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Sub/Dom Rules in Real life
March 09 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Keeping the Dom sub relationship into the real world can be great foreplay but also needs to have its place and time. Breaking the tension is important and sometimes the sub is not interested in playing. Having a few code words or code phrases can make things interesting - especially if they have a meaning beyond the understanding of everyone present. Othertimes whispering what you want them to do or what you are going to do to them can change the most mundane outing into a fruity sexually charged event. A sub can wear a particular colour or item of clothing to indicate the game is afoot. Especially if the item - say a necklace is shown in the middle of a formal family dinner or crowded restaurant. It could even be changing a ring from one finger to another. Getting a hard on in anticipation of antics to come in the wrong place and time can make life very interesting. Texting instructions even in the same room can add to excitement. Instructed to flirt with others - remove clothing - touch self or others - you can work it from here.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Woman is the Domme. She is in charge. l 2nd rule.... any argueing.........refer to rule one. l 3rd rule.....still got a problem? Refer to rule one again.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't take any notice of fionabee... she just doesn't understand a happily married bdsm relationship at all. :pYou can challenge your wife to do things during her working day and report back.... start simple... like wearing no nickers..... or something confrontational... just outside her comfort zone... for example, it might be to go and buy herself a vibrator...... or a butt plug.... or something more..... out there..... like being strip searched at airport security..... I mean, there are no limits once this behaviour starts... you might not know where to stop.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
introduce a 'No Knickers Wednesday' or 'Confession Thursday' or any regular event to keep the role active. Play with the ideas, mix it up and do anything that pleases you both. You're going to have fun, I just know it. Great stuff.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The sub/dom relationship is wonderful when it works outside the bedroom but can be difficult to maintain constantly.When out shopping/dining/partying give her a code word or phrase that means she must go to the toilet and take video or pics on her phone of her pleasuring herself and send them straight to you. You could also check out the wonderful range of chastity devices available online and make her wear one during the day. Or you could send a text that leads to a set of written clues that leads to a corset/lingerie/maids outfit/hand and ankle cuffs with instructions to put them on and when she hears your key in the lock she is to get on her knees and wait for you.Hope you have fun with whatever you do.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Capital' we knew a couple who practised the dom/sub most every day all the time, much to my annoyance at times cause I wanted to have her sit with me and chat, have a coffee, gossip like girls do, she would not be more than a few steps behind him no matter where he went and what he was doing, the most lovely couple and of course he would do just about anything for her. The thing that really made me bite my lip was the tattoo like an imigration passport, 'property of /......./ on her arm I think it was. Nearly objecting to all their mannerisms, after knowing them for a time and understanding, they are so happy and in love, the total respect and devotion to each other. Your friend is probably very proud of her tattoo as are most submissives who are into the lifestyle. While I realise that this kind of relationship is obviously hard for you to accept it really isn't for you to judge how they live their lives. If you object to their mannerisms I would suggest you avoid socialising with them. If they are a devoted couple and are not imposing themselves or their lifestyle on anyone else I can't see where your problem is with these people.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I often leave this to the incredably knowledgeable Mistress T who as always has spoken here wisdom. ALso Tony give a good heads up I note ! BUT not today - I feel like writing ! Slowhands noted. First of all can I say or agree with a many of the others above its hard I am going to go a little further and say almost impossible to maintain 24 / 7. Over time with the most care and commitment to the idea and your sub ,often it just become too difficult......of course in MHO. Have you thought of particular nights and or times YUP agree code words work ....but again when she's shopping with the kids and her mum faaaark its hard ! It is also nice to have times when you can just be well both of you ! Organising your BDSM times and your PLAY in a particular spot or bedroom of the house can mean you have permision for your subbie to just let her hair down in her own bedroom for example but in the spare room when she is alone in thier ...............she is yours mmmmmmmyum yum yum ! I love giving miss sarah a clean dildo and / or a vibe in a fine dining restaurant and telling her to send me pics from her phone ..... everyday life just got a little kinky ...... Some days if I am at work I will text her and tell her EXACTLY what to wear ........ yup exactly from shoes up ....... or in fact not to wear. Happy to chat some other time if you like, just contact us .......or I will bore the fark out of these people ! There are also some great and NOT so great books. What I want to say is its hard and you need a good plan to help you make this rock ..... Enjoy Brae ...... with a big B!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes Gaz agree as well ! hey but do you know whether a metal butt plug ....inserted will set the detectors off ? at the airport .............. yes I am serious ........... anyone ?????? I mean metal ! Brae ...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
If a small metal plate holding a couple of vertebrae together sets off the machine I am sure a metal butt plug will also.I know a guy that had to ask permission from his Mistress to remove his collar so he could go through the detectors at the airport and then had to kneel down in the middle of Hobart airport so she could put it back on him. They got a round of applause and the comment from one woman " I wish I had one of those"!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'looking2try3' Yes Gaz agree as well ! hey but do you know whether a metal butt plug ....inserted will set the detectors off ? at the airport .............. yes I am serious ........... anyone ?????? I mean metal ! Brae ........... lmfao Brae..... surely S. could tell us~ I mean wasn't it her idea?HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
my first ecounterbegan with discussions that led me into a corner where i had to say words that i struggled to use in my vocabulary.....with an accumulation of disciplinary actions for non complianceConversation was always an erotic challenge ..for both of us, as he schemed to lead me down his chosen path and i trying to divert and find other ways to wander elsewhere lolThen I was instructed to buy things....a riding crop......LOl no idea the cover story i concocted because I felt SO obvious in what i was doing ...at Horse land LOlThen the standards of dress...skirts and no knickers...whenever in his presenceour first meeting i was instructed what to wear and to meet him in the city waiting for him on a park bench ...........terrified and unsure, but so ...wontonHe met me..all casual as can be..lead me by the hand to a wine tasting evening ...and introduced me to his friends..... 3...... his wife and another couple...casual normal evening with secret touches, bodys pressed against each other in the crowd...words whispered. Then normality.We all dined together...like good friends....I had no idea if any of the others knew who i was or what our connection was.When i went to the bathroom....one of the other females greeted me and explained that she had been sent to check that I had observed his requests of no knickers.....and she wouldnt just take my word for it....she had her instructions and had .... to feel ...then we returned to the table.It continued to be an incredibly erotic evening and just right for my intoduction.................Now however.....................I just want MORE !!!!! The difficulty is finding one who combines the mental and the physical in a way that sends tingles all over !!!!! Yummy Yummy Yummy you lucky girl MRS Jay 24/7.......phew !! Id be too lazy and.......... independent !!Submission (for me) is a release .....but you would have to be very talented and.....persuasive...and patient......or Id have a very sore red bum !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'missbowpeek'my first ecounter began with discussions that led me into a corner where i had to say words that i struggled to use in my vocabulary.....with an accumulation of disciplinary actions for non compliance Conversation was always an erotic challenge ..for both of us, as he schemed to lead me down his chosen path and i trying to divert and find other ways to wander elsewhere lol Then I was instructed to buy things....a riding crop......LOl no idea the cover story i concocted because I felt SO obvious in what i was doing ...at Horse land LOl Then the standards of dress...skirts and no knickers...whenever in his presence our first meeting i was instructed what to wear and to meet him in the city waiting for him on a park bench ...........terrified and unsure, but so ...wonton He met me..all casual as can be..lead me by the hand to a wine tasting evening ...and introduced me to his friends..... 3...... his wife and another couple... casual normal evening with secret touches, bodys pressed against each other in the crowd...words whispered. Then normality. We all dined together...like good friends....I had no idea if any of the others knew who i was or what our connection was. When i went to the bathroom....one of the other females greeted me and explained that she had been sent to check that I had observed his requests of no knickers.....and she wouldnt just take my word for it....she had her instructions and had .... to feel ...then we returned to the table. It continued to be an incredibly erotic evening and just right for my intoduction................. Now however.....................I just want MORE !!!!! The difficulty is finding one who combines the mental and the physical in a way that sends tingles all over !!!!! Yummy Yummy Yummy you lucky girl MRS Jay 24/7.......phew !! Id be too lazy and.......... independent !! Submission (for me) is a release .....but you would have to be very talented and.....persuasive...and patient......or Id have a very sore red bum !! Bowpeek this is a wonderful story ............... applause ! Brae
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'looking2try3' Yes Gaz agree as well ! hey but do you know whether a metal butt plug ....inserted will set the detectors off ? at the airport .............. yes I am serious ........... anyone ?????? I mean metal ! Brae ........... lmfao Brae..... surely S. could tell us~ I mean wasn't it her idea?HugsStalky You know I had completely forgotten about that, it was S who asked about this ! Last year on our trip to Europe as part of our play I instructed miss sarah to carry it with her at all times including in her hand luggage. I think the best part was the excitement, the anticipation each time we went through a security checkpoint watching the gaurds pick it up on the scan watching them go back and forward through the scan. Wondering would they ask about it ? watching sarah cringe .....squirm ......... but then her relief and her naughty naughty smile and her commment to me ..."are you happy Sir" ? Brae ................
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a very special butt plug that i just recently aquired with a lovely ruby in the end and yes, i'm sorry to say it erm....does set of metal detectors in airports. I (in full blush, but full smirk also) had the great joy of opening my little velvet, draw string bag to show the security officer what was setting the sensors off. Fortunatly in my pocket NOT attached to me in any way, shape or form.
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RHP User
15 years ago
From your writing I got the impression that the lifestyle of this couple was in some way incomprehensible to you. You said you had to "bite my lip at her tattoo" which sounds rather like you had some objection to the adornment in question. And "much to your annoyance at times" she felt compelled to follow her partner rather than sit and chat. Another phrase you used was "nearly objecting to all their mannerisms". It was your use of these negative phrases that lead me to believe that despite your objections to their lifestyle you still admired them for their devotion to one another. I am one who, like your friends, lives and breathes this kind of lifestyle and I have experienced prejudice and misconception because of what I do. For this reason I will come to the defense of others with the courage to expose themselves to the same negative reactions I have experienced, just as I would if anyone made derogatory comments about your lifestyle.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Both my wife and I are wanting to explore this area.We want to chat to some couples and discuss how they work this style into their relationship and lives. We have discussed this for awhile and now want to expand further.If anybody can give us some tips o rplaces to meet orgo to help us out it would be appreciated.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT'From your writing I got the impression that the lifestyle of this couple was in some way incomprehensible to you. You said you had to "bite my lip at her tattoo" which sounds rather like you had some objection to the adornment in question. And "much to your annoyance at times" she felt compelled to follow her partner rather than sit and chat. Another phrase you used was "nearly objecting to all their mannerisms". It was your use of these negative phrases that lead me to believe that despite your objections to their lifestyle you still admired them for their devotion to one another. I am one who, like your friends, lives and breathes this kind of lifestyle and I have experienced prejudice and misconception because of what I do. For this reason I will come to the defense of others with the courage to expose themselves to the same negative reactions I have experienced, just as I would if anyone made derogatory comments about your lifestyle. Not sure you could have replied more perfectly. Nice work Mistress. An apology can go along way , well done if we were all as strong as you! Brae
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RHP User
15 years ago
It would be good if people were more accepting of what I do and less keen to make judgments without understanding. I love what I do for a living and hate having to tell friends and acquaintances I don't work. My partner and I love our kinky lifestyle but that part of our lives has to be hidden to a great extent.If Cqinwa would like to message me I would be happy to discuss the good, the bad, the ugly and the simply wonderful things about this lifestyle or answer any questions they may have.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks BraeWas a wonderful intro.......Still searching for a master who can combine the psychological anticipation with the contrasts of a firm hand and gentle touch who is.......... single the butt plug thru the airport thingy.........major cringe........far too embarrassing LOL Youre a brave girl Miss Sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Then you may not have liked exposing yourself on a fast train to Paris ? Or sex in the Gym showers in Paris. Being spanked , kissed licked and fucked on a beach in Greece ....... or .............. LOL Brae ............. booking another 6 weeks in Europe soon
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