M58
The threat of violence.
December 30 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just re-read my post.. As there is no edit here, I apologize for grammatical errors.. Have to learn to proof read..
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RHP User
15 years ago
After reading your post we were horrified to here about this meet up it makes things worse for every one else we all go out a a limb and meet other random strangers for not only drinks but close encounters and all we can hope for that is rhp was informed of this event and was able to do something about it. But on the other hand nothing stops this individual from setting up a new profile so in all I hope that this wasn't the expirence that scary this women away from doing some thing that she enjoys...... :(
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RHP User
15 years ago
We all have one. No way would I get into a car with someone I do not know.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Absolutely NOT the smartest move to go for a drive with the guy if she just met him, everyone should have an 'escape plan' whether you are a couple or single, not everyone is as they seem and you can never be too careful. She certainly dodged a bullet with this guy and while she could report him to RHP he can always just join up again under another profile (scary but true) the only way to protect oneself is to have a plan.* Talk on the phone and online for a bit fist and get to know the person (this doesnt mean for months on end but a few times at least)*Meet in a public place and stay there unless you are 100% sure there is something worth following through* have a friend call you 20 mins into the meet so that you have an 'out' if you need it* If you are going to move on somewhere else for things to heat up, make sure someone else knows where you are and when you expect to be home again.these are some basic rules that i think everyone should practice but especially if you are a lady on your own. The thing is to be fussy!!Just my 2 cents worth,MRS GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
If it's not the person you see in their photos then they're desperate and should be a big warning to them to not go ahead with it. I'd either ask them what business they have with me now for lying or just walk off.
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RHP User
15 years ago
to an adorable woman on here...she too had the gumption to get rid of the man...so everyone beware some people are like that when you reject them or just inn general...but I do have to agree with the others before me EVERYONE needs to have a safety plan in place....I always have and still do even when meeting someone I have been 'seeing' for a while that escape valve is always there Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
looks like we got a psycopath back in town... Claremont style?
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is sad that we live in a world where violence is common place. The travisity is that we will always have violence. The ideal of the Beauty Queens...world peace will never happen. Like every one else I think you should always have a safty plan, have a friend ring you and you have to say a certain word, make sure people know where you are going. Play Safe Every One LC
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RHP User
15 years ago
1) An escape plan is an essential part of meeting ANYONE ... 2) Make other contact first ... head the advise gievn by experts .... meet in public .. dont go alone anywhere .. 3) I been where she was to a certian degree in as much as someone advertising to be something and then turning out entirely different .. An ideal encounter advertised to be 37 y/o 6"1" non smoker and profesional chef ...... reality .. turned out to be 45y/o 5'5" a chain smoker and a truckdriver .... it was the most disasterious coffee meet I had ever had .. and he got verbally and physically violent when I declined a second meet and refuse a kiss good bye .. (4 cigaretets in 30 mins was enough to turn anyone off) ... thankfully his physical violence was directed at the coffee table, and picked up on by an offduty police office at the next table .. in this world it never works to let your guard down ,.... but violence can also be a two way street .. I have heard of women doing the same to men ... it should be outlawed NO VIOLENCE >> to anyone .. just respect ..
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RHP User
15 years ago
i met a bloke in Melbourne for the weekend and had to have him escorted out of my hotel room at 3am because he was being verbally abusive i have no doubt at all that if i wasnt the person i am he would have become violent he took me to a place i never wanted to be...i closed my account and i ran a mile he still sends me emails and gives me abuse...but i wont let him chase me off again....EVER but thanks to the wonderful friends i have on RHP i have come through it....im still very wary about the men on here...but i know i have people on here that will be there for me sometimes you can have all the safety measures in the world in place but things still happen...it isnt her fault please if you talk to her again let her know about SWB and tell her it can help a lot...it got me through and we will help her all we can...the women on here are wonderful women who help all they can be careful out there people...sometimes its a dangerous world xx roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes that is not good what happened to that lady, however women should always trust their instincts and never be alone with someone until they know they are comfortable. I don't think I would ever let a first time met inside my car. BUt statistics clearly show you are most likely to suffer violence from a long term partner then a stranger.
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RHP User
15 years ago
in her car? pretty neutral? not! safe? not! she should be glad she got away safely. hopefully lesson learnt.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i hope she isnt reading this...this poor girl was lucky to get away safely she more than likely knows she fucked up she doesnt need you lot rubbing it in she needs help and she needs to talk this girl needs to know that we are here for her we all do things and then sit back and think...well that could have gone really bad, how lucky am i it didnt give her a break... Mark to answer your question...there are more idiots like that than you realise, people, men and women, hide behind the net and think they can be whatever they want...but then when you meet in the real world it isnt so hard to hide....there isnt much we can do, even if we manage to shut them down, they can just open up under another name and continue giving us all hell but you are right...it does ruin it for everyone roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Of the many women I have meet via rhp only a few where in public places, coffee, lunch. Most have been at their place, motel, or my place. I even got a request once after some chat, "come over, my address is ......... As long as you're not an axe murder?" WTF.... The majority seem to be happy to let a total stranger be alone with them. I guess we are a trusting lot and balance the desire for instant gratification with safety. It was a shock to hear this ladies experience, as in the 3 years on this site I have not heard anything like. Personal I think that even public places offer only marginal safety (re celebree) So be aware, but don't let fear stop you having fun.
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RHP User
15 years ago
well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bourbon_babe'well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! Player or not...no one deserves to be treated with violent behaviour.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bourbon_babe' well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! she is a player??I'm not sure what you mean by player...I consider a player as someone who is a love 'em and leave 'em type.could you clarify please??This girl merely sounds like a trusting soul....someone who believed what was told to her...and believe me...I dont consider myself stupid by any stretch...but I have been duped before as well.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'bourbon_babe'well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! Player or not...no one deserves to be treated with violent behaviour. but do you not think its irresponsible to put yourself in an unsafe situation? she couldn't been meeting a serial rapist and not had a clue. violence is not what we are seeking, but it does lurk out there always.
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RHP User
15 years ago
WTF isn't that what we are here for but no still means no, everyone has the right to choose who they play with and who they don't without being subject to abuse.Please join us in the 20th centry
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'bourbon_babe'well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! Player or not...no one deserves to be treated with violent behaviour. but do you not think its irresponsible to put yourself in an unsafe situation? she couldn't been meeting a serial rapist and not had a clue. violence is not what we are seeking, but it does lurk out there always.Violence lurks everywhere...even our own homes and it was a very irresponsible thing to do BUT that does not mean she asks for or should recieve violent treatment. No one does.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'bourbon_babe'well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! Player or not...no one deserves to be treated with violent behaviour. but do you not think its irresponsible to put yourself in an unsafe situation? she couldn't been meeting a serial rapist and not had a clue. violence is not what we are seeking, but it does lurk out there always.Violence lurks everywhere...even our own homes and it was a very irresponsible thing to do BUT that does not mean she asks for or should recieve violent treatment. No one does. which was my point, but why do people put themselves in these situations?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' which was my point, but why do people put themselves in these situations?Because they never ever think it will happen to them.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'mikeandshel' which was my point, but why do people put themselves in these situations?Because they never ever think it will happen to them. then how do we change this? or can we even? I cant express how much i hate that men harm women. it infuriates me to hear that its happened again.................................
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RHP User
15 years ago
i met a man in a hotel room for a weekend of sex...does that mean i deserved the abuse i got??? its easy for the couples...you have each other to look out for you us singles we go on the hunt for some fun and a bit of a nice time with someone we are hoping is a nice person...we only have ourselves to get us out of trouble yeah we might have all the safety measures we can find but we still only have ourselves if we get into trouble i hope this poor girl isnt reading this...it disgusting to think you all think she is to blame for what happened to her IT WASNT HER FAULT...she was out to have some fun and trouble found her roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was in broad daylight in an open carpark when things got nasty. Thankfully my martial arts training came to the fore and I was able to push him off and jump in my car and drive away. The bruises are long gone and the encounter has left me feeling stronger about myself. I was in a public place in the middle of the day and yet it still happened. If something doesn't feel right make an excuse and leave. Tell them you feel sick or have a headache or visit the loo and slip quietly away. Nobody deserves to be threatened or violated no matter what else happens.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Totally agree it was in no way her fault, no one deserves that to happen to them, we can all only take as many precautions as we can, trust our instincts and hope it doesn't happen to us.Glad she got away ok in the end and if she is reading this i hope she takes the advice given and also goes to SWB for some 'girly support' and also that she doesn't take the criticism here to heart but instead takes on board the tips and advice and also feels the support of her fellow RHP members.Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MRSSWEETIEPIE' Quoting 'fionabee' Quoting 'bourbon_babe'well pplz from what i know n see i would say that she is a player n yes she should not get in a car with someone that she has just meet i still say that she is a player !!!!! Player or not...no one deserves to be treated with violent behaviour. I agree Fiona, i remember hearing when i was a child the very old fashioned view of "oh well she was wearing something slutty so she deserved to be raped, she was asking for it." WTF!!!!????? Oh MsS it still goes on in our Justice Departments! The night I got raped the police took my clothes for "Forensics"...the next time I saw them was when HIS Barrister held them up in the County Court!! I was shocked and did not know at all that this was going to happen in front of the whole courtroom and the Jury! He even held up my gstring!! He also held up my top which was a turtle neck but had a gstring bottom to it!! I had to point out over 6 times that the gstring and gstring top went UNDER the jeans that I wore...and not outside like some super hero!! Unless the Court System and Justice Department change all this...it will always be on "what she wore"! And yes, he got 7 years in jail!!!!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
god jesus shit i met a man in a hotel room for a weekend of sex...does that mean i deserved the abuse i got??? its easy for the couples...you have each other to look out for you us singles we go on the hunt for some fun and a bit of a nice time with someone we are hoping is a nice person...we only have ourselves to get us out of trouble yeah we might have all the safety measures we can find but we still only have ourselves if we get into trouble i hope this poor girl isnt reading this...it disgusting to think you all think she is to blame for what happened to her IT WASNT HER FAULT...she was out to have some fun and trouble found herwe agree 100%
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RHP User
15 years ago
The simple truth is that there is nothing we can do to change this. We can educate our young, both males and females but that will take time. I find that violence towards women is increasing as we now live in such a fractured society. We no longer have the close knit communities all banding together, kids running in and out of houses, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and numerous cousins around to keep an eye on things. Both parents need to work. Many times there is just no other option. The males of today are also increasingly frustrated in thier role and place in society. Sad, I know. It takes two people to make a baby and a whole community to raise it.
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