RHP User

RHP User

M51 F48

Swinging in Small Country Towns

May 05 2022

The wife and I are still relatively new to the lifestyle, so I was just wondering if there were any hints and tips for the 'opportunity restricted' couples to take onboard. Issues are:
1. Discretion is obviously pretty important to us in a place where everybody knows everyone, so public
photos are restricted, which I know doesn't appear
as if the couple are that serious.
2. No shows are unfortunately part and parcel of the game, but as we travel away to play, we don't have the luxury of meeting someone before we have booked a room, and even if a prospect does sound keen over chat, we've been ghosted and had people change their minds once we hit the city.
3. Time is a challenge for almost everybody, we understand and accept that, it's just an extra challenge when we say we may not be in town for a couple of months, as not everybody who contacts us wants to wait that long to meet in person.

I'm not sure if there are ways to overcome these issues, but if you're in a similar situation, we'd love to hear you go about it.

Comments

  • OneLickOne

    OneLickOne

    3 years ago

    Had to google maps to find Hughenden, yep you are a long way from meeting people, you guys may just have to plan regular weekends to Townsville to meet people with a 2 night option to meet couples rather than a couple, with first meets try going with gut "if we click we play" I sure that may work a little better for you.

  • Ex007

    Ex007

    3 years ago

    A wise person once said “don’t shit in your own nest”. I lived in small towns for many years and not once even hinted regarding my lifestyle choices. It’s your business and should stay your business.

    Put up date when you will be traveling in your profile and on find a date. List the places you’ll be traveling through.

    Message, chat over the phone and establish a good connection.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Hi i know Hughenden well wifes got family in Julia Creek we cut thru on the way to Cobar. The biggest problem with this and many sites everyone is keen when its convenient. The only insight i could give is don't put to much faith into messages as most don't relay to the truth, establish a contactable phone number [ a lot use prepaid phones for these websites which in most cases are switched off ] avoid sending any nude pics and if you can most phones have some sort of facetime on them use it if you can. The genuine ones will be happy to chat and meet if they start to be vague or not forthcoming about things move on. As was mentioned earlier contact a few couples so you are not restricted to just the one.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Thanks guys for your comments. the biggest take away there is actually talking over a phone prior to a meetup.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    3 years ago

    Cobar guy here small towns suck never much fun here

  • Kt_Kcouple

    Kt_Kcouple

    3 years ago

    Do FaceTime four way chat-usually enough to actually establish whether there’s chemistry so you can make date to play rather than meet first play later. Also travel and go to a club or party-at very least you can play with each other in sexy environment 😊

  • 2funtimes

    2funtimes

    3 years ago

    First up be careful. Have a profile in a neighbouring town. Small town small minds. Taxi driver talk.... Had this from experience. Travel to a bigger place .... good luck.

  • MFMHotWife

    MFMHotWife

    3 years ago

    We live in a bit of a regional area too, but dont much worry about discretion, we're happy for friends to know what we get up to. Finding extra blokes to help pleasure my wife can be tough. Just last thursday i had 100% confirmation from 5 blokes to turn up for a GB, only one showed! A local who might become a regular, we had a fun night. Blokes that have to travel a bit are notoriously unreliable! Unfortunate but thats just the way it seems to be. Cities are productive but we cannot often travel away for weekends...

  • WildWest1971

    WildWest1971

    3 years ago

    We are in a small mining town and we find it difficult it find anyone who is reliable that is local. It probably a bit harder where you are. So we mostly plan our play time around trips when we are going somewhere. And it’s still the same you get no shows or they change there mind last minute. Or something has happened where there plans have needed to change. We pretty much given up on local play. We had a trip away only a couple of weeks ago meet one couple. No play then we ended up sick and had to cancel the rest of the plans we had. So now we will just have to wait to next time. We do get the odd ones travelling threw that will message. All you can do is keep trying.

  • Black_Panther69

    Black_Panther69

    3 years ago

    privacy and discretion of playing in ones backyard is a real concern.