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January 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry OP - but yes..definitely on the wrong site.... Expect nothing and therefore you will be pleasantly surprised if anything ever eventuates...if you a re expecting more than a one niter...well men and women are wired differently....it is what it is !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you are not after one-nighters, you need to do some careful vetting, but even then, you still may meet, and get along, hope into the sack, have a fun time, and then one, or the other decide they really don't want to go there again.It can come down to things that aren't even in your control. I know for me, if I don't like the smell of a guy, I can't keep seeing him. End of story. I'm talking that musky armpit smell, not if he's slathered on too much Brut 33, and that's a completely individual thing, my fresh roasted coffee and cookies is someone else's off-milk.Of course, apparently, there are the usual "players" I've heard so much about. I don't think I've encountered any of them in my time, but I do have a pretty good vetting process, and I do take some time to initially meet, however, being "diseased" I think also helps with this problem.Guys already have to have a good hard think about whether they like me, and if they want to go there, and evaluate the risks for themselves, before we even get to shagging.So, you could always say you have herpes to weed out to non-serious ones! Hahaha.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Charles Dickens' sister Wotthe Dickens wrote a little known classic that should be recommended reading for all who enter here...''No Epectations''
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RHP User
13 years ago
For some reason my reply disappeared but I'll let you in on a secret, that's man speak for "I'm looking for a one night stand with a woman who's looking for more" not going to speak for every man on this site but I'm pretty sure most of them started their profile with one hand on the keyboard so to speak. Not all of us are necessarily like that. But as many people say, it is what it is.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do feel your pain!! Alas, while you would think as a single female that it would be easy to find regular casual sex, the reality can be quite different, even when using a site like this. The sporadic once here and there I get at the moment is driving me insane....I'm horny practically 24 hours a day!! I know I could have more but it's not like I'm willing to fuck anything with a cock, I need a bit of mental stimulation as well and living in a small city it's not like there's large numbers of single males to start with. *sigh*... the first world problems of a horny single girl lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' Sorry OP - but yes..definitely on the wrong site.... Expect nothing and therefore you will be pleasantly surprised if anything ever eventuates...if you a re expecting more than a one niter...well men and women are wired differently....it is what it is !!! Wellllllllllllll, there aren't too many absolutes in this world, and most things are possible. Some people have found love and commitment here. Some people have found one or more ongoing 'fun' buddies. Some people have found exactly what they want, whatever that might be. But yes, I think the chances of finding an appealing man who genuinely wants something regular is slim-ish. It's a candy shop, after all :) In the same way that ready access to extensive porn has given many people a screwed up perspective on sex and relationships, sex hunting grounds like RHP are surely contirbuting to a fuck and run culture. Fine of course if that's what all parties to the fuck want, but unfortunately plenty lie about their intentions just to taste new candy. It's a question of character, I think. Usually you can tell from basic chit chat and Q&A that someone is trying to reel you in for the sport of it. It's up to you if you let them or not :) Personally I'd rather pay a professional!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Already finding someone who is serious about a meet is hard enough as it is. Adding things like 'no one night stands' and must be this ' and must be that .. fair dinkum.. I believe each time someone adds something like that ' half the RHP population fades straight away.. and your chances went with them..You might find somethings in one person but you wont find everything.. To expect to meet the ideal guy or girl at the first instance is fairy tale. First you have to find chemistry and that could come from anywhere or anyone.. Whats the point of waiting for Brad Pitt and later find out he's a woman beater ? not saying he is by the way.. What I am saying is ' your potential partner might not be exactly what your criteria indicatedAll Im saying is the concept of finding a fuck buddy is just as successful as sitting back waiting for mr or mrs right and heaps more fun.. Just like you ladies' we men also get bored with too many meaningless liasons.. but one day someone will come along and stick...Just saying... Jay
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RHP User
13 years ago
Guess it comes down to mutual compatibility and then sex or is it the other way around. I think sex is best enjoyed as you get to know one another over a few sessions……..fantasies, pleasures, bodies, boundaries etc….. looking for a long term friend for mutual ongoing benefits!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Personally....I think that says alot about being true to ones self....some people misrepresent the truth in everyday life. At work it's to make their own self or company look greater than what it is....AND with the belief they will get away with it. Problem is....women are more intuitive than men really give them credit for......the more the others do that, the less others have to do to stand out...just my thoughts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are attached seeking a regular fling with a reliable playmate. Sounds simple enough There are some here who are looking for the same, probably have not found them as yet. I don't believe you are on the wrong site.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But damn you guys can be hard work as well Eg: Fri nite I was home late..logged on to RHP wrote a few posts, wrote to a few buddies..went to bed Sat morning- received a lovely email from a guy…interested in meeting , beautifully worded and a gorgeous profile to match – for some unknown reason I knocked this guy back (lack of sleep ? I don’t know) – politely as I do….but during the day, I rethought my strategy and my reply… so I wrote back to him early Sat evening…apologising for my initial response…and would he reconsider and let’s look at a meet up...he replied that I had turned him down, and it was all very confusing for him ( I don’t know what was confusing. I apologised and made my intentions clear ) …. And then proceeded to be somewhat belligerent and condescending towards me in his responses.. Ok ………….sorry I fucked up ..I misjudged…at least I can admit it…I begged forgiveness….told him I was an idiot ..yada yada yada..…………..but No…he still stuck it to me………….gee I’m sorry I screwed up…it’s called making a mistake………….and as we are locals I thought just a quick drink to see …Yes or No.. Trust me, it’s a myth..that us women can just get laid at the drop of the hat…apparently we can’t , even if we grovel and admit our mistakes and misgivings………………went for a drive instead………..ended up at pub…heard a great band and made a new buddy – the nite wasn’t wasted, but sheesh….hey… I’m sorry !!! Shinas slinks off
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RHP User
13 years ago
No MAN, takes pleasure in hearing a grovelling woman, and shame on him for making YOU do that. Be thankful you didn't meet....he was clearly a nice worded dumbarse!!! Lolbut in all honesty, think of things like taking your dog for a walk....if its a positive experience for the dog, they will want to do it again and YOU will want to do it again....vice versa and you'll lose the positive side to the action and in turn lose the motivation to keep going at it....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Now where were you (advice wise) when I was going thru like all my marriages ???...:) Yeah I did grovel - cause I did feel bad..............NEVER AGAIN !!!... Im only down on my knees for one thing in the future !!!...:) Mmm have I got my instant posting priviledges back ??.....thankyou
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RHP User
13 years ago
Affirm to the instant posting!!!to answer your question....I was too busy grovelling myself :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with GB on this, the guy actually did you a favour - you didn't have to waste your time engaging with him past the second exchange. Can you imagine how he would have treated you once you met and realised that he wasn't your type? Never EVER grovel! Apologies are one thing, but never demean yourself to pleading... you, like all of us, are worth so very much more. On topic - not every male on here is out for a one nighter... I'm certainly not, been there, done that when younger... Now I'm far more interested in getting to know a girl cerebrally as much as physically - far more attraction when there's a meeting of minds. K
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are some guys who are actually looking for an ongoing relationship.I know i am.I have found all types of people come here not just people looking for a one night stand.Just give everyone a chance
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RHP User
13 years ago
If the right person makes life impossible to be without them that's the sign. But most are but a yawn. So its left to just a casual encounter, why break a heart when there nothing but lust. I have learnt to leave the "lets do it again." to only the ones that I would say, "be mine forever" shame forever is such a long time.God the freaks that I have played with. I hang my head in shame. Then on occasion with all but casual in mind that click CLICKS so loud it is the reason I come back. Shinasbabe27 any time,,, you are gorgeous.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Doesn't matter if its RHP, RSVP etc etc blah blah.. they're just words on a profile and they could literally mean anything.. people will say whatever they feel they have to to get what they want whether thats in person or on the internet. My personal experience has been in large part (with rare exception) that they may say that on their profile, but in person the first words out of their mouths are "i'm not ready for/willing to have/interested in a relationship".It'd be nice to meet a woman who didn't bust that out in the first 30 minutes. don't believe what you read, believe what the actions tell you. Sad as it is, the safest personal position is believe and expect nothing from anyone. That way anything else will be a surprise and bonus.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is not always so easy to establish who wants more though.... some people/men are very accomplished liars so occasionally one of them will sneak under the radar no matter how good your vetting process.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Grrl'It can come down to things that aren't even in your control. I know for me, if I don't like the smell of a guy, I can't keep seeing him. End of story. I'm talking that musky armpit smell, not if he's slathered on too much Brut 33, and that's a completely individual thing, my fresh roasted coffee and cookies is someone else's off-milk.Isn't that pheromones? I thought smell played an enormous part in sexual attraction. Doesn't it? It's funny, men I am attracted too I don't somehow remember a smell. However I always notice when I don't like the smell of someone though. I love Brut33 I love smelling their armpits. MMMM
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' Sorry OP - but yes..definitely on the wrong site.... Expect nothing and therefore you will be pleasantly surprised if anything ever eventuates...if you a re expecting more than a one niter...well men and women are wired differently....it is what it is !!!
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GezWouldGo
13 years ago
Pretty simple i think. If it's good .. for both .. why the hell WOULDN'T you want to do it again !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Will all you blokes stop fucking telling lies please?You're getting me a bad name!!
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GezWouldGo
13 years ago
And when it's all said and done, sheer weight of numbers in here make it more likely the ladies are the kids in the candy store rather than the guys.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't actually do the whole one night stand thing too well, much preferring to get to know someone before just jumping into bed with them, yet I'm not ready for a relationship as such. If there was a happy medium I would love to find it. Think I've only messaged one new person in the last 2 weeks and that was just to ask her red bra out for a date... Unfortunately it was a no from the bra :( and shinas, you're better than that! No grovelling ever!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can honestly say most of the shags I have had where I wanted it to be ongoing ... have ended up as ongoing. You can never really know until you 'have done the deed' whether you are truly physically attracted / sexually compatible / mentally stimulated by someone so there's always the possibility it will be a once off but I have a fairly high success rate and most of the people I see regularly I've been seeing for 8 months or longer. Some weekly, some once a month but they always come back :) the sex is much much better I find - more intimate and fun.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have had a few that I wanted to meet with again but never heard back and one that was great for a few times a week. now I just have to find a replacement for him as I haven't heard from him in a while. It happens just not every time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
13 years ago
Ellabella and don't you love it when your men are inspired to go above and betond because of your efforts!! Not talking flowers guys but just little things, like ringing or txting out of the blue to have a laugh with you. Organising a surprise picnic when they're next in town to repay the one you may have arranged prior. Running a bubblebath for 2 and picking up your fave beverage from the bottle-o prior to heading out for the day. Mystery drives and unexpected consideration. I guess if you're going to be a fuck buddy or FWB people you have to realise that requires the ability to respect and treat the object of your lust with dignity and friendship. Anyone can be a one night stand. Not everyone can respect the boundaries of a longer term mutually satisfying sexual friendship. You fuck n run types really don't know what your missing. I genuinely care for my lovers and I know they care back I have the repeat business to show for it! 👼
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RHP User
13 years ago
the assumption that because this is a sex site that all the men are looking for is a blow and go ?Sure, okay, a lot are and at the risk of a sweeping assumption mostly the younger ones. And power to them,but I believe many are here because the women actually have a libido and an interest in a sexual relationship.Whereas in vanilla land (rsvp, oasis) you can date a women for two months only to find she has no interest in sex whatsoever and is just looking for a soul mate, whatever the fuck that is when you can never glimpse her soul let alone put a fire under it ! Have a look through your friends folder, if it looks like a chippendale calendar are you really making good choices based on what you really want or just going for the glamour and taking pot luck on the rest ?If you want a bit of depth, seek it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'It is not always so easy to establish who wants more though.... I ALWAYS want more. Please, sir...
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RHP User
13 years ago
So true, and it's been the same for me. And Meeka you're right, no matter how thorough the vetting process, sometimes a bullshit artist will slip through. Bastards! Lol disappointing but that's life, things often are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
My goodness your new picture is hot!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm NOT after a one night stand - be honest, who wants to stand ALL night ? I would rather be lying down, kneeling, bending, spooning all night hahaaa
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RHP User
13 years ago
May you have a delicious and devious day !!! xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lovely ladies! I'm expecting some very hot birthday presents this afternoon. Quite possibly on my chest...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Tis that time of year you get to blow one extra from the year before - I wish I was a candle - problem is I would be one of those candles that keep relighting themselves ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
The strategy for me.... Is to keep the passion alive and kicking.... That means sometimes.....crazy texts on the way and rip the clothes off on the way in the door...... Other times, it's more like hi honey, I am home, where's the wine and how was your day. Oh you did dinner..woo hoo!!! There is no doubt in my mind that the fun gets better and better each time with someone that you have the connection with. It's comfortable, it hot, it's laughter and sometimes tears from the intensity of the experience. I have a lover, who can go all day and all night....with short breaks for food and cat naps. It's Divine to be able to spend that time when our schedules permit. Other times its just a couple of hours (a quickie)!! Grin. 39 one night stands can be extended to 101 with mutual consent. Honesty and communication are the keys. The trouble arises when one or the other wants to change the rules and there isn't mutual agreement. Sa la vie..... I would rather have engaged and have the memories than sat back and not experienced the fun. For the record, I have had mind blowing orgasms with another lover, without any sexual touching. That too was a development of multiple visits. I still don't understand it but I sure as hell enjoy it. His capacity to give pleasure is an awesome trait. We are still working on a way to market it. And he can cook!!!!! The power of the mind is a a wonderful thing. Fun stuff out of the bedroom is possible too and I really can't have sex with anyone that I don't like enough to spend time with, exercising, movies, picnics, just plain hanging. The key is always communication and acceptance that no means no or not now. We all have lives to lead and whether its once a week or once a month or occasionally, as long as it suits all....... Bring it on. And as a special boost for single guys out there, I have met a few from this site and they are too a man respectful, caring, fine individuals who don't jerk me around and that I am proud to call friends. Guess my filter system works better than most. PS my profile is closed because my dance card is full just now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Happy Birthday Ms_D hope you have a fantastic day & your presents all cum to you in spectacular fashion & you have fun unwrapping them,i am with Meeka100 your new pic is damn hot but works so well with the rest of your sexy pic's xoxo.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Everyone is different but regular ongoing fun is always my preference, allows for better establishment of what the other likes and dislikes and trust in each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Happy Birthday... to you. Like ur pic, nice. No im not teasing and l dont want anything.. just saying.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes you Just Dont want to go back....!
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madotara69
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Grrl'It can come down to things that aren't even in your control. I know for me, if I don't like the smell of a guy, I can't keep seeing him. End of story. I'm talking that musky armpit smell, not if he's slathered on too much Brut 33, and that's a completely individual thing, my fresh roasted coffee and cookies is someone else's off-milk.Isn't that pheromones? I thought smell played an enormous part in sexual attraction. Doesn't it? It's funny, men I am attracted too I don't somehow remember a smell. However I always notice when I don't like the smell of someone though. I love Brut33 I love smelling their armpits. MMMM If pheromones played thier part for how attractive I find Meeka, My head could spontaineously combust. I am sure Meeka smells like flowers in the spring, however my visual and interlect senses are the dominating contributers to this attraction. For example.Sipping from a glass of Brute33Mado xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' It is not always so easy to establish who wants more though.... some people/men are very accomplished liars so occasionally one of them will sneak under the radar no matter how good your vetting process. So, just in passing, two types of men ...Some are accomplished liars. Others are not so accomplished. (I'm the third one.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes you don't know if you want to keep seeing someone until you have had a few dates/slept together a few times. Try before you buy...you can say whatever the hell you want beforehand, but if you don't click or don't like the person enough, maybe it stays as a one-off or a twice-off. Should be no pressure on either side.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'My goodness your new picture is hot!!! When has the delectable Ms_D ever posted a pic that wasn't HOT! (...as in piping)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank you. Thank you. Btw Jensman, that candle on my cupcake was indeed HOT!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ms D Your moat welcome, I wish we could all be there to celebrate your birthday x
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RHP User
13 years ago
^^ MOST
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinasbabe27' Sorry OP - but yes..definitely on the wrong site.... Expect nothing and therefore you will be pleasantly surprised if anything ever eventuates...if you a re expecting more than a one niter...well men and women are wired differently....it is what it is !!! I do have one or two regulars.....I think I'll stick to them. At least I know I can trust them. Still hopeful though...
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RHP User
13 years ago
F*ck!!!!!! That annoys the absolute Crap out if me!!! I've never been able to work men out on this one... Connection, attraction, communication etc etc... all there. Next minute goooooone...nothing...zip!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' F*ck!!!!!! That annoys the absolute Crap out if me!!! I've never been able to work men out on this one... Connection, attraction, communication etc etc... all there. Next minute goooooone...nothing...zip!!!- Posted from rhpmobile The carpet's always greener under someone else's bed.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Same can happen when you meet at a pub or club or even out shopping though! If it isn't hot for me the first time, I certainly don't go back a second time! I have been known to sleep with men and then never see them again! Meh, it's life and it happens! Some men I meet up with just for the sex and I know it will be a one off...some accidently become regulars and that is good too! I get more pissed off at the ones that contact you every three months or so for a booty call, to me it is like they can't find anything else! I prefer attached guys and Interstaters anyway, they know why I am here and I know why they are here....If I wanted more then I would be on an exlusive dating site that is for people looking for love! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why thank you Mado. I think I smell like vanilla. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Will all you blokes stop fucking telling lies please?You're getting me a bad name!! Oh that is great. Seen you here for years. So I carefully vacuum the floor, remove any sharp objects and "rolling on the floor laughing out loud" no point in acronymization of such long phrases. Ouch, who left that pin on the floor... LOL
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sin_DrBest way to spot a liar is the ones that say they don't. It is human nature, its why you lie that is the wrong and right.With lovers that moved on but could not let me go. I have to say I am shock at the ability of some women to lie, did she do the same to me, I have to wonder. But then perfection is not real and not expected.Hands up anyone that has never told a lie.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Hands up anyone that has never told a lie. Well, you sure know how to kill a conversation!
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madotara69
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Why thank you Mado. I think I smell like vanilla. :D hehehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
In case you were wondering ... I'm still here
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have updated my attitude...amd my profile. No longer looking for on-going.... What was I thinking anyway??? There is a smorgasboard here...I'm diving in!
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