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Thanks for the fun
June 15 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why are you wasting your time doing that for? You get to know people via the chat rooms and the forums. And by that I mean participating regularly.... Then you attend meet and greets, and other social parties and events. That is how you meet people ... Not by cold calling emails. Well, that is my 2 cents anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have always disliked those messages that say "how are you" And "how has your week been". I don't think I ever bothered to reply to those. Okay, on occasion I just replied with "good". Lol. It's just an inane way of starting up a conversation with a stranger online... Particularly when 10 other guys are doing the same. So you may have more luck if you change the way you approach woman. :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're obviously very eloquent (big yes for me), but that wouldn't shine through in your emails. Many women do always reply, but like Meeka said, a "how was your weekend" or "what did you get up to" doesn't inspire me and I really don't feel inclined to tell a stranger. And you like what you see? That's it? I get several of those a day, hardly tempting. All your results have one thing in common: You. It's not the site that's to blame, it's your approach I think. So change it and make your messages something women actually want to respond to. Not foolproof, but it will certainly improve your chances. Welcome to the forums, I hope you stay.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Messages that ask: "What have you been up to? Hah, not saying!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey babe, had much luck on here? Errr, that would be none of your business! OP, for me it's all about the initial message I receive. It has to get my attention. Welcome to the forums and good luck :-)
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madotara69
12 years ago
A little bit of insider advice, you have a face pic which will get you more results as read messages, but maybe try changing that pic,take off the sunnies and smile. When you write to a lady, just think for what may make her smile, it will be written within her preferences. Realistically you need to become part of her fantasy, find her fantasy then write to it. Surely no lady would resist the feeling to reply if she believes you are genuinely trying to find her smile, her eyes, her style. Girls just wanna have fun Yeah, girls just wanna have fun Mado Mado Tara xx
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
Absolfuckingutly, that defiantly is the best way to put yourself out there, to let people get to know you and to meet people and yes it is all to do with that initial message, to weather you are going to get a reply or not from most women.....💋
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' Hey babe, had much luck on here? Errr, that would be none of your business! OP, for me it's all about the initial message I receive. It has to get my attention. Welcome to the forums and good luck :-) Do they all get together and come up with the same sentence. Good idea to tell them LOL I'm about to reply in Openly1 thread I surprise surprise have an opinion.
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twintownjack
12 years ago
When the majority of users on this site are guests and don’t pay or are not prepared to pay to have the privilege of sending messages then it would be a polite thing to do by replying, even with a thanks, but no thanks. Many women have on their profile that they can’t send a message as they are only a guest, so please message me, so when someone spends there hard earned then surely the recipient should reply out of courtesy….? Sending a message to a stranger is a very difficult thing to do as you don’t know there mood or mindset, you only have one shot at the tittle as it were. The fact that you could be a top person is then over looked because you’re not a literary genius, weird how opinions are formed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That just because this is an adult site, people think everything will be easier....... If your meeting a girl at a pub/club you try to present yourself in the best light, buy her a drink, compliment her etc, etc and there is still no guarantee you will get anywhere..... You make an effort....... The same applies here! Read her profile, find something in common...... You only get out what you put in and of course there is going to be a ratio of rejection, that has to be expected.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Absolutely. But at the end of the day you shouldn't take it personally at all. People see 5% of you on here so they are not really rejecting you per se as they don't know you. Truth is there are probably thousands of really lovely decent HAWT guys on here but .... some women get lots of emails so it is too easy to get lost in the crowd. You have to either find away to stand out or you just send lots and lots of emails and you will get some positive responses at some point. It is a numbers game.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To take that further, imagine there is a girl at the bar and she is surrounded by 10 guys all trying to get her attention. Half are saying "hi how has your week been", some are saying "ur hot, wuld luv to cum on your big titties" and others are telling her their life story in one long sentence. And then you walk up OP and say "Hey, I like what I see, do you?" How do you think she is going to react? Will she even hear you? Probably not. And some blokes may take this to mean that women are up themselves or their expectations are too high on RHP and yes, you may be partly right, but it is one of those things. Supply and Demand. Nobody ever said getting a root is meant to be easy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
5 friends in your list..... all in your home state.... .... whats wrong with them?!!! DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'twintownjack' when someone spends there hard earned then surely the recipient should reply out of courtesy….? It's curtuous to respond to a pleasant message from a guy who's read my profile, but that has nothing to with how much he's forked out for a membership. Some people who pay feel a sense of entitlement and get offended when they don't get their "money's worth". That's their issue.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Then discovered you're actually quite lovely. Well done!! Like other men who came out last weekend to join us at a Meet n Greet. On topic OP I will respond to EVERY message I het out of courtesy BUT asking some how their day/week was or have they had any luck on RHP is just....awkward. My initial response is "How is that any of your business?" followed by the thought...did you even read my profile or have you just responded to a few pretty pictures? Do I like what I see? Visually yes but it's just a picture.....(shrugs) to engage make sure you've read about the person.....see if they do the forums,what kind of pic sets they've viewed/commented on and then decide if you should approach. When you do....use that snippet of info to your advantage. Personally I'm also over the messaging back and forth and prefer to meet ASAP and go from there. I'm also a bit aggrieved of late that guys DON'T generally approach a girl in real life when she's on her own, reading and drinking quietly at a restaurant/cafe/club/pub. Am beginning to wonder if I look that unapproachable 😳 because ultimately I'm just a woman open to meeting a man and seeing if "lightning strikes"..... (Sigh) seems so hard when EVERYONE has a list (me too, guilty) of wants and hopes for in another person. At the end of the day how many beautiful gorgeous intelligent compatible people are being passed over for something that possibly doesn't exist IRL. ~ Indy, musing over the complexities of meeting "the One".
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twintownjack
12 years ago
My post wasn't me complaining, i was just expressing a view, it takes 10 seconds to set up a template to use for replying to unwanted pursuers. And if i was in a bar being hassled and hounded by all, i'd have to shout stop and create some order so i could deal with everyone as to be polite and extend "common courtesy" I notice your a guest on this site..... and if your getting so many messages then nobody is reading your profile hey..
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twintownjack
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Then discovered you're actually quite lovely. Well done!! Like other men who came out last weekend to join us at a Meet n Greet. On topic OP I will respond to EVERY message I het out of courtesy Thanks for the compliment!!! Some people just don't get me......lol
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twintownjack
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'twintownjack' when someone spends there hard earned then surely the recipient should reply out of courtesy….? It's curtuous to respond to a pleasant message from a guy who's read my profile, but that has nothing to with how much he's forked out for a membership. Some people who pay feel a sense of entitlement and get offended when they don't get their "money's worth". That's their issue. expect a message now that i've read your post and profile......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' 5 friends in your list..... all in your home state.... .... whats wrong with them?!!! DG None of them are active anymore or don't reply? They just accepted a "friend request" idk, to seem more popular?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' That just because this is an adult site, people think everything will be easier....... If your meeting a girl at a pub/club you try to present yourself in the best light, buy her a drink, compliment her etc, etc and there is still no guarantee you will get anywhere..... You make an effort....... The same applies here! Read her profile, find something in common...... You only get out what you put in and of course there is going to be a ratio of rejection, that has to be expected. I've tried going through profiles to find common ground or somewhere to start, but if they have a profile with 3 generic lines such as :Some say I'm attractive but judge for yourself :I'm looking for new friends :I am looking for some fun :) How can you start off with that? Trying to make something out of nothing by writing, hey, I'm looking for new friends too doesn't do anything, commenting on looks seems to get nowhere, occasionally it feels like they're just not even a real person...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'twintownjack' when someone spends there hard earned then surely the recipient should reply out of courtesy….? It's curtuous to respond to a pleasant message from a guy who's read my profile, but that has nothing to with how much he's forked out for a membership. Some people who pay feel a sense of entitlement and get offended when they don't get their "money's worth". That's their issue. A simple no thanks is better than a read message or not read at all, just because I paid doesn't mean I expect the ladies to come flocking to me with panties around ankles.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' A little bit of insider advice, you have a face pic which will get you more results as read messages, but maybe try changing that pic,take off the sunnies and smile. When you write to a lady, just think for what may make her smile, it will be written within her preferences. Realistically you need to become part of her fantasy, find her fantasy then write to it. Surely no lady would resist the feeling to reply if she believes you are genuinely trying to find her smile, her eyes, her style. Girls just wanna have fun Yeah, girls just wanna have fun Mado Mado Tara xx The pic with the sunnies was only a recent change from a picture showing my eyes etc, I thought why not try something different as the others don't seem to gain any interest
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'colsluxy'None of them are active anymore or don't reply? They just accepted a "friend request" idk, to seem more popular? They could very well be single guys who thought having friends would make them more convincing as girls.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a look and I'll take that back. They seem real enough.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'colsluxy'A simple no thanks is better than a read message or not read at all, just because I paid doesn't mean I expect the ladies to come flocking to me with panties around ankles. me too, it just seems like a tripping hazard
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RHP User
12 years ago
We as a couple receive the same types of rejections, non replies.. Try not to let it worry you and just let it go.. It's possibly a sign that it just wasn't meant to be.. Good things do come around.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great new pic, but I'm confused as you look like different people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Quoting 'colsluxy'doesn't mean I expect the ladies to come flocking to me with panties around ankles. me too, it just seems like a tripping hazard Ah c'mon, you love girls falling at your feet!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Great new pic, but I'm confused as you look like different people. I get that a lot, funny how a bit of scruff and a hair cut can change the appearance of a person
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