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Single male etiquette
January 27 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have the same problem. Alot dont evan say they are looking for couples on there profiles. We ignore those now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
many believe , that because this is a so called swingers / sex site, that such an approach is acceptable (to the recipient ) and will work and thus get some action for the sender. Expectations and a sense of entitlement. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it's really just a consequence of the gendered social exchange dynamic that dominates 90% of this scene. If you look at couple profile pictures, the vast majority of them are about showing off the female half of the couple. And when there are pictures of both, the male pictures are usually more generic and less sexualized than the female. Culture or nature, it doesn't really matter, it is what it is. The predominant dynamic revolves around straight male attraction to women, and a scarcity model which amplifies the attractiveness of females even further. It's no wonder that you get exactly that kind of attention - especially from the less sharp blades in the box who think with their lizard brains and don't consider the subtleties. Personally? I find the entire phenomenon a bit tiring.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Remember people,this site is for sexyfun Times, people who are stuck up or think they are somewhat better or too good for the Everage person should have a good look in the mirror,it's for fun and playing,get real folk's and get your rocks off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your profile is hilarious Hahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Love your profile! But alas I’ve only been able to burp my way to D. :-)))
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s because most couples use the sexy girl as bait and hide mr beergut out of site ? Abcdef. Great profile 👍
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
And there we have it . Your post is a fine example of what we were referring to - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just gold!!
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Hilarious. Love it. My sort of people that have a sense of humour. Maturehung not sure what your rant has to do with this couples post 🤔
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
Some are:Chineseeuro has:"man" listedThey are looking for "anyone with a pulse" "open relationship" so I dont blame anyone for thinking whatever, so I dont know what the fuss is really. We cant stop certain things happening yet we can control to what extent- every member has those tools. Likened to couples that select "man" under "looking for" and they are not looking for "man" yet also they have selected "couples" and perhaps "women" and wonder why they get so called unsolicited messages. The single guy cops it left right and centre on all dating sites, all that is needed at times is ti take the single guys shoe off and wear it.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Clearly you did not see the humour in their profile . Our understanding is that they listed everything that they are not / that they don’t want . Tongue in cheek sarcasm. We like their profile :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Funny profile I like it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
This thread isn't aimed at being a single guy bashing message, quite the contrary, we have met up with several in the past and had some great fun....i hoped some might pick up a few pointers for future reference. Gotta love a pork scratching :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We changed our profile to sound as boreing as bat shit to keep that sort of person away from us, no, we are not stuck up but we do have principles and likes and dislikes, and we are allowed to our play our rules - Posted from rhpmobile
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' Clearly you did not see the humour in their profile . Our understanding is that they listed everything that they are not / that they don’t want . Tongue in cheek sarcasm. We like their profile :) - Posted from rhpmobile "Clearly" I see a profile that is a joke (literally) many would, I see the humour of course, yet as far as informative-about who they are & what they want- its far from it. Don't the majority of members look for information apart from images? I feel most would just move onto the next profile unless you enjoy reading short funny stories and have loads of time. Anyway we digress from the main topic, let it go we can talk about funny profiles in another post :) sure I have loads of time too.
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
Quoting 'chamelions' We changed our profile to sound as boreing as bat shit to keep that sort of person away from us, no, we are not stuck up but we do have principles and likes and dislikes, and we are allowed to our play our rules - Posted from rhpmobil, Your profile has plenty of information-about yr likes and dislikes your lifestyle, yet then again, your are chamelions..enjoy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Others mentioned our profile and yep, its tongue in cheek, if people want to get to know us then the first thing they may note is a sense of humour which some find important, others not so. Each to our own i guess. The 'i am a hunk with a huge cock' is hardly informative in our humble opinion. I am generalising here and not necessarily aiming that anyone in particular, as most couples will testify they see a lot of those. Depends if you are just looking for animlistic fuck or at least some chemistry with whom you play. But i am sure some will like the hunky big cock as some will prefer humour. I orginally mentioned messages from guys who seem to think they are only addressing a single female in a couples profile. I guess like most couples those ones end up in the recycling bin :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
Quoting 'Chineseeuro' Others mentioned our profile and yep, its tongue in cheek, if people want to get to know us then the first thing they may note is a sense of humour which some find important, others not so. Each to our own i guess. The 'i am a hunk with a huge cock' is hardly informative in our humble opinion. I am generalising here and not necessarily aiming that anyone in particular, as most couples will testify they see a lot of those. Depends if you are just looking for animlistic fuck or at least some chemistry with whom you play. But i am sure some will like the hunky big cock as some will prefer humour. I orginally mentioned messages from guys who seem to think they are only addressing a single female in a couples profile. I guess like most couples those ones end up in the recycling bin :) - Posted from rhpI will generalise, why not hey and say ,that some have small minds , small cocks, medium cocks or big cocks, the truth is forums get off topic, some try to stop it there and then some continue and start to generalise and cast meaningless statements about some in there own defence, which is sad. Oh perhaps I should write Im a hunk with a big cock all over my profile" thanks for the tip xo Im my humble opinion.
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egr2please69
8 years ago
Thank-you for ypur profile, goodness i laughed, BRAVO, but i digress. As a single male in here, having met and had fun with several couples, i always write messages with some thought and use, dare i day it, manners. I have had plenty of 'thanks but no thanks' emails but they usually say thankçyou for a nice email instead instead of the usually dribble they receive. I can't explain why so many fellas write rude one lone contact emails, makes no sense yo me at all. Maybe i'm too old school or too old bahahahaha. Either way, i don't care to be trivial or rude so i'll continue down my line of manners and acceptance that everyone likes things their own way and try to find people who like me for me, warts and all (no pun intended) lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...as it proves Darwin's theory was not entirely wrong! Too, it helps us build our block lists much more efficiently. 👍🙃⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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married2aBBW
8 years ago
Male half here , we have had the 'hi sexy' mail. It was easy to see it was directed to only the her of the us, I replied ' is it my wife or myself you think is sexy ? ' lol . But we have had a single guy message us who was talking to us both and was worth talking to , we almost met but the wife was a bit nervous about it and have a rain check with his contact details so could very well have a met up with him due to his very good attitude towards the couple . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I realise some out there regard RHP as a sex site and that is fine. Even if it was just that, manners and being a gentleman through messaging is of the utmost importance to me and I get complimented on that from time to time which I love and gives me a pride within myself. Single profile or couples profile makes no difference to this as far as I am concerned. Except that if I write to a couple I will only ever address both of them. Just wish most profiles would do the same and show a little of both the female and the man. So as so many have only a point of view and photos from the female side it does not surprise me that you will see those 'hi babe' introductions from those that seem to only think with their smaller heads
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think its got to do with some couples. I know a lot of the time they see their time is more vauble than yours. I have tried to meet ones for a drink to see were it goes. The amount of organsation makes it feels like a job interview. I think that i have found its alot of effort for not much in return. I find that better chasing single women. Also esp since that you might only ever see that coupke once and the amount of effort used isnt worth it.
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Wow. Not much in return 😳 So you want a husband let you fuck his wife but you don't want to put any effort in. Sounds fair 🙄
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Sawadee
8 years ago
.. at last '. someone with a fair dinkum old fashion Aussie sense of humour.. Well written guys and keep that tongue pushed firmly in that cheek... Best thing I've read since I first came here..
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madotara69
8 years ago
Quoting 'bardynt' I think its got to do with some couples. I know a lot of the time they see their time is more vauble than yours. I have tried to meet ones for a drink to see were it goes. The amount of organsation makes it feels like a job interview. I think that i have found its alot of effort for not much in return. I find that better chasing single women. Also esp since that you might only ever see that coupke once and the amount of effort used isnt worth it. Then again we couldn't really give a fuck about any other time, more with what time can you get here, we give a fuck about that, mainly because we are horny and flicking through the 'wanna fuck' and 'fuck you all night', guys and it becomes exhausting trying to get just one single bloke to come over, spend a few hours getting a wonderful blow job, because Tara loves sucking cock it's her favourite, although her toys she loves as well, then of course she very much enjoys having two guys fucking her, double penetration, spit-roast, topsy turvy, then the sex swing is great for tossing her about and a bit like pin the tail on the donkey, sixty niners while having her delectable arse rimmed gets her flustered, she loves her arse being spanked, her nipples squeezed, whips, chains, she'll tie your balls to your cock, have'm popping out up and proud like walnuts and slapp against her arse fucking doggy, while she deep throats the other, and then there is that mischievous side, it's the Gypsies in her blood, she loves being naughty, just to get into trouble, then kinky play, however this may well be boring you a little, not worth the effort. Well fuck bardynt, how am I supposed to make up for both of us, fair dinkum, some times a bloke could use a hand. Did you think about a mate, mate ? Mado Mado Tara xx
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Rlee552
8 years ago
I can only speak from my own viewpoint. 1. When messaging, I am messaging the both of you because unless you both agree ... it will be a no for me (rhymes) 2. I do like knowing who is responding to me. Is it the F, M or both. I have no problems speaking to the M, and it is valuable to do so. Where are his boundaries, his likes and dislikes. Is he straight, a straight guy who likes playing with M in a MMF, bi curious or bi sexual. Information that can change the permutations considerably. 3. There are the obvious and not so obvious fakes. Nothing more annoying than a single M pretending to be a couple Most importantly I appreciate it is a privilege as a single guy to be invited to join a couple. I am the outsider joining in. And at the end of the day, if I am not what they are looking for - to wish them the best on their journey and not get pissy about it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree. Couples are often a pain the arse. So many rules an boundaries and time restrictions.... blah blah .... can’t be fucked really. Couples sometimes treat the singles as a piece of meat. As Freaky says, you’re expected to jump through hoops just to root the Mrs, and if you don’t they are all indignant. Lol
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madotara69
8 years ago
Sounds convincing
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RHP User
8 years ago
There seem to be a few examples of exactly the attitude the thread raises for discussion.....I find it hard to believe that some guys think they have to display an arrogant disregard for an appropriate level of respect for another mans' wife/partner ??? Maybe they are just pissy because their attitude is preventing them extracting some enjoyment from the time they spend on this site trolling as if they were Adonis personified.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
Funforal Spot on sir in your comments. I think most males in a couple are realistic enough to know that the guys are messaging couples so they can get to 'root the misses' as someone earlier said. In our relationship my GF would not entertain meeting guys i wasn't happy or comfortable with. Its a joint decision and we both have the black ball option. She doesnt appreciate being addressed as 'Hi sexy' from a complete stranger either, maybe after she has rooted them she is fine but not as an opening intro :). Would you walk up to a couple in a club and ignore her male partner and just make a play to get into her panties? If you look like Brad Pitt you might get away with it but please guys...mirror mirror on the wall.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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FireHorse101
8 years ago
Quoting 'Chineseeuro' Funforal Spot on sir in your comments. I think most males in a couple are realistic enough to know that the guys are messaging couples so they can get to 'root the misses' as someone earlier said. In our relationship my GF would not entertain meeting guys i wasn't happy or comfortable with. Its a joint decision and we both have the black ball option. She doesnt appreciate being addressed as 'Hi sexy' from a complete stranger either, maybe after she has rooted them she is fine but not as an opening intro :). Would you walk up to a couple in a club and ignore her male partner and just make a play to get into her panties? If you look like Brad Pitt you might get away with it but please guys...mirror mirror on the wall.... - Posted from rhpmobile I agree with Funforall yet I see you have remove(since your original post) "open relationship" from your couples profile write up, that may get the results your after. You can tell jokes on a profile yet some have not much brains, decorum or respect- so if you give those guys half a chance they will jump in thinking they have a chance! human nature prevails, be it right or wrong on RHP or Gumtree.
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RHP User
8 years ago
So im not the only one who has had that experience. I think jumping through hoops is true. I think were not dating you. We are their to have some fun with you. I think when they make it seem like a job interview it kills the fun. Quoting 'madotara69' Sounds convincing Quoting 'madotara Quoting 'madotara69' Sounds convincing
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RHP User
8 years ago
So how much effort are you meant to put in ? Its not dating its called hooking up, If you want to be wined and dined ask youre bf I think they have to many things that guys or girls are meant to do to meet them They dont think that the guy or girl might have a few questions for them
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hey so you're saying i have to put in a lot of effort do you say that can only meet at certain times like sat at 11 and no other time I have found that a lot arent flexible with meeting and want you to bend over backwards to accommodate them I wish i just had one couple that were like lets meet up for a drink see were it goes. Otherwise its way too much organisation for a once off fun. Its like you have prove to them someting. I think maybe think what is like for the guy or girl going to meet a couple
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Freaky_Fun
8 years ago
Again wow. Good luck you'll need it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Unfortunately, many single makes do not bother to read a profile or pay attention to the 'I am looking for' section. Many are under the impression that everyone on here is desperate for sex, as opposed to the reality that it is a place, a meeting place of sorts for like-minded people to connect and find others whom fit their desires. As a bi male, I get plenty of guys messaging me, despite my profile clearly stating that I am interested in couples and women. It can be frustrating, and sometimes quite offensive when they experience rejection or are ignored,and the reaction it can invoke but that is, unfortunately, the cost of us putting ourselves out there.Overall, I find the positive experiences more than outweigh the negative.
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RHP User
8 years ago
im not sure if youre missing the point i can have a opnion that couples are more diffcult to deal with. You have two people judging you and one might like you and the other isnt keen. I have been respectfull to coiuples and have been a coiple looking for someone to join So i have been on both siides. I think its more the fact if people treated each other like human being and gave respect each way it would be better. I think were the lines blur is were couples want friends who fuck them. I dont know about anyone else but i dont fuck my friends.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hmmm u obviously get messages from the wrong people Being bi sub for couples I assume I’m talking to him firstly and if unsure ask who and make sure both parties are aware of our conversation even go as far as to make him/her read all other message between us so we all on same page etc. it would be different for straight mmf but I always find out about what his role is and what she wants to accomplish every situation is different communication = ejaculation
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FireHorse101
7 years ago
This topic thread and all of its content is at least 6m old, same old. Get on with it though.
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