Tell them? Yes or No..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  But Ms SweetiePie...some men (I only say men as I am straight) you could bash over the head a few times with a cricket bat that any Aussie would be proud to call a HUGEEEEEEEEEEEE six ... and they still don't get it!! I am with you on gently leading them to where it is enjoyable and to purrrr when they are applying the right amount of pressure, but, gawd it's so bad when they only do it for a few seconds and then revert back to the pounding and missing the good spots...but you only only do this so many times in one session! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'xFunlovingx' But Ms SweetiePie...some men (I only say men as I am straight) you could bash over the head a few times with a cricket bat that any Aussie would be proud to call a HUGEEEEEEEEEEEE six ... and they still don't get it!! I am with you on gently leading them to where it is enjoyable and to purrrr when they are applying the right amount of pressure, but, gawd it's so bad when they only do it for a few seconds and then revert back to the pounding and missing the good spots...but you only only do this so many times in one session! xFunlovingx when you're giving some guy a blowjob or bouncinmg around on him like he's a carnival ride.... how would you like to be told "you're doing it wrong, do it like this"? (that isn't a rhetorical question)There is your answer.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hmmm , ok as a guy who has on his profile ... like to make women squirt lol... simply put , i can only agree with sweetiepie2010, gentle direction is sometimes all that's needed . p.s purrrring helps !my two bob jonesy76

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I would prefer to be told if its not working for him. I had a lover who would tell me to slow down, speed up, wait and it didn't bother me at all . . . well only once when I was so damned horny I wasn;t going to wait, . . . . and I have also had a lover who taught me how to best please him with a hand job, another who taught me about his particular likes. . , and the list goes on. I am not as good at giving instruction in the bedroom as I am at taking it and what has worked for me in the past is to write the lover a little story telling him what I want him to do and how I like it. In my last long term relationship, my lover and I used to draw cartoons of what we wanted sexually. It was a great way of telling each other we wanted to do something a little kinky. So to answer your question funloving I have squirmed my way out of the uncomfrtable activity and tried to instigate a new one, I have said OUCH really loudly, I have told him "that hurts" and sometimes I have tolerated it. I think it dpends on how comfortable I am with the other person though I am much more confident now to say its not working than I used to be. Cheers WTG

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If you want to know how you are doing feel how your partner is reactiing. Breathing, sweating, tension, moans and groans all play a part. They should be doing the same and take their cues from you as well. Or you can tell them, before you even take your clothes off, what gets you hot and especially what turns you off. If they are any good they will take notice. If not, shout NEXT!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  interesting reading people ,,,,,,,,,,,,,I now Know Funloveing is into cricket ,or hitting blokes with the bat as a last resort to giving ummmm Oral directions lol and that Sweetieipie is watching Porn movies,lol , sydneyboy may have been ridden rough and blown badly..... and that if you ever fake it you deserve to get bad sex all the time ......LMAO here people we all like to be told what we are doing is the best but hey if something dosent feel right at the moment then ask for a change of direction or pace or well whatever is needed /// Andy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Women may all be more or less similar physically, but in my experience they can prefer a variety of approaches. I don't have any issue with being instructed - if it's better for her, it's better for me too... in the long run.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'm not a mind reader, and casual encounters by their very nature demand open communication. Personally I love being directed in an encounter, although this rarely happens, and I have no problems directing my partner to do the things that will get me off. It's not a case of saying "stop, you're doing it wrong" but more along the lines of "oh yeah, just a little to the left, stay there... don't stop that, perfect!". I also find clamping thighs around head to be a remarkable training tool ;)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have learned through life that what one partner likes, another partner has thoroughly disliked. On a site like this, where we meet up with such a range of people, communication is so important. If there is something that really pushes your buttons, tell me! Your reactions provide the answer. An arched back, groans and an increase in the temperature tells me what I am doing is good! If you fake it, well you are likely to get an experience that doesn't cater for your needs...guys aren't mindreaders and I certainly love a little instruction. Just give your instructions in a positive, encouraging way :) Geez, I do exactly the same if I need someone to change their approach with me. Hugs, Fun x

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