M55
So it's just me then?
May 29 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nope...... there is no way I would meet someone with the hope of "getting it on" without seeing a photo first. I have to be physically attracted too to a person.... having said that though, I am not after George Clooney or Brad Pitt either but there does have to be something about a persons face that I am attracted to. xxMeekaPS Georgie and Brad... it's a lie I would kill for the chance to be the meat in your sandwich. *swoon*
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RHP User
14 years ago
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well... Some members I've met from Rhp & I didn't know what they looked like....No regrets what so ever:-) because there was a mental connection through chatting,it was so easy to meet up & have a drink.... It felt like catching up with a long lost friend.... You don't have to get it on with every person you chat to.... I've made some amazing friends along the way.... BEAUTY comes from within:-))
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RHP User
14 years ago
Social experiment...........I will let you know how it goes.Cass xxx.......inspired by your openness and acceptance.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have, nice guy, no spark and we got o. Great and are now good friends.. I have dubbed him an honoury GF. Lol. A very rare thing to do I would think.. :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I do not equate "being accepting of others" with the willingness to meet people based on a few conversations.You could almost bet your bottom dollar that Ivan Milat could jot down a few words that some would find appealing...and had a great phone voice Dangerously Stupid i choose not to be
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes, I have met people on occassion without seeing their photo.This was after chatting online and talking on the phone first ,and I have been pleasantly surprised.Ivan Milat they were not, Ted Bundy look- a- likes yes . Conversely, I have met people whose photos were either ten to twenty years older than their photos,or they were incredibly photogenic and the camera took years and kilos off. I am attracted to the whole person,physical attractiveness is important yes,but that is a very subjective thing,common interests, and a connection of minds ,is far more important than looks. The smell,the taste, the feel ,the sound of a voice,these are the catylsts for desire.
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RHP User
14 years ago
God no for me, and I don't think that makes me less open minded, just very careful. I would never do that ever. Especially seeing how my ex was stalking me on here a while back, imagine rocking up to a meet and having him standing there, god that would make me cranky ! due to history I am very careful about who I meet, I want to see them on cam first, watch for little red flags (mine) I need to see the eyes and expressions. this is my personal choice because if I'm not physically AND mentally attracted to them, I quite simply don't want to have sex with them. I'm not looking for a relationship so for sex, this is how it must be. I don't think this makes me less open minded or even judgmental , time is tight for meeting and I won't waste anyone else's nor my own with just a 'maybe' . maybe it's different for a man DRS but I have to say, this sort of scenario petrifies me as a woman. All it takes is a moment in time with the wrong person , and it's too late. Next thing you know your family are identifying your body. There are a few girls who've had very scary experiences on here , and one was with a man who is still on rhp......he went apeshit and she had to call hotel security ! Too risky I'm afraid.
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my OP I didn't mean have first meetings in a hotel room or at your or someone else's home, I only meet people somewhere public first time. It would be silly to forget the dangers associated with meeting strangers, alarms have gone off for me at some people's suggestion of a fun first date like one young lady who suggested she'd like to tie me up in her hotel room one night. That may have been a fantasy but it could have been in the hope of robbing me or worse. I'm not desperate and no way I'd leave myself vulnerable like that. My point is that when I meet I keep an open mind, if someone's not my type they may potentially be a great friend. I do believe that personal safety is paramount and would never expect anyone to compromise in that area.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The worst that it can happen is that you meet, feel completely disappointed, no attraction, no chemistry, no connection.....you just have a coffee (or drink) have a bit of an awkward moment and say your good byes.....Just a bit of time and energy....Not because you meet means that you need to end up all sweaty and steamy with each other.....In the other hand you may just connect and have a great time.....Life is all about taking chances....and opening doors....otherwise you may end up a recluse behind the computer
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RHP User
14 years ago
I did it once and boy what a disaster that was....I'm not one who really cares what someone looks like. But gee when you turn up for sex wearing cut off jeans, a stained Tshirt, thongs and drinking a xxxx can. Your not getting any from this chicky babe lol not something I'd ever do again that's for sure.......can I just say too Dirty you are everything you mentioned. Plus the sweetest man alive ;-P Hugs roxxy
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Hanna_ybbn
14 years ago
Yep - done it twice and had awesome experiences on both occasions and still regularly talk with both.Hanna x
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RHP User
14 years ago
and Ivan Milat could have uploaded a pic too! What do they always say... "he seemed nice, quiet, kept to himself I would never have thought ... yada yada ..." Seeing someone's photo doesn't necessarily make it less dangerous.Where you meet does. But hey I am sure they could go on several dates as part of a trap. I try not to live my life through fear (anymore)... and use my gut (overall) and common sense. I would try and get an idea as I do with all potential playmates (where I have seen photo) through conversation..... and meet in a public place as I always do.Cass xxxQuoting 'Nudierudie2' I do not equate "being accepting of others" with the willingness to meet people based on a few conversations.You could almost bet your bottom dollar that Ivan Milat could jot down a few words that some would find appealing...and had a great phone voice Dangerously Stupid i choose not to be
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RHP User
14 years ago
Expectations are the killer.......I personally have no expectations, but would be delighted to be surprised !!!!!And Quoting Hesione Conversely, I have met people whose photos were either ten to twenty years older than their photos,or they were incredibly photogenic and the camera took years and kilos off.This has being true in my experience as well , so go figure.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
have met people without a photo. The hottest, woman I ever met and played with, had no photo, but she promised I wouldn't be dissapointed.Was I dissapointed, no... she was absolutely stunning, and had a terrific personality and the cutest American accent.I don't think I will ever forget her and that very special night.We have also met couples without pics, and had a great time.Life is what you make of it, and contrary to popular belief there isn't a murderer and 5 rapists just waiting for you on every street corner.I would also just reiterate what Cass said.Cheers Felonius...nothing is ever guaranteed.
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Lifes_great
14 years ago
If any ladies wanted to go for a drive......I know a nice secluded forest Regards Ivan
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hahahaha, I met YOU without seeing a pic! That wasn't for the purpose of getting down and dirty though... I'm trying to recall if I've met someone pic-less for sexytimes, and I don't think I have.Umm, I've met others who look nothing like their pics, and their personalities online/phone nothing like their real personalities, that for me is the worst, well, except for this one time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
you were just joking Lifes_Great.....but...pretty poor taste mate. Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Grrr'Hahahaha, I met YOU without seeing a pic! That wasn't for the purpose of getting down and dirty though... I'm trying to recall if I've met someone pic-less for sexytimes, and I don't think I have.Umm, I've met others who look nothing like their pics, and their personalities online/phone nothing like their real personalities, that for me is the worst, well, except for this one time. Yep no photo exchange we just took a punt that we'd get along and we did! I love the diversity of friendships that I can make in RHP and of the many people I have met at parties, functions and one on ones through here I have only had one dissapointment and that wasn't about looks it was a dissapointing and narcissistic attitude from someone who was far less than perfect themselves. Much of the reason for starting this thread is my opinion that people can be too closed minded and unwilling to speculate a little and give people who's fit may be a little borderline a go or look at friendship opportunities as alternatives to playmates. People often find it awkward to reject someone and I think most are a little cynical about the age of photos so for a woman to not put forward a photo it gives them the choice to just keep walking if they don't like what they see waiting at the cafe. I think that this is a reasonable thing for women to want to do because as much as the chance percentage is low for meeting an Ivan there always is that small percentage and I'f I wasn't 6'2" big and ugly enough to look after myself I'd be extremely cautious as well. And thanks Roxxy it's sweet of you to say so xx.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I met a girl and had not seen face shots- met in public.....it was positive, I like her and she didn't kill me :PCass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'multiples_xxx'I met a girl and had not seen face shots- met in public.....it was positive, I like her and she didn't kill me :P Cass xxxWoohoo so glad it wasn't Ivana Milat! Don't you think it adds to the anticipation?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'multiples_xxx' and Ivan Milat could have uploaded a pic too! What do they always say... "he seemed nice, quiet, kept to himself I would never have thought ... yada yada ..." Seeing someone's photo doesn't necessarily make it less dangerous.Where you meet does. But hey I am sure they could go on several dates as part of a trap. I try not to live my life through fear (anymore)... and use my gut (overall) and common sense. I would try and get an idea as I do with all potential playmates (where I have seen photo) through conversation..... and meet in a public place as I always do.Cass xxxI Agree with you Cass,and i have always been a very careful person.I do not live in fear,I choose not to wear Rose coloured glasses.I take calculated risks,I am intelligent enough to hold a conversation.Oh dear, I could be psychopathicQuoting 'Nudierudie2' I do not equate "being accepting of others" with the willingness to meet people based on a few conversations.You could almost bet your bottom dollar that Ivan Milat could jot down a few words that some would find appealing...and had a great phone voice Dangerously Stupid i choose not to be
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
Emails can lie, pictures can be old, only meeting really gives you an insight into the person. We will meet people without pix, based on a conversation or two but we have a couple of saftey checks in place. We prefer to meet at clubs or public places, we don't go to strangers homes, or invite strangers to our home. I'm also 6' 2", a bit over 100kg and I can look after myself.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see people in the street and think if I saw a still of them I wouldn't be attracted but in real life that expression, that swagger, that confidence and demeanour- It would be a yes :)Doing it again lol- got a flirt my a woman with no pics who thinks she is a bit of all right :) I said I would go on a mystery date with her hehehe.....she has seen me, so I said that I would have to surprise her another way ;)Cass xxxQuoting 'QLDtwo4fun' Emails can lie, pictures can be old, only meeting really gives you an insight into the person. We will meet people without pix, based on a conversation or two but we have a couple of saftey checks in place. We prefer to meet at clubs or public places, we don't go to strangers homes, or invite strangers to our home. I'm also 6' 2", a bit over 100kg and I can look after myself.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It worked out okay. I met in a public place and all was good. Still friends two years later.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a photo or not.....I don't seem to be able to 'meet' anyone regardless of contextual intention....maybe it's just me?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I just did my own version of your spur of the moment thing. I had seen a face pic a while back and sure I've chatted a little, but quite simply did a spur of the moment catch up for brunch just because I like this persons words on the screen and it made me curious enough to want to go see it in person. I think I would like to keep this person as a friend :) its hard to find people who make your face ache from smiling and laughing :D
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