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So how much is "too much information"??

June 29 2011

When you meet someone for the first time, how much is too much information about their sex life can you handle? No, I'm not talking about that gangbang with a dozen guys attending... hehehe.... just normal bits and pieces! . Do you like a potential playmate to be open and tell you some of their escapades?? And in doing so, do you think it makes them a player and belittles them?? Would it stop you from playing with them? . Or is it all in the delivery and the overall 'connection' with that person that matters? . Or do you just prefer to find out about them for yourself and hear nothing?? . As a fan of the forums, so much is discussed and I think it can desensitise you from remembering that other people aren't as open minded! I was always been accepting of others preferences but on reflection, could disclosing some of my shenangigans be unacceptable or inappropriate? ;) . Would appreciate to hear your experiences and opinions!

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RHP User

15 years ago

Frankly, if we can't talk about the fun we've had in the past, it doesn't have to be explicit detail, then I'm just not interested in playing with that person. I want to know what the boundaries re, what can be pushed, where to go slow. I'm not psychc.Plus, some sex stories are just plain hilarious! Well, really, fucking is plain hilarious so, you know, all worth a giggle. :)

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RHP User

15 years ago

I prefer my clients to talk about their past exploits as it gives me a better idea of what they like and how they like it!

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RHP User

15 years ago

At first meeting, I like to find out what sort of person she is and have very little interest in what she's done in the past. As I prefer FWB, I suppose I like unwrapping our respective sexual histories like a game of pass the parcel - delicious little surprises popping up here and there, giving us something to build on and new directions...

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RHP User

15 years ago

I missed the most important bit of your post "for the first time". When initially meeting I really don't like to talk about sex at all. I like to find out firstly if this is a person I want to spend any time with.

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N4November

15 years ago

What a delicious depiction you describe and I'd love to be your present you unwrap.....

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RHP User

15 years ago

I like to think that every peson I meet is a new experience...and regardless of our past, it's there to explore and share. In that "getting to know you" process before meeting for the first time...it's fun to talk about and maybe even tease out certain preferences and things you like or might like to try together. | Let's face it, we are not here on a crusade for the preservation of virginity and advancement of missionary sex...but I would rather find about about you with you, not hear it second hand. | If someone does offer that up...for me it's usually sacrificial and I just shut down. I know there isn't really a Santa Claus...but it sure makes Christmas a lot more fun thinking that you may find something under the tree that you didn't expect.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I think with each 'initial' meeting you have, there will be a different answer, each person will be different and you will be feeling different each time no doubt...my guess is play it by ear, listen to your intuition and if it feels right just allow things to evolve...its a bit like some people you just want to jump as soon as you meet them and that's ok...but then with others the allure of hidden secrets or things yet to come is too great to tarnish with the boisterousness of a quick fuck...i guess with experience comes wisdom - well hopefully anyway, and that allows you to relax and just let things happen, confident that it doesnt really matter that much in the end anyway...dont worry what happens, as long as you are not being forced to go beyond your comfort zone...as long as you are feeling at ease and having fun and if when you look at others around you, there appears to be a genuinely similar response, just let it go and enjoy...if things dont feel right, then maybe do a reality check and change the energy...but what ever you do, enjoy it and savour your moments... they pass too quickly...and you can only meet someone the first time once huh??? so not too heavy ok!!!

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RHP User

15 years ago

I love hearing about shenanigans. Maybe at a first meet, when you are just feeling your way though it is better to be a little restrained. Perhaps throw a little bit of your past out there and see what the reaction is. I would guess that in this topic like so many others, opinions vary wildly. If I were to be meeting someone for the first time, after a litte whhile, it could feel very natural to swap a few stories, would very much depend on the person I was with. A

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'baygirl2315' What a delicious depiction you describe and I'd love to be your present you unwrap..... Even though your picture shows part of what I'd be unwrapping, I'd be like a kid on Christmas day! Except my tongue would be hanging down past my chin - see portrait below...

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RHP User

15 years ago

But it really depends on how good a storyteller they are. I list of names and positions is boring, but make it interesting and I wanna know EVERYTHING!xx Sarah

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RHP User

15 years ago

I guess that depends on where you see the relationship heading. If this person has knocked your socks off I would be a bit hesitant in letting out the escapades until you have built a solid foundation. If it is someone who is a lot of fun and great in bed and kinky sex would just increase their appeal sooner rather than later is my choice.

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N4November

15 years ago

Well, with 12 guys anyway!!! This was just an example of "something" ;) Like you curiousnewgirl - I love all the little details - its what makes a story so gooooooooood!! (I also call it my nosy-cow factor) I'm a pretty open person but how does one recognise when they have to gag themselves when meeting new people?!!! hehehehe Do the forums creates little sexual beasts of us where no subject is taboo?? Oh, except swingers don't accept bi men - but don't get me started!!! Again, just an example of "something" xx Is it only me that thinks that my virtual life has or could void the accepted norms of real life?? On the issue of sex and dating anyway....

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N4November

15 years ago

we need to talk!

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RHP User

15 years ago

It really depends on the person and the way they tell a story. Some come across as down right bragging and that is very off putting. SOME sexual history is always good. I do like to know a little about thier likes and dislikes and if possible.....when was the last time you were tested for sti's.....condoms are not 100%, nothing is. Naturally it is going to be different with each different partner so their (and my) experiences are not going to reflect much on our experience together......unless they are a virgin.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'baygirl2315' I'm a pretty open person but how does one recognise when they have to gag themselves when meeting new people?!!! hehehehe <....> Is it only me that thinks that my virtual life has or could void the accepted norms of real life?? On the issue of sex and dating anyway.... I've become really aware of how my openness that feels so natural and fun to me crosses over the boundary and could be just plain uncomfortable to others, but if they're not on the same level of acceptance about sex being something that should be easygoing and fun and not something that is too taboo to talk about in a private setting while naked, then we're probably not going to be catching up again anyway.I have the benefit of not wanting to play for keeps so if it means someone thinks "wow, I could never be in a relationship with this person now that I know these things" that's really not going to upset me in the slightest!xx Sarah

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RHP User

15 years ago

Sorry, hope you don't mind me asking. (kind of new to this). Is that the etiquette? No bi behaviour when swinging? Why is it acceptable for bi women then, that's doesn't seem right. I'm as straight as they come but have no problem with bi men. In fact I'm more comfortable with bi men than straight in a group.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'brontsko' Sorry, hope you don't mind me asking. (kind of new to this). Is that the etiquette? No bi behaviour when swinging? Why is it acceptable for bi women then, that's doesn't seem right. I'm as straight as they come but have no problem with bi men. In fact I'm more comfortable with bi men than straight in a group. Like any crowd, some people are for/against/indifferent. Take it on a case-by-case basis rather than as a rulexx Sarah

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N4November

15 years ago

Quoting 'brontsko'Sorry, hope you don't mind me asking. (kind of new to this). Is that the etiquette? No bi behaviour when swinging? Why is it acceptable for bi women then, that's doesn't seem right. I'm as straight as they come but have no problem with bi men. In fact I'm more comfortable with bi men than straight in a group. This has been a subject much discussed previously in the forums - the double standard between bi men and bi women - in that it is encouraged for women to play but a strictly no male-male contact policy at alot of parties!! . But I have noticed alot more parties ARE advertising MM play. There obviously is a 'market' out there for people who want the freedom to explore their sexualities!!! And I think that is a great thing! Just like those who are into kink, gangbangs - whatever - we all have different tastes!!!

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So how much is "too much information"??

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