Single Bi Ladies - Thoughts/Opinions/Insight desired

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  Disclaimer - when I use the terms 'you', 'they' etc it is not specifc to Xena & her man. The pronouns are used in their collective & general sense. No rules such as you can't kiss my man Equal access to both m & f; if you both want to play with me, then its only fair I get to play with you both. Respect that it is as much about my experience as it is yours. Spending some time together before play... it works best for me when I can get to know the m&f. If you are time poor, that is not my problem. I dont appreciate being rushed to chat, rushed to meet, and rushed into bed on the same night....and equally rushed out the door so you two can re-bond and still get home to relieve the babysitter by midnight. Talk, talk, and talk some more. Before & during and after. Be upfront about your interests and boundaries, for example if you soft swap its kind of important to share that before play. And trust me it can get ugly.... I've had the (un)pleasant experience where the m decided to test the boundaries with his partner... and I was the one who copped the angst and jealousy for months after. If I am approached in a manner which suggests I am an experiment, this unicorn will canter off into the sunset. 🦄 I'm not really interested in putting on a show for your man, if all goes well he will see enough ff action to make him pop his cork a number of times. Would you do that for me if I wanted to put on a show for a fwb, without your man present? Probably not, so don't ask me to do so unless you are willing to. Also see points 2, 3 & 7. 😁 Toys are fun.. but please disinfect before expecting me to be happy to use and enjoy them. Seems obvious...yeah nah not to some. When it works it works... it can be enormous fun and the start of a wonderful friendship. 😘

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  My inference to a show was reference to my man being happy to watch and not participate should that be the preference of the female - not merely that we were putting on an act in anyway. Thought I’d best clarify that point Thank you MsJonesy, it intrigues me to know what we can do to make it the most for that person. As you said we will have each other when that person leaves so it needs to be an amazing experience for them. We would never rush into a face to face chat before then a wham bam thank you ma’am before dressing and leaving. I believe in quality and quantity all the way - this is what we would expect to receive and it’s certainly what we give to people at the bare minimum. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Freaky_Fun

  8 years ago

  Makes me cringe when l read that in profiles. Personally, l dont find it intimidating or scary but l am a little different. I don't want to be cherished or worshipped either just treated with respect like you would your other friends. Friendship is a big thing for me. Just 'normal' everyday friendship. I can only speak for myself but it's really not rocket science. I have been friends with one couple for over 2 years we do BBQs, coffee, go shopping and go to the beach with the kids. I'm very similar with males makes no difference, l don't want to be used for someone else's fantasy.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Sorry - definitely a poor choice of words on my behalf and certainly not meant to cause any disrespect to anyone. I am certainly not meaning to belittle what we do or anyone at any point in time - I hope it doesn’t reflect poorly on us.. Thank you for taking the time to voice this and to share your opinion. We believe in communication and getting to know the person. Everyone has thoughts and feelings and desires and we want to know names and faces and those thoughts and desires. It’s so much more than a body it’s the person behind the body that makes it.. it’s the personality, the likes the dislikes the opinions that takes the mental stimulation into something more intimate. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Freaky_Fun

  8 years ago

  A lot of couples do put exactly that in their profiles. If I'm going to put on a show l will at least sell tickets and pay off some bills. Don't overthink it. 😊

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  nightingale8

  8 years ago

  Yes I've seen the "we will worship you" a number of times and it's strange? Eg If a guy told me he wanted to worship me I'd run for the hills 😂 I don't want to get involved in someone else's relationship or cause troubles so the couple has to be secure. With the female leading. Friendship first, non pushy, not rushed. Relaxed and warm natured. Open minded. No bad mouthing other single girls you've previously met. I met with one couple who were referring a no show as a "slut" and another promiscuous girl as a "whore" with "bad taste". That made me uneasy. That and hearing the phrase, "don't stick it in the crazy". Lots of lead up and lots of post cuddles! No rules. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Thanks for the feedback guys

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Hmmmm? Some interesting input. Thanks for sharing. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  To consider that lovely individual that we choose to involve and also curious to see from their perspective what they were after and looking for and how they wanted to be made to feel. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  Big 👍 👍 for your efforts to understand the third person, and gain an understanding of their perspective

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I do like the idea of spoiling the female, lavishing attention on her and making her feel important and included. When I was a single considering meeting couples it was my biggest fear I’d be left out so I don’t want that for them or for me either - so when I say that it’s important to me that I don’t hear the phrase ‘I love cock’ that’s a red flag to me that she is more so about him than me and him. It’s been interesting, I am still learning the features of a woman and am aching to have more time with them but as we all know meets are not the easiest to organise and even if talking it doesn’t always translate into real life. - Posted from rhpmobile

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