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RHP User
13 years ago
Actually....... Just one would be awesome......
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know a lot of people go through life without finding theirs so maybe there's the odd spare to be picked up here or there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
there are many different permutations of relationships,if you meet more than one person you feel a strong connection with, it will possibly be for different reasons with each one.Love is not a bucket,we don't have a finite amount of it,it is more like an ocean. However the tricky part is in keeping and maintaining those relationships which are important to us,and being transparent and honest in our interactions.x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you can have as many as you like
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RHP User
13 years ago
I found mine, and then foolishly drove him away. Damn I hope I find another one. I never knew I was alive until I loved like that.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd love to believe that there is more than 1, but sometimes it's hard to trust in the concept of a soulmate. I'm leaning towards looking for Ms. Right now, rather than Ms. Right. Because right now could last a few hours, a few days or months or possibly a lifetime, just depends how much you evolve together.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' I found mine, and then foolishly drove him away. Damn I hope I find another one. I never knew I was alive until I loved like that. According to Freya's love is an ocean, not a bucket theory ...there's hope for you yetYou may even drown in it. I'll be right though ...carrots float
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'brave__heart' I found mine, and then foolishly drove him away. Damn I hope I find another one. I never knew I was alive until I loved like that. According to Freya's love is an ocean, not a bucket theory ...there's hope for you yetYou may even drown in it. I'll be right though ...carrots float to drown in love :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Totally agree with Freya above. The challenge is maintaining more than one....xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I hope you have some cute lil floaties,cos carrots sure don't float... I think that's something else...x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
Blokes and lasses. It's just a case of making your self available to other people and they will find you. So many people seem to hang out in a little protective shell and wonder why so much of life’s wonder passes them by.And as mentioned above. It's all about being confident enough to trust openly and without expectation.Give freely of your self. Expect nothing in return. Smile at the beauty life throws your way. Smile (in a different way) at the rare disappointment that doing this involves. Then see how many soul mates discover you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' I hope you have some cute lil floaties,cos carrots sure don't float... I think that's something else...x R in salt water that is ...but you really just wanted me to talk about my 'something else'
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RHP User
13 years ago
I believe my soulmate got lost in the woods and when he finally found his way out he was hit by a bus ;-P roxxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'brave__heart' I found mine, and then foolishly drove him away. Damn I hope I find another one. I never knew I was alive until I loved like that. According to Freya's love is an ocean, not a bucket theory ...there's hope for you yet You may even drown in it. I'll be right though ...carrots float to drown in love :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bahahaha no such thing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not anymore.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Blokes and lasses. It's just a case of making your self available to other people and they will find you. So many people seem to hang out in a little protective shell and wonder why so much of life’s wonder passes them by.And as mentioned above. It's all about being confident enough to trust openly and without expectation.Give freely of your self. Expect nothing in return. Smile at the beauty life throws your way. Smile (in a different way) at the rare disappointment that doing this involves. Then see how many soul mates discover you. I've always lived like that LRE, though admittedly more recently I've been a bit withdrawn and licking my wounds. But I'll find my way back to 'me' soon enough - big open heart, in awe of life, deeply grateful for all the ways in which I'm blessed. And then my life will fill up more and more with great connections and great experiences. Yay :)But, I don't agree that living like that brings multiple soulmates into my life. I think it brings a lot of nice people in, who I can have nice connections with, but I think soulmates are something much more rare and precious.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had one of those, a Ms Right, trouble was she turned into Ms Always Bloody Right. Talk about high maintenance, sheeeeeeeesh.
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RHP User
13 years ago
my Mother swears she has had more than one..... One passed away when I was very very young and now she says she is with the second...took her many years to find this one - fingers crossed she is right. For me?? If I find that person I will let you know Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
What do we mean by soul mate really? Anyway, whatever your definition I reckon we all have lots of soul mates. And you can know more than one at a time. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
i believe that there is only one true soul mate ...i have been in long term relationships before...and i was in love...but it never really felt, like i have met my soul mate...i guess i didn't know, how that would feel, to begin with...they were nice relationships...we had fun...and when we stopped having fun, we broke up...but the man i am with now, my husband of 15 years...it is different..i just knew...straight away, that this was something totally different, to anything i have experienced, before...he knows and understand me more, than ever my own mother ever did...:)and he accepts me, completely...the good, the bad...the beautiful and the ugly...i know many men would have lost patience with me...as i can be quite "passionate" at times...(that means i have a short fuse.......low serotonin levels, i think....although i have improved a lot, over the years.....)we could not bare the idea, of living without each other....neither of us have, an ounce of doubt in our mind, about the other's devotion, love and loyalty....and we still have 5-6 hour sessions of kinky, horny, passionate loving...we have grown together...wiser...and older...but despite the extra wrinkles, the ticker waist line...he still makes me feel, like the sexiest woman, in the Universe...i feel loved and accepted completely...i feel i belong...and i always have...i feel we had been soul mates before, in past lives...and now we simply found each other, againi know i only have the one soul mate...whom i would follow blindly anywhere...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I used to believe as well. Not no more. A soul mate to me now is nothing more than a hope. A dream, and about as common as winning lotto :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
Your expectations are too high hardtruckin. Why does one person have to fulfill all your needs??With divorce rates and relationship breakup a the way they are...maybe we are all supposed to have a few partners at a time or a life time. That makes more sense to me. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry... Meant to say a few partners at a time or a few partners within your life time. The fairy tale is a lie people!
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RHP User
13 years ago
we have a non-sexual relatioship considering she is married and pregnant. But I believe she is my kindred spirit, my soulmate and I'll love her until the day I die <3 My ex-husband will be a love of my life for the rest of my life; there will be another and maybe even another after that. I don't think there is just ONE person out there for me. Ex gave me children and a wealth of knowledge in what NOT to look for in my next partner. I sure hope my next long term lover will be a kindred spirit to me also, someone with whom I can share my highs and lows and he'll just get me; no questions asked. That to me is what a soulmate is. A girl can only dream, but I might get lucky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great comments from everyone finally a positive post on a subject dear to my heart yes I truly believe there is more than one soul mate for everybody being open to the possibility is all that stops us from finding them. I found two the first when I was in my late teens early twenties and number 2 earlier this year both are works in progress that’s what life is ever changing ebbing and flowing we have to accept change in ourselves and our partners and realise that we cannot fulfil all their needs individually and them ours, what we were in our youth is not who we are today so also our idea of a soul mate would also have changed. Everything worthwhile should be hard and we should have to work for it that’s what makes us appreciate it so much and not take it for granted! @ Freya13 always so wise, Yes love is an ocean ebbing and flowing how could we deny anyone love if it was offered to them unconditionally I could go on but I think you get the gist by now J Mr2n2.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I USED to believe in such a thing. Then again I also used to believe in the tooth fairy too. :p. perhaps you need to educate me??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Your expectations are too high hardtruckin. Why does one person have to fulfill all your needs??With divorce rates and relationship breakup a the way they are...maybe we are all supposed to have a few partners at a time or a life time. That makes more sense to me. :) Hi Meeka so true I posted a comment much the same on a similar great topic, Who do you think about! My thoughts exactly. Mr2n2
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think there's probably enough for more than one if you're prepared to look for them
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RHP User
13 years ago
You took the words right out of my mouth. Well at least about the ex part ( although I don't have kids and I was married to a girl) but you get what I mean. I'm liking the idea of drowning in love. Brave__heart had it right. When you lose something so strong, you really do miss it. The tricky part is not to go looking for it, as soon as you lose it. That just ends in trouble. My thoughts. Soul mates may exist, but while your trying to find one, don't over look ones that are willing to love you, and let you love them ( either sexually or non sexually). Otherwise you'll never be happy. Any
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes. Hardtruckin...when you meet your soul mate it is so very very different from anything you have ever experienced. I beleive that we do not divorce our soul mates, we dont leave them, they continue in our lives, in our minds and in our hearts surpassing even death. For the rest of the non beleivers...including Meeka....when you are in a relationship with your soul mate, they can be all you need...you simply have no need for anyone else....no desire for anyone else. I met one when I was in my late teens and would have done anything for that man...followed him to the end of the earth and back, we had seven very intense years growing up together before he tragically died. Yes we can go on the spend our lives with others but there is always that certain something missing. I met my second earlier this year and until I did, I could still remember the smell of that first one, still remember the sound of his voice, the feel of his lips on mine. Now my gorgeous man has taken all those memories and placed them back in the past where they belong. Funnily enough thier birthdays are ten years and one day apart, they share similar facial features, a love of tattoos and jewellery and a very similar voice as well as similar personality traits.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Want more than one Soul Mate? That's why we have Play friends.. Lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'll apologise for this before stating it as I'm a little exhausted. But before you can have more than 1 soul mate, you need to find the first.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I have had a few come and go from my life..... Each come into my life for a reason and left my life having allowed me to learn something from them.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
We're all different. The way we define soul mates is different. What we're looking for is different. What we've experienced to date is different. I admit I'm a hopeless romantic - I don't accept that the fairy tale is just a fairy tale, because I've lived it and therefore it was real for me. I've had two true soul mates in my life. One was fraught with tension (not of the good variety) but as essential to my happiness and well being as breathing is. That man is still in my life - I would stand in front of a bus for him as he would for me. That won't change as each of us makes new lives for ourselves, we're inextricably entwined on a deep soul level and have been since the moment we set eyes in each other 25 years ago. My other soul mate, the man I drove away with my own stupidity, awakened parts of my heart, mind, body and soul that I didn't know existed. I won't even try to describe it here, no words are enough. But I can say that, like some other people have posted, until you've experienced it it's hard to imagine. I longed for that kind of connection since I can remember remembering anything. I knew what it would feel like - I don't know how but from as young as about 4-5 I knew I hadn't found my 'people' and I knew what it would feel like when I did. I'd resigned myself - through my teen years, through my marriage, afterwards - that it wasn't going to happen. I always felt a little empty - not because I didn't have the right man in my life, but because I knew there was joy and passion and intensity and most of all love inside of me that hadn't been unlocked. It's easy and natural to say that unlocking such things is my own responsibility and within my own control and shouldn't require a man. I'm a deeply conscious, self-aware, self-responsible, spiritual human being. I'm well aware of my own responsibility for my own happiness. And still I say, this man, this connection, was everything I'd ever longed for, and more than I could have ever imagined, and being with him was the first and only time I've felt whole in my life. We have all sorts of experiences in life which unlock our potential, open up our hearts and minds, and help us grow as people. I believe the soul mate experience is one these and not something to be scoffed at or dismissed - JMO of course. From experience, you have a much better chance of meeting a soul mate if you're at peace with yourself and life. Not bitter. Not lacking. Not resentful. Not angry. Not sad. Happy, joyful, grateful, living fully. Yes, I believe it's possible to have more than one soul mate in life, I think it's simply a matter of crossing paths. I also think soul mates can be friends, lovers, family. For me, to date, it has only been men. (Sheesh, when I started I just had a simple thing to say. What a ramble :))
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RHP User
13 years ago
A soulmate is not always a person of the opposite sex.They can be your best friend, male or female, the one we feel such a close bond with.Sometimes we can be really fortunate and meet up with them in this life time as a romantic partner.Honeybee, you never cease to amaze me with your posts. You are an amazing young woman with an extremely wise mind for one of such tender years.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I hope so....I am losing mine and as selfish as it may seem, I don't want to be without the feeling of having someone who cares so very deeply about you.. and to have that same sense about them. To have your 'harbour'..in the turbulent seas of life, has value beyond gold. I know my current partner would want me to be happy after he has departed this world and I hope I am lucky enough to find another man who cherishes me so greatly. Life is to short to only be allowed happiness through one person...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was always of the impression that a soulmate in the traditional sense was a man and woman! I never considered the idea of a same sex/non-sexual soulmate. Not really sure why, maybe it's my lack of …............... I honestly don't know. That's awesome for you, very lucky to have a solid foundation in this often perilous life.
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RHP User
13 years ago
By saying the term soul mate is after all singular. Secondly, I also believe that if we keep labelling everyone our soul mate, it will end up like the saying "I love you". Another overused term that has lost it's "special". You can be in love, but it just doesn't make them your soul mate. I also think that if you find yourself needing to get something out of many people, then you haven't found a soul mate yet. And perhaps we should add that Woodstock and free acid has also ended.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well i recon you could have more then one soul mate everyone has a soul mate in life but then there are different ways of loving someone so yes ..one day i might find one that would be we all have our own journey enjoy what comes along
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' I used to believe as well. Not no more. A soul mate to me now is nothing more than a hope. A dream, and about as common as winning lotto :p But people do win lotto, right? Not all the time, and it hasn't happened to me - but it does happen? Soul mates may be rare (as you rightly say, otherwise we devalue the meaning of the term) - but they do exist. It does happen.
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cbdlivin
13 years ago
I have had a soul mate in my life and it was amazing, I would hope that it is possible there is another soul mate out there, just have to wait and see.B
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes been there done that,,, a time or two,,,,, mytime soon.........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Then there was the LIFE PARTNER,,, hmmmmm, mybe i'm doing something wrong.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
WELL MYSELF I DONT BELIEVE IN FANTISIES AND MIFTH , I BELIEVE IN WHAT I CAN SEE TOUCH TASTE ,SMELL ECT ,,, ISNT A SOUL, SOMETING YOU CARNT SEE .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Soulmates are not just limited to the traditional relationship........... My Bestfriend is my soulmate, we are kindred spirits, we think alike, we act the same and we are connected spiritually somehow... We met when we were 6 years old, spent our childhood together, went through our teen years together, got drunk and stoned for the first time together. We have seen each other go through difficult times and helped each other through out, even though she lives 300km away, just the sound of her friendly voice just puts a smile on my face. We have also been there for the good times and special times in our lives. We will continue to be there for each other............if that doesnt count as a soulmate, then what does???
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RHP User
13 years ago
Disagree, to me your definition of soul mates are too narrow or at least you have to consider that some people have a broader definition. Why does a soul mate have to be a sexual partner and one at a time? Or someone that is supposed to stay in your life long term? In reality your "soul mate" will never be able to satisfy all your needs. And why should they? You still need other people and relationships whatever their form. You can have a deep connection and affinity with male & females. Can't you? Handmaiden, I understand that you don't want anyone else sexually but it is a choice you have made not to seek others. There is nothing to say you couldn't meet another man who affects you in a similar way. So hardtruckin, so if you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them. Are they your soulmate? So you always have to love your soul mate? There are just too many ways of looking at it. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hence my question. What do we all mean when we say soul mate?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Someone who will always love you, faults, flaws, imperfections, good, bad or ugly. Would never try to change you, acceptance, as well as having the communication skills to discuss sexual stuff and blah blah blah
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rk5tar
13 years ago
You can have more than one.My first is my husband. As much as we love to push each others buttons sometimes, it keeps things interesting and we have plenty in common that we love about each other.My other soulmate would be my best friend. I've never known a friend like her. I feel very priviledged to have the people I do have and consider close enough to be soulmates.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do love the way you challenge my perspective....I will no doubt visit my think tank on my way to Townsville, and will come back to you on this as you raise some very interesting questions. Like always :)
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rk5tar
13 years ago
What a soulmate means to me... (sorry I didnt see your question when I posted before and not sure if you meant it for anyone to reply or just Hardtruckin & Handmaiden.)My first soulmate (hubby) Is so because we know each other so well and he makes up the strengths where I have weaknesses, and vice versa. We can strike up random conversations over nothing and make it something. A situation can occur and one of us blurts out a random movie line from our favourites, and we run with it for a laugh. We can be competitive with each other and not kill each other. We have something good happen and immediately run to tell each other. There's more of course, but its the little random things we do and have grown to enjoy together that noone else would understand what the hell we're on about.My best mate soulmate is a different kind. Relating to what you mentioned about a soulmate not being able to fulfill your every need. In my case this is true. My husband fulfills one set that noone else can, as does my best mate. She "gets" me. She made the ffort to understand me and all my quirks and stuff ups and understands how I work. Whereas my husband still hasnt quite got that figured out. But maybe thats because he doesnt think on such an emotional level like girls do and communicate it effectively. My mate also has a way of being able to "do something" without doing much. Knowing when to step in or an uncanny way of knowing something is wrong, even if we havent spoken and then will pry it out of me and we sort it out. Its just an intense sort of bond we have that noone else could ever have, and I doubt I will ever have the same with anyone else on a non sexual/relationship kind of way.There's things he fulfils that she can't, and things she fulfils that he cant, and they both between them fulfil everything I need and not another person comes close.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd like to think that there are potential soul mates all over. I guess, it's whether we take a risk in allowing ourselves to be open to the possibility of finding "the one.":)
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RHP User
13 years ago
As I Buddhist I quite vehemently believe in reincarnation, so yes I believe we have many soul mates in many forms. Ever met someone that you feel like you already know? Two weeks in and you know each other inside out? It doesn't have to be a sexual relationship but could be a colleague, friend, anyone. Then you probably have met before in another life, perhaps they were your sister, friend, boss... I do believe there is one true soul mate with who we match perfectly, but you may meet people who were lovers, friends, or siblings in a previous life and these are soul mates too. I've only ever met three people who I know I've met before in lives before this one, two are friends and one my ex bf. the connection he and I have is spooky scary. So yes, I believe we have more than one soul mate and a soul mate doesn't have to mean a romantic partner.
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ma2518
13 years ago
what happens when you find one but there all ready taken
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think ive had two one was short but intence then after a while the second for four years both hell different feelings but the learning about who you are after each one is the biggest thing acknowledging what happend letting go and moving on but being happy with who you are and in life for the next then it can be awesome again too many people seem to hold onto there past and think there partner is there to bring them happiness they can for a while but it ends. but still recon we meet people through life for a reason to either better our selfs or to help them till we are ready to meet that one that lasts a life time so all you can do is respect the past learn what you need to. Hold on to the good memories the ones that make you smile and you meet people again just dont let the shitty parts consume your life or thats where you will always be. im not saying its easy far out i think every one has there days the wow is me ones i always find they get less and less and you think back to the good times you have had and get that kind of happy warmth inside. You got to have shitty times so you can appreciate the good ones so much more. Or the other option is belive thats it no ones ever comming and get all down Id rather be happy it feels better inside and im not looking for the third we will meet when we do just have fun with where you are and what your doing and change what you need so you can
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RHP User
13 years ago
you post from iphone all the soaces and parragraphs disappear oh well
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've been sitting here now for a few hours postulating about your comments, and something just didn't add up; and that is the fact I can't argue with what you've said. That has now led me to the conundrum that if I can't argue, then I must agree. But if I agree, is it my definition that's out of focus, or is it my ability to recognise a person that constitutes 'soul mate' status has infact entered my life?? And could it be that others are the same and we confuse definition with recognition??
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RHP User
13 years ago
eh...who needs a soul mate when u can have a fuck buddy? or two.. ;))
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RHP User
13 years ago
As I said at the beginning... It's all about expectations. Imagine what might happen if you broaden your perspective and maybe look at things a little differently all sorts of new possibilities may present themselves. What is a soul anyway? Lol. I think the point a lot of people are making is that you meet someone who speaks to you on another level, and this may mean different things for different people. The soul is not a physical thing therefore to me why should a soul mate have to be translated into the physical or sexual. By the way, don't listen to me. I know jack shit about it all. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
Confuse definition with recognition? Well, yes if your definition is that this person has to be everything to you and satisfy you in every way and that they will be totally satisfied by you in return. That you don't need anyone else. This is near impossible to achieve. This is the fairy tale. I have friends who I am pretty sure believe that this is what they are waiting for. So they are close to 40 and still single & not much sex either. One day they will look back and see all the opportunities they missed and all the fun they could have had looking for "Mr Right"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'I've been sitting here now for a few hours postulating about your comments, and something just didn't add up; and that is the fact I can't argue with what you've said. That has now led me to the conundrum that if I can't argue, then I must agree. But if I agree, is it my definition that's out of focus, or is it my ability to recognise a person that constitutes 'soul mate' status has infact entered my life?? And could it be that others are the same and we confuse definition with recognition?? A) for admitting that you might be wrong/can't argue the point further B) for openly reflecting to us C) for giving me something to think about: that "we confuse definition with recognition?"
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I met my exwife we were 14, so really had no idea what was coming, I truly thought she was it and a bit. I lost my mind over her in a big way which is why 10 years later I'm apprahensive about believing anything positive about relationships
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RHP User
13 years ago
we have many and many more to meet. I find kindred spirits are harder to come by
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RHP User
13 years ago
first,is you.Self love is not selfish love,spending time getting to know yourself is often about spending time alone.Sometimes we have a fear of doing this.We like to fill our lives with the white noise of busy lives ,never taking time to listen to our inner voice. We go through our lives searching ,questing for the holy grail of love,thinking that if only we can find the ''ONE'' we will finally be happy.Misery is a choice,loneliness is a choice,and it's not the same as solitude.Look around you at the people who are already in your life,how much love is already in your life,family ,friends,and forget about the endless search,just be,enjoy your wonderful life. I once heard a very wise old Tibetan say''you Westerners have such good karma,but you don't seem to have the karma to enjoy it''.....x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
absolutely, because I have mine - we totally "get" each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Confuse definition with recognition? Well, yes if your definition is that this person has to be everything to you and satisfy you in every way and that they will be totally satisfied by you in return. That you don't need anyone else. This is near impossible to achieve. This is the fairy tale. I have friends who I am pretty sure believe that this is what they are waiting for. So they are close to 40 and still single & not much sex either. One day they will look back and see all the opportunities they missed and all the fun they could have had looking for "Mr Right" Doesn't it come down to just being able to recognise when the said soulmates enter your life? I agree with your definition completely.. I have a friend, yeah we've been down the sex road, the dating road, but it didn't work out. She just gets me, and I seem to call when she's upset, and vice versa. So by definition, perhaps I haven't been open to recognise this woman, as a soulmate? And could it be agreed to, that maybe we all suffer from not recognising these types of people, and therefore taking these people for granted? Which only then leaves the regret and recognition after they've left, would you agree?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'honeybee0086' Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'I've been sitting here now for a few hours postulating about your comments, and something just didn't add up; and that is the fact I can't argue with what you've said. That has now led me to the conundrum that if I can't argue, then I must agree. But if I agree, is it my definition that's out of focus, or is it my ability to recognise a person that constitutes 'soul mate' status has infact entered my life?? And could it be that others are the same and we confuse definition with recognition?? A) for admitting that you might be wrong/can't argue the point further B) for openly reflecting to us C) for giving me something to think about: that "we confuse definition with recognition?" I am far from knowing all the answers, if I did, wouldn't I be a rich man??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't believe this.. But I’m totally with Meeka on this one.I think a soul mate can be a special person that arrives at your life, spends a little time, moves on.. Both of you being richer. A relationship does not need to be long to be significant. Quoting 'Meeka100' ....Why does a soul mate have to be a sexual partner and one at a time? Or someone that is supposed to stay in your life long term?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Or a cool dude with a shaved head and bare feet in an orange robe smelling of incense..~smiles~ Quoting 'hardtruckin2011' I am far from knowing all the answers, if I did, wouldn't I be a rich man??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bahahaha SANDLEwood perhaps :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
good pair of thongs, so I do sposse I have 2 good good down to earth (slightly cheesy) sole mates :DBut I used to a pirate in my last life.____
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's an understanding, it's comfortable, spiritual, the ultimate connection. A bond that's expressive, open and without fear.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' It's an understanding, it's comfortable, spiritual, the ultimate connection. A bond that's expressive, open and without fear. what's with the carrot.....pilbara frying you is it :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Scientifically (hormonally), it takes 3 months for someone to” fall in love" with a crush and 1-3 years for this feeling to fade. For most people however, it takes about one year to "fall out of love". After the honeymoon phase is over, some people will move on to something/someone else, some will stay for different reasons... kids, marriage..? Others will be too comfortable in their present situation to start over and the familiarity will keep them going, even if in some cases they might look for something "on the side". If the bond developed between your partner and you is too strong to let go (love?), even though the spark is gone and you are not "in love" anymore you can still decide to work on it. Some couples might live up some fanasies (hullo RHP!) or something to keep it up. Otherwise just move on, someone new might spark your interest and start the same thing over. A relationship is a piece of ongoing work that requires efforts from both sides - Only good communication, honesty, intimacy and attachment can keep it going. My point of view however, I'd be happy to hear of couples with different views/experiences?
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RHP User
13 years ago
...and none of it describes the relationship I have with Jennylee. I'm still "in love" with her. I look at her and I'm taken by her beauty. We have the same wants and dreams. We finish each others sentences. At the end of the day, I head straight home from work because I've missed her. I have to admit, I never believed in fairytales and happily ever after until Jennylee.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '2_Passion_Fruits' Scientifically (hormonally), it takes 3 months for someone to” fall in love" with a crush Took me all of one week to fall in love and one more to accept his proposal of marriage. Do I regret it? Nope.
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RHP User
13 years ago
How long have you been together?
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RHP User
13 years ago
In other news, Freya will be celebrating her birthday this month. All the best, Freya. Your twentyfirst, isn't it?
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RHP User
13 years ago
@jensman1903 Congratulations, it's good to hear. It is sad, but just what I see everyday and would love to be proven wrong. I maintain the fact however that without good communication etc.. the relationship wouldnt flourish.
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RHP User
13 years ago
To me a soulmate is just that - a person i have more than a strong connection with. A soulmate is someone with whom i have a number of different, expansive and interesting simpatico-s with and we share a desire to explore. Someone who helps grow my soul.For me anyway, soul mates are more often women than men.I dont necessarily think that soul mates are forever i.e. the 'fairytale" - all of us grow differently and at different times / pace. I do think that they exist for significant periods of time and that they have profound resonances on my journey. Therefore - yes i believe we can enjoy multiple soul mates.I think the key is to value connections and know that sometimes they unveil soul mates.
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RHP User
13 years ago
me and Winston Churchill,born on the same dayx R.....congrats to you and the lovely jennylee
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '2_Passion_Fruits' How long have you been together? 9 years...very nice...to join "jensman" 's camp of "happy campers"...we have been together, for 15 years...and still can't keep ,our hands off each other...and it just gets better, and better....still very much in love...and still very,very hungry for one another....
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RHP User
13 years ago
@sensualtimestoo Im really glad to hear!
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RHP User
13 years ago
When I was a teenager ( quite a while ago), I met this girl who i thought was my soulmate, and she did too. we were in our late teens, I was on my own since 15 dad was dead, didnt know my mom, and worked on local farms for my keep. She was up from Pittsburgh to get away from the hard city life to her aunt and uncle.... and he sexually abused her. we were both a wreck and hung on to each other for dear life on school vacation and during school and of course did it like rabbits, anywhere, any time ( an when we could I ALWAYS had my hand buried between her legs:) ) She ended up marrying this guy who was stationed in Berlin Germany, i think at her moms pushing to get her away from a little vagrant like me with no future. Later, i joined the army because there was nothing in a small town and they trained you with job skills, and ended doing a career. I was DEVASTATED that she left me, and hitch-hiked everywhere in the pennsylvania January snow looking for her, and almost froze to death.Later, when the internet was getting big, I just decided to type in her married name and we caught back up. He was retired and head of the local police department in california and she was a computer programmer. We went back down memory lane and talked about hooking back up. She said she miscarried my baby in Germany and left him for a while and came back home looking for me but people said i joined the army and they didnt know where i was at, and SHE lost it. she sent me a song 'I know your out there somewhere', by the moody blues, and I just LOST it.Then facebook crops up, I wasnt online for a week and she looked me up. She was dying of cancer. She had left her husband because he cheated on her, and was seeing some other guy who stuck with her even though they were chopping her up piece by piece. She wanted to come to Australia before she died to see me and never made it. She died last year, and it still kills me.HOWEVER, about 3 years ago, I met another woman that just shook me out of my tree, and it is like we knew each other in another lifetime, and i dont even believe in that. We considered each other soul mates. I was married at the time and did the 'fooled around and fell in love thing', but dragged the chain in getting a divorce and it gutted her so she left me AFTER I left my wife. We are now on rocky soil and she doesnt trust me with her heart. So here I sit waiting for her to make up her mind. If she does decide in my favor, you wont see me on this site again:)I DO think you can have more than one soul mate in a lifetime, didnt believe i could ever feel this way about someone EVER.
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RHP User
13 years ago
posted SEVEN times! weird. didnt do that on purpose
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes you can have many soul mates and they can even be your friends or siblings a soul mate comes into your life to teach you a spiritual lesson and then you learn from it and take it with you onto your next relationship .. I think you are thinking of the twin flame (which is your actual true soul partner) soul mates are the ones you meet along the way to help you on your journeyp.s don't ask me how I know this :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
23 years with a man who I love so hard it hurts . Never thought about life without him , he is everything to me and I feel like we are as one . Soul mate , who knows? I do know though that I am complete when he is by my side and in his company I am whole . Passionately in love from the first day we met ( fucked that day too !)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd be happy to find just one. I doubt I will now.
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Playful2looking
13 years ago
Quoting Jennylee1903 They might be out there but you stop looking after youve found the one. There are 6 billion stories out there on our lonely planet. almost like stars in the sky. It is possible to love more then one person. Sure its possible.
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luvlust
13 years ago
Can't agree more. Becoming that 'one' in this game of life is a gift that is something that doesn't appear to bless most relationships, to those of us that do experience it are the very lucky ones,we we're in love from the minute we laid eyes on each other. Unfortunately we didn't fuck on that first day as there were extenuating circumstances but we got there eventually! Oh we can see that in you two deliciouscplbris - nice. ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our answer is yes and that is a big YES. We all have different phases in our lives and different people we meet, we love and sometimes have to move on. We believe that over our life times we meet a number of soul mates. As in souls we have interacted with before and will probably interact with again.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have discovered three thus far. Each has been quite similar in so many ways, yet also each has unique qualities. I have fallen in love with each, married one, and am still in contact with all three. Each has given me amazing passionate experiences, and deeply intimate emotional and intellectual moments as well. I fully expect, and hope, that the journey is not over yet and there will be others I will discover in the future.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart' I found mine, and then foolishly drove him away. Damn I hope I find another one. I never knew I was alive until I loved like that. You poor thing, I agree sometimes you don't know what you had until it's lost, move on you must.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I hate that word! Soulmate??? bullshit! lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
but i havent discounted the possibility yet im new here maybe my soulmate is here waiting for me
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know exactly how that feels, but fear not, it is possible to find another. No guarantee that will happen though! I think sometimes we find the right person at the wrong time in our lives, when we aren't ready or have not grown enough within ourselves to maintain it and drive them away! Life is short and I think it is human nature to yearn for that kind of connection. It is definitely possible to find more than one in a lifetime though!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can't remember if I commented on this earlier....butIi have recently had a major change in my life. I have met someone, who I not only connect with, have fallen in love with, but completely adore. I'm in fact, picking up my life and career and moving over a 1000kms to be with her. If you had asked me after my divorce, I would have said that soulmates probably don't exist, even if i did want to believe them, now I believe that this unfamliar ache i feel when i am so far away from partner is something to do with my soul. I remember reading an earlier post on this thread, where someone said that there may be multiple soulmates, and that theywould come into your life at different points. I like that idea, I could consider some of my closest friends, those i refer to as family, that know all of my past transgressions, and triumphs and have helped shape me into who I am, soulmates. But this woman that I have met, she makes all my loved ones, everything i care about seem insignificant. Such is my devotion ( did I spell that right?), my admiration and my love for her. I think that she is my true soulmate.Oh yeah...I don't know if all the friends that i have made on RHP will read this but those that do (HoneyBee,Brave_Heart, MissM, HT, Lu, Meeks, DG, Drift, Freya and tortured) thanks for all your wonderful comments and for helping me realise who i was, who i am, and who i want do be. With out you all, i would have never experienced my fantasies, or have had the nerve to the beautiful woman i now call my own, and hopefully one day my wife. My love and Best wishesMyles
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RHP User
13 years ago
well there was a time that I believed that I trully found my soul mate....she was more than I had prey to my dreams... However it was her fault that we are not sitll together... She was so jealous of me even we were living together...that was the thorn that end up everything.. After some years I realized that if she was my soul mate we would be still together, so I am in search again. I wont stop even if i have to turn every stone of this plannet....However I know also that sometimes what we are looking for is already there and waiting for us too... we just have to open our eyes.thanks for this topic beachlass...It is always good to express things that we buried deep inside us, even in a forum.
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