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Small town syndrome
November 28 2024
- John's Cougar Melanie Camp
For those that live or have lived in the sticks at some point in time, did you find it was harder to connect with others in your neck of the woods as opposed to meeting singles/couples outside your postcode?
We haven't been doing it very long but when we've made contact in the past there's a bit of back and forth initially but when it comes to arrange a meet up that things grind to a halt. And while we aren't up ourselves in anyway, in quite a few of those cases we were the better looking part of the equation so I didn't not think.you could put it down to attraction in those instances.
Does small town syndrome exist where people suddenly realize they might bump into one another or something equally horrifically awkward if you attempt to swing with others in your own backyard essentially?
Do you have more success playing on the road than you have with your home field advantage?
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Massage_Donor
4 months ago
I can only speak from second-hand experience.
One couple I've met a few times actually bought a townhouse in my city and they come up most weekends to enjoy the scene. They do this to open more opportunities, and avoid the small town complications.
Another couple I've been chatting to recently live an hour and a half away. I offered to drive there to meet them. They declined because small town reasons, so they'll either get a hotel here or (more probably) we'll meet in a motel half way.
Flirty2020
4 months ago
We lived in a small, country town for several years.
We found it to be very cliquey.
There was a lot of gossip and the locals were of the opinion that they knew more about you, than you did about yourself.
We would not recommend swinging nor doing anything like that with fellow residents of the same small town that you live in. Sooner or later things may go pear shaped and you might then find yourselves on the other end of a scandalous gossip campaign. It has happened to a few swingers that we know.
We recommend that you rather arrange to meet up with others, on those days / nights that you spend in your closest city or larger town. For us it was a 90 minute drive.
We also recommend that you do not tell playmates in what small town you actually live in. You don’t want them rocking up on your doorstep.
Margo_Lover
4 months ago
I'm sure small town has some impact, but what you're describing is our standard experience everywhere. Brisbane, Sydney, Melbourne, Tasmania.
In our experience, the majority of people in online dating are just time wasters, with little to no intention of meeting.
I believe for couples accounts, it's often the case that the male is always looking, hoping to get someone interested. When he does & he's wasted another couples time, chatting and talking about meeting. THEN he will speak with his wife about it, and she will veto his whole fantasy. They dissappear. Rinse and repeat. That's assuming he wasn't a fake single guy account in the first place.
Single women & single male accounts, are rarely better. Mostly time wasters.
All of which is to say, don't feel despondent about it... as much as that's possible. Most of us genuine people are in the same leaky boat - Alex.
RHP User
4 months ago
I always tend to find a fun hookup when I travel. I’m in Christchurch presently for the cricket and found a local girl through hinge.
Same last year at Wellington.
Also the port towns across Australia usually provide and it’s perhaps because I’m a bit more balls out about being here for a hook up.
(this kind of ties in with my post about being honest as the day is long about profile intentions).
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