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The heart,is your heart open to the possibility of
May 27 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was always a little guarded. Didn't want to rush into anything. Self-preservation and all that! But I have recently met an amazing man and the connection was so great that yes, I have opened my heart again. And I am so glad I did. I couldn't be happier! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely! But I know better than to go looking for it - it has a way of finding you when you least expect it. The more you try to look for or force it, the more it eludes you.If … when … until then … 'it is what is til it aint' applies
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RHP User
11 years ago
VERY open to the possibility of love. Despite the amount of pain that losing it caused once. And I am completely open once in love (although frankly, there wasn't much to tell until recently). But knowing how rare it is, lust and friendship will have to suffice for the meantime. Of course, the above should coexist with love. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
After many years of being guarded...I found a way to let someone in...he showed me what I was missing,then shut me out and disappeared........
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RHP User
11 years ago
But does not break, however I'm sure its come close ! But i will throw it back into the front line every time, as it brings out the best and the worst of any encounter ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It finds you when you are ready. Chasing love seems to correlate with not being ready for it. For me, anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My heart is open to all possibilities. Have never seen much point in having it closed. Been hurt and felt pain many times but that is life and I can find deeper connection be it love, fun or friendship if I leave my heart bare. Just a guy that wears his heart on his sleeve. Mmmm am I on the wrong site
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RHP User
11 years ago
But at the moment its still in protective mode. And I'm loving spending time with my RHP friends for now. I believe in fate, so if there is a special someone out there for me, we will meet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Recently I realised I am very guarded. I'm not saying I'm closed to the possibility. Just not as open as I would like to be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
then I got blindsided by it anyway. It turns out that you can't control it, who knew? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am totally open... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Always open to the possibility. I don't chase it. If it finds me it finds me but until then, lust will fill the void.
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RHP User
11 years ago
my heart will all way be close i have been hurt to much
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RHP User
11 years ago
For this topic xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
The door to my heart is closed, but the key is always in it.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I was actually unsure if I was capable of loving someone or being loved by someone, but I met a man who showed me that I could indeed, love and allow myself to be loved..... What I realised was and why I've been single for so long is, I needed to work on myself from the inside out, learn to love myself first and then my heart would be open to another's love. So even tho we didn't work out, I have said goodbye and thanked him for showing me what it felt like to be loved and to love again, he will always be special to me for that reason...... So bring it on, whatever might happen, I'm going to love like I've never been hurt, keep my heart as open as my mind....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Unfortunately the last two relationships I had, each of them left me for someone else. So to open myself up again I would have to be the ideal person for them. Not just someone whom is good enough for here and now. There would have to be some serious intent before I could open myself up again. Like everyone else until then its friends. I feel like I have become the person I want to be and so if it is meant to happen it will at some point in the future.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Some of the crew have met Chocky Desire and tgink we are well suited. We are content for the most part in our co-existence BUT love? I don't feel love for him, I like him alot doesn't that count for something? I've rushed into love in the past, got carried away and in the end it oroved to be one-sided. I have loved with all my heart and everything in me and can honestlysay I have felt all consuming mutual love for the briefest of moments. I've searched and waited in turn for "the perfect love" or as perfect in my mind as mutual appreciation and adoration, loyalty, respect and friendship come to it and well..... I've come to accept that it probably doesn't exist! I'm being philosophical here. Chocky Desire thinks he's in love with me though I've painstakingly explained, demonstrated and veebalised my many flaws, faults, eccentricities and pain in the arse traits in an effort to assist him in getting a grip on reality: I AM NOT ANYONE'S IDEAL OR FAIRYTALE PRINCESS come true. I've loved and been spurned. Loved and been hurt. Loved and been used. Loved and been devalued. I think I'm over it......I refuse to call my current thing a "relationship" and I cannot tellhim I love him because it's not what I feel for him. He knows this, I'm atleast that honest with both of us. My love and I have been kicked to the curb once too often maybe. Does love exist? Yes no doubt. Does it's meaning exist in a capacity with another human being in equal measure for me? That's yet to be answered.....at this point in time I'd say my heart is closed. It's just safer that way (shrugs)
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
without engaging the heart is not a life for me. Sometimes it soars, sometimes it crumbles but at least it feels. I live life with all its complexities, engage all the senses and take the risks in love that make life extraordinary. I do not want to look back and think, if only I was open to taking the chance, open to love. One of my favorite quotes is: Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever. Andre Lorde And that is what I have done, and am still doing.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'kissk' without engaging the heart is not a life for me. Sometimes it soars, sometimes it crumbles but at least it feels. I live life with all its complexities, engage all the senses and take the risks in love that make life extraordinary. I do not want to look back and think, if only I was open to taking the chance, open to love. One of my favorite quotes is: Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever. Audre Lorde And that is what I have done, and am still doing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
& it's all a bit mysterious.Mrs D has got a good 25+ years head start on my FWB but I do love the time I have with my lover. FWB was talking about the various states of coupledom, an interesting subject that may be worth further looking at.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's easy to take off your clothes and have sex. People do it all the time. But opening up your soul, letting them into your spirit, thoughts, fears, future hopes, dreams...Now that's being naked.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My heart is always open even tho it's been broken before. I used to chase love but it never works for me ,so now days I'm very guarded. That kinda sounds like I'm contradicting myself, I guess I'm very choosy to whom I offer my heart. If it happens it happens. I enjoy being single & open to new possibilities..... 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...and why the hell wouldn't I be...? There is no point to having a heart, unless you're prepared to have it broken. If love was a sure thing, you'd take it for granted... Everyone would. Even you. It's the possibility of loosing love and having our hearts torn asunder and being gutted emotionally, that keeps us coming back for more.... Or so I'm lead to believe, etc etc and so on and so forth... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can experience pain, you can close yourself for long time or for the rest of this round.....but nothing breaks, you are still going one way or another.I, personally are always open to the possibility of a great connection, For me it is one of the most cherished things in life ! Nothing beats the feeling of happiness, intimacy and love when real and reciprocated. But I know that I need to be open to attracted, available and ready for when it arrives. And conscious enough to be able to see through all the games, projections and expectations that we place normally in such scenarios. Bring it on life......ready for another round
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Baz Luhrmann's Everybody's Free To Wear Sunscreen - I listen to this a few times a day and I wish somebody had have shown me something like this when I was growing up.... One statement it says "Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours." Makes complete sense to me.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not ready to be too deeply involved with someone. I step back from fwb if I feel they're becoming to invested. I may well be missing out on genuine love. But I just can't bring myself to take that leap of faith.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Every day is a potential audition
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is open to have connections whicj is what I seek, but it will truly take a very special someone for my heart to open for love 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sock26
11 years ago
We all have our stories and mine is no different. Unfortunately being the bloke I am I of course try and convince myself as much as the world that iv given up on finding love.... sneaky stuff emotions. They sneak in while your not watching and put butterflies in your belly and next minute your wondering where all the heartache came from. But I'm guessing I'm an incurable romantic so I'd better get used to it cos as they say..... my heart seems to always be on my sleeve. All I need to do is stop trying to convince myself it's not. Daz
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mines going firmly back into its box, my soul is tired.
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's a myth
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Hottie1
11 years ago
In line with Jack's comments, there are types of love in that 'romantic sense' for me. My situation is different to a number of posters because I am in love with my man! He holds my heart and the key ( thanks Meander) to it. ❤️ It is an overwhelming, consuming, passionate, playful, temperamental, funny and simply - a beautiful love. However, my experiences and understanding of the dimensions of 'love' have changed since we entered this lifestyle. I often wonder what is the right thing to do in terms of my feelings, do I share, do I put myself out there, and I question what will happen. I love a small group of my friends and not platonically 😉 Every encounter with them, I expose just another piece of 'the real me'. They nurture me, support me, fight for me and are honest with me. What's taken me by surprise is that many of these are women! I accept that I am what I am and can't hide how I feel. I live large and love larger, fail spectacularly, wear my heart on my sleeve, it's been abused by some and held delicately by others. I've taken to telling my friends, how I feel and what they mean to me. Sometimes words aren't enough, I'm hoping I show it in deeds as well. Mary xx Sent from my iPhone
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RHP User
11 years ago
To my heart, an open door, when it gets a bit cold inside I do close it a little to prevent the drafts. I think each time I open it up again the squeak gets a little louder, I should do something about that. But the welcome mat is always out and the door bell is in good working order.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I fall in love with everyone and everything ❤️ I often just sit totally bemused with how I am so totally in love with everything/one in my life Xxviolet
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RHP User
11 years ago
MY hearts got a bit of healing to do now... I took no advice about a guy I was seeing on here. I wrote a forum 'my two weeks of heaven and hell'... I tried to take peoples advice... But didn't. Ended being in a controlling 'relationship' with a married man who claimed he loved me. I wasn't allowed to see other people... Even though he would tell me i should date (then make punish me with radio silence for days when I told him I had).And he only flew in and out for one night every few weeks. And when he was here or when he asked me to fly to sydney... I was totally available. So he tells me he wants to have a threesome for his birthday. This is not the first, second or twentieth... More like the 50th time he's suggested it. I guess over time he became more insistent. So I agreed to finally have one with him which was planned for Wednesday night just gone with a woman he had slept with before being with me. I've never had a ffm... Only a mmf with two guy friends. So I was petrified about being naked in front of another woman intimately. Not to mention.. I didn't know how it would all work... I started to doubt myself and my ability to be just a participant in a threesome with someone who said 'loved' me but was married ...with someone who had conditioned me to believe we were in a relationship when the logical side of my brain knew better. Over the weekend a gf of mine asked me to have drinks with her bf and her at a hotel, I did. I spoke to her about what he wanted; my fears, trepidations.... She told me she'd been with girls before and so we started playing around while her bf watched.. He and I didn't do anything... He just paid attention to my gf while she went down on me.. Then watched as I went down on her. I woke up feeling more excited about the threesome... With 'married man'... I decided to tell him... Said I had fooled around with a gf and wanted to tell him because I kind of felt guilty not having asked him before. Which is the kind of control he had over me... Even though I was technically still single... I never slept with anyone other than him in the past five months. Loyal, honest and devoted to man who still sleeps with his wife (when he can bare it, as he tells me) and was sleeping with multiple other women around the country. He seemed ok about it... Until he phoned Monday night... He grilled me about he evening until I told him there was a guy involved. To say 'married man' lost his shit... Is an understatement... He then unceremoniously hangs up on me and tells me "please; take this as fact. Nothing good can come from us speaking tonight"... So I don't message or call until Tuesday evening... He's checked up on my rhp profile a few times... So I call... No answer... Message no response. Radio silence... From the 39yr old man (going on 7yr old errant spoilt brat child) who thought he had complete control over me... And when I try to feel more comfortable about an act he has suggested we do with a stranger, by messing around with her friend... And I didn't ask his permission... Well he's 'shaking with anger... I have never felt this anger before. I can't speak or even think of you right now'. So yes..... I'd have to say... Totally open to love with someone who isn't married... Who isn't a puppet master... Who doesn't try to condition me or control my life. Who wants to be with me and only me ...who cares, spoils and adores me... As much as I am willing to do in return. Xoxo, hopeless romantic. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My heart is locked inside a steel cage surrounded by thick solid steel doors.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Sasha_007' My heart is locked inside a steel cage surrounded by thick solid steel doors. Wouldn't it be ironic if you fell in love with a locksmith?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love love, I want love, I cherish love....but obviously it is not my lesson in life to learn how to live with it. It would seem my lesson in life is to learn how to live without it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
as it used to be.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
cherrylips13 Always always above all else look after yourself first. If ever you feel uncomfortable take it as a red flag. Which means you have good reason to feel that way and you should act on it. No one deserves your time unless they respect you. This man sounds horrible and I hope you stay far away. As there are many nice men on RHP you just have wait till you find one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When i first joined rhp i was not open to the idea of more. However i met a man who forced me to think of the posibility of more and although im still not ready to rush into anything i think im prepared to go with the flow without freaking out again. Im grateful to that man, even though nothing more will happen with him, for opening my eyes and lifting the veil of darkness from my damaged heart. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That so many of you have such open hearts..I am struggling with being more open but while I don't think Jaycee will have to live without love I have never found it and doubt that I ever will..at least romantic love because I do have a lot of love in my life,,.I really liked Meanders closed door with a key analogy too xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ahhh want_this_hmmm getting in is only the beginning .. X
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'cherrylips13' MY hearts got a bit of healing to do now... I took no advice about a guy I was seeing on here. I wrote a forum 'my two weeks of heaven and hell'... I tried to take peoples advice... But didn't. Ended being in a controlling 'relationship' with a married man who claimed he loved me. I wasn't allowed to see other people... Even though he would tell me i should Radio silence... From the 39yr old man (going on 7r old errant spoilt brat child) This sounds like the man who can't actually have you because he is already married, but god forbid you should actually be a free agent having fun when he isn't around. So, in other words he doesn't really want you, but doesn't want anyone else to to either.... you're exclusively, 'non-exclusively' his! Personally, I think life is like a canvas, each day it's blank and dependent upon what you draw onto it. I'm always open to the idea of love. Although having been put through the ringer, I think the next chap might find himself playing the tango with me, until I am absolutely sure of his intentions, all mind games forbidden. "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it, was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us....." Is in fact a rather apt description of love, and its aftermath. I'm a big believer in fate. It's meant to be or it isn't. Love finds you. Follow your hobbies, interests and heart, and what will be will be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was closed after divorce and that is why I tended to pick younger men at the time,knew in my head there was no chance of love developing due to being at different stages of life (oh and perhaps the energy and tight bods 😜 ) But now my heart is filled with love from my children, my granddaughter and a few great friends, but still have room for more. I don't want suffocating, clingy love but maybe one day someone will cluck with me and we will share special feelings....but I'm not holding my breath and I don't need it to make my life complete. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be in deep complete open all embracing no shadows love again, one day. But for now I feel it is buried under many layers of lifes rubble awaiting ressurection. I just hope I dont miss my lover when she passes by, I know she's out there... I hope I am able to recognise her and she me ... she's been through pain too .... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just go with the flow enjoy your self and if someone special comes in to your life grab hold with open arms - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
With age and wisdom on my side, I would say my heart is open as I think that is the way we should live ... positively. Experience tells me men are so different to women that it doesn't matter what you get from them it's up to you to make sure you are not exposing yourself to emotional trauma. Generally we get bored with what we have and it will only be a strong friendship that will see through all the manipulation and point scoring that happens within a relationship. Every new love starts loaded with misleading intentions. You never end up with the man you met. I live in hope that I can grow old with my soul mate. But I will not make any sacrifices to my own morals....I guess I just stated that I will be lonely in my old age. Judging from my much loved men friends and long term husband of 22 years, it is true they are driven by their penis's...... thats why we love them
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some of us are too sensitive and have the capability of enormous fervour and passion for someone and can be prepared to give everything you got to set them in comfort and love and orgasms. Then they take your heart and plop in their glass of water to dissolve like a Berrocca to get them cheerily through their day. Never again!!!! I rely on myself!! Unless......................................
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