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The Role of Fantasy in our Sexual Fulfillment

November 02 2011

As a woman, sexual fantasy is a very strong part of my sexuality. Indeed, it is not until my thoughts are flowing freely with sexual imagery that my body starts to enter the orgasmic stage. I wonder if I am alone in this, or whether other people - male and female, share a similar experience. I do not find myself fantasizing strongly in the early stages of play, rather, it is a period of quiet, savouring the physical sensations - stroke of skin, softness of a kiss, joy of exploring anothers body - it is only once I am being pleasured with a distinct purpose, whether that be oral, digital, or penetrative sex and our bodies are locked in sync and rhythm that I start to have erotic pictures fill my head..it is these, together with the physical sensations that catapult me headlong into orgasm. Does fantasy figure largely in your sexual nature?

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RHP User

14 years ago

When i am having sex i am pretty well locked into the person and what we are doing...now masturbation is a different story !

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14 years ago

Agree with Taipan on this one, by that stage I am focused on the reactions of who I am with and how my body is feeling. So I guess my thought process is opposite to yours Crackup. ;-) xx Meeka

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RHP User

14 years ago

I have to say that I usually fantasise to reach that tumultuous moment...but that might change with a little more experience ...

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RHP User

14 years ago

Hi guys..In light of both your responses...I was just googling the phenonema.. and came across this:Fantasies may also be used as a part of sex therapy. They can enhance insufficiently exciting sexual acts to promote higher levels of sexual arousal and release. A 1986 study that looked at married women indicated that sexual fantasies helped them achieve arousal and orgasm.<21> As a part of therapy, anorgasmic women are commonly encouraged to use fantasy and masturbation.<22> It would seem that for some, there is indeed a place and a useful one at that, for the 'tool' of fantasizing. I don't believe I use it to the detriment of my partner (i.e. ignoring his needs), but definitely, when entering that orgasmic I am in the 'zone' and that 'zone' involves and departure into an altered 'headspace'.

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RHP User

14 years ago

BTW... I can imagine Mr Taipen.. no one being distracted with fantasies in your capable hands.. and Ms Meeka.. well, you surely are the stuff, fantasy is made of xx

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RHP User

14 years ago

Such a flatterer Crackup. xxMeeks

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RHP User

14 years ago

Lol, Meeka - there is much pleasure in giving . I love that movie.. umm Reece Witherspoon, where she wears a lot of pink.. and dammit, I cant remember what it's called; Legally Blonde or something - but basically, she gave 'snaps'.. or something nice to people (comments, compliments whatever), kitsch but I kinda liked it. xx

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RHP User

14 years ago

Generally speaking, women are not as visual as men but more kinesthetic. Initially anyway, but with a good cache of stored erotic memory (personal or porn material) visual fantasy can flow as good as any male. Sharing this mindset with your partner openly without impairment or negative judgement is a paramount ideal as this allows your partner to know your preferences and turn-ons and tailor your joint fantasies to flourish and indulge you both to fulfillment. A higher intimacy all couples to achieve for sure. All sensuality begins in the mind.

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