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The right time to say "I Love You"
June 21 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
I reckon just go with the flow. Try not to stress about it!But why are you saying "while it lasts".......sounds kinda negative.....be positive......but in control!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
my first thought was ...when you feel it...but then i read the rest of what you had to say and now i have no idea sorry....so hey if the feeling is there go for it, it should be said more often to everybody you care for personally i havent heard those words from a man in so long i think id shit my pants if they were ever said to me hahaha but i believe just because they dont feel it you can still say it...just go for it roxxy....
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RHP User
16 years ago
This gives you the chance to practice it...and to change your mind :) (just joking) ....A friend of mine, lost her long term partner in an accident...The one thing she regrets most, is not telling him that she loved him, each and every day. She wishes she hadn't wasted time, complaining about unfinished tasks around the house, or the wet towel, he left on the bathroom floor each morning...
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RHP User
16 years ago
how you feel. If you are rejected as you were with others...then don't feel bad about it at all. At least you spoke from your heart. I was in the same position as Teasins friend. I loved a man for many years and then he got killed in a drive by shooting (America)...I found out 2 weeks after his death that he had spoke to his parents about me and how much he loved me for all those years all the time and even the night before he was killed, but never had the balls to tell me as he was afraid of rejection and I felt the same way. We had not seen each other for years as the distance was a killer and other factors in life got in the way. To this day (he died 4 and a half years ago now)...I ask myself everyday why were we both so stupid and afraid to tell each other how we felt. Now I am left heartbroken and full of regret. My favourite saying is "If you keeping looking back...all you get is a neck pain"! Don't look back at past experiences....say what is in your heart and be confident. Fear is a killer of life and relationships. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it might have been too early to say within five minutes of the first kiss. Too early???? You think. Lol. Of course I got the, " How can you say that " response. So I followed it up with," I just know. I've never been so sure of saying it.". Well I did. Who does that??? Am I stupid or what???? I was more scared of not saying it. I don't know yet how this will end. Anyway it's my love story. So I don't care about what anyone thinks of me , well one of course. If only I could club her on the head and carry her to my secret cave. God modern relationships are hard. All the games. Well I don't so I'm playing this one as a lay down mizare. Lol. Gee the idea of that is to lose every trick. Fingers crossed. Well I don't think that there is ever a wrong to say that you love someone. Or a right time. If you can look into their eyes and see it in theirs . Say it. Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it all the time about all those close to me but I feel I never actually say it enough. Yep I've lost someone close to me and I can remember too many conversations where those three little words could have been slipped in. Of course it was taken for granted from both sides, or was it? I'll never know! I luv yous all!!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I say it to everyone I'm close to just for that reason... I don't want something to happen to any of them without knowing that I do love them. There are a couple exceptions.... some very good married male friends who may interpret it the wrong way and I'd lose them as a friend. Other than that, everyone I love knows it.... either verbally or because of distance, by text. Sweet
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RHP User
16 years ago
You can say I love you in so many ways and get a response back without really saying those words exactly, for EG: I love the way you touch me, when your having foreplay, I love that feeling you give me everytime we make love, I love your smile it makes me happy, so many ways to say it and find out their response to these types of comments will give you a better incite to the way they feeling about you. If the person comments on the things they love about you then you have a more positive relationship thats not just based on SEX but feelings that come with the closeness you share together. Once you discover that your both feeling these happy thoughts about each other then I think its the time to say I love you and I don't every want this feeling to be gone. Hope this helps you and others to find more about the person your with and whether it will be a long term relationship, fun and trust will all come with it too with the right person when they say it back to you.!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow - so many responses. Sorry for your losses for those who wanted to express or had people who didn't have the time to express. We should say it a lot more, because time is so precious.
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you feel it, say it. If you love them for All they Are - and - All they are Not, say it. If they say it back-Bonus. If they don't mirror it back, they may need a little time to reflect it. Least you know you've said your truth. It's a leap of faith but a deepening to any relationship. Love can be scary for some. Find out any past damage of your lover so you can apply a new approach so as not to scare them. Everything we do in life comes from one of two sponsoring beliefs - love or fear. Unconditional love leaves one open to mis-doings of another, thus the fear. Go for it... what else can you do? Procrastinate? You just get older if you put it off.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lots of interesting views on expressing love. Telling people close to you that you love them is a given, I think we all know we should express it often (without over doing it) and I am confident the people I love know it. But MisssexcBoo's question is different to that, coming out and saying I love you when it is unrequited, on first inspections sounds like a (just go for it) good idea but is it? It can crash a relationship that may have developed over time, or like it has already happened leave you feeling crapy and after all not expressing it doesnt mean the love isn't/wasn't real it just means you can stay safe when the feelings aren't reciprocated. The key to this is to be emotionally aware and use your intuition, I think if your 'into' someone you should have a fair idea of how they are feeling and if they're not close to the 'in love' stage you should hold back. It still a wonderful risk to come out and say it when you a fairly sure the other person feels the same way. :) Peace, Ultrajum
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RHP User
16 years ago
if ya really love someone ,,,its real easy ,,to look them in the eye and say ,,,i love you baby ,,,,,,,but if you dont mean it ,,,dont say it ,,,
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RHP User
16 years ago
If You're Never Scared , Embarrassed or Hurt, it Means You Never Take any Chances.If It is True Love......well.....My oppinion isTrue Love Stories Never Have Happy Endings...As True Love Stories Never EndGood Luck......Nudiexxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love this topic ! Personally, I believe we all over think this statement. Sure you need to be sincere; during your 5th orgasm may not be a true reflection of your feelings, just you satisfaction ! I LOVE to say "I love you" IF I mean it ! I said it to someone last year and I've said it to someone this year. I certainly don't say it to every guy I have sex with even if it's a FWB arrangement and even if I care for him. Love is deeper than caring. When I looked at my partner in bed this morning, I noticed his soft, smooth skin, his luscious, rosey lips, the little smile he has while he sleeps, the look of contentment on his face. I felt the warmth of his body and I ran my hand over his chest while he slept. I gently kissed his head and whispered "I love you" before leaving him to sleep while I got ready for work. I knew it was love when I wanted to work through the arguments and disagreements. When I was willing to accept his faults as well as strengths, when I realised I felt an inner warmth every time I am around him. I am fortunate to have a man who says those words as much as I do. Good luck, xx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
I dont think that there is ever really a right or wrong time to say I Love You, if you feel love in your heart for someone then tell them, but I think if your questioning wether or not to say it, then maybe you shouldnt... Dont be scared and take chances, you may never know that the person you say "I love you" to might just say it back and I get the feeling that, thats what your also worried about, that if you do say it that they might not feel the same way... Many of us want to hear those words, knowing that someone loves us, but feeling love isnt just about words :o) Good Luck Late x
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RHP User
16 years ago
Right now I am trying to content myself with showing him in infinite ways that I love him (I met him through RHP)and lapping up his demonstrations of affection. He is very scared of those three little words and I don't know if he will ever overcome that. Quite unsatisfying to be honest. Guess we always want more than we've got. Eternal dissatisfaction of the human mind. Oh God..what torture...but it is ever so delicious..provides endless material for songs and poems
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well I cant say when is the best time, but I can tell you when not to say it - that is when one is wiping ones dick on the curtains post-coital.... lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have had a couple of female playmates some time ago who told me they loved me.That was the last time they ever saw me.They broke the rules and i knew straight away they were in over their heads.The only person i want to tell me that they love me is Kj.Soooo before you blurt it out, best to be sure he or she wants to hear it!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
never say it too much or you may wear the feeling out .. that is unless you do love someone then you can not tell them enough but the best way is in actions Show not just tell someone you love them works everytime andy
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RHP User
16 years ago
A powerful and at times a near hypnotic response to both our emotional perceptions and our physical experiences. It can blind us to faults and enhance the intrisic good found in most. A drug...perhaps, and at times as fatally addictive and far too often as equally self destructive. Am I being cynical...not at all, it is the greatest gift that we have to offer another human being. It is however, an emotion...and most of us learn over time that we offer it with expectations and conditions, rather than in it's pure form that is near childlike and seeks nothing in return. |If you offer love with the expectation of self affirmation then you are most certain to be disappointed. If you offer love with the expectation of it being returned or accepted without question then you will surely be setting a standard that most will fail to achieve. Love offered in this way will never mirror the individual nor meet your own aspirations...simply, those belong to you, and may not be that of the one to whom you offer this incredible gift.|Love is a gauntlet of your own choosing...and well worth the risk if you are ready to endure the simple truth that once offered it can never be taken back nor redeemed. Love is...nothing more, nothing less.|Just one man's very humble opinion and I certainly wish you well on your journey.
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