The initial approach

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I see it this way...... according to your words... a) you say she's hot... so is probably conditioned over many years from guys treating her 'differently', to act differentlyb) she works in a shop so you know where she can be found so you have time to warm to her, and she to you, through more than an initial engagement of conversationc) whats the worst she can do if you talk to her? (she could laugh in your face and say 'f-off'... which never happens, but, if it did you've learned she isn't the kind of person you want to take the time to know anyway. Is she even single?!... observe and find out.Assuming she is.... you will need to break the customer/sales relationship expectation.You do this by engaging in cheeky, subtly flirty behaviour, so that she enjoys it..... knowing you may come back again (as she's seen you before)....and then leaving.However, you also need to recognise that other staff or her boss (?) will be watching her, there will be other customers so she will have time urges, and she may be the type to be embarrassed by attention at work. So....chit chat, smile, strong eye contact.... ask her name.... leave.(Were it me, when she serves me.... id be cheeky as hell.... IE Her - how can I help?Me - the usualher... confused, no idea what my usual isMe - look, this relationship isn't going to work if you can't even remember my usual lunch.... I think going to have to divorce you... (cheeky smile and eye contact) Eventually she gets your lunch, you tell her that you forgive her because she smiled nicely and you're not going to divorce her...... then leave, telling her if its not up to your taste standards you'll be back to divorce her again... (smile).Obviously... the context and delivery is important with something like that, and you need to observe her body language. What that does, is breaks that sales/customer expectation and engages her on a new level.... where you are the fun, funny, slightly cheeky guy. You have set her up to expect to enjoy your next interaction when you walk in again.... and i reckon she WILL remember you. Develop rapport in short, quality bursts so that she looks forward to seeing and interacting with you.... so that when you eventually tell her she should join you for (drink, cocktail, a better grade of sandwich after hours than the ones she makes (smile) ... that her positive experiences bantering with you in short bursts encourage her to want to ono more about you. Don't go for phone numbers.... she will be hesitant to do that in a shop environment.... instead, you want her to meet you after work... give her a good reason to meet..... maybe, you tell her about a great cocktail bar nearby that she needs to experience with you.... where you can talk about the weirdest customers she's death with that week... whatever. Most people are inherently friendly.... be friendly, subtly flirty, in short bursts.... then flat out tell her (if she has been receptive and responsive to you) that you and her are meeting after work. Cue... the cranky nit-picky very un-fun ladies responses lol

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Many will probably pooh pooh it, but it would work for me if I thought the guy was my type ... A printed card "You're cute, I'm shy, call me?" - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MissBishere

  11 years ago

  What mischievouslad said

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  What ML said :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  M,Lad thats a winner in my books.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  ...about her weekend, or whether she's been on any holidays lately. She may mention something like: "well my partner and I..." in which case you have an answer about whether she may/may not be available. Unless they swing :) Then, if she's probably single, ask her about anywhere local she hasn't been yet, eg events, restaurants. Then say: "Yes, I've been thinking about going there, do you want to check it out with me" etc. In theory, it could work for you, at least let's hope it works better in person for you than it does for me :)

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  If you were chatting her up at the supermarket checkout,you would attract for sure,but that would be the ire of me and others...if you have a business card,scribble on the back,call me if you would like to meet for coffee...she is in her workplace and while ML's pickup artist technique may work,it may also put her in a difficult position..good luck OP xxFreya

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