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Sorry, but you're really bad in the sack.....
November 30 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
No not to their face! I just would not put myself in that position to get them in the sack again!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont think I can be mean enough to burst some guys fragile little bubble. All the men I have had serious relationships with have been damn good sexually or I would not have lingered. The male ego is a delicate thing and to be told that thier technique lacks finnesse could be enough to send them over the edge, could cause any amount of psycological damage. Yes I could tell them gently but if they are a random...why bother?
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playful4u
13 years ago
We have and with one and them a second chance as they had shown potential.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If i'm talking to someone on here for a few Weeks and there bragging about how good they are, we meet and i'm not satisfied, even remotely, i'm gunna tell ya! Likewise if its not working while were doing it, i'm gunna tell ya. If you don't hear back from me, well simply you weren't worth it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't be honest, if they suck help them not to suck. I once tried constructive criticism, ended poorly. :(It kinda feels like the age old question 'do I look fat in this' no matter what you answer is you are for pain! :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
however, if they contact me again I will tell them that the spark wasnt there.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And I don't think I would want to say that they were "bad in the sack", and wouldn't like it said to me either... I personally would prefer to use the term "not sexually compatible" And if an explaination was needed I would give it... One woman's dud could be another woman's stud...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why blow a persons self worth just because they didnt live up to your expectation on the day. Who's to say we wer'nt on a downer ourself at that time.. I've had good and not so good sex with the same person more than once.. Is'nt that the law of averages. ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ive soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo wanted to, and sooooooooooooooooooooooo havent....yep Ive wimped out on this one...not proud of this btw Such a toughie..........I mean how do you DO IT ? - mens egos (sorry) soooooo fragile.. And to make things worse (when they have come back cause they thought the hokie pokie between us was good) Ive dodged bullets and subsequently dodged them by avoiding... (the old.."Gee Ive met someone, sorry " line -is brought into play ) I know I know..I can hear you all judging me.............. Its my fault though - Im still of the theory (and this one has never failed me ok) if they cant kiss, they cant fuck..so when I keep at it after that first woeful (read slobbering) kiss...then I get what I deserve... See I just don't get it either...with access nowdays to so much sex EVERYWHERE...how come guys cant kiss ???, let alone fuck...especially if they are out there having endless partners ??.................yes yes I know Im contributing to the problem by not auto correcting the poor guy...and therefore the next lovely lady he is with next , has to put up with it (like me) or take him on and make him a better man ...Im truly sorry sisters.. So on this one Im a wimp master....yet Im open to the fact that if I wasnt doing it rite Id like to know..a paradigm However this is all hypothetical...as Im embraced my celibacy.............................................................again Good topic and wil be interested to see what others post...... Yes ....xfulovingx - Im still reading, embracing and growing..Im doing ok thanks - I hope you are too ...:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I hate someone telling they are good... I will be the judge of that, and if you please me, I will let YOU know..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was bad in bed in that I did not respond, this was when I was younger. I was the star fish but that never stopped any man from climbing on and going hammer and tongs on the barbi girl Some are thought bad in bed, as they do not have the chemistry that’s needed to get your juices flowing. I can get off with a guy that is a ten second root, if the chemistry is there in the kiss. So what I am saying is that I am an easy root if I am turned on instantly. If its not there in the first five seconds its never going to be there, so that’s when you say no. If a man is quick of the mark then I just go second time around, or get him to eat my out. I have been the dud root and the shit kisser. If only someone had taken the time back then to show me where I was going wrong. Like that thread TR 101, You are so right Sinabee, that its up to us to help out men that are doing it so wrong, slow them down guide them and also say to them , listen honey that was not so hot I have done that recently , from a very good looking hot as hell body , fireman. Smart , articulate, but the sex even with the ripped body was nothing to write home about. so when he ask me for more I had to say No and I said why I said this You know the chemistry was not there, as well as me Neither one of us wants mediocre sex, do we? He agreed Sometimes we start something and realise that its not working, but its just to hard and awkward to stop and you do not want to hurt another persons feelings. Some men do not care if they are a dud fuck at all, because they just want to empty their balls. So you would waste your time even telling them as care factor would be zero. I guess we have to take them one dick at a time and decide if we want to hand out a clue with the pussy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great post people. I am interested to hear what you all think is a dud fuck. Is it because the guy comes to quickly (my problem), can't keep it hard, you don't have an orgasm, you don't like being fucked hard or some other reason. I have learn't that the best looking people don't necessarily make the best sex partners. I have been to a few swingers parties that are run by a moderator and you need to join the group to be invited. I have enjoyed the sex that I have had, however none of the ladies concerned have attended the next party, so it has got me thinking that I might be a dud fuck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't mind being told if I'm not up to the job, just like to be left with a remote idea what was the problem. I know there are people who you meet and think would be not for you but I think still, its about chemistry and finding something interesting about the person your with. Its can be a bit easy slotting imto a "role" and not actually being there for the other person because you are just going through the motions. I always like it if a woman tells me what she enjoys. Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don’t think anybody will tell you when you are a bad fuck. I think I have been or why do some not come back? See, its with both sides you are happy when some don’t ask you again because it didn’t happen for you with them. It means nothing what is said before hand we al, I believe show off a bit. Hmm so what makes a bad sexual encounter or a good one. All in the chemistry???? don’t you all think so? With some I feel like a match made in heaven....I feel like it , however do they feel the same? Who knows? And with some is just OK. You learn as you go and you learn to pick better as you go. That’s what I think. Cheers Litonya
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can remember last year a night when I seriously sucked as far as shagging goes....completely off my game and owned up to it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No and I wouldn't as I could see no value to anyone in saying something like that, either to them or indirectly to anyone else. Good or bad is subjective and could just be a reflection of the other person not actually being that 'into you' either, same shoe different foot. It happens, we're all just human after all, so maybe spend a bit more time getting to know the person first. That will translate too, what could have been just another day at the office turns in to the day that you won the lottery. On a good day, life is strange at times and always full of surprises.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But I have said to someone 'the sex wasn't great, hey?'. No blame, just acknowledgment that we had a dud experience in my view. He said he thought it was pretty good, but then ... he was stoned at the time, and a two minute wonder :) I would never say I was good in bed and it turns me straight off when anyone brags. It's situational, and about the connection between the people, surely? I'm high-spirited, always horny, spontaneous, lusty, putty in the hands of the right man, forceful and in charge when the mood takes me, very tactile, and have my list of mild kinks that turn me on. But only one man has ever seen me this way - all sexy woman. He thought I was the sexiest thing alive and awesome in bed, and I thought he was breathtaking. Other men, where my guard has been a little or a lot up, would say I'm anything from a dud root, to pleasant, to good,maybe even great, but probably not excellent or extraordinary. Heart and spirit are key for me and without them I'm only half there. So, I figure I probably shouldn't criticise others for being rubbish in bed :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Think being good/ bad in bed is just part of the whole process.I am one of those people who likes to be mentally stimulated and teased as well as physically stimulated and teased.I would never be so rude as to say to a lover "your a dud root"I always look on the bright side of life,lust and love, enjoy having all my emotions shocked with stimulation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
an orderly queue,I have put together a Sexual Prowess and Compatibility form and in the interests of performance improvement I am happy to give feedback to any man who has been left wondering by all the other reticent and kind women. Sessions will be held every Saturday and Sunday to allow for your travel time.I shall be as brutally honest as because unlike Pinocchio I have a very small nose.Freya Sexual Prowess Consultant.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never told anyone to their face that they are bad in the sack. I wouldn't want to make them feel insecure about the way they perform in the bedroom. I normally let them down gently if they want to meet again, saying that I am busy. Another reason I don't mention (bad sex) to them is because they may not be bad in the sack so to speak, they just may not be what I find good in the sack ( does that make sense? ).
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think Tuscanred hit it on the lips...errr...nose...if a person is a S**T kisser, they are most likely going to be a non- memorable F**K...I have only ever had one bad experience, she was all over my face with her mouth wide open and her tongue out like some half-crazed marmaduke-type dog...at least I got my face washed...Anyway, since then, my yardstick has always been:- the mental connection comes first- meet and kiss...if the kiss is terrible, I find a way to stop it going any further...As for me, I like to learn. Every woman is different...she has buttons which need pushing in a different way to turn her on...and she should help me by showing me or telling me what she likes...mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...and what she doesn't like...Ricky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'justjuice'Why blow a persons self worth just because they didnt live up to your expectation on the day. Who's to say we wer'nt on a downer ourself at that time.. I've had good and not so good sex with the same person more than once.. Is'nt that the law of averages. ? So right in what you say justjuice.... we all like different things and thats what makes the world go round... so they say! What is good for one woman/man is shite with another....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Funloving :) Thanks for the topic.. I have said that to a Guys face but in such a way that it wasn't demeaning Insulting nor emasculating..Infact after we just sat there and had a Giggle about it.I then asked him if he would like me to teach him to be a good lover.he accepted gratefully so we enjoyed eachother as he obtained the skills he required in all areas.Once he was ready willing and able We remained friends but I sent him off to enjoy others .He ended up with 3 Women he was pleasuring very well which made me smile he!he! From that instance I went on to tutor a few more younger Males too. I couldn't leave them so unprepared and missing the Passion of sharing sexual Intimacy with another just through Ignorance.. I think I found My Calling ha!ha! Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will keep in your mind for future reference Cheers Shinas..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I mention to a guy once that he was becoming selfish in bed and that went down badly and all I got then was text messages with some awful names being called. I prefer honesty and guess some people do not, even if it done with respect and care.
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is a toughie, I had a partner that while really good in bed gave the worst oral ever! In fact it would hurt when she would lash her tongue across the head of my cock :-O. And when she would get the right motion going and I started moaning she would start lashing again and I would almost jump out of the bed it was that uncomfortable. I would try give her the right signals and tell her when I was liking what she doing but it didn't help. Wish I had the guts at the time to tell her straight up but I didn't want to upset her at the time :/
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RHP User
13 years ago
You all made my point exactly! As my thread was to point out to all the guys out there that say "I have never had a complaint" is because noone wants to hurt anyone! I do what most girls do on here...pretend to enjoy it and then make up excuses to not see them again when they contact me! . I love how sensitive you all are to others feelings! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh! Ha!ha!ha! Thank you hun. Belive me the Pleasure was all mine too because I was the focus of their attention. I drilled them until they got it. Actually they were quick learners so I had a lot of pleasuring most of the time He!he! There's a sense of fulfilment when I send 1 off into the wide world like a Mother bird letting her chicks fly he!he! Please feel free to keep me in mind Hun .Due to distance if your Lovers have some issues let them contact me we can chat He!he!Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Deepdarkwoods77'This is a toughie, I had a partner that while really good in bed gave the worst oral ever! In fact it would hurt when she would lash her tongue across the head of my cock :-O. And when she would get the right motion going and I started moaning she would start lashing again and I would almost jump out of the bed it was that uncomfortable. I would try give her the right signals and tell her when I was liking what she doing but it didn't help. Wish I had the guts at the time to tell her straight up but I didn't want to upset her at the time :/ "try to give her the right signals" ... women are not mind readers either. Tell us what we are doing well, encourage us how to give in the ways that please you. Just as all women's needs/wants are different, so are men's. We want to please as much as we want to be pleased, and kind encouragement is a wonderful thing. Some cocks love a good tongue lashing. Others don't.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Silk_Stockings'I mention to a guy once that he was becoming selfish in bed and that went down badly and all I got then was text messages with some awful names being called. I prefer honesty and guess some people do not, even if it done with respect and care. Same happened to me and he even threatened to give out my number (luckily I called his bluff and that was all it was)! But when I told him that there was nothing in it for me as I never enjoyed it .. he then went on the usual rant "Your fat" and "You were just an easy empty anyway" .. Typical how some people react when you say no! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
buried his body...:-P It is definitely a challenge for us men to have... the balls to accept constructive criticism on their lovemaking technique(s)... Hell, I only want a woman to have such a wow of a time That, even if she doesn't see me again, at least when She thinks of me...a smile will slide deliciously across her face, a tingle will dance around her nipples, and a lovely Soft feeling will engulf her...errr...pussy... Ricky :-P
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gah stupid iphone won't let me quote but what I meant by "giving the right signals" was telling her what she was doing was great but then she would start with the lashing haha. I told her quite a few times that it hurt.... Maybe she just didn't like giving head and that was her way of telling me haha.
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