M39
Single 10+ years and find it hard to attract women online
March 16 2024
It doesn't help I don't go out much, and if did go out on my own its more daunting.
I find myself online mostly when horny and really jst want sexual fun and have also considered dick picks lol, but i know its a shit thing, There are sites that cater for this and I have sisters ect. Its more a confidence reason for me and haven't been seen naked for 5+ years and due to my slim build 65kg i just assume, women think if i have a small body and small bits.
I have little confidence nude and also have only 3 or pictures and thought if i organised a photoshoot with 2-5 females to apply makeup also photograph me clothed and also underwear and nude this may help to gain confidence and also get some more photos to help me attract women....
I'm a good guy, helped many past friends out been burnt ect I respect all women and work full time care for disabled family member and enjoy many hobbies mostly outdoors but feel il never get laid unless i pay and prefer find local females for that discreetly.
seems a waste.
that's another issue once i meet females i find it easy to make friends but not sexually
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MsSuperFoxy
24 days ago
My advise: keep your female friends as friends.
If it's that difficult, hire a female escort. There's nothing wrong.
I don't mean going to a brothel (wham, bam thank you mam), I mean you set the scene and tell them exactly what you want.
You want a good service, you put in the effort and pay.
Just like on here. Huge effort = greater the reward.
Ms Foxy
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Ex007
24 days ago
I follow some great men online who are amazing at helping men gain their confidence and become men. Real men not woke chakra balancing, think their men vegans.
The best would be Jake Woodard (a recovered vegan himself) you'll find him on insta.
MajekMonkey
24 days ago
You're not really going to get much online unless you're a 10, 9 or 8 looks wise. Sounds very high but women looking at pictures of men don't find most men attractive. And these apps are just a picture on a screen after all. There also tends to be more males than females on these apps which slants things even further. So your experience is common and there's so much you can do about it.
RHP User
23 days ago
It takes time dude...and no disrespect to other comments but stay away from the escort scene as i think i know what you are saying. You want the chase and the hunt kinda thing as that is a big part of the attraction and the fun of it all. Stay true, be nice, dont be arrogant or send dic pics, send 100's of messages as most women don't read them so you need to write something really cool. And also read profiles....lots of good info there. The most important thing i can tell you is if i can get a lady to play with on here anyone can! Keep pushing and dont lose hope i know it can be frustating as hell.
MsSuperFoxy
22 days ago
Actually, your reply too, "stay away from escort scene", would make a really good forum post.
Would be an interesting read, thats for sure!
I breathlessly, await for your forum topic of discussion.
See you over there! 😘
Ms Foxy
EarthQueen
21 days ago
Take the focus off finding women and start finding yourself. Attend events or do things that you like to do. Do them with the intent of personal enjoyment and growth. That in itself is very interesting to many women. I you don't like yourself physically change that to the best of your capacity. Work on making yourself the best version of yourself so you can feel confident. Go talk to a therapist if self doubt is limiting you.
If you want to visit an escort for physical intimacy go for it. It's ok to look and pay for physical touch if you need it.
RagnarPrime
20 days ago
This will sound perhaps harsh but…
…you’re making choices to support your goals. Perhaps your goals don’t truly align with what you say and making the choice to invite further variables, unknowns and thus critique invokes fear. Fear of judgement and and fear of rejection. Both necessary tools for growth and evolution.
Is it a matter of taking a step into the unknown to work out what reality actually is and how that mirrors your present view of the world? If your view alters slightly then your choices may too.
countrytouch82
20 days ago
I've also been single 10 years, twice (before and after a brief period in 2014).
There's a world of various advice out there, some good some bad, depending on one's worldview.
Some advice that does the rounds is the idea that things you are looking for will find you, when you are not looking for them. (I know it doesn't work with car keys). Or that working on yourself will magically attract certain things. Now, finding people really means networking, and some of that networking is not necessarily a deliberate attempt to meet said special someone. It's about trying to enjoy your life as best as you can, assuming you aren't going to find anyone in a given period.
For example, for myself, lately, it's about participation in motorsport. Doing more custom craft projects. More songwriting. Seeing more concerts (ie solo). Now, sometimes, one's favourite and most enjoyable hobbies aren't conducive to meeting more people let alone potential suitors, but they help you enjoy life more in the meantime.
As for going out alone, not that many seem to do nightlife or similar things alone. However most of your hobbies, shopping, travelling, entertainment, casual dining etc is quite common for people to do solo. When I've gone to singles events and the like, nearly all the single guys have turned up alone. Often they end up chatting to each other if not having any success making dating conversations. It's cathartic to find and chat with others in the same boat.
Personally I've found mixed Poly and/or fetish scene (social) events really inclusive, because they are used to having a variety of neuro and gender diverse, and different personality and relationship types present, that the average single man is easily welcomed and chatted to. Like board games? There's even board game nights within the kink social sphere.
What I don't know is whether it is a good idea to be open about the duration of one's singledom. It seems for many people a long time single is a dealbreaker for them, they figure there must be some negative reason for it. But then they also say be honest, so...CobraRoganTate
7 days ago
Quit drinking, eat clean and hit the gym 5 times a week. Find a good short hair style that suits your face and head and maintain it. Find some good clothes that suit you and give you confidence.
Good luck bro
Yamisou
2 days ago
I'm in the same boat. And it's frustrating.
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