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The Thin Blue Line: Concept of Chatting

July 16 2009

As a veteran of chat rooms for many many years in most servers all over the Internet, i have learned so much about the importance of chatting as well as how one should behave within. To many of you, its a new thing, and are unsure on how to work with it, how to interact with it, which often leads to issues with a few members. In some cases, nasty issues. We all wanted to chat in harmony, have fun, and leave with a big smile on our faces. But sometimes, people tend to get carried away with what they are typing, unbeknownst to themselves, that causes harm to few members of the chat room. And, i decided to share what I once wrote a decade ago that aided alot of people around the world on how to deal, how to interact, and how to behave, in a chat room. The Thin Blue Line ----------------------- Like in psychological aspect of the Thin Red Line, even chat has its own thin line. The line that defines the border between reality, and fantasy. Between Thoughts, and Text on screen. One can perform jovial characters to enlighten many people with wit and humour, others may case distasteful harm. It all depends on how to word it. It all depends on how you perceive the chat room. It all depends on how you TREAT the chat room to be. in some sites, or chat servers, there is a group that does Role Playing. How they do this, they play the characters in teh story and interact with another to follow the story. Be it Star Trek adventure, or Lord of the Rings Quests. In that Role playing,, they behaved in such a way that follow the character's trait. They ALSO include an OOC chat (Out of Character). OOC means they are themselves, interacting another that is NOT involved in the Role playing game. In this, you see two different sides of the chat. Thus the Thin Blue Line, where one finds the distinctive differences of Fantasy, and reality. And these players, knows EXACTLY the ins and outs of the chat room. They have an acute understanding on how to treat, behave and see the chat room as it meant to be. Most people cannot see this thin blue line, and often get confused with themselves in between to the two sides. Thus causing unwanted situation that often left them thinking that chat room is not good for social interaction. Leaving it a bad name that THEY caused in the first place. It is important to view the chat room as such as you were in a local gathering venue, such as your local pub. How would you behave, how would you interact there? THAT is exactly how you should interact in chat rooms. Nine times out of ten, you would find chatters seeing this chat room as a means to be MORE than themselves that they are afraid to become in reality. They speak their minds with ease where they wouldn't dare to say so face to face. Mainly because of the protection of the Glass screen that separates themselves from the rest of the world. Being behind the monitor, can make any chatter be anything they always wanted to be. In some chat rooms with a purpose, (such as RHP Chat room) this is a good way to express their desires (such as threesome). However, sometimes one can go too far, often scaring the other chatters away with thoughts of "shit, he's a creep" SO how does one chat in a room in a pleasant manner? Well here is the following guidelines that should help you.... * Be Yourself * Its nice to express humour, but dont overdo it. * Do not try to take over the chat and be the KING (Or queen) of the chat. You are more likely to be the DRAMA king/queen than anything.. a big red flag. * Treat others as you would treat yourself * IF you have a problem with another chatter, speak your mind in private. No one wants to know your problems * If unable to resolve your issues with another chatter. Ignore it.. and use the block button. * Do NOT cause drama just because you have issues with someone that is close to someone else whom in turn, is your adversary. * Be friendly with everyone.. REGARDLESS. * What said in private.. STAYS in private.. or you will lose the most honourable thing "Trust".. not just from that person who confided in you.. but everyone else will realise that you are not trust worthy. * Remember, it is a criminal offence if you slander anyone. It doesn't matter what it is. * As above: Defamation is also a criminal offence. But also left with others viewing you as a "dickhead" * You have a right to express opinions, but do NOT fight to prove yours is the right and correct one.. an OPINION.. is just that.. OPINION.. not FACTS. Accept that others have different points of view. * Do not enter the chat room if you are under the influence. This cause unwanted results, even tho you do not meant to create one. * and above all. Have a good time.

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RHP User

16 years ago

That's sure to help some but unfortunately I'm sure the ones that really need to read it wont.

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RHP User

16 years ago

Point of order. Slander and defamation are not criminal offences. These are both torts. There are trolls that bait people into reacting... For their own entertainment... You do a bit of that from time to time buddy. I've seen your comments from time to time in this forum where you do. In any case, your sentiments here are clearly genuine. Hugs gaz

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RHP User

16 years ago

Well done sparty. Rules of the chat room from another perspective. I didn't know you where such a level headed thinker. umm umm, "dont try to be a king of chat? They all nod in reverence when you enter the chat, ROFL. Very good post mate.

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RHP User

16 years ago

that no one past, nor in the future will ever wear a helmet on their head as well as you!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Lovenlust: how true.. ut just maybe.. just maybe.. they might stumble upon this thread Gaz: Actually.. it is.. i suggest you check the law before you continue to Slander and defame as you just did in that comment :) Jedi: LOL>. i wasnt trying to be one.. but ic ant help it that they like me bing there.. i think its cos i lighten the chat room enough to bring smiles? Justagirly: I take that as a compliment.. i think?

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RHP User

16 years ago

Did everything that was suggested that you do and do not do in chat. Apparently it's not good enough for the so called precious people on RHP. Got flamed badly in the chatroom tonight, abused, ganged up on and generally made feel like a complete loser. There are some really nasty nasty people on RHP, who hide behind their computers in order to bring other people down and make themselves feel good. I've always said if you don't like what someone is saying, ignore or block them, but don't harass them based on who they are, what the believe or who they choose to be. If I don't like what someone is saying, I'll tell them politely, if I dont like what someone is doing, I wont be party it it, but what happened in the chat room tonight has really hurt me, people knocking my sense of humour, my right to an opinion, the way I deal with my life and what goes on in it. I won't ever go into the adult chat room again and quite frankly, stuff like this is what makes the world the crazy, rude, ill mannered and uneducated place it is today, with no respect for people, social courtesy and proper behaviour towards other people.

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RHP User

16 years ago

Can someone please explain the difference between criminal and civil law for our helmeted friend! but... wait am I or would you be committing a criminal offence>? lol

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RHP User

16 years ago

Spart - I agree - Its just politeness 101 really. Pity someone needs to remind us. I've given up on the chatrooms here - they seem to be dominated by aggressive regulars who have no interest in newcomers and crave being the centre of attention - my experience being like modern version of the colosseum - maybe I should have worn a helmet too..lol And as for fantasy -- there's secondlife

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RHP User

16 years ago

Definition of tort Definition of TORT - A negligent or intentional civil wrong not arising out of a contract or statute. These include "intentional torts" such as battery or defamation, and torts for negligence. A tort is an act that injures someone in some way, and for which the injured person may sue the wrongdoer for damages. Legally, torts are called civil wrongs, as opposed to criminal ones. (Some acts like battery, however, may be both torts and crimes; the wrongdoer may face both civil and criminal penalties.) I don't see where where Gaz slandered or defamed anyone... he would have had to have made a false statement lol. Definition of slander n. 1. Law Oral communication of false statements injurious to a person's reputation. 2. A false and malicious statement or report about someone. :-* & hugs

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RHP User

16 years ago

It's not slander unless I attack your character, mate... and normally it's a pretty good defence if I have the evidence to back myself up... but I'm no tortfeaser and besides.... there's something attractive about you :p. OH! I've had a paid membership since Saturday! Yaaaaay! So I spent an hour or so on Saturday and an hour this morning, lurcking in the adult chat room... not saying anything .. just lurking... which for me was difficult! Maybe its just the times I went on... but there were like 5 guys having a wank, presumably with each other... and one woman showing her tits... or something... and then there were 87 other people egging her on with stuff like... "oh yeah bebe" that they'd obviously heard on an Austin Powers movie.. and a few people yawning and eating breakfast cerial or something. So, I guess I must have missed happy hour! Also, I managed to get blocked by three people, even though I didn't say a word... go figure. Now it's been maybe 16 years since I was in a chat room... and back then there were special programs we used for accessing them.. you know... with hotkeys for wispering and so on... so is it my imgination... or is the webcam chat pop-up? (It seems to sport less features for chatting than the stuff I used back in the noughties) ...or are you all using a separate program.

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RHP User

16 years ago

Frack_me: yes.. sadly you get some fustrated weirdoes that would do anything to make them feel good themselves simply becuase they lack the areas they so desired. What you have said, is exactly true. It is most unfortunate that you suffered such un-civiised behaviour brought upon you by these idiots. Times have changed i teh last decde, and social interation bwteen parties, are getting worse. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ PeachyPear: False statement or not... he is asking for trouble. Thus makes him being one of "them". ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Gaz: Welcome to the sick world of Adult chat. And being blocked by them.. maybe its cos the guys that are wanking is homophobiac? not saying you are Homosexual, but these guys think you are.. simply because you are viewing them.. not that you are interested in what they do.. but you are curious to see how all this webcam chat really works. I assume you went into teh Adult room. Perhaps try the SOCIAL room. all of us regulars there have cam on from time to time, but only for facial shots. I think we tend to treat SOCIAL room as SOCIAL.. a complee different "feel" about it than to the "ADULT" room. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Mr Sheen, if you failed to undestand the whole purpose of this dicussion, why bother breathing the air? :)

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RHP User

16 years ago

That pretty much sums up the chat experience. It can be pretty pathetic at times. Most of the times it's average. Every now and then some crazy shit happens.

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RHP User

16 years ago

when people pretend to be what they aren't...and act all so sweet and innocent...really it does make me sick to the stomach...I came from one adult site to RHP chat (although had been a member for years) to get away from a certain person...I thought this was a social thing....not a room of dominance and alienation...

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RHP User

16 years ago

False statement or not he is asking for trouble???? So in other words despite the fact that you made an incorrect and misleading statement the other person is at fault for disagreeing with you???? I thought your original post was just plain silly, but I now see the error of my ways... I gave you far too much credit. Perhaps, before making ridiculous public statements that you feel display your intelligence and knowledge, you ensure you get it right! p.s. - Sticks and stones may break my bones but TORTS will never harm me!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Sparty... your profile says you're leaving... wish you well :-) Hugs oxo PP

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