M57
The secret life of us.
May 29 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
babe what i do on here isnt secret...everybody knows im an upfront person ....nothing is a secret my teen thinks its funny that mum is on here and ofcourse..."im gay" ...for being here my mum knows...she just thinks its funny and it keeps me out of trouble plus i have friends and family on here so i couldnt hide it if i tried haha roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Fab............are you ashamed of being on an adult dating website? As Mooka has pointed out, no where does the classification of this site say it is a sex site. (he he judgement reserved) You need to choose who in the real life you divulge this information to. It comes down to your choice of conversation and your choice of friends. Lose the friends you found here..........that's a bit like asking is it ok to dump your best-est friend cause you found a person who does the things they can't do for you and then when the wheels fall off and they don't want you anymore it's gunna be fine to pick up where you left of with your besty after how long? I think it comes down to an equal balance in RHP life to real life. It"s not a secret life............just different for some.
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RHP User
16 years ago
RHP is seperate to my real world.... and I kepp it that way. A select few from RHP get a peek into my real world, but only after trust has been established. Anyway - thats just me... Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Fab, I say be true to yourself, its not wrong to want pleasure and happiness in life.... Why live a double life or seek to settle for less than you desire, when theres always a chance you may find someone to compliment your lifestyle.... Happy Journeys ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its hard to tell people about the wonderful world of BDSM and explain what I do. I get the weirdest responses sometimes. So telling people that I am on RHP is a piece of cake. I think the supposed stigma of online dating has pretty much disappeared but can understand why some people want to keep their online life separate from their real world.
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is who I am ...to suggest I hide behind a persona or an image is just not meIf you meet me in the flesh .. perhaps at the melbourne drinks .. the girl who you will meet is me .. sassyme ..I dont hide behind a profile.. heaven forbid ... Im not ashamed of being on rhp .. In fact those that really know me know Im here .... my best friends.. the man who is hopefully the lover into the future .. my daughter .. Why would i seek for this to not be who I am ...???
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RHP User
16 years ago
Dating agency's have been around since the '80's now we have moved into 21st century. The only difference is we sit here in front of a screen and pay a whole let less as apposed to fronting up to an office and talking to some chick who knows jack shit and paying a fortune. Trust me...........I worked for two agencies in my early 20's. I thought these people were losers and wondered why on earth do they need help, just get out there and do what we all do. I must admit I did meet many nice people that were genuine. It's so changed.........here I am doing the same thing as those losers but not paying $1,500 for the same effect. My parents know I'm here, my kids know and my close friends know. It's no SECRET. If anything my g/friends are interested, and sometimes envious, they think they are missing out on something. Yet they are too scared to take the dive.They forever have Q's. I have learnt so much from this site it is amazing. So in all this site is part of my life.......I'm not hiding a thing.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'niceguy0068' RHP is seperate to my real world.... and I kepp it that way. A select few from RHP get a peek into my real world, but only after trust has been established. Anyway - thats just me... Wayne are you ashamed of us Wayne roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' RHP is seperate to my real world.... and I kepp it that way. A select few from RHP get a peek into my real world, but only after trust has been established. Anyway - thats just me... Wayne are you ashamed of us Wayne roxxy xxx Not at all Roxxy. Just that in my professional life, I have to be so "prim n proper"... and people expect things a certain way. Over here I can really say pretty much anything I want and people are not offended by my warped, sometimes "vulgar" sense of humour. Likewise those that know me from here, now how fcuked up my personal life is and for the time being, it's better to keep them seperate. Hugs to ya Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with Wayne - to a point. It is like a separate life but then I allow mine to encroach on the every day. I share this side of my life with selected famiy members and do not hide what I am up to from my friends. I must admit that some family members would be horrified, so those are the ones I do not tell. Most of my family including my mother (a woman in her seventies) and my friends are very supportive anyway. After all, it is my life and as I am breaking no laws, my business.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry to bring this to your attention: RHP advertises "Swingers Datefinder" on the front page. Thought swinging was about meeting for sex.... Quoting 'latte_for_two'Hey Fab.........., no where does the classification of this site say it is a sex site. (he he judgement reserved)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well if we were single, but as a couple if we told most of our friends we would never hear the end of it. But would love to tell everyone just dont think it would work, as i see everyone telling their story on here is single. And most guys i know would think i,m mad watching my wife getting pleased by another man, but of course i't's ok to have a extra lady,, if i can have it so should she. Anyway thats my 2 cents,, thoughts?
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RHP User
16 years ago
That's precisely right. The friends and family that will understand know. Everyone else won't. I can't help it that my family is ultra conservative and I'm the prodigal son. I am not ashamed of being here. I just need to protect some from the truth. Others like my ex would probably laugh for a week or more. However I suspect she was here several years ago. Funny huh. As for being in a relationship i guess that I hopefully get my msn (had trouble spelling that) up and running. I don't think a new partner will accept me spending time on a dating site. It's not embarasment but it just sends the wrong message. Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
My family, friends and even work colleagues know that i am on here. I am sure some of them try to live vicariously through me because they are intrigued and I have even managed to get a couple of my friends to join up as well - they are now having a great time. As previously stated dating agencies have been around for quite sometime this is no different. More and More poeple are doing things online - their banking, shopping etc why should meeting people be any different. Those who dont accept you for the person you are, or for your completly legal activities are they truly your friends? That being said I do understand the need for some to hide their activities as it would impact on their professional and personal lives in a major way and while we all use the internet in various forms everyday some people are just not as open minded about the whole 'internet dating' concept as those in my own life. Yes I am one of the lucky ones. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' RHP is seperate to my real world.... and I kepp it that way. A select few from RHP get a peek into my real world, but only after trust has been established. Anyway - thats just me... Wayne are you ashamed of us Wayne roxxy xxx Not at all Roxxy. Just that in my professional life, I have to be so "prim n proper"... and people expect things a certain way. Over here I can really say pretty much anything I want and people are not offended by my warped, sometimes "vulgar" sense of humour. Likewise those that know me from here, now how fcuked up my personal life is and for the time being, it's better to keep them seperate. Hugs to ya Wayne x i know your not ashamed of us hun..i was joking roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't tell all my friends and all my family and all my colleagues who I sleep with, when, how I meet them, what kind of sex I have, what my sexual fantasies are etc etc ... so why do I need to tell them about RHP unless I want to??!The people that I want to know these things, already know. Anyone else either doesn't need to know, wouldn't be interested, wouldn't understand or would outright judge and criticise me. Frankly, the details of my life are no-one's business unless I want them to be. And I don't! :)lilmiss x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' RHP is seperate to my real world.... and I kepp it that way. A select few from RHP get a peek into my real world, but only after trust has been established. Anyway - thats just me... Wayne are you ashamed of us Wayne roxxy xxx Not at all Roxxy. Just that in my professional life, I have to be so "prim n proper"... and people expect things a certain way. Over here I can really say pretty much anything I want and people are not offended by my warped, sometimes "vulgar" sense of humour. Likewise those that know me from here, now how fcuked up my personal life is and for the time being, it's better to keep them seperate. Hugs to ya Wayne x i know your not ashamed of us hun..i was joking roxxy xxx You're back on the Christmas Card list then ;-) hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I don't tell all my friends and all my family and all my colleagues who I sleep with, when, how I meet them, what kind of sex I have, what my sexual fantasies are etc etc ... so why do I need to tell them about RHP unless I want to??!The people that I want to know these things, already know. Anyone else either doesn't need to know, wouldn't be interested, wouldn't understand or would outright judge and criticise me. Frankly, the details of my life are no-one's business unless I want them to be. And I don't! :)lilmiss x The info listed on this site is far more specific than I'd like my professional colleagues to know. They don't now about my special.. ummm... desires ;-) nor about my 10" black cock... or anything like that ;-) hugs Wayne
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I don't tell all my friends and all my family and all my colleagues who I sleep with, when, how I meet them, what kind of sex I have, what my sexual fantasies are etc etc ... so why do I need to tell them about RHP unless I want to??!The people that I want to know these things, already know. Anyone else either doesn't need to know, wouldn't be interested, wouldn't understand or would outright judge and criticise me. Frankly, the details of my life are no-one's business unless I want them to be. And I don't! :)lilmiss x The info listed on this site is far more specific than I'd like my professional colleagues to know. They don't now about my special.. ummm... desires ;-) nor about my 10" black cock... or anything like that ;-) hugs Wayne 10" black cock???...why was i never told about this??? roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
ive always been me even when in rhp !!!!!!!!!!! i have been in this site because it has people i consider friends and also people that i would like to know on a much deeper level . i know rhp is an adult dateing site thou some here forget that and think its just for sex or all about sex. dont get me wrong of course sex is important its the closest u can ever be too a person u want or need but yo me im lookin for the woman that sees me as the honest careing guy that i am am hope that she and i find love in eachothers arms !!!!!!!!!! guess thats y i feel down a bit when ive been used for the sex and at the mention of the word love and wanting more they run or lie about things that arent the truth but stil i dust myself off get back up and keep lookin for her cause in the long run i know il find her
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RHP User
16 years ago
I wouldn't consider what I do a "dirty" secret but it's not something I choose to reveal to all and sundry. I have 1 female friend that knows what I do and several male friends.... but the male friends are fuck buddies. I would like to be able to tell people however I don't want them to think of me differently and not want me around their husbands for fear I might hit on them (which I would never do any way) or have the husbands think I'm an easy take and then start coming on to me behind their wife's back. It would certainly be a wonderful world if EVERYONE felt free to be open and honest with each other. Sweet (with "secret" desires)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I don't tell all my friends and all my family and all my colleagues who I sleep with, when, how I meet them, what kind of sex I have, what my sexual fantasies are etc etc ... so why do I need to tell them about RHP unless I want to??!The people that I want to know these things, already know. Anyone else either doesn't need to know, wouldn't be interested, wouldn't understand or would outright judge and criticise me. Frankly, the details of my life are no-one's business unless I want them to be. And I don't! :)lilmiss x The info listed on this site is far more specific than I'd like my professional colleagues to know. They don't now about my special.. ummm... desires ;-) nor about my 10" black cock... or anything like that ;-) hugs Wayne 10" black cock???...why was i never told about this??? roxxy xxx ummmm yeah.. I guess the fact i'm a clearly white guy (the hands give it away) means I can't have a 10" black cock then huh.... dang... oh well... I'll have to do what I can with what I have ;-) hugs Wayne x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I keep both lives seperate mainly to protect my career. Initially it was myself, but as I have my boyfriend with me a lot, I feel safe. When I first joined RHP I wasn't so protective and a bit naive, and unfortunately a couple of froot loops and people I trusted here changed that very quickly. It sucks sometimes, especially that I won't tell my boyfriend who I met on here, where I work etc, when you should be open and honest in your relationship, but that is the way it is atm. I am very lucky he is understanding about it, and it's not that I won't discuss anything to do with my work at all with him, just not the exact specifics. For the same reason if someone else doesn't want to discuss their work, kids, where they live etc that I meet on here, I fully understand where they are coming from. That includes my boyfriend as well, and it doesn't bother me, as I trust him. Some things are necessary to be protected, because some abuse private information, and you have to treat all the same even if you do trust them. Overall, I think there is nothing sinister or deceitful in protecting yourself, if explained to your friends on here why you do it, they shouldn't take it personally. I think most appreciate why and the information withheld is relatively unimportant anyway, such as picking just the city then the actual suburb you live in, in case work, friends or family may recognise it is you. As for work, they don't need to know what I do in the bedroom, I am not interested in their's, so I don't discuss it with them. I have bumped into ex workmates and boyfriends and friends at clubs and meets before, and had no worries with that, so far (touch wood). There is just that wink acknowledgement that discretion is assured sort of thing. xx Miss Honey xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is part of your real life...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Been using the vacum cleaner again. Tsk tsk. Ha ha lol. Funny Earl hasn't pounced. So I have to bomb my own topic. Ah ha ha ahaahahaahahah. Fab RFB5.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've experienced a bit of prejudice / double standards from being on RHP. Initially I was okay if people discovered my secret "life" but I've since learnt that many people make inappropriate judgements about RHP and I'm fed up trying to justify my behaviour. Now that I'm a couple, we've both discovered it's best not to tell non-RHP friends where we met. We have decided to tell them we met online but on another site. Otherwise I've found that people assume I'm off fucking anyone and everyone and am unable to be faithful or committed. It's really silly but that's the realities of life. Hugs, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
i would love to share my antics here with more people in my life, it's hard to keep good times such a secret! My daughter knows i'm on an adult dating site and accepts it which is great, but i don't indulge in my naughty adventures with her, that would be 'too much info', lol, and 2 close friends who i have told think it's fantastic and say 'bravo! u go girl!' As for the rest, they are way to close-minded and socially moralistic and would more than likely disown me :( Pity, I would have some amazingly raunchy stories to share with them to help spice up their dreary love lives, lol, so their loss Lushxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'niceguy0068' Quoting 'lilmissfussy'I don't tell all my friends and all my family and all my colleagues who I sleep with, when, how I meet them, what kind of sex I have, what my sexual fantasies are etc etc ... so why do I need to tell them about RHP unless I want to??!The people that I want to know these things, already know. Anyone else either doesn't need to know, wouldn't be interested, wouldn't understand or would outright judge and criticise me. Frankly, the details of my life are no-one's business unless I want them to be. And I don't! :)lilmiss x The info listed on this site is far more specific than I'd like my professional colleagues to know. They don't now about my special.. ummm... desires ;-) nor about my 10" black cock... or anything like that ;-) hugs Wayne 10" black cock???...why was i never told about this??? roxxy xxx ummmm yeah.. I guess the fact i'm a clearly white guy (the hands give it away) means I can't have a 10" black cock then huh.... dang... oh well... I'll have to do what I can with what I have ;-) hugs Wayne x Wayne...let me guess now that i have exposed you for a white man without a 10" black cock...im back OFF the christmas card list ....right??? i guess im lucky that i have the type of freinds and family that execpt me for who i am...kinks and all lol no one i know battered an eye lid when i mentioned it lol...some may have put their head down and shook it but they still except it..... roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
of the people i know in real life rather than the ones i have met on here....it's a sad fact of life...that in my working world i would be judged poorly just because...i was on a dating / sex / play-with-both-feet-in-mouth...you take ya pick...site...but they are their judgements...the fact is...i am having the most wonderful time of my life with a very sexy woman...and i don't care what anyone thinks...jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm halfway to having a 10" black cock. I've been tying a brick to it for a few weeks now, it isn't got any bigger but it HAS turned black....
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RHP User
16 years ago
My two cents, I agree with portions from all here..We all have our reasons to tell or not ..Is it a secret life ..I dont know i never saw the movie ! Is it a sexy life hell yes !
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes most people are very small minded and judgemental. This site has more openess and honesty than I could have ever imagined. With swinging couples who I admire for there ability to play with others AND not loose sight or love for their partners. This takes a special bond and understanding. Of course there are the fringe dwellers out there but I'm a guy so my chances of meeting a loopy girl would be rare. Oh god was there a reason for this post. I seemed to have rambled a bit. Oh yes. If you found someone from outside RHP would you tell them you were here???? Fab xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'fab69'Been using the vacum cleaner again. Tsk tsk. Ha ha lol. Funny Earl hasn't pounced. So I have to bomb my own topic. Ah ha ha ahaahahaahahah. Fab RFB5. Nah - vacumm cleaners just suck......
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RHP User
16 years ago
What do you use instead Wayne??? Omg I am thinking lots a kinky shit. So I won't go there. Lol. I don't want to get banned. Ha ha here's a clean one. You abusing parked toorak tractors?? Fab RFB5.
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