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Stating IF REQUIRED for safe sex???

May 18 2022

On the subject of safe sex, most responses in people's stats are straight forward as in never, sometimes or for intercourse but quite often we see IF REQUIRED and we're interested to know from people who write that what their interpretation of that actually is? Our interpretation is that those folks only practice safe sex if the other party insists on it which in essence means sometimes or never (neither of which are personally acceptable to us so we won't play with those people) but we have spoken to some people who believe it means yes to safe sex as in if required simply meaning when the opportunity of plays takes place. Interested to hear other people's take on the meaning?

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RHP User

4 years ago

@DonnaBrett, I thought the same that “if required” meant if you want safe sex we will oblige.

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boobsandbusted

4 years ago

We always look at it and think its if you make us we will ,but then Asked some people we know who only practice safe sex and it was the other way ,so possibly only way of really knowing is going the Pauline Hanson and please explain

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RHP User

4 years ago

I interpret it the same way you do - that they will practice safe sex if the other party wants it but otherwise most likely wouldn't do so. I think most people would interpret it that way.

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RHP User

4 years ago

It's a strange question, I personally don't want an STI.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Yeah I interpret “if required” as “if you ask” and don’t like it either, it should always be assumed that intercourse will be safe with the option being “unsafe sexual if you’re up for it” or something along those lines.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Depends on what is safe sex. For those who insist on condom for intercourse but regularly engage in oral sex without, actually think they're practising safe sex. STI risk might be less but still significant with unprotected oral so I find anyone who says they're safer than those who just put 'if required' are delusional and if they do oral without, are as much a risk and are hypocrites. I have experienced those who demanded condoms but when I ask for protection for oral look agast and offended. Anyone who lessens the risk of sti's via oral need to get their facts straight or shut up.

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ddlbm

4 years ago

I take it that they already have herpes , so aren’t worried about catching it .

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FeistyFatty

4 years ago

I actually appreciate the ones who say "Ask Me" or "When Required" because it helps the vetting process....... Instant swipe left🙅

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countrytouch82

4 years ago

I used to put "if required". I read it to mean required for casual sex, or not necessarily required for solely or mainly exclusive sex. Lots of couples here will not use condoms in their private sex life. Between primary partners condoms are not required if there is another form of contraception EG vasectomy, and being sti free. But obviously people can read "if required" in a different way. So single or couple, it is best to put "always", even if it is just to refer to additional casual sex or swapping only.

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loveYOURpleasure

4 years ago

I don’t know what’s wrong with me - perhaps I have some “people are inherently good” complex - but I had always thought of “if required” as meaning, essentially, if we have any doubts about each other then we use protections…so basically safe sex unless we know for sure it’s safe otherwise. Reading this the light has gone on … I totally agree that people probably mean it in the ‘if I really have to and I’m not going to get any action otherwise I’ll reluctantly agree’. It seems so obvious now!

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DonnaBrett

4 years ago

It's been interesting to read how some people interpret the words If Required. For us and what we do as a couple is completely separate to our swinging life. We feel that for the purpose of this hook up website ( and others) people should not factor in their personal relationship practices. Incidentally even as a couple when we're at a sex party for instance we even use condoms between us just to ensure any guys watching who don't know us as a couple see no condom and think it's a free for all just to jump in unprotected.

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RHP User

4 years ago

@DonnaBrett. Do you engage in unprotected oral?

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RHP User

4 years ago

I interpreted as if someone wants you to wear protection for oral, you will. If you went to a sex worker you'd have to wear it for oral. I could understand it especially in the case of open relationships, nobody wants to take something home to their partner. But I definitely know how I prefer it!

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RedHotPair

4 years ago

They are people who don’t want to wear condoms but will if you insist.

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RHP User

4 years ago

I will not accept any one who isn’t willing to be safe. I work in pharmacy and have seen so many scripts for STI. It’s a no brainer. Up to you if you take a chance. If there on here you are NOT the only one!!

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madotara69

4 years ago

DonnaBrett It’s a bit disheartening when this topic comes up and it has often over a few years, and blanket statements are made, things like ‘oh if we see If Required, no way we don’t want anything to do with them kind’ generally judgemental advice with a tone of authority or higher standing or something. So when we joined RHP, paid for a ticket into the joint, it was awesome because there is accommodations for couples, swingers, gay and lesbian, 500000 Don’s once that book came out, shades of grey and every housewife wanted a Dom or daddy, although fisting suffered a setback lol, also cougars, milfs, gilfs, twirkers and squirters, masturbators, webcam sex exhibitionists and or observers open to live chit chat ‘n all that, trannies shine, kinks are cool and as adults consenting, boundaries respected not challenged, women hold the right of choice when they choose in any event, them’s the rules and balance, blokes would fuck it up otherwise and simply quite happy to turn up and fuck however the girls work out the workings out of it all with the multi tasking skills and horny,makes sense. So we filled out the RHP entry form paid up members profile as a couple in our naughty forties and came upon the safe sex tick a box Always at all times Never If required Something like those anyhow. Problem was for us.. if required was the only choice we had for being honest with folks such as yourselves and others of the likeminded. So we enjoyed having guys join us for threesome experiences, especially Tara She is in her element, likes it all whatever us guys do or at least try, she is mischievous, fun, her eyes sparkle when she’s smiling and no holding back while in the throws of lust and passion, two guys fucking her and the only safety issue of a regular certainty is her legs flying about out of her control while off with the fairies in orgasms. I don’t or rarely wear condoms fucking Tara. Married, faithful, still in love and fuck every day if we can, 35 years never a STD, we require guys who join us to practice safe sex and if required some guys may prefer I wear a condom so I do, fair enough. If with other couples, sure If with girls, sure Although MFM works for us as regular within the lifestyle.. If required is the only box we can tick for being honest. We are not dirty fuckers, well we are actually and our safe sex track record is unblemished. Anyhow.. Mado Mado Tara xx

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