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"The Female Orgasm: From one Man's Perspective"

January 24 2012

I found this article on the Taboo Jive website - I would love to know if these techniques work and what other's work too.----------------------The Female orgasm is a wonderful and glorious experience to behold indeed. Now I can’t speak for every man, but I can tell you with certainty that a lot of men never (or may never) get to experience his woman’s true ability to explode a massive burst of orgasmic energy his way. Some of the reasons for this tragic lack of execution are hers and some are most definitely his. Even though many female’s ability to orgasm can sometimes turn into a challenge for her, trust me when I tell you that its well worth waiting for. Many woman are very self -conscious not only of themselves and their bodies, but also of how much time it’s taking; and may fake an orgasm if they think they’re taking too long. Men, be patient and enjoy creating a warm, moist and steamy build up… the build up is a key factor in creating the biggest ‘Kaboom’ possible! – The clitoris is the only organ on the human body made with just one purpose: pleasure – For most men, it’s very easy to ejaculate and can be done within the first five minutes of foreplay or vaginal entry. But it helps many woman to build up with things like a romantic evening, laughing, drinking, dancing, hugging, foreplay, etc… Many woman get ‘turned on’ a lot more than men are aware of, but it can still take a woman anywhere from 30 minutes to an entire evening to build up enough sexual steam to share her best possible erotic experience with you. Men can certainly help put their woman at ease with things like; playfully calling them ‘sexy’ or complimenting them on their ‘sexy body.’ To stimulate the best possible experience it’s important for your woman to feel comfortable, not only with her man but at ease with herself too. Following are ten very good suggestive pieces of advice, shared by Debby Herbenick, Ph.D. for the educational purpose of this topic. Enjoy and please share your commentary and orgasmic experiences/advice with us below… 1.) Take Her Off the Clock Just as you’re concerned about lasting longer, many women are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or deciding to go without. The solution? Stop obsessing over orgasms—yours and hers. A recent brain-imaging study by Swedish researchers shows that relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm. So tell her she has all night. The better you convey not just tolerance for a lengthy buildup, but also appreciation of her sexual pleasure—orgasm or not—the easier it will be for her to unwind and explode. Oh, and studies show that it takes 15 to 40 minutes for the average woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere? 2.) Turn Her On with Your Talent The best sex starts long before the clothes come off. Talent—more than rugged good looks or a chiseled midsection—is a powerful aphrodisiac, according to research by my colleagues at The Kinsey Institute. (Less surprisingly, poor hygiene and a messy home are among women’s biggest turnoffs.) So nail “Paradise City” during karaoke. Or make her die laughing at your self-deprecating display of atrocious dartsmanship. Yes, humor is a talent, too. 3.) When She’s Naked, Speak Up Women who worry about the way they look down there are less likely to orgasm easily during oral sex, according to my research. And a recent study published in the Journal of Sex Research suggests that women who feel embarrassed or ashamed about their bodies have less sexual experience and are less sexually assertive. Clearly, you have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks naked—and you do, right?—share the news. 4.) Always Be Tender Up Top During foreplay, gently brush the tops, bottoms, and sides of her breasts; these areas are actually more sensitive than an unaroused areola and nipple. Gradually move in toward her nipples, paying attention to how she responds. As things heat up, the nipples will become flushed with blood, and the sensory receptors will become primed for direct stimulation. You’ll kickstart the bloodflow and lubrication down below, starting her slow buildup. 5.) Learn Her Key Strokes One thing many women love during manual stimulation: a slow buildup. Here’s how to do it: Lie next to her, lightly bracing the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now run your ring and middle fingers along the length of her outer lips. Graze the skin at first, adding pressure as the tension builds. Cup the area around her clitoris with your palm to add indirect stimulation—most women are too sensitive to receive direct contact early on. As she becomes aroused, brace your hand on her mons—her pubic mound, the fleshy area that covers her pubic bone—and tease the clitoris with the middles and tips of your fingers as you move your entire hand. 6.) Change Your Angle Play Ponce de León and explore various types of penetration to figure out what turns her on most. Your first stop: her G-spot, located about 1 to 2 inches up the front wall of her vagina. This spongy region swells during arousal. Try massaging the area slowly with your fingers. A lot of women find it mind blowing. Not her thing? Just move on. 7.) Use Moves that Multitask To maximize her pleasure, increase the amount of contact you’ll have with her most sensitive parts. Here’s one move that will drive her wild: Ask her to lie on her back, with her legs stretched out. Now climb on top. Curl your arms around her shoulders, supporting yourself with your elbows and moving your chest up by her chin. The goal is to bring the base of your penis in contact with her clitoris. Thrust slowly, focusing on up-and-down movement instead of in-and-out penetration. Another great trick: Move your pubic mound in a circle or up and down against her clitoris. You’ll get a break from high-intensity stimulation, and she’ll receive focused attention where it often matters most. 8.) Learn to Sense Her Orgasm Ease into oral sex—don’t just attack. First kiss her inner thighs and her inner and outer lips, then work your way inside using firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a clue to the rhythm she likes. Listen to her gasps and moans as you experiment with different techniques. And watch for signs she’s close to climaxing, such as a subtle deepening in the color of her labia caused by increased bloodflow. Or rest a hand on her stomach and feel for the muscular contractions that immediately precede her orgasm. 9.) Follow Her Lead Once you reach your point of no return, you’ll climax even if you’re interrupted by a tuba-playing, thong-clad Bea Arthur. But your lady could hit the “off” switch if you stop or change moves midway to orgasm. We love it when you try new things, and it’s important to vary your technique, but once you’ve found a winner, stick with it until she crosses the finish line. 10.) Let Her Finish First Stalking the elusive tandem orgasm is an admirable goal, but many women—especially those with sensitive clitorises—respond better to a “ladies-first” strategy. If you rub the clitoris for a long time—during thrusting, for example—it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to manual or oral stimulation later. So satisfy her before intercourse. Bonus: A woman’s orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it’s often easier to bring her to climax through penetration after she’s already had one. How does that sound for an encore?Not sure if RHP will let me but the link is http://taboojive.com/the-female-orgasm-from-one-man%e2%80%99s-perspective/

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RHP User

14 years ago

Orgasmic stuff! It's good to see people(mainly men) actually have an interest in a woman's pleasure. This is good, very good.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I hope every guy and some girls take the time to read this !!

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RHP User

14 years ago

Simple stuff really and yet so many get it so wrong.

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RHP User

14 years ago

.......n now I know why. xxo

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RHP User

14 years ago

This information was also available in a 'Men's Health' magazine recently. There is no excuse for not being informed about sexuality.. pertaining to both men and women. The person you are with just has to 'care' enough to actually want to apply what is so freely available. Therein lies the trick - get a partner who only cares about their own pleasure and all the knowledge in the world won't make a damn difference. Finding a partner who does 'care' .. pure gold - beats good looks, rippling muscles, toned physique and all the other carry on... any day of the week.

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RHP User

14 years ago

you wrote this so well- got point four, ejaculated then fell asleep- can i just start at point five or do I need to go back to the beginning like in snakes and ladders?xx

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RogueGeek

14 years ago

I didn't write this. I found it on a website.MS Quoting 'lovetothx' you wrote this so well- got point four, ejaculated then fell asleep- can i just start at point five or do I need to go back to the beginning like in snakes and ladders?xx

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RHP User

14 years ago

Number 9. Sooooo true!!Excellent! Should be compulsory reading for all!BJ

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bikin1model

14 years ago

I agree with all the above! From my experiences with M/F and FFM if you seduce a girls mind and she is 'into' you than you can bring her to orgasm by verbal instructions alone. Add a sponge bath, massage and candle lit dinner with fine wine and she will shag your ears off ...lol... How do you seduce a girls mind?? A million ways but basically from my experience charisma and the girl seeing something special in your smile and making her laugh. To me fucking without passion is similar to masterbating. Gives you sexual relief but no sense of satisfaction. Everyone is different, I guess being a debauchery site riding any bit of skirt you can is acceptable and maybe adds to the score board:) Finally I hope you all end up in an amazing relationship like the one I am in, happy hunting girls and boys!

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RHP User

14 years ago

I would have thought that article was common knowledge these days as you can find many articles similar to this on many web sites and mens magazines and through trial n error and practice. Im suprised most men dont know it. I care enough, as to ask the lady what she likes how and where she likes it,,if what i am doing, is doing nothing for her.

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missangelina

14 years ago

This is so true it may have been written about me.Some guys are so rough on the clitoris you wonder where on earth they learnt their technique - cleaning the car or sandpapering the wall before a paint job. 1artful_ducal & others here - It is lovely to see some men do know about this and do take the time and have the sensitivity to care about bringing a woman to orgasm in her own time and her own way.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I find that a lot of women are self conscious and struggle to let themselves go in front of another person no mater what the scene, I used to find that mature women were less likely to do this but I'm discovering that age doesn't seem to be a huge factor, everyone is different but female orgasm is amazing and facinates me, much better than male orgasm, I get jelous, lol.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Seduction of the mind is paramount for a woman to ejaculate/squirt, orgasm,cum.....whatever the terminology and the timing....it is all relevan.t to the mental stimulation...though in my world I enjoy the visuall also I can see a bulge in a man's trouser an erection building and I could cum or have to masterbate.......I can be bought to orgasm by being told how much i love good fucking.....I have also had an experience many years ago where I was raped and the state of arousal was triggered by fear and I ejaculated.....sooo I hope this answers some queeries one may have....and remembering it is my perspective as a horny. hot and sexy woman whom is Hedonistic!!!!!! Enjoy your journeys......

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