Swingers club etiquette

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I don't think you can ever " Lay dibs" on anyone - ever!.......... At a swingers club, just like in pubs and clubs, with men or women you are flirting or interested in, they are either into you ....or not............. Swingers clubs can be friendly sexy environments , chatting dancing and conversation flows freely amongst nearly everyone .................. However this does not always lead to play............. If a couple you are chatting to " strays" from you.....they are likely not that into you........... Next time if you are keen to take things further, let the people know and give them an out if needed..........Something like " we would love to play with you guys we find you both very attractive, if you'd like to join us , maybe meet us at the bar in a minute or two, we can have a quiet drink in a room together " .........that way feelings are not hurt with a direct no thank you..........I know I dance , flirt and talk to anyone and everyone at swingers clubs, I find them very sexually liberating places to visit . However I am just as fussy there as in real life to who I play with. I will make myself elusive if I find someone hitting on me to play that I don't find attractive . If I like you ...,,you'll know about it .......you do need to be slightly more outspoken in these clubs than you usually are .....so speak up but don't be aggressive .....have fun and try to keep your expectations low :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  The victims of poaching, seriously? Let's be honest here, you were all complete strangers looking for a good time. It almost sounds like you feel betrayed by the couple hanging out with you, then choosing to have sex with someone else. I believe clubs are not free-for-alls, but that doesn't mean you can claim anynone in an "I saw you first" kind of way either. Just my opinion of course. As for club etiquette, I have three rules:- Always ask before touching- No means no- Safe sex always.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  With Meander, those rules and standard scene one's anyway. Not a free for all, it's a meeting place for likeminded people. Be upfront if your interested but don't feel jilted if you don't 'pick-up' Don't give up though, keep trying. But be respectful of other peoples decisions and choices. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  You ask them if they would like to join you in the play area. This isn't school you know, just because you spoke to someone first doesn't make them yours. People are free to be with whoever takes their fancy. So maybe you, maybe the other couple, then maybe back to you.... then run over and chat to someone new. It is meant to be an enjoyable free environment so there is no room for pettiness or jealousy I am afraid so you need to get that sort of thinking straight out of your head. Snooze you loose.

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  225Special

  11 years ago

  Thanks for your replies ladies, we are new to the club scene and were just a bit thrown off. Probably need to get out more....lol.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  What club were you at, we were at a Brizzy club on Saturday and would love to have met you

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Its actually quite cute that you feel like you guys missed out on a chance to be with them. Don't worry about it, have a laugh and move onto the next party. With every party you goto you will gain more confidence and learn to be quicker and more upfront with what your intentions are lol yes it can be awkward pretty much saying "want to go fuck" hehe but they are all there for the same reason. They either will say yes or no so nothing to lose.Don't stress about it and enjoy the rest of your swinging life :)

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  JohnAnn2227

  11 years ago

  No you were not poached. You went for a walk and a look around and the other couples may have taken that as a sign you were not really clicking with either of them and were now looking for others. If they went to a group room or the hot tub you could have joined them there. We have been in a situation at a swingers club where we were chatting with 4 other couples when one of the guys announced that they were ready for the hot tub and did any of us want to join them. We all accepted the invitation and we all played from there. Seriously, we believe in the more the merrier!Good luck next time!

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  LifeUnscripted

  11 years ago

  You are new, we have all been new in new situations. :) As others have said no one owes anyone a fuck....in fact many are quite picky, and that is ok. Clubs though are friendly places and swingers are friendly people. Just remember that fun conversation and flirtation doesn't mean anything on its own. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Fuck em as quick as possible hehe ;-) xo - Posted from rhpmobile

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