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Single men for couples...why are we being rejected?
August 20 2009
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2more4fun
16 years ago
Are you actually contacting couples who are seeking men? There are heaps of couples looking for men and trust me, couples will not state that they are seeking men if they aren't into MFM threesomes. If you are, maybe it's because you're a MFM virgin? Some couples prefer guys who have experienced threesomes and group sex enough to know they can get it up, keep it up and keep going for as long as the lady needs it (it's all about her after all). We've been burnt enough times by newbies who reckon they're up for it but either get cold feet or find they can't perform on the night.PS - Don't whinge about it either. It's not sexy and whinging in a public forum prob isn't going to get couples hot for you.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe its just you or where your living? There are definitely couples up for fun with bi or straight guys in Sydney. can't wait to get back there full time to renew some acquaintances.
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totallygenuine
16 years ago
Mate i can vouch for SydMVP..in the last 2 months ive had alot luck in playing with couples in search for females only dont know why me though then again i have played with couples in search of males, females & so...maybe syd couples are more adventurouse.
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RHP User
16 years ago
no offense but you seem to start a lot of topics complaining about women. Maybe that has something to do with it?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe because you're in the wrong damn state honey!!! ;-) xAnd Yes...Sydney peeps are more adventurous ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well we're a couple that have single guys join us and there are plenty more on this site like us but i'll tell you one thing that will put us off a guy and thats guys that are guests,we don't like flirts and rarely reply to them unless you have something very nice to offer.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it's more about being in the right place at the right time and making the right impression rather than doing lots of asking. I'm down on my luck, Can you spare $2.00 for a cup of coffee mate. Gazza
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provocativeparty
16 years ago
Asho, here are some words that you may wish to take on or NOT, I just looked at your profile & you seem to be too direct, you read like every other single guy on this website... Why don’t you take a little time to write some things about yourself that make you unique & stand out from the thousands of other profiles? Most single men (not everyone) on rhp seem to think a 3 line bullet point description of themselves will automatically pull them roots (wrong) Couples & Single Ladies want to see you are respectful, happy & fun loving & make an effort. So I hope this helps!!! Get some nice photos happy ones not fuzzy etc, make your profile worth reading & don’t send winks as a guest pay for a profile & contact people with a view to get to know them. (If you are looking for a quick 3some hire two hookers) PP
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RHP User
16 years ago
I see no words about seeking a couple in your profile except the basic drop down selection. Its all you with your female. Mars
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RHP User
16 years ago
considering a lot of factors, i think its best if you stop wasting your time on couples and focus on single girls;
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'jengirl' no offense but you seem to start a lot of topics complaining about women. Maybe that has something to do with it? hhahaha deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeniiiiiiiiiied!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Where you are will often have a fair influence on it but I think you will find that the majority of couples seeking guys choose who they want when they want. In most cases they only get in contact with those that they are interested in and don't often notice single males that flirt with them. So unless you re in the local area for a couple that just happen to be looking for someone at that moment you will probably be ignored.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Asho77 What you also have to realise is that as a couple you get hit up by sooooo many single guys... and because we do get hit up by so many we are very selective on who we choose to talk to... most single guys are so focused on the sex part that its hard to have a decent conversation with any of them... we want to make sure that we are going to meet a decent respectable guy so we do select carefully. Adding on what the provocative party said... you have to stand out from all the other single guys on the site and it does help when you pay for a membership... then you can send a detailed msg to ppl to let them know what you're all bout instead of peoples impressions only coming from what they read on your profile..and also what Mars says... it doesnt state anywhere in your profile about what you want to do with a couple? Or what experience you'd like to have with a couple? You could maybe add in what your ideal night would be with a couple? And dont look/try too hard as it should just come naturally if its going to happen... take the time to get to know people and be generally interested in what they're after... sometimes things on here can take time but if you're up for it, it'll definitely be worth your while Hope this helps! And good luck with your search! J&L
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RHP User
16 years ago
Maybe it's because there are just too many of you out there contacting us all the time.We have been through the whole threesome with single guys and are now moving on from that. Maybe there are other couples like us in the same boat.... very over the single guys. Personally, we find it hard to meet couples. We seem to be too extreme for most.So if there are any couples out there, that are into the same as us (read our profile) and in similar age group and area, please please contact us.
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RHP User
16 years ago
there are literally thousands of single guys looking to play with couples....the numbers are incredible. we get so many winks and messages that sometimes it too overwhelming to respond to them all. put something in your profile that attracts and holds the attention. better pictures? (not cock shots) and just be patient. try in areas outside your own, just be consistent. and when you get a rejection, just move on.........just because you are a member of the site doesnt mean you will play, thats really just chance until people begin to know of you............
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm not sure if I lost my previous post or if it will get posted in its not entire version... so this will be slightly repetitive, sorry! ______________________________________ I have had experience as one half of a swinging couple, played with other couples and singles as a couple and been the single girl in threesomes.. and, honestly, I wouldn't choose you either based on your profile.. Seems to me like you need two separate profiles : 1 for the beautiful, sexy girl of your dreams and one for couples... don't forget that you need to appeal to both parties, they will decide together! Some brief advice... To appeal to couples on your profile: - pics of face AND body ;-) - what you have to offer: -stamina, not shy, educated, respectful, polite, fun, easy going -what you are looking to gain from being with a couple -your previous experience or lack thereof Couples are looking for fun sexy times with no emotional attachment and sometimes sexy open friendships, too... they aren't looking for another boyfriend/girlfriend... if you are offering fun, hot sex make that clear! Good luck! It's so nice being a girl sometimes, we have a lot of advatages ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
We've also been hit up with so many single guys. The problem is that so many of these single guys seem to think they are God's gift to women. My husbad has fielded some really strange calls at weird times of the night, as if these single guys think that we're at their beck and call, and all they have to do is call and say "let's party!". Sometimes, in cruder language than that. We're so over single guys now. Any single guy that tries to get in touch with us is automatically blocked, especially since nobody seems to bother reading our profile anyway.
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RHP User
16 years ago
What is it with some people that they think that "dating" on here is any different to the normal single world? Just because most here are a tad more adventurous doesn't mean we're all sex obsessed maniacs that will reply to any wink. As with trying to hook up with single girls, they have the upper hand not the poor blue balled male. Same goes here.We don't have single men selected in our profile because really if we want to find one we'll find them ourselves - there's a fair choice out there. Supply and demand ASHO77 (do you realise your nic sounds like "asshole", not a good start?)Wow there's some nice people giving you some great advice here though but really it's best to put what you're looking for exactly in your profile and let them find you. Oh and as per your profile we're all attracted to drop dead gorgeous perfectly toned hotties....but hey if you want that you better expect to be judged yourself. Have a quick look at other single men's profiles...there's definitely a few on our to do list (even though we're not into that kind of thing hehe)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would say it is simply a case of demographic overload - the more single guys out there (and there are a lot of them!), the less of a chance each one has at connecting with a couple. Have you noticed that many swingers events etc. charge a lot more for single males? That's usually due to there being an overabundance of single males wanting to attend. Or as has been mentioned, there may not be anyone seeking single guys for threesomes in your area. The best you can do is to have your profile up to date, informative, with good photos and with no unrealistic expectations and just get out there (by chatting here on the forum, going to events and so on) so that others can find YOU, not just the other way around. Best of luck :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have just read through the posts on this subject. First of all let me tell you that I have been a paid member on here for over 2 years. I have also been in the Sales field between 3-4 years. I find that looking for couples and being in the sales field is about the same, heaps and heaps of rejection. What I have found is that you need a thick skin and don't take it personally if you get rejected and just move on. I have been the one who has done the rejecting too as I am only into slim/athletic couples, that maybe shallow, but if I don't have an initial sexual attraction all the intellectual conversation is not going to make you sexy to me. I have only met one single woman from this site in that time, and it didn't work out. So, I am happy to wait and find a single woman or couple on here, where we both have a connection and are looking for some friendship/fun times.Also, bar just a couple of profiles, most of the responses have been from couples who are NOT looking for a single straight male to join them for an MFM..... if that is not what you are looking for... Why comment? I would imagine those with opinions would be couples LOOKING for single males, but have a reason for rejecting them.Just my two cents worth... or here in Australia two dollars worth
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RHP User
16 years ago
i would love to be double peno sounds hot mrs fun couplefun
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RHP User
16 years ago
DP is hot Mrs Fun couple. The fun is getting into position. Mars
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WhispersAndMoans
16 years ago
As you will have probably realised from the couples posting here, every couple is looking for something a bit different. As you would see from our profile we have stayed the time here to find a couple of single males to join us (look at the red hot pics for Nov if you need proof). Why these two guys above the hundreds (literally) who msg or flirt us.... hard to pin down really. As with most people we have a split personality sometimes.... there has to be a level of dominance for her, but not outright arrogance and so on. Then you factor in there the fact there are two of us and all of a sudden you are struggling in a big way to hit the right spot. So what do we look for - Number 1 - message above flirtNumber 2 - a message with humour, intelligence, a degree of length and not one that is a "wanna fuck?" style.Number 3 - a profile that is NOT the standard "other people say I am attractive but that is for you to decide" or whatever the stupid formula ones sayNumber 4 - a profile with detail that matches what we want (safe sex always for example)Number 5 - Photos that say something about you other than you are a dick - that is they show more than just your dick.Even those massive ones often don't get anymore than a - "wow, that wouldn't be getting anywhere near my bum"In the end the effort you put in is up to you, our level of response will often correspond! But we are one couple, everyone is diffferent.Good luck!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I put an add up as a couple looking for a guy for a mmf threesome. Within a week the profile had had 6000 hits and by a month it had 11000. So I am not surprised that there are lots of guys being rejected. We only wanted 1 guy, which leaves a hell of a lot in that rejected catagory. And after all that, the 3 guys I spoke to pulled out. Am sorry to say that sex with my wife wasn't just being offered on a plate. The guys need to put some effort in to. Also its pretty hard to reject someone nicely, because you don't like their look or they are not well endowed enough. As a result, we are still looking!
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