Spontaneous Vs Responsive desire

Spontaneous desire

Spontaneous desire happens when that mental interest arises first. You’re just walking down the street or sitting at your desk when - BAM - you start to think about sex. You want to have it. Ideally, you’d seek out a willing partner and start hooking up. Then your body would start preparing for the actual act of sex.

Responsive desire

On the other hand, responsive desire happens when you feel that physical readiness for sex before you feel the mental desire. Typically, is that you’ll already be engaged in some sort of physically stimulating activity, then start to feel mentally interested in taking things further. If you ever agreed to have sex with your partner even though you weren’t fully in the mood, but then wound up thinking, “Huh, that was actually pretty fun”, you’re probably a responsive type.

Do most women relate to responsive desire? As I get older I do. I think this is one of the huge misconceptions by men regarding sex that if women aren't actively asking for it / are actively horny for want of a better word, it means we don't want sex. It's estimated that 70% of men have spontaneous desire but only 15% of women do. I thought it was interesting , especially on here when men mention that they are always ready for sex and important to understand that women sexuality often doesn't work like that. Food for thought in understanding sexuality and having better sex.