Taking one for the team

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Not what the pictures show or no real dramas unles it is NO good And I am Gone ..... Shallow Hhhmmm Perhaps Next

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  There has got to be chemistry....Some people are not what you would term attractive but they have magnatisim... Just like some people are absolute lookers but no heat. Be polite whatever you decide. I would blame it on the lack of chemistry rather than looks. And I spose if there was a small amount of attraction, then why not? Except if you are luke warm, your lovin is gonna be luke warm too, she will think she got a dud too! lol Mrs H xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  The scenario is the very reason why we have no interest at all in a 'meet to fuck' situation and instead prefer to meet people in a social/public setting firstly. That way if there is mutual 4-way (or really 2-way) attraction than we can indicate or simply say so and either defer to a later date or head to a place to enjoy the company. But if there is no mutual attraction then we simply have a thanks for meeting type of situation and go our separate ways with the discussion either occurring then or at a later point via email/site etc.Should we be in a 1-way attraction then we would skip out of respect for the other partner as we have predefined signals (a bit like safe-words in the BDSM scene) that indicate to the other our feelings, mind you we generally don't need them as we read the other very well or as luck would have it, meet people we want to know betterFor us this avoids the disappointment of the pure BS that one encounters and allows a 'get out' situation as we are meeting with no promise or prior commitment to play.But in a worst case scenario, if Sheba was seriously attracted and I was not, I genuinely have NFI what I would do and she is the same.Shebagaz

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  just do it god damn you men ask us to do shit all the time that we dont want to do us being women we do it just to make you happy so come on sunshine...just root the ugly bitch roxxy....hehehe

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  And doubt if I would ever play as part of a couple but I dont think you should have to compromise your standards for someone else. If it was a one on one situation you obviously would not want to have sex with the woman so why do it just for the sake of keeping your friend happy? If the situation was reversed, would you expect her to take one for the team? If the guy was not attractive to her but the woman was a hotty would you insist?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have been in many group situations and the most important thing in such situations is respect for the others wants and the most important is respecting the word NO. I have left situations because my friend has changed her mind. I have deiced to stay but when another party was to pushy, I left with my friend. No one should be forced to do something they dont want and expecting your partner to do something he/she does not want to do does not show respect.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well for me there has to be an attraction. If there isn't then i'll walk.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yep, sorry to say, I do "take it for the team" as we have been in the circumstance where I want the girl, my man does too....but eww, ter man is so not what I would ever do as a single girl. But I do it for my husband and that I love the girl action.... I wish we could find a total package couple, but hardly ever do......

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  If either of us took one for the team the other would feel so bad that it would cause more problems than saying no and pulling out. We have been known to pull out even once things have gotten started because one or the other of us was not comfortable. As long as it is done politely it is all good. If people don't respect your choice then it just confirms that you were right about being uncomfortable in the first place. Markusss is right. Expecting your partner to do something they don't want to just for your own personal gain shows a lack of respect for them. Agreeing to do something just to please your partner shows a lack of respect for yourself.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  unless she can't have fun with you, you should just sit back and take it easy. though i don't know how these things work just sitting back might be awkward too..

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