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Some advice
March 02 2010
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wannabyummymummy
16 years ago
Seems to me you have bigger issues here if you are asking this question, you say you never argue about your request and that you live happily but then you ask should you leave her??? ( i am confused)have you ever thought that maybe she just isn't really into the idea of a threesome and that is why she is putting it off??Maybe she would be happy for you to have the threesome you desire with two other women where she didn't have to be involved?I really think that communication is the key here, does she know you are on RHP?? do you both play?? have you discussed your options?Look sometimes when you have been with someone for a long time things get a little dull and sex gets put to the side while kids/life take over and that is when some couples look to this kind of lifestyle (that is how it happened for my husband and I) but you have to be strong in your relationship and completely devoted to each other for it to work.For us, we are new to this and thankfully we are strong in our relationship because we have had the odd confronting moment here and it has been communication that has got us through.At the end of the day, asking if you should leave her in a place like this is probably not a great sign, i hope you can sort it out
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Bubbaj
16 years ago
to leave after 15 yrs just becoz she wont do a threesome?! harsh....how about opening up about it and talking more. see what is her real problem with a threesome first before even contemplatin the leave? she might have issues such as insecurity or she just plain aint that interested to try it...who knowsi reckon after 15 yrs, the communication should b open and not just terminated
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RHP User
16 years ago
She may leave you for her Girlfriend ..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Nic baby darling YES leave her !!!! come to me, for all those lovely goodies I will also promise you a three sumDevinely waiting xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Meah, It's no surpirse to my wife that I always find a way to enjoy myself when she goes on a holiday and leaves me to my own devices. How long have you been married? 15 years? Yep... start making some plans for while she is away. :p Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
To paraphrase my favourite aussie tv starsI just wanna know less about the effluent peoples in perth chat roomI wanna see less private galleries where it looks like yr upholstered in yr grannies all in 1 bra/girdle/corset thingI wanna see more funny people and subjectsI want more stalky's and lippy's and 4nic's except for the bit where ya bum hangs out of the g string, im so not musicalmuch love to Kath and Kim
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RHP User
16 years ago
This type of 'funny ha ha' stuff usually comes from Contendedone You two taking turns now or wot?...lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
You say you've never argued about it. Maybe you should. Remember an argument isn't a fight (even though most turn into one), so try to stay calm and simply point out she owes you four threesomes. If she whinges tell her you'll settle for three. Never been to Thailand? Haggle, man! And if you only get her stuff so she fulfils your sexual requirements (which is kinda unethical anyway), stop buying stuff first you silly man. "Hey baby, look at this. I picked this design for a miraculous pool and spa, it'll go over there. I got a quote, its $90k. Want me to get it? Give Helena a call and tell her to come over with some lingeree and baby oil and I might think about it." Random
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RHP User
16 years ago
Taking this seriously....i thought it was toungue in cheek...or pussy...lolSooo Confused.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey I never fought with my ex and still dont. Also I continuely promised to give up smoking for him .....for the wedding....getting pregnant... turning 40........whatever. I always pomised but guess I didnt really want to please him so I never did :) You just cant attach conditions or time lines to things. You either do something or you dont. Good luck xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
The voice of reason....The divine Mz Devine! Anyone who quotes Kath and Kim are ok in my G'strings...
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RHP User
16 years ago
....that little pinky of hers.....cos she's got you wrapped real tight baby! Anyway, this is a "sex site" where nice guys finish last.....apparently So I guess if you are amongst friends, there is no reason to leave (and would she let you???) Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ok enough. here are the factsWas promised once but thats ok would never hold her to itYes am taking the pissNO I wouldn't leave her over thatAttempting to liven up this fourumLove to read the different opinionsAs some else wrote forum needs some spiceContendedone please explainAnd finally TOTALLY wrapped in her)))))Thanks everyone
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RHP User
16 years ago
Big question and you expect a serious answer on such limited information. Sound for the limited information she knows how to push your buttons ....lol15 years you must have something BUT seem you have doubts.TALK TO HERI wish I had taken my own advice for my 23+ marriagegood luck ciao Hermes
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RHP User
16 years ago
man oh man,,,,lots of haha's for you you gave her the key to your wallet,, and look what she does with it, new car, asia,remodels the house, gives up work and now wants a pool,, ring and a trip to the states,, why would she want a threesome to happen now or any other time she's doin ok without it wouldn't you say?????who knows,, if you hadn't tried to buy the threesome in the first placeyou may have already had it by now,or not,, if she ever wanted it in the first place or was just trying to appease your needs with an unvoluntary maybe,,,as i'm sure you had the pressure on from the start
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RHP User
16 years ago
hmmm, should you leave her.... why are you thinking about leaving her if you "live together quite happily"? do you want to leave her? i guess if you really want to leave her then do whats right for you, but if it were me, i wouldnt ruin a working 15yr relationship over a threesum. mayeb she likes the IDEA of a threesum but isnt sure if she can go thru with it when it comes to the crunch? instead of playing games with her about it, just TALK to her. tell her you WONT get her THINGS so she gets YOU a threesum, the threesum can be for BOTH of your enjoyment so you dont really need to trade anything do you? and besides, you have already paid for it several times, havnt you??? is your threesum fantasy so strong now that you are willing to sacrifice your relationship for it? if so.... i hope it is a REAL good threesum for you when you get it! i guess what im trying to say is.... try to sort it out first before you do something that you may perhaps regret. just my opinionluv jemma
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RHP User
16 years ago
after all you have given her over the years, she still won't give you a threesome?!?maybe instead she just gave you a loving wife, partner, friend and mother of your four children... what a bitch!having said that, if she's still playing the threesome card to manipulate your generosity, maybe my 'bitch' comment shouldn't have been sarcastic..perhaps you should have showered her with her desires because she is your wife and you love her, not because you want a threesome. perhaps she resents this fact, and will continue to use the threesome tease because of this...you should elaborate more on your fifteen year conundrum.leaving your family should not be based on the fact that you want to fuck another girl, and she doesn't.she probably never wanted to do it, and is pissed that you would want to even look at another girl, let alone fuck her. she should be your loving wife and all that you desire. that's why you married her. so from her point of view, if she's not into threesomes, you wanting to include another girl is just as bad as you wanting to cheat on her.hence, even though she may joke about it and go along with your request, she's still hurt and will use it against you to get the nice things she wants instead.**(disclaimer)** these opinions are merely a collection of various points of view from the author, taking into account the variety of actual situations the persons involved could be facing. without knowing further details of said relationship, speculative opinions are all that can be offered at this point.added to this, said author of the aforementioned comments has little or no experience with threesomes (relationship involved or otherwise), swinging, group sex, anonymous sex, etc.. henceforth one's opinions may be biased somewhat..
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RHP User
16 years ago
please note i'm halfsleep, half-a-spaz when it comes to typing.the old love and lust see-saw it's like Prison sex, the sex you want you ain't getting , the sex your getting you don't want.... joke aside,you have been with your partner for 15 years, are you still in love with her or just love her.- think about it.as most people have said Speak to her, but sometimes women believe it or not can hide there feelings behind other feelings to throw us off the track.she's most likely scared you'll run off with the other woman, if you two do go down that track.but if you think/believe she is could be worried try asking about swingers first or MMF. try swingers first, having 2 couples having sex in the same room with there couple only.- nothing like watching other in the same room- it's like HDTV only less the 70's porn music.if you don't know how to break the ice slowly heres plan 1 send the kids to mums/dads for the night, have a romantic night, with her, pleasure her, but not yourself (this is key) all the focus is on her. do this and make it speical, and not just once but all the time from then on,plan 2 send the kids to mums/dads for the night, watch a erotic movie, or read her a erotic book or read together and sex book.Keys make time to show her how much she means to you, not just " i love you" but go out of your way to show her. when you get 5 seconds in the bathroom swing her around from behind and give her a kiss she wont forget.ring/sms/email her and tell her how much she means to you.ask her, exite her, make her burn inside with fire of passion
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RHP User
16 years ago
wow man there is obviously something a lot deeper going on here than the three some. confront the real issues first, and be very VERY careful what you wish for, with your attitute she may enjoy the threesome MORE than you and you could be left on the side. take care!!
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