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Strange coincidence of bad exp - 2 in a row after nearly perfect record for years with RHP. May be hot weather?
November 24 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you have been very lucky indeed Rupamohan....that you both escaped relatively unscathed ....ah ..human beings..fascinating creatures....yet they still have no idea A few years ago when I was part of a couple...we played with a couple from here.. We had a good nite...but we agreed as a couple on the way home in the car, from the play event that we probably wouldnt go there again... The next day, our play friend sms us to say what a fantastic nite they had had with us..we replied (me that is) said yes, we too had a nice nite (which we did) and left it at that...they replied back "When can we get together again" - I was non committal for many reasons - apart from the fact that we werent that into them, we were both shift workers at the time, so we had to work around rosters etc, but we were also having our own issues, and accordingly we wouldnt commit to them.... Well, the harassment, a barrage of sms, phone calls, voice mail, emails and msn demanding when could we get together again..can we please do dinner, go camping, have drinks...it never stopped.......during this time my partner and I split up and I made the mistake of telling these people - that I was heartbroken due to the split and didnt want to play..I justed wanted to be left alone !!! What a nitemare...I was harassed and harassed and harassed by the male of this couple...nite and day, sms, emails, phone calls, etc for weeks........in the end..(due to my profession) I was able to get a cop friend of mine to go around and request nicely that the male of this couple leave me alone (to this day I do not think the wife knew of what hubby was up to) It did stop..for like 4 days and started up again..and so much to my inconvenience I had to change my phone number and email addy...it was annoying, yet scarey all at that same time..this guy was desperately lonely and so wanted to be friends with me and mates with my ex...............however this is not the way to go about it !!!!................... Their profile is still on here....good luck with anyone that meets them So Rupamohan...all I can say is count your blessings, that the worse that you got was verbal abuse and blocking...offline, the looney tunes are still looney but in technicolor and 3 D Take Care out there and Im dead serious...
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rupamohan
13 years ago
OMG can't belive what you wrote..yes we are very lucky had never problems. Most ppl very nice. What was dissappointing is these PPL behaved the best we have come across till every thing went their way and when it didn't the behavious just flipped, complete change. I am in a mood to whinge today..which is not normal for me so better do all whinging in one day...may be the heat taking toll.. we had very few strange exp..ok next one here it goes...we played with a cpl it was ok not something gr8 that we were willing to play again. The cpl txt us after play they liked very much and want to play again soon. As a courtsey we replied we enjoyed too but didn't commit anything more. Well the txt keep coming to play again and we replied we enjoyed it for once but may be we are all bit different so let us move on. And next the txt comes up that they didn't like us at all, they had bad experience they never wanted to play with us....hehehe Sorry my native language is not english I make mistake in english!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
thanks for raising this one rupamohan, we were recently discusing if we should host or not and it sounds like a risk...even if you meet somewhere public, they seem nice, invite them around to play, goes ok but don't want to play again it can still turn ugly. has anyone had this problem ? is a hotel the go for the first play date ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
a yes please, or thanks, but no thanks as a follow up!What even is the protocol after you've played... ? Do you ignore if you're not into them, or contact and say hey thanks...Sorry you were abused and harassed... some people don't have boundaries.xx Mrs C
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey freshmeet2012 ... exactly what you describe happened to us ... met a couple for dinner, all nice, polite and respectful ... invited them back to our place for some fun and it all turned pear shaped ... the guy got drunk and abusive towards his partner, chucked a wobbly because he wasn't getting what he wanted ... and they both got so drunk neither could drive so we were stuck with them. Big lesson learnt there ... never again!
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rupamohan
13 years ago
My suggestion is learn from bad expereince but do not generalise it. Don't forget to treat ppl as individuals. All bad experience give some signs note it down..rather a blanket ban or forming tough rules...I try not to over react..some issues come up just because PPL try to understand mind and intentions of others rather than focussing on what is being said. It takes us 10sec to judge person is fake or moron with 90% accuracy. unless they are pro actor. But we never accuse others or let them know what we suspect. we treat them with respect or move on.
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RHP User
13 years ago
what horrible experiences,I suppose that I have so far been very fortunate but I do usually spend sometime getting to know people.Recently a man invited me for lunch.I was not that attracted to him initially but it was a lovely day and we chatted away. It is amazing what people will disclose unknowingly,he had story after story about the women he had met and played with,none of them happy or good stories.His intention was I think, to make me feel sorry for him,the result was that I found his attitude towards women quite appalling. At the end of our lunch he asked me if I would like to see him again,when I responed in the negative...in the nicest possible way...he threw a tantrum and said''well in that case you can pay for your own lunch'' and stomped off.I am always happy to pay for myself,his attitude just reinforced for me that he was a bitter, unpleasant man. It had taken a couple of hours but the mask of civility had well and truly slipped.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I grew up in a funeral home and for many years worked in the death industry - people always used to say to me.. Like how do you deal with death ?"".... or something simliar along those lines .... My standard reply was ""Dead people... not a issue - its the live ones that scare the shit out of me !!!" This statement still holds so true... I only have to read the above posts to see that human nature is still so questionable....Im really sorry to hear of your stories...its so spoils it so for those genuine lovely people that are out there....and they are out there :) GGGrrrrr Causewelikeit..how awful..and having them stuck in your home...seriously hope they were beyond embarassed and very apologetic. Freya - that just plain rude.....no other words...how hard is it to be civil today? - so many people are so angry and unhappy with others but mainly with themselves.....and happy to hang on to those emotions - sad
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have generally had a really good experiance on RHP.Those we are in contact with are all lovely, genuine poeple, and a very, very few of the others have had to end up on the block list.Though recently we were contacted by someone who wanted to play show and tell but had no facepics in their profile.When we said that without swapping facepics it would go no further they gave us a mobile numer instead and told us to call them. We replied that without facepics and better info we wouldn't be calling (We stated this was due to previous issues with someone else who we had swapped phone numbers with that didn't workout and left us regretting it).The final reply from the contact was abusive and straight to the point before they ended up on the block list.How much worse could it have gone via phone or in person?From others it seems that the yobbo's are in the minority but they are still here.We have a few simple rules that seem to steer us well. We are not supermodel material so we try to exchange face pics fairly quickly. We all have our own ideas as to what we find attractive and quite often we aren't what each other the is looking for. It might be shallow but appearances count more than most people like to admit. If the other poeple are not your cup to tea politely then be up front tell them.If you aren't their cup of tea accept their polite no thanks graciously and move on..Take a good look at their friends... particularily those close in distance to them that they are likely to have played with. If most of their playmates only have "if required" for safe sex they the risk factor has gone way up. Accidents can occur even with safe sex. It's suprising the number of people who don't see why it would be an issue for us if they are "If required"Don't swap contact details too easily or quickly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They may have been someone/people who thought they knew you (at worst) or just idiots not worth knowing anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ermmm...you changed your number on us...and we want back in....BACK IN I TELL YA :p. sorry to be making so light on such a serious topic, I wouldn't wish that upon anyone. Although, I have thought about teasing a stalker once. Seeing I am gypsy and all. Not like they could come around and peek through my curtains....I have none :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
They were just fighting over the two deliciously sexy toys in front of them....I'd almost be flattered if it hadn't ended so tragically :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been fuming all week. While I was at work, a man came knocking at our door while Jennylee slept (she had been working an overnight shift). She pulled on a robe and answered. This man knew a couple we had played with and decided that, as we were singers Jenny must be loose. He introduced himself and asked if he could come in for sex. I have never heard of anything like this before. She told him that's not the way it works and asked him to leave He was apparently appologetic and left without trouble but it still scared her. How do I know he won't be back?
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RHP User
13 years ago
...while Jennylee and I can carry a tune, that was meant to read that we are sWingers.
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RHP User
13 years ago
jman that is sooo scary.I hope you spoke to those other silly people.How dare they give out your address,put you both at risk like that.What were they thinking?
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RHP User
13 years ago
To invite strangers into. I dont do it, for a numbe of reasons but this creeped me out I have had a bad back and was on oxycondin and had two full packs in my bathroom yep, someone took the lot, and put the empty boxes back on the shelf I wrack my brains to think who would do that knowing I have a very bad back, and more so who do I know that may be an addict? People may just use this site to get into others homes to case out the place, I had a few lodgers and one invited tons of women over and I had to get mad as hell at him for that. working in prisons there are lots of ways that guys use to get into a persons house. so everyone needs to take some care with this thing. People get drunk, can cause a fuss and then your neigbours know whats going on in your life you say no to a guy or break up with a guy and it can get ugly as hell. people can stalk you, so its better they do not know where you live hotels are costly but not as half as costly as if things go pear shaped. I have my studio, there is risk there but I minimise it as much as I can. I do not have men to my house anymore , I did a few times but feel its not worth the risk.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This has happened to us on more than one occassion too...... I wish we could name and shame.......... We had a Guy from a couple we saw, call on and off for over 2 years....... and text.... to see if we were still together or had changed our mind........ WTF
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On_Safari
13 years ago
Home is your refuge. Meet and play away from the hearth. The lesson to be learned here....a hotel room is so much cheaper than the potential disasters and stalkers you could unwittingly be inviting into your homes. Jensman (in particular Jennylee) I'm terrified for you both and how dare anyone share your details!! I also don't give out my email address, rarely anyway; and the one I do allow out is not one of any consequence that can't be replaced. As for mobile numbers and txt all the time, my mother's big on the "less said, soonest mended" thing. Ignore ignore ignore or after a while suggest you have enough txts on your phone to lodge a Telecommunications Abuse charge with the police. True it can be done, 2 of my friends had to and a guy got jailed for it. Txt Stalking is frowned upon folks.
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