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The Age Debate!
May 28 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Not ageist....so no. Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
It really shouldn't matter if they're 18 or 35, a good person is a good person either way.
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RHP User
14 years ago
while we might like and chat etc with people outside of our preferred age group, theres really no chance we'll ever play with anyone the ages of or younger than our own children, or the ages of our parents............
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dont think im an 'ageist'. I think I have a preferance. I have my reasons for my preferances and I dont think there is anything wrong with that. I find it funny tho that most of the people who use the word 'ageist' are 40+.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've said it before and I'll repeat it.....my name is roxxy and I'm an Ageist!!! I make no apologies for that. I have my reasons and I don't need to explain them....but if you have age preferences then that's your choice. No one else's Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
''Age is a number...sex is just a game...Real love is for giving.....and life never stays the same''Beauty doesn`t discriminate........preference is king!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
We're not weightist, heightist, ageist, sexist, racist or homophobic. Maybe that's because we're overweight, undertall, at the "upper end" of the age range (him), love the opposite sex, an aussie/pommie couple and bisexual(her) we do discriminate against those people without a sense of humour though....and if they're smelly :) but hey.....everyone to their own :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Non ageist people have preferences as well, just that the birth date isn't one of them. I have nothing against people being ageist, or any other sort of preference for that matter, what ever works for them.Some people have very personal reasons, surrounding their age preferences, I know of one lady on this site who had a terrible time as a youngster and bases her age requirements around that. I am equally sure plenty of others have equally valid reasons.The second part of your statement I found a little strange....It's often just a sign of maturity and outlook, a sort of getting of wisdom to some degree.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
But only because my preference is for guys that are playful and still have that ability to be a big kid. My partner is older but has that sense of "young and playful" that I find so attractive.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I personally look for people within a certain number of years around my age when online. I'm just a little more comfortable with that. I have had people outside those limits contact me and I've made exceptions because they were awesome people. I've also met a number of people outside this limit at parties etc. I think one of the reasons I put a limit on my profile is because I previously didn't and was getting a number of really unpleasant messages from men who were a lot older than me. And whilst I know that's probably always going to happen, but it did help when I got a little more specific on my profile.At the end of the day, each to their own ^_^ Everyone should do what's most comfortable for them at the time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I personally look for people within a certain number of years around my age when online. I'm just a little more comfortable with that. I have had people outside those limits contact me and I've made exceptions because they were awesome people. I've also met a number of people outside this limit at parties etc. I think one of the reasons I put a limit on my profile is because I previously didn't and was getting a number of really unpleasant messages from men who were a lot older than me. And whilst I know that's probably always going to happen, but it did help when I got a little more specific on my profile.At the end of the day, each to their own ^_^ Everyone should do what's most comfortable for them at the time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don’t usually look any more, when first joined sent out messages like there was no tomorrow so many wasn’t read, even more no reply probably the choice of words I used as a chat up line lol some would be funny and maybe I should post a few for a laugh not the person I sent them but what I said lol So being in here (forums) and reading obviously there are far more men than women on the site, so being 45 till yrs end and all the so called perfect figures of men on here then all their one liners far to much competition so gave the chase up on that front, in turn wait for some one to contact me, they can see my profile maybe read my words see my personality and if interested they can send a flirt or show interest and take it from there Ref age...same as you really depending on that depends on the level or what I would do plus or minus of my age. how ever the more the chemistry the more irrelevant age will become and the more I will let her take charge of what she wants as in fb fwb regular etc
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RHP User
14 years ago
Age is a good thing. Any age, because if we stop ageing we're probably dead. Personality is much more important than age.
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RHP User
14 years ago
When I was younger I preferred older woman but now Im 52 I prefer younger, or at least younger looking woman. (my cougar hunting days are over as walking frames just dont cut it for me) heheheIm told that I look young for my age. (I certainly dont act my age thats for sure haha)My ex was a was a young looking 36 and kept me on my toes :D If the spark is there I guess for me age is irrelevant...
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RHP User
14 years ago
My Age limits are just ballpark figures, i'm more interested in the persons approach and profile which is a theoretical concept at this point.I am rapidly coming to the same conclusion as heedlesshorseman and that is, that as a 52yo single man its a futile waste of time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
10 years older than my oldest son and 10 years younger than my mother....leaves me with a window of 10 years that i am comfortable with.Ive no desire to discuss the latest PlayStation game all night, nor discuss the finer details of arthritis management.The people within my age range have similar commitments ,goals,lifestyles,and outlooks.No debate here, just a preference and respect for other peoples choices.When I was youngIt seemed that life was so wonderfulA miracle, oh it was beautiful, magicalAnd all the birds in the treesWell they'd be singing so happilyJoyfully, playfully watching meBut then they send me awayTo teach me how to be sensibleLogical, responsible, practicalAnd then they showed me a worldWhere I could be so dependableClinical, intellectual, cynicalThere are times when all the world's asleepwriters: Davies, R; Hodgson, R
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have one that is 34 and one that is 61 and i am 48....happy little family here.Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Stays the same for me. The thought of liaising with a young guy is creepy. And I've got no plans to open a day care centre.... It's only ever the pup's who insist that age is only a number. It's wisdom, maturity, life experience...
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have boys of 18 and 19 messaging us, which is more than 15 years outside of what our profile states....our response to them is that their 'dad' would be more our age..............they tend to leave us alone after that...lol...
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RHP User
14 years ago
It depends on the man.Sometimes I feel more connected to a thirty -five year old ,than a fifty year old. It is what I have in common with someone,not their age. x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Is a line spun out but the 20-30 somethings cause all they want is some action..At 53, soon to be 54.....I know the ages that I like, generally around 6 years either side of my age..Men around my age though, tend to think the younger ones will be attracted to them....Guys 20 years younger than me think I must be desperate for some action and they would be doing me a favour!!.I put that down to ego and ignorance..If I just wanted sex the 6 years either side of my age stands firm.If I am looking for something more serious....the 6 years either side of my age also stands firm once again.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ive aged half a day waiting for my previous post to appear live,,,,,,Is this because Im new or is it because Im a freeloader,,, umm I mean guest }:D?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Can they fly a plane does he drive a train can she read a book does she like to cook Does she like to tan Can we have Green eggs and Ham
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RHP User
14 years ago
I got swept away by a lovely 20 something for a fling that lasted all of April. It was just lovely.I was not looking, It just happed. I met her honest too. It really made me rethink younger ladies.If I was up for a proper relationship would I have considered her? Before no. Now certainly.While it was happening, I kept hearing stories from friends about relitives with 20 year age gaps who were still very happy after years of loving each other. It's made me rethink quite a bit actually.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Is a line spun out but the 20-30 somethings cause all they want is some action..At 53, soon to be 54.....I know the ages that I like, generally around 6 years either side of my age..Men around my age though, tend to think the younger ones will be attracted to them....Guys 20 years younger than me think I must be desperate for some action and they would be doing me a favour!!.I put that down to ego and ignorance..If I just wanted sex the 6 years either side of my age stands firm.If I am looking for something more serious....the 6 years either side of my age also stands firm once again. well said....and there's an echo of some of the thoughts we share in your words..... we prefer those our own ages, to those the ages of our kiddies.....but the young'ns just don't get that at 50 odd, we are very well equipped to make both decisions and choices that suit our own wants and desires.... 35 is very young to us, 40 less so, but 45 plus? now thats more like it...........
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' ... It's only ever the pup's who insist that age is only a number. It's wisdom, maturity, life experience... I reject that.I have been with and known plenty of people around 40 and above that live by that philosophy.Life experience varies person to person because it is just that....a subjective experience for every individual.It depends on the life each has lead,a 20 something might have learned lessons through his/her experience that a 40+ might never learn at all.Of course that works in reverse and more so as a given.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' My Age limits are just ballpark figures, i'm more interested in the persons approach and profile which is a theoretical concept at this point.I am rapidly coming to the same conclusion as heedlesshorseman and that is, that as a 52yo single man its a futile waste of time. But only in the online hunting ground old chap (no dig intended) young bull says to the old bull, lets charge down this field, smash through the gate and shag one of those cows old bull looks to the young bull, nah nah we'll just mosey on down open the gate and fuck um all!! Time is needed for us older folk, as the good old saying..all comes to those that wait (think in my case a wooden box or a zimmer frame but hey not complaining will enjoy every moment waiting) so just ponder around here and there may look at a profile that has posted some thing that tickles me, apart from that enough women on here and takes a week to get through if more men than women about 2015 I should be getting hit on lol RHP can you stop allowing registries for any new single males, and no re-joins please (i'll give you CMs Cohiba!!!)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thankyou to everyone for their feedback. I did this post because age has always been a thing in relationships for me. My dad use to always say to me "Your an old soul Sarah. Old before your time." And in some ways I am. Even more so since I had my son. I think the Age Debate really comes into play at different stages of ur life. As ur wants and needs change in life, so does ur preferences. So while I might fancy a 40+ yrs old... im looking to settle down and have more kids. Is this 40+ yr old gonna be compatable for my needs/wants. Id love to say that age doesnt matter... and for the most part, it doesnt. You cant help who you fall for or who you're attracted to... But... I wont lie and say that him being 4 yrs younger than my mum doesnt bother me. Having said all that.... I like said 40+ yr old... so while I wait for my prince charming... maybe we can teach eachother a thing or two and have some fun. Same goes for any age. As far as fun goes... i dont really have an age limit. If the attraction is there... what the hell. I will say tho.... I have never been with someone my own age or younger. Not something I have done, or planned. Just worked out that way. Guess im just not attracted to people my age. I find alot of them to be.... the same. *shrugs* Maybe when im 60 ill be a cougar and go backwards lol -=Boo=-
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RHP User
14 years ago
I reckon you should try everything, We only get one go round on this ball of rock....as far as i know. You are an insightfull young lady.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes I said it, I am an AGIST (yep even said it in capital letters).I have age, and damn proud of it. What I found funny here was the immediate and absolute drop off of contact once I went past that magical 50 mark. Have I suddenly grown old overnight, do I get around in a wheelchair now with a tartan blanket wrapped around my legs, has my dick dropped off? Hell no, but suddenly I was persona non grata to the majority here.And yes, even after that rank, I don't really care. As some have stated, age is but a number (okay I have a large number), but I am proud to have survived this long lol Just to put the icing on the cake, yes I do take note of the age criteria when contacting someone, unless the contact is just a comment about a forum post etc. I do have my own age preferences, for me it would be silly to be chasing someone 20 years younger than me, so I don't!Mooka
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RHP User
14 years ago
For me age is a big factor.....I like men closer to my age.....however have made exceptions as all of us have, just depended on the person I am speaking with....But no way I am going under 35. Just cant my oldes son is 31.....it creeps me out. The next one on my hotlist is ONLY 39......I am a cradle snatcher ohh my God...how bad. And now to you two good looking men whats your names, wait have to look back.... ahh (50zcool and heedlesshorseman)...you are absolute gorgeuos.....hope thats the right word to use for a hot australian male, the women should overrun your messagebox. Cheers Litonya.
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RHP User
14 years ago
50+ is the new 37 .. So up to you really go with what feels good .. Bald head , bag of plastic and a Five star Hotel room just seels Insecurity Whereas meet you at lunch and grab a motel says .. you’re in for a wild ride no age limit .... just stiring the Pot
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Lifes_great
14 years ago
Thanks for the heads up Mooka......it's pleasing to know my dick won't drop off! Well not from turning 50 anyway. Do I have age preferences?.......not really.....it's all about the person for me......how we relate to each other.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I miss The Age terribly,Loved the Green Guide !Oh well,
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