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Swingers Party Q's

October 03 2011

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Hi all,A couple of question regarding swingers parties...Presumably safe sex is the norm except among a rare few daredevils or people who know and trust each other. But does this typically extend to oral sex as well? Or is it more common for oral to be natural? I'm guessing that cunnilingus is nearly always natural, but for fellatio some may opt to suck on a rubber for health concerns?When a guy cums, is there a common trend on where he goes about it? Is it typically inside his partner (in a rubber), or is there a porn-styled trend of shooting his load on her body?I know both of the above will vary based on the personal preferences of the participants, but is there a trend amongst party goers? Is one option more common than the other? Or is it typically a fairly even spread?Finally, are there any regular parties in Melbourne where it is NOT the done thing to strip down to erotic attire on arrival? For me and my lady, we very much enjoy a bit of tease and a slow reveal. We would much rather wear some sexy/elegant clothing (eg. a sexy little dress for her, perhaps a quality suit for me) and after meeting and chatting with some enticing people we all slowly start to strip down to lingerie as part of the flirting and foreplay. Undressing each other is fun. Rocking up to a party and immediately stripping down to lingerie (or less) is fine in its own way, but it's kind of like skipping a course at dinner.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    As we are heading to our first party very soon, the above questions are certainly things we would like to know too.   In saying that though, I think you have to set some ground rules as a couple before you get to any event whether it be an intimate party of four or fifty. Possibly make an agreement that if either of your are not feeling OK about what is going down (pardon the pun), leave. No recriminations, no begging to stay and no pouting.   Personally I am so turned on by the what could happen I am constantly in a state of arousal and cant wait for our party.   Kisses   T

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    As we are heading to our first party very soon, the above questions are certainly things we would like to know too.   In saying that though, I think you have to set some ground rules as a couple before you get to any event whether it be an intimate party of four or fifty. Possibly make an agreement that if either of your are not feeling OK about what is going down (pardon the pun), leave. No recriminations, no begging to stay and no pouting.   Personally I am so turned on by the what could happen I am constantly in a state of arousal and cant wait for our party.   Kisses   T

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    from the partys we have been to...brisbane/gold coast   No stripping at door.. No condoms/dams for sucking/licking... Always condoms for penatration...(unless its your partner) Guys usually cum in wife or playfriend(with condom on)...or ASK..and cum on face/boobs/mouth of girl.   again, just the parties we have attended/hosted.. so ask the organiser...whats teh deal? have fun :>

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    from the partys we have been to...brisbane/gold coast   No stripping at door.. No condoms/dams for sucking/licking... Always condoms for penatration...(unless its your partner) Guys usually cum in wife or playfriend(with condom on)...or ASK..and cum on face/boobs/mouth of girl.   again, just the parties we have attended/hosted.. so ask the organiser...whats teh deal? have fun :>

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  • rupamohan

    rupamohan

    14 years ago

    Hope not!! real sex is ultimate of personal expression nd I am not sure I will like to follow a trend. I guess it will be based on what is practical. Most cpl likely to have safe penetration nd dump it in rubber. Porn style lots of cum..may need long sex breaks or drugs...just do what everybody is happy with. I don't think there will be any trends..   >>but it's kind of like skipping a course at dinner. A full course of own choice is best served when you met some one 1 to 1...party is a mass play field

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Have to agree totally about stripping down at a certain time, where are the choices gone...the lifestyle is about choices and being told to strip down at a certain time, is not a choice is it.We dont do that here in QLD, the choices are yours...and we will never tell you to do something at all. The lifestyle choice is yours.As for all the other stuff, it is personal preference i am sure, but safe sex is a MUST at all times.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have attended quite a few swingers parties ... Ask me whatever you want ... I am female aged 49

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    We would suggest monitor the situation .....condoms always for sex at parties. Girls! some advise: Don't give a guy oral until the guy has given you oral, you will get used!   Open and Closed door policy: If the party is a mix of both, we would insist on closed doors. To explain: If you 3-6 of you are playing naked in a bedroom and others are standing around naked watching thats what parties are about. But then if the other room has the door shut and people clothed in your open room, unless you get off with everyone watching we would suggest ....only go the closed door option or leave. Like why are you going allow others to watch, that in turn will not allow you to watch?   The lounge room is where its acceptable clothed and unclothed in our opinion, and acceptable behaviour is "don't be naked where the public/ non party goers can see you."

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    bestbud5 - would you care to give a run down (PM or public post - whichever you prefer) of how a typical swingers party (if there is such a thing) generally works? What commonly happens on arrival; what sort of things do people wear; are there "ice breaker" games and activities; are people quite forward in their propositioning of others; is it common to see people engaging in sex in the main public areas, or is this predominantly kept to play rooms; etc.Most swingers parties that I've seen advertised in Melbourne require people to dress down to "erotic attire" on arrival. This to me hints of a very carnal and direct environment. From that I can only imagine that much of the language and behaviour is quite direct as well - perhaps a bit confronting for those who are shy and nervous. My girlfriend and I are very much into the sensual and erotic. We find most porn - even porn "for women" - to be quite crass and often vulgar (that's not to say we don't occasionally enjoy exactly that). "Oh look, here's 2 (or 3 or 10) people. Watch them fuck! See how many cocks she can take at once before getting half drowned by a face full of cum". Whilst we don't expect sex at a swingers party to be anything like that of a porno, we are apprehensive that it will still contain that element of directness that may be confronting for us.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Toywithme, visit our website it explains about our parties but remember not all parties are the same.Couples International

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