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Spelling and Grammar - a bit of class with your kink?
February 01 2020
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RHP User
5 years ago
A lot of people haven’t had access to a quality education. Also a lot of people have learning disabilities which limits their ability to communicate effectively.
I suggest you get over it.Sawadee
5 years ago
Really ? You don't need to be intelligent to string a few words together.. Would you knock back the opportunity to dine with the likes of a person like Sir Richard Branson ? I believe he has dyslexic tendacys. ?
Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
HRU and Wat U up 2 in messaging.. ..just lazy. Same with profiles.
boxestotick
5 years ago
Agree 100%. It’s a turn off for us. Correct spelling and grammar grabs our attention.
Readyfors0mefun
5 years ago
Definitely a turn off, the odd mistake is fine but not if it's continual.
It's similar to messages with only a few words and zero class, single males are the worst for it, if guys want to get our attention as a couple they need a well written message telling us about themselves.
Mr ready
non_such
5 years ago
...you can ignore it if you like but don't be surprised if people draw their own conclusions.
RHP User
5 years ago
Yes, spelling and grammar is something that I find very hard to look past. I am no scholar myself but it it is nice when people string sentences together with it flowing so eloquently. Also using shortened words example being: txt me or u r so sxy
RHP User
5 years ago
By the way, I forgot to put on the end of my message above that I do not like the use of shortened words.
RHP User
5 years ago
Well Mr has a learning difficulty. He doesn't use words correctly. I get so sick of people judging him because they have no idea. So if you want perfect sentence structure don't bother messaging us
RHP User
5 years ago
Yes! What ever happened to the full stop?Pusscat xxx
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
I get it, English language is difficult, punctuation is hard. I fuck up my grammar all the time. I really don't give a shit what others think. So Please stop with your belittling to correct others and to those who's English is a 2nd language. If you are going to have a go at others for spelling mistakes, be careful because people in glass houses should not throw rocks.
I have a lot of Perfect imperfections. They rock! 😊
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
How sad life must be for those who show no empathy to others with learning difficulties and make insulting remarks. Sexy is just not just putting two sentences together.
Sexy comes from looking in the mirror and saying "I am sexy. I believe in me". Those two sentences are intelligent and sexy as all fuck. 👌
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
It would have been more intelligent and matured, if you had privately emailed them instead. 😉
Ms Foxy
mango69er
5 years ago
Im sure there are alot of dictators and mass murderers out there with awesome grammer. Maybe take a look at yourselfs, imstead of judging others on such a petty thing.
mango69er
5 years ago
Im sure there are alot of dictators and mass murderers out there with awesome grammer. Maybe take a look at yourselfs, imstead of judging others on such a petty thing. You come across as someone with no class and very smug
missy_mo0
5 years ago
No, spelling and grammar are not deal breakers for me. But do I like an intelligent, well worded message with substance? Hell yes. I’m sure I’m this day and age of fast finger typing, you can cut people some slack.
RHP User
5 years ago
Lol spelling and grammar is like every other preference.
I find it amusing those who adopt the outrage at someone’s preference for it. No one here suggests that you need to be a Harvard scholar to be effective in your appeal, but it’s easy to ignore the odd error as most would.
I’m sure those who disagree with you OP have preferences that anyone could be just as outraged at in return, and their response would be to justify it as just that a preference.
I do agree with you in that it’s far more appealing to see a decent effort put in.
Mr dragonRHP User
5 years ago
Sometimes the best way to get around the issues of spelling and grammar is by talking or to go to a meet and greet. Talking to someone is the best method for getting to know them. My husband is not the best with spelling and grammar, and yes I correct him at times but it is not the be all / end all. People can talk really well but their writing is not the best, then there are the people that write really well but can't string a sentence together either. Who cares what people like or not, it is their choice at the end of the day.
RHP User
5 years ago
String a sentence together when talking to someone else is what I meant.
Cucknshells
5 years ago
ever this comes up the people having a go at people who have trouble with grammar and spelling end up spelling something wrong or using the wrong grammar. Why is this so?
I have dyslexia and I always have trouble spelling that word (thank god for autocorrect) and just because I have trouble spelling and can't get my head around the difference between to and too does not make me uneducated. I eventually got to Uni and I have a degree and a grad dip. Even though being educated is not a reflection of intelligence.
I am not lazy and I am not stupid and I find it really frustrating that some people judge others on their literacy skills.
Shells PS I miss Q and Lady Tuscan. I think they might have something to add to this forum.
Freaky_Fun
5 years ago
Definitely.
Nothing to do with disabilities.
And I'm pretty sure every person knows how to spell 'you'.
So no I'm not going to get over it when 40 plus year old men think its cool to use text talk.
Just as bad as snapchat filters.
TwmbaLovers
5 years ago
Yes I do appreciate correct spelling and grammar. And yes I understand some people have learning difficulties etc etc and I would never have a go at anyone because of their spelling mistakes or what not (nobody is perfect) but I still appreciate well written messages. I don’t, however, appreciate others having a go at those of us who do appreciate spelling and grammar. And yes, I noticed “dinning” as well
Sawadee
5 years ago
Quote : Being educated is not a sign of intelligence...
How true... I've meet some educated people who have absolutely no people skills whatsoever ?
jedi_knight
5 years ago
Spelling and that initial email has always been a great indication of how things might pan out when meeting folks on RH.
I suppose it's like taking a shower and putting on some cologne before a date , it's part of making a good first impression.Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
It's lazy people who cant be bothered putting together an articulate message. People who use text talk or shorten words. ..or use emojis instead of words. I would rather be interacting with people who actually make an effort.
blondes6365
5 years ago
Let's face it a lot of us didn't get past year nine at high school so spelling and grammar is not so good a lot off people should read what is getting said lets face it personality is what counts YES we no there is no puntuation in this a spelling mistakes
MsJonesy
5 years ago
good spelling and grammar, I know not everyone has the the capability nor capacity to write well. So I am tolerant of errors; none of us are perfect. I know many with great brains who cannot express themselves well in writing, as well as many with learning challenges who get upset and frustrated by their inability to string decent sentences together.
Anyone who has been on the receiving end of my text messages know I send texts littered with typos which quite frankly I can't be bothered correcting before hitting send 😊 I spend a lot of my professional life writing reports, assessments, tenders etc; if my friends can't cut me some slack about my texting then they actually just don't get me.
I don't however, like messages on this site containing sentences littered with abbreviations such as 'u', 'r' etc. That is an entirely different topic.RHP User
5 years ago
Speaking, writing, and interpreting English has always been my strength. I'm an avid reader and I have written and marked a lot of university papers. I love the dictionary and refer to it most days. I love interesting, thought provoking, lively, and humorous conversations. I love double and triple entendres.
I know English isn't everyone's strength. It is a very difficult language to learn. Maths is my weakness but I know there are certain calculations I must know how to figure out and do, so I plug away at them (medication calculations, budgets, percentages, etc.)
I definitely don't think that this past was 'belittling' anyone. I also like it when a well written peice is sent to me whether it be here, work email, or text. I never judge anyone on anything though, as no one deserves to be judged.
boobsandbusted
5 years ago
More important things in life ,each to their own ,,but who am I to judge ,I’m sure I’ve caused more than my fair share of head aches ,lmao ,,,.
madotara69
5 years ago
I have the intellectual capacity of a toasted muffin, it’s passable and as close to what fuck is to swearing.: pardon the French, actually a fuck in France is a Yabbie... would one consider the termini logical inexactitude as a thing ?
Indeed
Mado
Mado Tara xx
WoodynMinx
5 years ago
For some, sapiosexuality is a thing and I have seen it in play and understand it and can find intelligence a sexy thing as part of a personality. I also find a lot of other things sexy too. The look in someone’s eye, a pose, some flirting and banter, the way a woman might grind her ass into my pelvis at a rock concert....
So maybe getting a message full of errors or poor use of language is not a turn on for the OP. I see a lot of people have their turn offs. Hairy men, hairless men, body size, age, bank balance size. It’s unique to each person and not at all judgemental of the OP to ask what others think. If they were to call them names and be derogatory then I feel it’s crossing a line but that is their right to choice. Or shall we deny the right of who someone chooses to have sex with? I have seen women accused of racism for not sleeping with a man of a particular ethnic origin. He used that as a weapon to some effect to coerce young women to sleep with him.RHP User
5 years ago
Who has some sort of preference or standards is a bigot to somebody.
If you fuck anything your a slut or a player, you really can’t please everyone or sometimes anybody in this game.
And so life goes on.
Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
You like what you like
And among the things that I like is someone who can communicate in what I deem to be a proficient manner
Its just another preference. I wont shame someone who doesn't communicate to my preference.... just as i wouldn't shame someone for not matching any other preferences which i hold
But if someone wants to whinge about not matching my preferences, thats not my issue.
SpicyKale
5 years ago
It's definitely more about the effort and content than anything else for us. Like a few have mentioned text talk drives us a bit nuts, but not a deal breaker. The random emoji thrown in doesn't really offend, we're as guilty of it as anyone... ok, maybe not eggplants and squirt symbols!
Is this sort of like judging someone on their profession?
I suppose we all need to use some sort of filtering, but I can think of better waysRHP User
5 years ago
I am somewhat astounded by the intolerance exhibited by many participants on this 'social platform' towards those that dare to articulate an opinion or, as in the case of Lady_Fox, pose a question followed by a statement of their personal preference.
Before writing this humble response, I studiously perused Lady_Fox's opening post with due diligence and could not find a modicum of offence, judgement nor denigration within. More to the point, I failed to identify any aspersions directed, thinly veiled or otherwise, towards any individual or demographic that might, for whatever reason, not be proficient in the art of communication whether it be written or verbal.
I think the 'defence' put forth by one poster that "a lot of people haven't had access to a quality education" is perhaps a little flimsy to say the least given that when typing a forum post or a profile on RHP any misspelled words are automatically underlined with a cute wavy red line as a subtle hint to the author that perhaps they should reconsider their spelling!! Additionally, should the author be at a loss as to how to correct the error, all that is required is to 'right click' on the offending word which results in a 'pop up' to reveal options to choose from. Although I consider myself reasonably proficient in the field of grammar I readily admit to taking advantage of spell check and auto-correct at times. In my view it comes down to having a little pride in whatever task one is applying oneself to.
I would not consider myself 'well educated' in the academic sense. Having lived and worked in the 'bush' all my life, my education consisted of five years of correspondence followed by five years at boarding school, I 'pulled the pin' after completing grade 10, got myself a job before my 15th birthday and that's when, in my view, my 'education' really started. In my humble opinion, schools are not terribly well equipped, particularly in recent decades, to teach the important skills like work ethic, having an open and enquiring mind, the ability to consider an opposing view and perhaps the most valuable skill of understanding that there is invariably more than one way to achieve a certain outcome. The aforementioned aside, it is my strong belief that until you come to the realisation that you are never too old to learn you will never reach your full potential.
I would readily accept, should the argument be posed, that being schooled in an age before the advent of 'electronic aids' where essays where hand written and sums calculated on paper might give one an advantage with regards to grammar and punctuation, I would propose that those who are a little younger than this 'old bugger' had it easy with ready access to calculators, spell check and online thesaurus etc., not to mention electronic spreadsheets with auto-sum, auto-average and, should you be inclined, the ability to write in formulae to calculate a plethora of outcomes to suit your data and needs. The younger ones get taught this stuff at school, dinosaurs like me had to learn it out of necessity.
By way of answer to Foxy_Lady's question - Generally speaking, yes, I also prefer 'good' grammar and spelling. I am particularly incensed by the appalling grammatical and pronunciation standards exhibited by members of the media profession these days. In the context of this platform however, given I am not seeking a serious long term relationship, I would place more emphasis on personality, attitude, personal hygiene and general 'tidiness' when considering a prospective partner.
My apologies in advance for such an epic tome, it articulates my humble opinion and I stand by it as stoically as I defend the right of others to have an opposing opinion.Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
I like your comment. First impressions are everything to me. This is how I have met some amazing people on RHP
Sawadee
5 years ago
Bottom line is this is not a competition to see who are the most educated and who is the most capable of constructing a few impressive sentences ? Next thing you know ' we wlll have to sit a exam before meeting someone ? Reeks of snobbery if you ask me ?
RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Freaky_Fun'
Definitely.
Nothing to do with disabilities.
And I'm pretty sure every person knows how to spell 'you'.
So no I'm not going to get over it when 40 plus year old men think its cool to use text talk.
Just as bad as snapchat filters.
I have this acceptance scale for sloppy messages. Let's use ''Hey HRU wat u up2?" as an example.
If you are 20-30 years old, this is the syntax a lot of them use and you just have to deal with it.
30-40 years old, you need to have started to sort your shit out in the eloquence department by this stage, so this is borderline unacceptable.
>40 years old, please grow up and speak like an adult, then we can talk again.RHP User
5 years ago
Sit an exam? What a great idea!
He's going to have to lick the oral test to have a chance with me.
😐RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Sawadee'
Bottom line is this is not a competition to see who are the most educated and who is the most capable of constructing a few impressive sentences ? Next thing you know ' we wlll have to sit a exam before meeting someone ? Reeks of snobbery if you ask me ?
I am accepting of the fact that most typed conversations invariably have typos to varying degrees. Misspelling, bad punctuation, whatever. There are many people of all ages that struggle with grammar. It is the ridiculous ''wot u up 2?'' lingo that I can't stand. It's a relic from the old mobile phone (alpha-numeric keypad) days that should have been consigned to the dustbin of history with the advent of phones you can actually type on using a QWERTY keyboard. The time difference to type the longform of the aforementioned bastardization is negligible, and to me signifies laziness - which you can be reasonably sure corresponds to their general disposition.RHP User
5 years ago
Oh yes, ‘Dinning’ drives me crazy. It hits me in the face everytime I view someone’s profile.
Site Admin. please fix this!!!
seekingpanache
5 years ago
I’m Dyslexic, with predictive text and spelling check it is not too hard to compose an intelligent message or profile. I’d spoke uses bad spelling or grammar or strange abbreviations, I’m unlikely to read too much more.
LotusLover
5 years ago
On this platform, I don't mind how she spells.....on RHP I'd like to learn if she's feline, feminine, cheeky, smart, stylish, flirty, understanding of her desires, fetishes & kinks, in-touch with her creative & sexual self, explorative & open-minded.....
Spelling proficiency, although very clearly, matters & is even a turn-on to many, personally for myself...not so much.RHP User
5 years ago
Grinds my gears. Bad.
You can be forgiven with pen and paper,
but with these phones spelling everything for us?
Grammar and punctuation is important, but it’s hit and miss there also.
I don’t know kids...ready more effing books!
I’m literally reading something and a spelling error just stops me like a freight train haha.
Back to the start of the sentence 3-4 time to comprehend.
+1 for intelligence=sex appeal!non_such
5 years ago
Shellac:
It is called Muphry's Law:
Any criticism you make onlime about someone's spelling or grammar is bound to have an error in it.RHP User
5 years ago
times*
Fuck!MsJonesy
5 years ago
Just an example of how we all assume knowledge....
I was working with a young person a year or two ago, who was around 25 at the time. So I assumed they were a digital native; not surpising considering a full education through to Year 12, and being of a generation who can't live without a smart phone.
I was helping them create a cover letter for a job. They had a draft ready for me to look through. When I commented it was full of typos and needed some grammar corrections, they were surprised and asked me how I knew that. I pointed to the red and green underlines...
They had NO IDEA that there was a meaning behind the underlines. Absolutely.no.idea.
They thought the software just did it to make it less boring to read. 🙄😁RHP User
5 years ago
I do find the proper use of grammar, spelling and punctuation very attractive. However, I generally will not hold it against someone if they do not have a proper grasp on those aspects of communication.
That does not change the facts though. For example when I receive short, text speak it does not titilate me the same way a well considered message might. “I wanna fuk u,” whilst easy to understand doesn’t get me as excited as “I would love to eat your pussy until you beg me to fuck you.” Then again perhaps the approach might also be key there. 🤔😋
Honestly, at the end of the day I do love when people embrace that we live in a digital world and part of that is adapting to being able to communicate well through written word.
Thats just me tho, wat do u thinkSawadee
5 years ago
" pass " See ' i got a pass without even sitting the exam...
RHP User
5 years ago
We all have different hassles with lots of things in life.
I always take people on face value and never judge anyone as sometimes we develop great sexy friendships with people who were strangers .
Steve
spunkynhunky
5 years ago
I am a bit odd a grammar Nazi, however... my husband is as intelligent AS FUCK and has enormous trouble with writing! He's never been confident with it and his sentences lack structure and finesse. Absolutely not an indication of his intelligence. Perhaps what you want is not intelligence but white collar?
Sexy_2016
5 years ago
100% agree! Single guys are the worst unfortunately.. Any message where a person substitutes the letter D where a T belongs is deleted instantly!!
Cucknshells
5 years ago
Onlime indeed. I think I prefer lemons to limes. ;-)
I think it is more some people throwing rocks in glass houses.
Be that as it may each to their own. You like what you like.
However I don’t think people should assume that poor spelling and grammar is a choice unlike deciding if they wear deodorant or not.
Shells.RHP User
5 years ago
Well i can only say for myself. In my case for exemplo english is not my primary language so mistakes will occur every now and then i try to minimise them as much as i can but the fact of the matter is i am only speaking, writing, listening and talking in english for the last 7 years of my life. Is really unfair to demand a 100% of it in my case. Would of be the same if for exemplo you went to my country and i expected and requested a 100% of knowledge in my language. Australia is a multicultural place. But for those who were born here and leave here there isnt much of an excuse really. Some of is had more opportunity to go to nice schools and have educated parents but this isnt the reality of all of you out there just something to keep in kind folks😉.
cockasian
5 years ago
An unmissable clue that whomever you've been messaging is going to be a less-than-sparkling conversationalist, which is a definite turn off for us.
For example, a recently received message...
"Hay, what youse doing"
We were, quite honestly, dumbstruck as how to respond.
Is there a singular form of youse we should use in our reply?
Do we omit all punctuation, and potentially fall foul of the classic Grandma mistake?
(For those who don't appreciate punctuation, please read the following aloud, recognising that a comma indicates a pause for breath.
"Let's eat, Grandma", "Let's eat Grandma".)
Lolitalover
5 years ago
Absolute deal breaker for me- if you don't know the difference e between there, their and they're- don't bother! And don't get me started on the guys who don't even bother to read the profile (because they can't?)- and just look at the photos.
insideout
5 years ago
Wow really ? Don’t confuse educated with intelligence. They are two very different things. Besides sexy, beautiful and amazing people can be either. Get over it I say.
SpicyKale
5 years ago
Sexy_2016, do you mean along the lines of, "he's got a big tick"? 😬
SSExplorer
5 years ago
I do appreciate good spelling and grammar but as I do most of my rhping via phone I do get a little lax due to the tiny little keys and also my phone’s super annoying autocorrect. I think my skills have eroded over time and blame technology for this. Also I converse all day with people from all walks of life and backgrounds. Rather than display my pompous superiority I will choose to speak to people on their terms as the information I need to impart is more important than the eloquence with which I do it. Then there’s one more excuse, I’m sorry but you all don’t often get 100% of my attention. Currently I have the tv blaring and 2 kids running circles around the couch and a wife clanging in the kitchen, I do hate open plannned living so!
So I appreciate eloquent writing but it’s more about the content and of course just like Mabo, it’s all about the Vibe!
I should ! Also! Apologise! For my tendency to! Overuse the exc!ama!ion mark!!!! 😂Sawadee
5 years ago
Seems most gripes are about guys with poor communication skills. ? There will always be guys and girls who never had the opportunities others have. So theres no excuse for those who had those opportunities to try and degrade those who didnt ? We are all just as dead when we're 6 ft under..
RHP User
5 years ago
Maybe you need to check out your spelling in your interests..
"Dinning" or "dining"?
Healthy to make sure your backyard is perfect before expecting it from others.
People need to leave these single guys alone and stop condemning them.
There's more to life than petty crap.RHP User
5 years ago
I could not agree more! It doesn't bother my boyfriend so much but it drives me crazy. I can only imagine how having a conversation with them would be.
Call me shallow but that is one thing that can be a deal breaker for me.
dianet
5 years ago
Red flag for me. In my experience, insisting on perfect spelling, grammar, punctuation etc is a sign of a controlling personality...
That said, there is a difference between a structured message and a throw away line...
I know many who send typo riddled grammatically incorrect messages, who in "real life" are amazing, wonderful and lots of fun 😀
R U Ok? vs. Are you ok ?
Mask_007
5 years ago
I do find a bit hard in keeping up with my spelling mistakes. Make a little confused after your 6 or 8 language.
Also increase to a greater level of difficulty when English is no where near to be your first language.
I would be more than happy have a foreigner trying to please me writing in my own language. I see that very sexy.
That is just me.
Newcruiser
5 years ago
I’m with you your so right don’t write ppl off because of an odd spelling error Di is an awesome lady sexy as hell just be honest with her she deserves it one amazing lady
Nyema67
5 years ago
Never judge anybody that is what I was taught .. Spelling and Grammar can be difficult to understand plus now that so many abbreviations and other to the like ..It certainly does not mean they cannnot have a conversation face to face and that value is the most fun way to getting to know somebody and enjoying their company ....
RHP User
5 years ago
Haha I was thinking this EXACT thing tonight. It drives me crazy. Give me a man (or a woman) who can hold an intelligent conversation and I’m very interested. It’s such a refreshing and sexy trait that’s a prerequisite for me.
RHP User
5 years ago
It's not a job interview, you are on a site to meet a FB friend and next step you will meet them .If they are not what you want move on it's not rocket science
RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'M3G4R10T'
Maybe you need to check out your spelling in your interests..
"Dinning" or "dining"?
Healthy to make sure your backyard is perfect before expecting it from others.
It's also healthy to read topics before respondingfemale11
5 years ago
I totally agree with the initial comment... Nothing I like more than correct spelling and grammar....probably my age is a major factor, but it grabs my attention first.
Also, seeing dinning on the RHP site makes me cringe each time.RHP User
5 years ago
... and the apostrophe. Whilst the odd grammatical error or misspelling is OK for us, we do really value good grammar and spelling in both emails and texts. Seeing someone who knows where, when, and how it's appropriate to apostrophise or use an Oxford comma is a joy to see.
As for people without interpersonal skills, they're called engineers and I know because I is one...
Cheers
Suit (and Lulu)RHP User
5 years ago
Ffs get a life
RHP User
5 years ago
Not offended at all. Back in the day, we were told off by teachers, mom and ,dad.
Now days we short hand to text faster. Abbreviate words. Shorten sentences and if you, constantly judge ppl over their mistakes and grammar. Then you'd miss out on alot of genuine fun to be around ppl.
Gees even important documents in court, saftey audits, job advertisements have bad grammar and punctuation. But you forget... nobody cares, about it anymore.... it's a shallow, argument that slow ppl use cos they can't win arguments!!..
gccouple1709
5 years ago
Call us petty but... We agree. We like our partners to have the ability to communicate effectively.
Sawadee
5 years ago
Of course we all like to communicate well and most do. But we shouldn't put down those who struggle, So I'm sorry , but that is petty..
LadyAndTheFox
5 years ago
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth” ~ Marcus Aurelius
I think it’s pretty clear that my original post intended no offence, though I’d like to thank you all for your replies, and contribution to the conversation ❤️
As we all proudly claim on our profiles, everyone is into their own unique “something”. Be it eloquent sentences, perfect imperfections, asians, tall men, short women, fat, thin, big breasts, black cock, blonde hair, and (let’s be honest) everything in-between.
Attraction to the mind is just another sexual preference, no? Are you not discriminating against each and every profile you read, when you decide not to get in touch? As so many of you suggest, should we all just “get over” what turns us on?
And as for those crying poor on their education...
If spelling and grammar were something you genuinely wanted to improve, but never had the chance to pursue as a child, there is this magic thing called the internet. Not only does it offer autocorrect, but you’d be amazed to find there are countless free courses available to sharpen your skills. And not just for English, go and learn a language if it makes you less defensive. If being a playmate to a sapiosexual is on your to do list, it’s all there, free of charge for you to access.
So let’s not call out discrimination where there is none. As some of you say, we all have better things to do with our time 😘LadyAndTheFox
5 years ago
Just for my own curiosity, any chance you could demonstrate where exactly I “put people down” in my original post? 🤔
Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
You didnt put anyone down.....you were, as you said, just stating your preference. Some chose to see some brightly coloured spinners.
panas99
5 years ago
Interesting post...I went out with a super sexy lady some years ago and her text messages were abysmal-full of errors but then again she was fluent in 5 other languages...get the point?!
Sawadee
5 years ago
I agree the internet can be very helpfull . So l googled Dyslexia and found some interesting facts..
Quote : The neural signature for dyslexia is seen in children and adults . You dont outgrow dyslexia . People with dyslexia take a long time to retrieve words , so they might not speak or read as fluidly as others.
Famous people with Dyslexia are :
Walt Disney
Leonardo da Vinci
Albert Einstein
Sir Richard Branson
Tom Cruise
Jim Carey..
Whats more, although slow on the uptake of words and grammar , high performing Dyslexics are very intelligent , often out of the box thinkers and problem solvers..?RHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'Lady_Fox'
Just for my own curiosity, any chance you could demonstrate where exactly I “put people down” in my original post? 🤔
I hear you Lady_Fox, there's an old saying lurking somewhere deep in the dim dark depths of what I optimistically call my mind...something about flogging a dead horse or something similarboobsandbusted
5 years ago
,oh well Mrs b won’t be pulling any roots from here because of my lack of care,can’t be botherd to wear my glasses attitude , and all things grammatical due to me ,it’s ok I will just keep blaming her looks ,
For the easily outraged people that’s of course a joke ,😂
,lmao
Mr bRHP User
5 years ago
Spelling and grammar are important to us, we do not make a big deal out of it. I was diagnosed when I was 19 with dyslexia, I am educated, I can hold a conversation, just sometimes the words get scrambled by the time they get from the brain to my hand. I think when you're looking for someone it's more important to have someone you connect with, someone you can laugh and have a great time with, it's important how a person treats you what's in their heart, Not how their grammar or spelling is. Stop putting people out of your minds give them a chance to meet you and speak to you. Some people are nervous scared so of course, they are going to stuff up when typing, stop judging a book by its cover read a little you might find you enjoy what that book has to offer😘
RHP User
5 years ago
Pet hate “use” for the plural when referring to us.
RHP User
5 years ago
There’s nothing sexier than an intelligent mind, and nothing less attractive than one that can’t spell or use grammar correctly.
SpicyKale
5 years ago
I find empathy, compassion and understanding the most attractive traits of a partner, whether it be a life partner or a casual one. Effort in messages doesn't equate to being Wordsworth!
Some of the most beautiful minds in the world have dyslexia
I wonder how people would like to be treated by friends and family if they acquired a disability later in life, or simply got hit by a car on their way to work.
For the record, I don't think the OP was trying to be nasty... I wish I could say the same for others. Not beautiful at all😐SpicyKale
5 years ago
*wasn't trying to be nasty! Sorry😬
SpicyKale
5 years ago
Ffs, morning coffee hasn't kicked in! Ignore the last message, the whole topic has just got me fuming.
jedi_knight
5 years ago
A Hank Moody quote from the Californication TV series below ... made me chuckle 🤭
People... they don't write anymore, they blog. Instead of talking, they text, no punctuation, no grammar: LOL this and LMFAO that. You know, it just seems to me it's just a bunch of stupid people pseudo-communicating with a bunch of other stupid people at a proto-language that resembles more what cavemen used to speak than the King's English.RHP User
5 years ago
"I cdn'uolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg: the phaonmneel pweor of the hmuan mnid. Aoccdrnig to a rseearch taem at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Scuh a cdonition is arppoiatrely cllaed Typoglycemia .
"Amzanig huh? Yaeh and you awlyas thguoht slpeling was ipmorantt."RHP User
5 years ago
Bad spelling and grammar put their profiles on my do not do list.
SpicyKale
5 years ago
Jedi_knight love where you're going with that one!
My favourite quote from californication is from Tim Minchin's character Atticus Fetch...
"In exchange for which you would receive first-class travel, pharmaceutical grade narcotics, the occasional trinket, and a solid 5.9 inches of rock-star penis. That's from taint to tip. And that's the high end of average."
Just perfect for the average amoungst us that aren't hung like ponies! Sorry for going off topic, but couldn't resist a follow up to the Hank quote😊ran2013
5 years ago
That gave me a chuckle😂
ran2013
5 years ago
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Sawadee
5 years ago
If anything ' all they do is show all the genuine salt of the earth lovable people who to avoid. Who wants to be bored to death listening to those who imagine they are above the rest ? Deluded comes to mind.. ?
RHP User
5 years ago
It usually bothers me but I’m just here for the sex!
RHP User
5 years ago
I've thought on this and my wonder is whether spelling and grammar are really synonymous to class.
That's my sticking point, right there in the heading.
Maybe just my reading that it implies there is no class without it.
I know no specific insult is implied or meant but no it doesn't man that at all in my experience.
Sometimes I abuse the English language for fun not that I think that sort of thing is meant here either.
Because I'm sick of a precious world where God forbid anyone should climb in a pole and perform at a family sport event (with understanding others might feel the same but this isn't the forum for it, I'm just saying!)
So I suppose in closing with maybe having said much really...
No I don't see spelling and grammar meaning a bit of class. PeachyRHP User
5 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL'I've thought on this and my wonder is whether spelling and grammar are really synonymous to class.
That's my sticking point, right there in the heading.
Maybe just my reading that it implies there is no class without it.
I know no specific insult is implied or meant but no it doesn't man that at all in my experience.
Sometimes I abuse the English language for fun not that I think that sort of thing is meant here either.
Because I'm sick of a precious world where God forbid anyone should climb in a pole and perform at a family sport event (with understanding others might feel the same but this isn't the forum for it, I'm just saying!)
So I suppose in closing with maybe having said much really...
No I don't see spelling and grammar meaning a bit of class. Peachy
And don't rely on it to choose people who interest me whether that's sexually or not. xo
cat_n_the_hatter
5 years ago
For me writing is never about spelling nor grammar but letting your inner-world be expressed and exposed. If someone is communicating to outcommunicate I may just as well shut up and leave.
Sometimes, as ML had mentioned, we need time to compose our thoughts and other times they just flow. Writing is like controlling the creature with his own free will while we add layers of meaning to words of others reflecting the richness of our own world.
So many things in our life are just random happenings and beyond our control, that we cherish the possibility of controlling something.
We wonder how is it that even in anonymity we get attached to someone and let this constructed image captivate us. Perhaps we never really have more than this construction and we are built to live with only that. Yet, we cannot live on dreams alone. The daunting thought of nakedness or warm skin…as we close our eyes to imagine the sound of someone’s breath. That is when words betray us.
Words can be powerful but so can silence. When all is said in a touch. In the touch of the finger words become obsolete. (Ms)
badboyhere
5 years ago
It was interesting reading some of the responses to this post. Particularly the responses from those that were critical of incorrect spelling and grammar. Quite a few had grammatical or spelling errors in their response. Seems some forgot to check their own before posting that they hated others doing this.
Classic case of pot calling the kettle black.
Seems that intelligence has nothing to do with it. Just poor habits.
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