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Swinger jewelry

February 27 2014

I have read that wearing a black ring on the right hand is a signal that you are a swinger. Is this the case in Australia? Has anyone heard of this? I think it would be great to wear some discrete jewelry to give the signal you are in the lifestyle when you are out. Has anyone else heard of this--has anyone tried it?? Any thoughts would be great!

Comments

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    12 years ago

    However, there is a web site called black ring right hand dot com. Also, there seems to be a group who claim that a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand is a signal that one is asexual. Rings on a man's finger... I always get them caught on things. this is why I never wear my wedding band. I do not wish to be caught. HugsGazpacho

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I've been a swinger since I was eighteen and never knew!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'gazpacho51' Also, there seems to be a group who claim that a black ring on the middle finger of the right hand is a signal that one is asexual. I'm an asexual swinger.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Q: How does the black ring work? A: Wear your black ring on your right hand if you are out and open to meet other swingers. If someone wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you, start a conversation with them. Here’s one idea of how to start: “I see you’re wearing a black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in the same club.” Q: Does it matter what finger I wear my black ring? A: Wear your black ring on any finger but the middle one. The ring finger is the natural place for the black ring, but thumb rings are cool too. Q: Why can’t I wear it on my middle finger? A black ring worn on the middle finger of the right hand is used by some groups as symbol of asexuality. Please avoid wearing your ring on this finger as a courtesy to that community. (See below.) Q: Doesn’t wearing a black ring mean you’re asexual? A: Only if it’s on your middle finger. Some people who identify as asexual wear black rings on their middle fingers as a symbol of asexual pride. It is unlikely that asexual people will be at the same social events as swingers, but we want to avoid any confusion and be respectful of those who identify as asexual. Q: Do I have to wear my black ring all the time? A: No. Only when you want other swingers to recognize you. Q: What if someone without a black ring approaches me and asks me what the ring means? A: Tell them anything you would like. “Oh nothing. Nice, isn’t it?” Q: Does wearing the black ring mean we’re full swap swap/soft swap/bi-male/bi-female, etc.? A: No. It just means you are a swinger. It’s a way to start a conversation. If you’re not compatible, at least you met a kindred spirit. Q: Does wearing the black ring mean you are polyamorous? A: Not necessarily. It means you are a swinger. You may also happen to be polyamorous, but the black ring is not meant to be a symbol for polyamory. Q: I don’t want anyone to know I’m a swinger. What do I do? A: Simple. Don’t wear the ring. Q: Is there a particular ring I should get? A: No. As long as it’s black, it counts. Q: I am afraid I might be harassed for wearing the black ring. Isn’t it dangerous to expose yourself by wearing such a public sign of being a swinger? A: The number of swingers in the population is very low — less than 4% of the population identify themselves as swingers. The odds that the number of people wearing the black ring ever being so high as to reach to popular consciousnesses is correspondingly low. Again, you should only wear the black ring if, when and where you want to be identified as a swinger. Do not wear it in situations where you think you may be threatened.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Thanks for the input. Would love to get this happening in oz. I'm wearing one at the moment to see if I can drum up the interest. It would be good if we could let all swingers we have contact with know. If it takes off then it would be "interesting" when we go out. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Wow!! I had no idea. Now everywhere I go I will be on the look out for ladies wearing a black ring on their right hand!! Could be interesting....

  • Innercircle

    Innercircle

    12 years ago

    Black ring on the right hand.... chameleon brooch... anklet bracelets.... Im sure there are many more. Never seen one out and about, but pretty easy to spot the couples that live the lifestyle. Why the need to wear symbols?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have that brooch! Mr Rocker, how do you spot the couples that live the lifestyle in public? I'm pretty clueless I'm sure. I'll be wearing my black ring tonight just to see what happens...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    We'll definitely be looking for black rings at Prouds... Maybe the nice girl behind the counter knows the reason and will join us.. 😛