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So beautiful and yet lame in bed?
April 04 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
You reap what you sow! Felonius...sorry, I read your profile.
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RHP User
14 years ago
not trying to stereotype men.The lazy in-bed guys are becoming more common, typically they don't leave home until 30 +, they remain too close to their mums, still use their playstations everyday & are addicted to sports. Mum does everything for them, even after they have left home, they take their washing back to mum.So how do you expect them to work hard in bed, if they won't even clean up for themselves.What happened to all those guys, who left home before 21 ? - became men, independent & knew how to treat a woman.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Suggestion...............Getting off on people mentally more than physically.......or paper bags Cass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Men like that aren't interested in women like me. :)Actually, I do know someone who is gorgeous as you describe, and he has grown this wild man of Borneo beard to hide his beauty. I dunno what he's like in the sack though.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The pretty wog boy...yes, I had me one of them a couple of years back. Gorgeous looking guy..met him when I took my computer in to get fixed...we flirted...he called me...he came around...we had sex...worse sex of my life!! He told me how many women he gets to fuck and how they flock after him...I just looked at him and said "do they EVER come back?"...yep, you guessed it...went right over his pretty little head! He kept calling/texting me to meet up again..no way in hell was I going back again so just ignored his calls and found a new computer place! So pretty..but yet so dumb...sigh! xFunlovingx
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6exxy
14 years ago
WoW, Sad to hear the tale of woes before me. No sarcasm cause it really is sad. Looks and hot sex arent always in the same package. When it is.........HOLD ON TIGHT!!!!! lmao God love ya If you are ever in WA I'd be happy to hook you up! xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
(What happened to all those guys, who left home before 21 ? - became men, independent & knew how to treat a woman.) we got snapped up by the shrewd ones ;) i moved out and was working at age 19, could cook and clean and was always enthusiastic between the sheets
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RHP User
14 years ago
With FELONIUS.. What He said.. *smiles* caveman.. (Never was a pretty boy)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Had a young pretty thing, he was the worlds shitest root :) I will not go there again! I prefer to form some sort of connection, an intelligent man , with a big cock :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I married one...sigh...now I much prefer the more rugged types....have nothing against good looking men per se.....just a personal preference
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RHP User
14 years ago
Perhaps expand your preferences as your profile sounds like you are looking for shallow guys. If all they do is talk about themselves, then more than likely they will only be interested in self satisfying meetings. I don't like to type cast and have found very few men (hunkalicious or otherwise) who are bad in bed if they take a keen interest in you and what you like. Men who actually love women as opposed to themselves. Pretty boy or not, it comes down to personality in the end. If you want toe curling experiences be open to trying a wider sample of the population.
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RHP User
14 years ago
never look at the mantle piece when your pokin the fire
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RHP User
14 years ago
Let me add to that - gorgeous features, killer smile, dresses well, has a stable income, rather intelligent... And yet horrible in bed! You always think you've hit the jackpot when you stumble across one of them, but having dated a handful over the years, that really is all the effort they demonstrate in bed.... A handful.. I used to try and convince myself that good conversation and simply admiring them would be enough, but not quite :/
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RHP User
14 years ago
Give me Neanderthal man any day - sling me over his shoulder, dump me in his cave of a bedroom for some glorious rough and tumble - I'm yours!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Girl: Shame I dont know where you live I could do JUST that... :) caveman... (by nature)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sensory_Fun! Lol....Go Cavey!Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
No person is better in bed than another. There has to be chemistry in the first place. Once you kiss a person you know right there if its going to work or not. If there is no chemistry in that kiss the person male or female could hang of the shower and whistle Dixie and you will not get your rocks off. Most people fuck the same, but a lot of men forget the peripheral stuff. You cannot fuck by numbers I know a guy that reads the books goes on the web sites, says ok I know how that works I can get any girl to squirt then tries, it on all and sundry and gets surprised when the woman does not want to come back to more of that science experiment. The boys are right, you sow what you reap. You have a mouth, ask them to do things you want, and slow them down to keep pace with your needs. Remember that scene with Mel Gibson, in what women want when he can hear the woman, going in her head thinking “oh god no this is terrible.” Well guess what men cant read your mind. The problem with the pretty of both sexes is that’s all you have to be is pretty and you get laid,no one takes the time to say whoa kid you need to get me off first. To get a woman there, its basic Kiss them on the mouth first, and kiss them passionately like you mean it. The neck, the shoulders , Ladies stop the boys from going right to the source of their pleasure. Guide them over the scenic route. Guys, Go down, for god sake go down! but stop and see if its working guys. The breath,the wetness the hips and ask the woman. Hows it going for you hon?Is this the way you like it? I ask that when I am blowing a cock as not all guys want it the same way. Or I look and listen. Talk in bed, I love men that are so turned on they talk about how turned on they are. You can train a star fish. All you have to do is warm it up first. Pretty boys are no different that pretty girls. They are just lazy and got away with it for to long. Plus girls that chase the pretty boys are doing it just because they are pretty and that is not enough.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I met someone a few months ago - fairly normal and on first impressions, I wasn't really into her physically. She was nice and interesting BUT said just enough to spike my curiosity. At the end of it all ... she was awesome! I spent some of the night altering here amazing technique (which was disappointing by the way) "XXX by all means ... do that, I like that, that is unbelievable but... if you want me to cum in the next 20seconds - that's what's going to happen". AWESOME...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Were you telling him constantly that he was gorgeous and awesome?Was there a mirror positioned so he could check on himself every few minutes?Did you allow for breaks to apply moisturiser?I hope you didn't mess up his hair?It's a bit like a jumping into a supercar and driving it like a Corolla, it's never going to perform that way. A Ferrari takes a bit of finesse to get up to speed and to keep on the track. With a Corolla you can just jump in and go and be confident the car will take care of you.There's a lot more work in driving a Ferrari but if you get it right the results are spectacular, so keep it up and try a little harder.Cheers,Mr Chick(more like a BMW 3 Series than a Ferrari or a Corolla - a very capable machine out of the box and worthwhile pushing to the limit, and always look good without being flashy)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sex is not a science, so stop treating is as such. It is about attraction, desire, opportunity, compatability and getting wet and wobbly. If you just want a hooker who dresses in spikes and follows the manual, go pay for it. If you are after the thrill of a one-nighter, chances are you're going find a partner, male or female, just out to get their rocks off and move on. No need to write a thesis on that lol. My experience is...those who talk the talk rarely walk the walk. It's like a kid's game where bravado and some cliches may get u noticed, but the truth unravels fairly quickly. Definitions like"...all night long...", "...respect women..." and "...sex machine..." have many interpretations lol. I agree with Sensory_fun...if u dont want the brainless beefcakes, then change ur target audience. If you want perfect sex, give it, ask for it or pay for it. Happy Easter xx
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singlewood
14 years ago
LookListenTalkand remember the lady always CUMS first
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RHP User
14 years ago
I just wish I was beautiful so I could get away with it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes, so effective communication is the key to achieve what you want in the bedroom. How often does this occur though? In terms of one nighters, effective communication is more likely to be nil, and have we also not heard that many relationships fail on the basis of poor communication? I found that trying to convey to my ex that what he was doing was doing nothing for me effectively the end of the road - tried the subtle method of encouragement, then when I told him, 'Babe, it would be great if you could do this', he would stop completely and roll over!! I found out a few months after we broke up that he had told his mates I was 'demanding' and 'high maintenance' in bed.... But then I guess he was one of those over-sensitive guys who takes any criticism of his sexual performance to heart :/
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sex is just like anything else, if you want to get good at it then practice. I’ve had the good fortune of learning from some experienced teachers and did something that most people don’t do anymore…I listened. Great sex is about both partners working together. The biggest problem is that sex is not tennis. You could easily say to someone at a party “I’m a pretty good tennis player.” and you might find someone else say “Yeah, I’m pretty good too. We should get together sometime and have a game.” But there is such a stigma attached to sex that you say “I’m pretty good in bed.” and no one is going to believe you. I was not born with the gorgeous bronzed beefcake gene. What I was given was the motivation to want to do things properly and the patience to meet that end. Sadly the average looking guy is rarely given the chance to prove his worth because people are just so hung up on physical appearances. You take the time to write a profile that lists your qualities without over promoting or sounding arrogant. You then spend a long time viewing ladies profiles with whom you feel you have a realistic degree of compatibility. You write an introductory message that addresses the qualities you have in common and the things you are both looking for that match. The lady opens your profile, looks at your photos then the reply….if it comes at all….is the same. “You don’t match what I’m looking for.” We aren’t going to cry ourselves to sleep…..be honest…..tell us you were looking for someone taller and better looking. If you are obsessed with arm candy then by all means take that gorgeous young thing in the tight t-shirt clubbing with you all night. But, if you are willing to open your mind and see someone for more than just a photograph then give the average guy a chance to show you what is possible. Spend a couple of hours being pleasured as you dig your nails into his back and bang your fists against the wall…..then kick him out…..we’ll even use the back door so no one sees us leave. Some guys just think about getting laid. Others think about pleasuring women…there is a difference.Sam.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some fascinating responses to this topic , as a man not eactly of the "tall dark and handsome"kind. Makes me think that perhaps we are all not so shalow after all. And when it comes to good sex looks comes way behind "chemistry" intelligence, curiosity, playfullness, respect and several other qualities. Oh and citycat I'm putting on my loin cloth, fluffing up my chest hair , got my club and I'm after you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
"Some guys just think about getting laid. Others think about pleasuring women…there is a difference."Never was a truer word spoken (or rather, typed)I always think of the old joke...What do a woman and a frying pan have in common??For best results, you have to warm them both up before you put the fat in.JMO...BJ
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RHP User
14 years ago
SAPIOSEXUAL: ~noun~ A person who is sexually attracted to Intelligence in others.I do have a few select places left....felonious??? ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' Had a young pretty thing, he was the worlds shitest root :) I will not go there again! I prefer to form some sort of connection, an intelligent man , with a big cock :) Hey female half of DeliciousCplBris Just because I am asking does not mean I am stupid LOL but this intelligent thing pops up so many times, would love to know what you really mean by it. I take it that one needs to have degrees popping out there ass, or some Mine company CEO or Director I know its off topic maybe I should go find a topic to post it correctly, or send as a PM but here now and looking at your profile pick I may end up with a madidus somnio happening tonight as for the other part well no idea you need to judge that your self if you want access, maybe I’m little open on here toward you maybe its just the Connubialis Perturbatio or Pervorsum coming out in me (if you suss out the proper translation of it great, if not please now that its nothing abusive or against you quite the opposite, though if felt wrong to voice it here I sincerely apologise)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have had stunning looking young studs who were fantastic in bed.I have had some nice young men who weren't exactly poster material that were fantastic in bed.I've had the dud studs and the dud not so studs.No rules about looks here. There are good and bad.
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RHP User
14 years ago
This applies to both sexes and possibly more for women whom perceive them selves as hot often rely solely on their looks and are actually boring or pedestrian when it comes down to it . Most of the time it is the man who has to do most of the work from the initial contact to the conclusion.
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Tart_Du_Jour
14 years ago
Quoting 'Headlesshorseman' Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' Had a young pretty thing, he was the worlds shitest root :) I will not go there again! I prefer to form some sort of connection, an intelligent man , with a big cock :) Hey female half of DeliciousCplBris Just because I am asking does not mean I am stupid LOL but this intelligent thing pops up so many times, would love to know what you really mean by it. I take it that one needs to have degrees popping out there ass, or some Mine company CEO or Director I know its off topic maybe I should go find a topic to post it correctly, or send as a PM but here now and looking at your profile pick I may end up with a madidus somnio happening tonight as for the other part well no idea you need to judge that your self if you want access, maybe I’m little open on here toward you maybe its just the Connubialis Perturbatio or Pervorsum coming out in me (if you suss out the proper translation of it great, if not please now that its nothing abusive or against you quite the opposite, though if felt wrong to voice it here I sincerely apologise) I am not the female half of DCB so you may not be interested in my answer but for me personally intelligence can mean a number of things. It doesn't mean how much formal education you have or how impressive your career is, I have met some some very intelligent people who have none of these things.For me it includes having someone I can I have a conversation with, someone I can learn from, someone that can keep me on my toes so to speak, someone with a fast mind and quick wit, someone who has interest in learning and the world in general. I don't mean someone who can recite facts without context or they feel they know it all.I don't consider myself a genius (far from it) and I never expect anyone to know everything but sometimes it get boring explaining yourself all the time. So maybe a lack of intelligence isn't something that bothers me so much as being wilfully ignorant.This post is probably going to annoy a number of people but can't please them all I suppose
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok, we all agree that this comment is stereotypical. Being good looking doesn't necessarily mean bad in bed, and being ugly certainly doesn't make someone great in bed ! At the end of the day, a lot of us have experienced what kandy is saying. A good looking dud ! My theory is that the good lookers don't have to work for it. They have sex available whenever they want it, so they don't feel the need to make an effort. This seems to apply to good looking guys and girls. On the other hand, if you have to work to get a girl (or guy), you're going to work to keep her (or him). That means making an effort both in and out of the bedroom.To me, a girl who makes knows what she's doing and makes an effort is better than arm candy any day.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Joosed.. intereting post there.. BUT.. can you please tell me how I let someone know I am a Sapiosexual? Do I say.. "Joosed, I am Sapiosexually attracted to you" "Joosed, I am a Sapiosexual, and you do it for me" "Joosed, you sapiosexualize me" I LOVE words.. I like to know how to use them .. right... I mean.. correctly.. I mean definately.. I mean.. properly... oh damn.. Caveman Thinking too much?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Over the years I have met Amazing Hot guys. I think when you're overwhelmed by someones looks and put them on a pedastal above oneself,you lose the amaing ride. Try thinking from their point of view and be natural around these Hot guys. Imagine a woman only wanting you for looks. I like hot men but i treat them like real men not just a picture,that works for me. Enjoy your journeys ladies,I have! :) When asked why me over my FBs hot ladies he works around at the gym etc. The Answer was you are the most natural woman I know. We are great together, You reep what you sow is so true!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'lovman8'Some fascinating responses to this topic , as a man not eactly of the "tall dark and handsome"kind. Makes me think that perhaps we are all not so shalow after all. And when it comes to good sex looks comes way behind "chemistry" intelligence, curiosity, playfullness, respect and several other qualities.Oh and citycat I'm putting on my loin cloth, fluffing up my chest hair , got my club and I'm after you.Great Post!
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RHP User
14 years ago
i met him at the park....he was sexy as he got off his bike wearing leathers, took off his helmet and fuck he was beautiful black hair, black goatee, the most gorgeous dark eyes and a body to die for ive never had a man this perfect...ever his kiss was perfect...the way he held me made me just melt things were going so well....we moved to somewhere a bit quieter then he cum in his pants...before i even had a chance to suck it back to the ugly fella's for me i think Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Select Places...???? Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
My dear old dad told me once to marry an ugly girl! I asked why dad? Thinking "mums not ugly" Dad - they try harder in bed son! I guess the same applies! Ya know Carol there is a very well kept secret amongst those of us less fortunate in the looks department, we usually (not always, exceptions to rules etc) can carry a conversation, are great in the sack and other places and know how to treat a woman........just saying!
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RHP User
14 years ago
the question is have you ever slept with an ugly guy???...if so what was he like??? just curious lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
but youre still all gonna go for the dudes with abs and southern-cross tatts on their torsos, right?just like us guys will go for the size-0 with the rack, even though shes about as interesting as a bowl of porridge.we all suck haha
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RHP User
14 years ago
funny part about it never had a lazy or bad root, maybe it is the chemistry i bet there are not so good looking guys that are lazy in bed, maybe you need to get them in a other zone so there ego has disappear.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Completely Agree! I used to DJ a swingers club some years ago and the number of girls i would see go off into rooms with some Adonis who later on commented on how much of a dud he was - was a lot! If ony they had chatted to the dj lol.Even now - on rhp - the number of people who are only into the 'looks' and dont go past to look at the person, ther personality or even the skills.... is quite amazing and at times dissapointing.We are not brad and angelina - but not quasinmodo either.
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RHP User
14 years ago
read the profile too..... agree with felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well, this is how it works. I think everyone puts too much emphasis on looks. It's extremely evident with a normal guy like me, because my photos are not that flattering and i look way better in real life, this is why i get asked out going home on the train and at work, (on here i'm told i have a beer gut, i don't even drink beer, but i do work out) but back to the point. My point here is, girls, you just have high expectations in the first place and expect everything, eventually the brightest girls realise that the world is full of imperfections, we are all random, there is no perfection. There might be good looks, but there is almost always a short fall. Here is my proof, i'm in an open marriage and my wife had a fling with a friend of mine, he is the kind of hot guy, girls want to meet. He looks almost identical to Leonardo Di Caprio and has women after him everywhere. After a fling with him, my wife realised how these good looking blokes get so much sex that they aren't that great in the sack. So back to me, and lets just say, there are no complaints what so ever, only extreme praise. The same goes for me, i have had sex with good looking girls, including a model from bras and things, these women also have a lot of men after them. The sex was terrible with her, she even admitted sleeping with a lot of hot men and has nothing more to experience. So there you have it, that's my two bobs worth, sometimes it's probably better to go with the more average bloke, because you just never know, do you! Girls on RHP you definately have the pick of the bunch on here, but just think, start noting and you will realise what im saying will eventuate into reality. Besides, notice the good looking celebrity looking perfect face blokes are sometimes charismatically and socially boring? enough said, figure it out for yourself, because we all need to experience it the hard way to learn.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the general outlook for most people here is seen in the majority of pictures on their 'friends' lists...... and for random hook-ups, i don't see a problem with that at all - despite not being one of the guys you'd see on those lists. The first bite is with the eye, and people are always going to go for the thing that looks great first. The question I'd ask is, for the people who lament that the pretty are boring or - gasp - crap in the sack, have you tried out the more middle-of-the-road looking ones? or even responded to their messages to possibly find out?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Felonious too true....you do reap what you sew, but I also believe that communication before and during is the way to go. You can usually find out their technique by having a little sex texting, can also be used as a prelude of things to come and a little foreplay.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i find it funny girls complain about shit roots.. guys never really... have you ever thought you are the reason for the shit root!! maybe they are not turned on by your looks,smell,moves?
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RHP User
14 years ago
beauty comes from within so they say plenty of women are the same to drop dead gorgeous girls are in the same boat i think gorgeous on the outside but pretty dull inside plain jane suits me
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RHP User
14 years ago
All that they are doing is fooling women, and leaving a bad taste in there mouth, and making it harder for us real bloke. the ones that have work hard, left the teat early and are just being our self's (not what mothers want there little baby boy to be) GIRLS real mean that keep you happy in bed, wear blue singlets, flannelet and boardies at once.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is also how the "attractive" person perceives them self. Let's not also forget chemistry. I recall one absolutely gorgeous guy who could make my heart race a mile a minute and visibly squirm, just by eye contact... and "that" smile. He was sensational in bed. He didn't think he was "all that" (oh he soooo was) Perhaps he did know, but didn't place such great importance on it.On the flip side, a friend of mine went home with a guy one night who had been less than genetically blessed. He thought he was Gods gift though. As she relates, once back at his place he became incredibly rude and arrogant. By the time he stripped off, jumped back on his bed, laid down and said 'jump on and ride baby', she had enough. She was so furious with his attitude that she had to restrain herself from taking a dollar coin and shoving it up his coin slot - maybe not the type of 'ride' he was aiming for.I do know that as I have grown older (matured gawd...) what I find attractive has evolved greatly from 20 years ago. I still have to be physically attracted but the chemistry has changed - if you can't take me mentally, I don't care how much Adonis wants you as a body double, you wont be kissing my stretch marks!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ezyduzit29' i find it funny girls complain about shit roots.. guys never really... have you ever thought you are the reason for the shit root!! maybe they are not turned on by your looks,smell,moves? Maybe a guy that still "roots" a girl that doesn't turn him on because she is ugly, smelly and has the shakes... is just grateful he is getting laid. I guess if he is that desperate that may be the reason he is not complaining?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've read this thread with some amusement and nothing is a surprise...sometimes those life lessons are harder to learn than even what they teach you university. | You are searching for what you perceive as beauty and perfection...why should you settle for anything less, then suddenly you find it like that perfect clear blue pool you have been searching for in the desert of mere mortal males. You rip off your own clothes and dive head first from the pedestal you have put yourself on only to find out rather abruptly as your head bounces off the glass that you have dived into a mirrored image of how you see yourself...don't worry it's usually only a repercussion concussion and the bruises to your ego will go away, and for a while at least you won't even remember the dive but rather only how you landed. Life Lessons is a graduate subject...you'll eventually earn your degree, we all do and that's when we discover that the best of any of us is often hidden under the less superficial surface of the water before we take the plunge. | It's just your average Barbie and Ken complex...you'll get over it and once you figure out that neither of them has visible genitals then everything will improve. Hell, you might even find that talking without having to pull the little ring sticking out of the side of their neck is just even more exciting that what you will ever see. | Good luck on your journey...wear a helmet diving into shallow waters.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It really is....it's the way we go about it , the procurement if you will.We can't possibly have it all, and you have to look at it as such...While on RHP we can find everything we are looking for all there in front of us listed top to bottom (literally)this is fantastic too....you make sure this person checks every boxGOrgeous looks- checkgorgeous body - checkliterate - checkgreat cup or cock size - checkavailability - checklocality - checksame kinks - checkIt's all there, all that remains for you to do is organise a time, make sure you are date ready lol, grab your bag and go...right? .You realise that the answer is no, as you sit there having a glass of wine, the conversation is great , you both look great, smell great, this should be fantastic.....but you feel it in the pit of your stomach.why?It's because while you have all your checklist of ticks, none of it has taken you by surprise, there was no spontaneity, no little buzzing wire going straight for your belly, a clumsy brush of hand on hand, it was planned and didnt just happen naturally.Sure , you're going to still get it occasionally but mostly you have to realise that this approach is going to bear different results as suddenly locking eyes with someone across a room and feeling BOOM!! You can't force chemistry and connection and the difference between good sex and amazing sex is just that....no matter what the person looks like Your pretty ,dud root could be just dud chemistry and nothing more. Not due to vanity or lack of effort.The only choice then is what do you want, quality or quantity?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I gota agreed with this, Guys have got so hung up on themselves I think they sometimes forget someone else involved. So glad I am the age I am could not be dealing with these skinny ass weeners I see walking around like they the shit now. Give me a rough and ready tradie anyday. (or ex tradie know u be reading this babe) with manly hands and stuble. If they can lay a brick they can lay me. Better wear a hard hat cause those can fuck
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RHP User
14 years ago
how about trying some guys who u mite connect with mentally, sex then is always goodd!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
well gurl you always have the over 40 males, we have a few experienced ks on the clock ,may not be so pretty any more,and more often then not , you will not be disappointed, so broaden your horizons and enjoy the experience
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'feloniusfossil' You reap what you sow! Felonius...sorry, I read your profile.It's true that a lot of pretty awesome looking guys out there would make your heart melt and lead to your panties dropping instantly the moment you see their gorgeous .. to die for looks. What an excitement the moment you get to have them indoors ( sometimes outdoors too lol ) for a more thorough personal check. But believe me... a man will get down n dirty the way you want them to be if we just imediately tell them what we want and how we want it done. It doesn't cost anything to be vocal sometimes... just a matter of guts to flirt and say something to them to get them going wild ! Trust me ... it works heaps !
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RHP User
14 years ago
Skills are something we develop, if everything's always come too easily, we don't get the skills, we've never had to learn! We get ourselves into a lot of messes in life through just falling in to whatever seems good at the time, mind you, we'd miss out on a lot sometimes if we're too careful as well. So, I think the way through is to have a plan to help keep things a bit more balanced. Consider the people you've slept with before that were good in bed, think about who they were, what type of people they were, and think, right, those are the qualities I'm going to look for, and if at least some of those qualities aren't present then I'm not going to bed with them, just enjoy the buzz of the flirt.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My partner and I have an amazing connection resulting in the best sex we've ever had despite both being reasonably experienced. It has many levels, can be kinky or loving, but it's always changing. I think both of us have a very specific attraction to people that is hard to pinpoint. Strangely, I rebel against a super attractive woman if I think they are relying on that and my partner has pushed off celebs for the same reason. After nearly 2 years she can take me to a place I've never been to (even as recently as today) and I can make her involuntarily cry with pleasure and we take turns doing so. I think it's about connection, shared imagination and a depth of sexuality but also trust. If we ever parted we know we'd both face likely disappointment in bed if past experience is anything to go by. She has a really great body but quite often I'm not even awake when I feel those slim curves or willing hips. No face attached to that.
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RHP User
14 years ago
One night working as a barman I met possibly one of the most beautiful girls I had have ever seen. We spoke for a while and had a drink together on my break. The next three weekends she came back and saw me at work, we eventually met up outside of work and ended up at my place. I was hugely disapointed when she just laid on her back and stared at the ceiling. At one point I asked her to "at least rub your hands down my back". Needless to say, I couldn't see it going any further. At first I thought, maybe she just wasn't into me but she showed the next weekend saying that she had a great time and asked if I was doing anything after work. I personally found that girls with 'average' looks are much better in the bedroom, maybe it's because they are used to having to 'work' to compete with the barbies of the world and don't have everything 'laid out in front of them' (pardon the pun). Whats the point in having a Lamborgini in the garage, if you can't drive it?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thankfully, we all have our own ideas on who is attractive and who isn't. I don't have the looks to get the pretty boys anyway, but having managed to sample one or two over the years, (mainly under cover of darkness, lol) I'm not keen to go there again. I like a man to put in some effort and make me feel special - it's not a hard ask, surely? After all, you're doing the most intimate thing you can do with another person - at least try to allow them some enjoyment. :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'NorthernCatch'I was hugely disapointed when she just laid on her back and stared at the ceiling. At one point I asked her to "at least rub your hands down my back". That really happens? I've heard of people talking about starfish roots, but I've never encountered it (is it possible for a bloke to be a starfish in the sack?). Well OP wasn't impressed with hers, so I'm guessing that's a yes.This story is really sad to me. She obviously had no idea she was a dud root. I wonder if anyone has taught her yet? I hope so.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Met an absolutely gorgeous woman, great looks... every guy wanted her.... she chased me .. (dunno why).............. Fucking STARFISH.It was ME that felt dirty afterward for having try make the puppet strings work..... and exhausting.More recently.... woman claiming to be raving sex maniac nympho....Pretty attractive, life's war wounds of child bearing.... great smile, enthusiasm... More issues than a George W Bush Nuclear proliferation speech..... and a lousy lay to boot.Now moved South of the city because everybody North of the city thinks the same too.No recall.... Look out South.Thanks for nothing Melissa.LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'NorthernCatch' One night working as a barman I met possibly one of the most beautiful girls I had have ever seen. We spoke for a while and had a drink together on my break. The next three weekends she came back and saw me at work, we eventually met up outside of work and ended up at my place. I think we met the same woman :)HAHA
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RHP User
14 years ago
.... they all got married ;o))
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Grrr'This story is really sad to me. She obviously had no idea she was a dud root. I wonder if anyone has taught her yet? I hope so. It is sad. We did meet up again and I did try again but exactly the same thing happened. I tried to give her hints without making her feel bad but she was either ignoring them by choice or that was her thing. The second time I was over it. Went through the motions (which I did enjoy very much) then left it at that. She called a few days later and I explained to her that it didn't feel like we were compatible. Interesting to note, my flatmate tried to have a passing conversation with her the second time she came around, his thoughts was that she was about as interesting as a wet flannel.
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RHP User
14 years ago
or the attitude....... Ask yourself...... So when your watching porn, assuming you all have or do what would you like to see... a. good looking people with no enthusiasm or b. everyday people going at it like there is no tommorrow or c. interesting story line with a gripping plot It's all about attitude and it was said in a previous post ( apologies for not referencing the author ) , it's the difference between wanting to get laid and wanting to pleasure the other person/s
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RHP User
14 years ago
For me there is nothing sexier than my partner having to stop lovemaking because they have a muscle cramp. It means that they too are pushing themselves to their limits.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I blame it on the invention of mirrors.....before mirrors, who knew they were gorgeous.?...oh yeah ,thats right we gazed into ponds....Narcissus fell inlove with his own reflection and died....I have never believed that great beauty was a gift....whether you are male or female it can get in the way of you growing as a person and often people dont see the person you are, or can be ,but just as an object of beauty....and then one day physical beauty no matter what we do....is gone. If people see you and treat you as an object ,then maybe an object you will be.xHugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Felonious too true....you do reap what you sew, but I also believe that communication before and during is the way to go. You can usually find out their technique by having a little sex texting, can also be used as a prelude of things to come and a little foreplay. I would take a middle of the road guy as much as a hot guy,because personality counts.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lol dinner?? :p love the profile by the way, you might be too fast too furious lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Lol dinner?? :p love the profile by the way, you might be too fast too furious lol Too Furious? Nah not me,can't you tell I am a sweetie? lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lol sweetie is code for respectfully devilish :p
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RHP User
14 years ago
OMG this is so true!! generally though you can tell what they would be like in bed judging by there personality and generally "arrogant guys" are fkn SHIT in bed ! :) my favorite part is that once the deed is done they actually try to talk themselves up and fish for a compliment hahahaha
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RHP User
14 years ago
Its the ladies who allow it to happen and still keep going back ,insecurities plays a massive part in this the think they won't do better , it's a crok you stand up and say I'm not going to stand for this tell your friends when the guy finds it harder to pick up a fuck he must look at himself and improve himself otherwise his hand will be his relief , Max ..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'rove1971'the question is have you ever slept with an ugly guy???...if so what was he like??? just curious lol I slept with my childrens father and he didn't turn heads in the street!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Lol sweetie is code for respectfully devilish :p excuse me you lost me there!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm not arrogant, ahhh who am I kidding?? I'm a king and should be treated as such :p. in all honesty I think that looks play no part in this at all really. I do believe you reap what you sew, but to add to my other ramblings; ugly heart, ugly mind, and ugly performance. If all you think about is yourself, or what it is that someone can do for you instead of how can this be a pleasant exchange; your bound for problems. This is also not just sexually specific but even a prevalent issue in your everyday dealings with people, as I think that many of the posters have indicated.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'Lol sweetie is code for respectfully devilish :p god i am blonde sometimes! and red and brunette too! lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lmao no comment :p
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'City_Kitty' Give me Neanderthal man any day - sling me over his shoulder, dump me in his cave of a bedroom for some glorious rough and tumble - I'm yours!! That would definitely be my preference!
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