we want are nearly better than the reality of making it happen. Tread with care, love and trust and do only what turns you both on. Good luck and have fun!

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  DonnaBrett

  5 years ago

  We've been swinging for over 20 years now and can't say that anything or anyone else has ever become more important than our own relationship. Swinging is just a fun past time, some people like to watch sport, some people like sky diving or whatever. We like to play with like minded people and of course the thrill of the chase as you put it is quite a buzz but the key we think is simply, don't over think it, it's just sex after all. Just enjoy and have fun.

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  Sawadee

  5 years ago

  Dont overthink things . Until you come up against a problem that may or may not happen you will never know. Even though many senarios are similar theyre never exactly the same , so go in with eyes wide open...

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  FunwithSandS

  5 years ago

  All great answers and very helpful! We’ve played with three couples in 18 months and find we are refining our approach every time. It’s been a great learning curve so far.

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  Cucknshells

  5 years ago

  I think the key is open and honest communication. You need to talk, talk and then talk some more. You shouldn’t be afraid to talk about how you are feeling. It is likely you will experience a multitude of emotions and sharing, I think, is the best. Shells

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  nightingale8

  5 years ago

  Talking’s great, listening is even better. I’d say always go at the pace of the more hesitant of you both. Experiences will come in time.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  5 years ago

  If it becomes your "everything" above your core relationship, it's time to let go. Ms Foxy

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