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Still trying to work up the courage

May 07 2023

Hi , we are still working up the courage to meet , would using an escort or maybe an erotic massage to start . I the male is keen to share my wife , she is struggling to get her head around inviting another or a couple into our play time . She gets horny of the though but 🤷😬

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Flirty2020
2 years ago
Our advice is that you don’t push her into it. If and when she is ready, then she will bring it up and or request it.

Any further pushing, from your side might have a negative impact on your marriage.
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Margo_Lover
2 years ago
Take your time, there's no rush. Our first time was at a swinger club, Chateau Vino on the Gold Coast.

The beauty of a club or event is:

1. No pressure, you can do whatever you want.
2. You can socialise with people in the lifestyle.
3. You can see some fun sexy stuff happening. (Voyeurism)
4. You can play by yourselves in a closed room.
5. You can play by yourselves in an open room so others can watch (Exhibitionism)
6. You can play next to other people on the same bed. (Parallel Play)
7. You can play with other people.

You can do none or all of this, and you don't need to commit to anything beforehand. The BIG deal is to set your expectations appropriately so you're not disappointed.

If you can meet someone you've been chatting with online there... even better. Again with no expectations.

We set our expectations at... we'll meet an online friend, we'll see some sexy things, we'll probably play just the 2 of us in a closed room. We went well beyond that, and had an amazing first time. That was 2 years ago last week.

- Alex.
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Opalrose
2 years ago
There is zero rush. Find a meet and greet in your area, or one of the adult clubs, and go with the intention of just socialising. Meet some people. Baby steps.
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RHP User
2 years ago
Hi guys . Yes I think the safest way is to organise a lovely massage from either a male or female masseuse . That way you can leave it at just that or expand it to whatever the situation is inspiring you do ( or not )
A lovely sensual massage can be as good or better than just straight out sex .
It’s the safest way to just sample the extra person into the equation .,
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Sawadee
2 years ago
Having been where you guys are now ' l can identify with how you feel .. Like your wife ' mine was the same . Liked the idea but not the unknown., so l left it up to her .. Then one day ' she said she was ready ' and so we made it happen.. But it was her decision ..
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
2 years ago
Don't push her and if she likes it then don't throw it back in her face. Way to end a marriage. And listen to why and what she's saying.
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AimToPlease_Boo
a year ago
Me and my wife just “ opened “ our relationship recently
Originally was a Hall Pass on a girls weekend. But she didn’t think she could do it.

So she joined a few dating apps and that way she can talk to who she likes and get a feel of them.

It took 2 weeks, but late a Friday night she got a txt asking to meet up.

After her initial apprehension and once she went through with it, she loved it and wants to do it more.

I left it all in her hands to find guys she likes,

Once done she came home and told me everything that went on

Best decision ever
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