Smoking and the 'Ask Me' response.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think you can get most people to bend on age, some people to bend on Marital status but very few will bend on the smoking issue...it seems to me to be the biggest no go zone even if you are hung like a mule... LC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Good one. I'm very attracted to all those people who refuse to put themselves into the box and stay there! hehe. If someone says "ask me" on any of those topics I basically assume that it means a "yes"... e.g. Married? Ask me. lmfao... I mean... that's a yes, right?HugsStalky

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Another website I have looked at (not anywhere near as fantastic as RHP of course!!!) allows its members to put 'I am trying to quit' as a status. I have to say that I have never smoked and can smell a cigarette on a person even if they haven't had one for a couple of days. However I do tolerate it in a partner as long as I don't feel like I am kissing an ashtray. I don't mean to belittle your efforts and all power to you, but I have been with a man who was trying to quit. He was trying to quit for the whole year that I knew him and I believe six months after I last spoke with him he will still be trying to quit. So, in my book, untill you have actually quit you smoke.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Ask me and smoking implies to me a bit of weed is enjoyed from time to time. This could be wrong or right, I dont know, as a new non smoker i avoid them all lol. There are plenty to choose from without asking are you married, do u smoke, how tall r u etc.... GL

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Means an alternative to tobacco in my mind. Light/social, heavy, trying to quit. All the same. You still smoke. I am an exsmoker so I am worse than most. I usually click off if the profile says smoker although, I can accept a cigarbeing smoked on occassions.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I assume you will smell of cigarettes and avoid you. I too am an ex smoker and now find the smell offensive.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Thank you for your replies. I guess I already knew the answer but was fooling myself by trying to limit the negative view that admitting smoking would create. LoveCurvie, I agree with you. I also agree with people’s choices to have nothing to do with people who do smoke. Stalky, I do too. In my case I saw ‘Ask Me’ as a ‘Yes, but....’ type of answer. My Lord and Lady of 69, I’ve been there and I’ve been that man. Definitely don’t want to go back there. Gourmet Lady and Fionabee. I hadn’t considered that before and can see how the response is open for interpretation. I'm Definitely only a cigarette smoker. Yes you are completely right MrsSweetiePie. I look forward to being able to say that I am a non-smoker and to be and to be in MistressT’s shoes. I also look forward to my tastebuds returning and being able to taste Great......

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  What? What did you think I was going to say? You didn't think..... Oh you did. You dirty, dirty minded people! Lol. That's why I love you all here in the forums.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  As already stated above we look at 'ask me' to mean a yes and frankly we do tend to pass on by on any profile that answers 'ask me' to any of the questions, they are not rocket science questions and i really dont want to HAVE to ask.The smoking however is a different kettle of fish entirely, we used to figure that it meant the person was a smoker and just didn't want to say so but of late we have found a couple of people in the same boat as you who are trying to quit and so the answer does seem a little more reasonable and i guess it all comes down to how long you have been off them ( a day or two hardly counts as quitting) perhaps you could make mention of it somewhere in the 'in your own words' part just to clarify and of course this post should help also As ex smokers ourselves (a few years now) we understand how hard it is but it is definitely worth the effort.Best of luck with it,Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I just want to say thank you to those that have replied (though there are also many more). I have spent many hours reading a lot of the posts throughout the forums and your wit and banter have served to make me chuckle quite often. I especially appreciate your advice given to other members, some new some not so new, on how to better their RHP experience. I too have benefitted from your advice and wish to sincerely thank you for bettering my experience. All the best for 2011 and keep on posting.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi! :) Good for you for trying to give Up! Why don't you, just add you're tryinto give up in your Profile . .Nothing to it and People are aware Problem solved .Then .that won't be why they don't accept you in future ,So you'll have something else to share on the forum he!he! just kidding :)Lol Lu

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We smoke, we also rspect the right of others not to or choose to say no if you approach them. We also have our pet hates of poor hygiene, oral genital and general. The comment earlier of kissing ashtrays I hope is from having had the experience of kissing said ashtray. Use the analogy of having sex with a person or ppl that have not cleaned their genitals for 3 days and I will go and tongue the ashtray everytime. God it sounds like we hang out with some very dirty ppl,... Not true All I want to say is, each to there own and don't be a sanctimonious prat

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  we'll smell you at 100 paces. doesnt matter what you put, heavy light or giving up, the truth is that you are a smoker.....yuk

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  and it makes your breathe foul for others anyway.. I only ever had a few puffs 3 times in my life. At least try mask it before meeting up.

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