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The play friend that is now single

December 30 2018

Just want to know some opinions on something here, my partner and i have a friend that we have played with that was part of a couple arrangement but now she is single and i dont know how i feel about it all because i personally dont feel like she is wanting to hook up with me and more so my partner. She wants to come around for new years but i honestly dont know what i want to do becuase last time it was just us and her it didnt go down well and i felt like i shouldnt have been there. I prefer us being with other couples rather than someone single and just knowing how close she is to us just in normal life i feel like it could be a conflict. Any thoughts of how to deal with this. My partner is waiting for me to decide what we do for new years and he seems very keen on having her around. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Communication. TLk with your partner and decide together what you want. Remember it is, or should be, about enjoyment so if you aren’t enjoying it then obviously it’s not working Circumstances are bound to change and when they do you need to re evaluate as a couple what it is you are looking for.

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MsJonesy

7 years ago

To your gut. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. You have already felt like the outsider in a play situation with this person, don't subject yourself to that again.

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HotNightsGC

7 years ago

Your answer to this is within your post. As you’ve indicated that you have felt left out on previous occasions with this woman, it sounds like the arrangement isn’t making you feel too secure in your relationship or boosting your confidence. For those reasons, if it were me, I’d say no to meeting with her altogether. If it’s not a fun experience for all involved then why do it? That’s just my take on situation. You do what your gut tells you and what makes you happy in your relationship. Ms HNP XX

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RHP User

7 years ago

Stay true to you and how the situation is making you feel... There’s no compromise here - you are either ok with it or not and there’s no trying to talk yourself into it, don’t try to convince yourself it’ll work out ok if you agree to her coming around... You’ve got your answer in your post you just need to voice it now and be firm with it.

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RHP User

7 years ago

female intuition? I reckon you are going to have a bad experience this NYE if you go ahead.. And ultimately, she MAY end up with your fella.. and in which case, I do not believe they will be inviting YOU over for a session next NYE.. Of course, I have been very wrong in some of my advice before... ;)

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MsSuperFoxy

7 years ago

"My partner is waiting for ME to decide what we do for new years". That's not cool. You are in a coupled relationship, a united front. To put that solely onto you is not cool. IMO you decide together. Only you two can decide. Asking a public forum is only going to confuse the situation and you more. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

7 years ago

Time to tell your friend to bugger off. Sounds like things are going to get rocky if you don't. Some people are friends for life, others just pass through. Your friend sounds like one of the latter.

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RHP User

7 years ago

You already know the answer. No good can come from this.

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RHP User

7 years ago

What could possibly go wrong?

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EarthQueen

7 years ago

Hasta la vista Baby. Listen to your feelings

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RHP User

7 years ago

The answer is in your post. You write: "My partner is waiting for me to decide what we do for new years" "I prefer us being with other couples rather than someone single and just knowing how close she is to us just in normal life i feel like it could be a conflict."also,"last time it was just us and her it didnt go down well and i felt like i shouldnt have been there." I think you know exactly how you feel about it all. Good luck having the talk with your partner. You are his priority, not a NYE play party. x

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RHP User

7 years ago

Hell no. Time to end it all with her. If that is how you feel. Your partner should be understanding about this. If there is any dout when playing as a couple, with someone else. It should be understood, respected. And ended.

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curiousnhorny05

7 years ago

When you play as a couple your relationship must come first. What are the expectations of the evening? As a female in a couple I feel it’s so important that you are the primary female in the situation. A conversation with the female maybe in order. She may not realise what is happening.

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RHP User

7 years ago

Thanks for your advice guys i spoke with both parties my partner was ok with it she took a little offence to it and has been putting a little hate my way but we are no longer going to get invovled with her.. we are off to have a night to ourselves as we have no kids at all so time to enjoy each other. Thanks hope you all have a good new years !!!!

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