The key ingredient in every female fantasy, often overlooked

August 25 2024

When I fantasize about being with someone, there are many things I will think about that turn me on. But it all begins with a strong mutual attraction. Unfortunately, I've noticed that sometimes guys seem to be oblivious to the body signals I'm putting out. They don't back off and let me come to them. Stop. Look at the woman, look into her eyes. Then, if you can read it on her face (or read her mind as the vampire does, in the scene below) - and only then, should you kiss her. If she isn't really attracted to you, she won't come. Is that ok with you, to have sex like that?

From a vampire erotica (a blend of vampire/romance/sci-fi) that I am writing:

“You can’t heal him, Angela,” came the devastating reply. “You’re still a newborn vampire, remember? Surely, you don’t need me to explain it all to you, again.”

Angela knew he spoke the truth, but having chanced on the idea, she could not let go of it.

“What about you, Eztli?” she asked, in a stage whisper. “Can you heal him?”

The faintest of frowns crossed Eztli’s perfect features, on absorbing her plea. It foreshadowed an answer in the negative and made her regret asking the question even before she heard him say, flatly,

“Heal him? No. But I can help him die, if you wish.”

“No!” she cried, with feeling. “Please, Eztli! That’s not what I want, and you know it!”

He leaned down and brought his face close to hers, fixing her with his pale gaze for a couple of tense moments.

“You don’t know what you want, fräulein.” He sounded so self-assured, saying it, that she actually believed him, for a second. But then, she rallied and replied, softly yet insistently,

“That’s not true. I know what I want, I do.”

“And what is that, fräulein?” His deep voice was like a cat’s purr in her ears, except it did not make her feel relaxed. It made her excited, instead, and as her heart skipped one of its slow beats, she caught herself thinking,

You. I want you, Eztli.

Comments

  • Alexis

    Alexis

    3 months ago

    We are simultaneously too pushy and not assertive enough....
    Too feminine and toxically masculine....
    Lacking effort while trying too hard....

    Someone needs to invent an app that tells us exactly what to do every step of the way.

  • Ex007

    Ex007

    3 months ago

    I'm sorry, but I don't agree with your use of 'every female' you can't speak for all of us. Please don't project your opinion onto all women.

    I encourage you to explore the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies. It might help clarify some of your misconceptions.

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    3 months ago

    Great advice for the vampires out there 🙄😋

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    3 months ago

    I’ve got a long term history of missing all the signs. And, it’s not in my character to be pushy. Women basically have to grab my hand and hold it to their bosom. Otherwise we are just having a flirty conversation to keep ourselves entertained. 🤷🏼‍♂️

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    3 months ago

    Prefer Foxxy's ninja fuck.. let the chemistry do the talking ... 😊

  • Andrea_Sydney

    Andrea_Sydney

    3 months ago

    Your post sounds like a 1950s alleged women’s fantasy.
    I honestly don’t mean anything harsh here, but you are saying both - you want a man to be assertive and to also take things slow. What you want is a man who can mind-read. How is that realistic on any shape or form?

    It’s most definitely not every woman’s fantasy at all.
    I like a flirtatious man who can pick up on my signals, for sure. But a situation is only sexy and flirtatious if I do the same. If I sit back with an act of coy shyness and blushing, the situation will go boring quickly.
    You like a slow tease? Say so. Play that yourself then too.
    You want him to go for it, time to end the slow tease - signalling needs to be strong. I don’t know what your body language is like, but if you feel that men never understand your body language, chances are it’s so subtle that they have no chance.
    This is not Victorian times hun, open your mouth, voice what you want and give a man something to work with.
    Honestly no harm intended here, all the best hun! x

  • No_probLlama68

    No_probLlama68

    3 months ago

    It does sound a little unrealistic to expect men to know exactly what you are needing, especially if you have just met. They might think - is she giving me signs? Or is she just uncomfortable in her clothes and needs to move a little? Maybe she had too much spicy food at lunch and those look away eyes and blushing are acid reflux burning her throat and she’s self conscious.
    There is a lot of emphasis on consent these days, and rightly so, and if it’s not a “hell yes!!!” it’s a no.
    If you want a man for sex let him know, and he will likely be happy to participate.
    You can’t be upset if you invite him subtly and then he doesn’t read your language correctly.
    Fantasies are exactly that.

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    3 months ago

    I honestly have never thought that long about vampires and erotica before. Why of course, stay young forever and feast/taste the fluids of bodies all night every night, dreading only the morning light. Oh man, sorry for being captain obvious, I’m pretty late to the party on this one.

    I know the magnetism you’re writing of. For me it’s so often not in my eyes but where my eyes go. His crotch! Ha! Can’t help it. So embarrassing what a disability

    Good luck with your novel ❤️

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    2 months ago

    💕💕☺️☺️