Strength and weakness

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Strength as a speller tells me a lot about a person... oops Im taking off my grammar nazi hat again .. didnt even know it was on .. pardon me :o)Strength in me would be to enable myself from that nazi hat all together... Its something my mother instilled in me that still today I have trouble putting aside. Stems from a mother who at the age of 6 yr old came to australia not knowing a word of english. Then learning its ins and outs which took her to being the right hand woman to Helen Wellings with the department of consumer affairs all the way to being the right hand woman for the NSW police commissioner.Honestly, I find that if I am myself right from the start, then what you see is what you get. No surprises No false hope Maybe thats my downfall also because then everything is on the table, but Ive always got something up my sleeve ;o)The qualities of strength are being a good listener, and then in return being a sturdy rock to lean on also. Strength without reserve ends up just a panting blob of exhausted air. <=== that is a weakness.I did have a girlfriend that in all of her strength, showed that she was really weak, when she went back to her abusive ex.. ouch... Even worse was hearing she ended up back in hospital for it. he now walks with a limp, yet another weakness of mine :o|

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  those who forgive and let go show great strength of character..............   and the ability to admit they are wrong and apologise accordingly, even more so     In answer to your direct questions Freya   Do we sometimes confuse one for the other? Yes but we all come from our perspectives....one will view a action/emotion/a characteristic as weak others will admire the very same trait.. What are the qualities of strenghth,that you admire in others and that you have or aspire to have? I admire those who dont care - yes I do ...they SEEMED to not suffer the heartaches I endure.I aspire not to be so melancholy in my person life... And what to you constitutes weakness? Mental abuse and bullying.........especially via technology... Have you ever had a partner or lover who you at first thought was a strong person only to discover that they were incredibly weak and how did they reveal that? Yes - by lying.........

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We need your saying that is I think just the prayer of serenity.....

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. .................................................... Or is it this one? .............................Got this in email today and was rotflmao. Stress Prayer Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I cannot accept, and the wisdom to hide the bodies of those people I had to kill today because they pissed me off. And also, help me be careful of the toes I stepped on today as they may be connected to the ass that I may have to kiss tomorrow. Help me to always give 100% at work...12% on Monday, 23% on Tuesday, 40% on Wednesday, 20% on Thursday, and 5% on Fridays. And help me remember that... when I am having a really bad day, and it seems that people are trying to tick me off, that it takes 42 muscles to frown and only 4 to extend my middle finger and tell them to bite me. Amen    Not sure if either are on topic though ...........

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  means having a sense of humour. Weakness is not knowing how to use it. :-)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Thank you ma'am for both :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think we all tend to confuse one for the other at some stage and that depends on your point of view. A person who has the courage to admit that they are wrong and apologise shows great strength. Others see that as a sign of weakness. On sites such as this, people who can accept rejection gracefully and move on show great strength of character. The ones who don't and resort to abuse and harassment are weak. I admire people who may not be very attractive to the opposite sex but still have the courage to put themselves out there on sites like this and aren't afraid to get naked in front of others and have sex. Shows great strength of character and a total disregard of what others may think which is the way it should be.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think my strength is to be a matter of fact person. Hahha with a big heart……and then that’s my weakness. I am doing what has to be done and cry but I still do it…..Ohh my God what a two coloured person I am. When challenges path my way, I am on, I look at it and deal with it…..maybe first I think….oh fuck of you stupid, stupid fucking problem…but because it doesn’t leave me alone I deal with it. Then again how I deal with it can deeply hurt someone, even me…..my directness is such a harsh way to be sometimes. Looking back now, I can say, I am not one to stick her head in the sand. Ohh why can’t I do that, once in a while?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I work with a hundred or so challenged men, with histories of every kind of childhood abuse, drug use and criminal behaviour. Most of them never learnt to talk about emotions or show their "softer" sides, let alone reflect on their behaviour. The strong ones for me are the ones that, in spite of everything, don't give up on themselves ort others. They are the ones that have chosen to forgive and improve their lives.   The men that treat all others as they want to be treated, despite how society chooses to treat them. I have a lot of respect for that.

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  madotara69

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I work with a hundred or so challenged men, with histories of every kind of childhood abuse, drug use and criminal behaviour. Most of them never learnt to talk about emotions or show their "softer" sides, let alone reflect on their behaviour. The strong ones for me are the ones that, in spite of everything, don't give up on themselves ort others. They are the ones that have chosen to forgive and improve their lives.   The men that treat all others as they want to be treated, despite how society chooses to treat them. I have a lot of respect for that.  Ms_Devious, I did not know the job you do, now I do' in part.I believe those few men, would share a love for you, and that you the Lady will never understand, and it's not because you are a good sort, it is because those men have a good sort that believes in them. A job, yes. I guess it is easier than trying to explain the feeling you share with your men, for them life does not have much value, especially their own. It is hand in hand for self destruction. But for some, People like you change that for them. That is between you and them.Yes Miss_Devoius, you certainly are a person that advise and shared thoughts, to the strengths and weakness in men is taken, and appreciated, by me.ThanksI am sorry, if this has been spoken out of place Freya. If you want to smack me, it won't be so easy, because i will be hiding somewhere safe and dark. Again he he

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Much appreciated. I work with drug addicts and these men are my patients/clients. A job, yes. But a damn rewarding one.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  A lot of people have had the opinions regarding being weak or strong pressed on them by their parents. I remember my own experiences of being told by my dad that I was a pussy for crying or showing any emotion. these grassroots beliefs are often twisted towards other emotional releases and some guys grow up ashamed of showing any kind of emotion or compassion. That has been my experience and I'm sure I'm not alone, having said that, we all have the power to challenge our beliefs and cut negative influences from our life. True strength to me is having the balls to make a decision and stick to it, come what may. Living with the consequences of mistakes you've made. Admitting when you are wrong. Accepting help when you need it. Weakness is the reverse of the aforementioned.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  You only work with men? What about the women? M

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  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Ms_Devious' I work with a hundred or so challenged men, with histories of every kind of childhood abuse, drug use and criminal behaviour. Most of them never learnt to talk about emotions or show their "softer" sides, let alone reflect on their behaviour. The strong ones for me are the ones that, in spite of everything, don't give up on themselves ort others. They are the ones that have chosen to forgive and improve their lives.   The men that treat all others as they want to be treated, despite how society chooses to treat them. I have a lot of respect for that.   After working in male prisons, I know exactly what you mean. My strenght is compassion my weakness is compassion sometimes for the wrong people. I get stung now and again

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100'You only work with men? What about the women? M   For some reason I had in it my head that this thread was about men. The same goes for the women, absolutely!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Strength often lies within those who are quiet   Weakness is often found in those who are LOUD (Ifear you complain/moan too much!)   Still it is all objective.   Ms_Devious and Tuscanred, having worked on the side that put these men in the open and then in front of you, thats a noble job you have. Just dont give up, not ever we need you to try to put these people right before they hit mainstream again. NO ONE ELSE WILL   And Freya, the strong normally give up there weaknesses when you least expect it, when they feel you can handle, it for they are still looking out for you. Thats what the strong do.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  My eternal weaknesses....... bwaaahaaa

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