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Sharing the house...

November 01 2012

So, we lived in an appartment that was too small for both of us, let along guests, up until eighteen months ago. Couldn't have RHP guests over, it was embaressing.Then, we got offered a dream house sitting arrangement: massive home, massive block, 12 seater spa, sauna, more sheds than you can poke a stick at (400m2 actually), all within 20 minutes of the city. No bills. No gardening to do. Nuthin. BUT, the owners will 'pop back every now and again for a few nights between business trips and holidays'. Sounded easy enough.They did 'pop in' every now and again. Almost perfect timing with every party we organised! Ended up staying with us for up to six weeks at a time.So, whilst house sitting, we saved and saved, and bought a new rocker home. Big spa, big games room, great little home for 'swinging'. Freedom at last! Parties every fortnight!! WOO HOOWe haven't been here two weeks, and we've had to take in custody of Mrs Rockers younger sister. AARRGGHHHH!!!! 16yo's and rampant sex parties don't mix. Shattered!!Now we have to devise some scheme to plan events far enough out that people know about them, whilst also kicking younger rocker out the door on the night, without the chance of her coming home early... or worse... with friends!There must be other 'parents' who face the same problem, so let's hear the solutions?!??!

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  • playful4u

    playful4u

    13 years ago

    The answer is a planned sleepover at a friends house   Schoolies is coming up too   Welcome to parenthood

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Irritates me...try to imagine wanking using sand paper as lube :p. there's more to life than sex, orgies and orgasms. Why not just have said no to junior moving in?? Instead of complaining after the fact??

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hardtruckin'....good on you rockers for supporting little rocker,life sometimes gets in the way of the plans we make for pleasure.x R

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Get a cut from that sandpaper today? Ummmmm you may not have noticed they aren't asking this question in the Herald, this is a perfect medium to ask. Reading your reply screams" Tall poppy Syndrome" As a parent myself this question poses interesting insight into what we shall face in some years time and how people get around it.   All I can offer is welcome to the world of planning planning planning. ( Sucks as fairly spontaneous lets throw a party kind of thing are usually the best) Especially if you have perfect party house. It's a matter of using relatives but looks like that is limited in your case or the girls friends. Get to know some of her friends parents arrange a night/ weekend she can stay at her friends place and reciprocate. Just Dont get "Too" friendly with the other parents...to keep finding great sitters can be a bit of a biatch.   Shall look forward to hearing answers from parents with teens!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm a parent of 3 kids, 10, 8, 4 all girls. They have my priority to my penis. Sometimes in life things don't go the way we would like, you just have to deal with it, make do with what you have and enjoy it for what it is. That's just my opinion, as my former post was just an opinion/view/solution.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I get where Truckin is coming from and I also get where RockercouplE are coming from. I have 100s of kids and because of that I can only play once a fortnight when I can. I'm one of those horrid people that has cancelled at the last minute because has screwed with my free weekend and it suddenly isn't free any more....having teens is a pain cause they have their own lives which don't include going to daddies for the weekend....the joys of kids I'm afraid lol Roxxy

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  • Innercircle

    Innercircle

    13 years ago

    Hardtrucking, we aren't complaining. We volunteered to spend our lives trying to sort out someone who has virtually no parental supervision for years, has got involved with hard drugs, is facing a whole string of criminal charges, etc etc etc.Our priority IS this young person. Didn't think we had to point that out. We are doing this when no one else would. We are putting off having our own children, to help.Our question was simply what do other 'parents' do to organise their private RHP lives. You must remember, we've been thrown into this change of lifestyle, not developped it over a series of years. We understand we wont be running last minute parties (we never have anyway). We wont be having people pop over one night without lots of planning (we have never done that, either).

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Sorry, speaking as the child of an overprotective, overbearing, self-sacrificing type, the "my needs are not important" thing tends to be unhealthy. My needs are NOT unimportant at all. After all, how can I be expected to look after someone else if I don't look after me? Also, my son (raised with what hardtruckin may see as selfishness) is one of the most balanced, intelligent, honourable people I know. Doesn't drink, do drugs, smoke, any of it. I'd like to think its because I gave him the freedom to make his own decisions, but I guess it's as much the fact that he saw my mistakes and chose not to repeat them. Either way, I took as much care of me as I did him, and he turned out pretty damn good. Kids need reality, not coddling, and sometimes that means saying to them "we are taking an *us* weekend, hope you don't mind staying with Suchandsuch, see you Monday, love ya heaps." After all, she'd probably appreciate the fact that if she does live by your example, rockers, she can be as happy as you guys are, and have FUN. Tell her the truth, in my opinion. Maybe not all of it, but enough.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    So to answer your question...and all cats back in their cages, that was fun though, well for me   However, I do digress...the key to any success with your parties is communication as silken said. She's 16, she's more than likely going to be experimenting herself, and she more than likely wants to do her own thing anyway. Just be aware of how much pressure you inadvertanly put on her to have a night away so you can play, if you wish to keep your playdates as a secret from her that is.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    And at 16. She's (or should be) and adult anyway.So asking her for some play time privacy should not really be a problem. Though I can understand their frustration.. Just a little ~laughs~

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I find honesty (to a certain extent) works well. Most teenagers do not want to be around if they're suspicious of parents or older siblings planning some intimacy. I'm not saying you disclose everything to her, but it's ok to admit to wanting a little alone time. If she has a good relationship with her sister, this may be Mrs Rocker could talk to her about over a little "girl talk".   Knowing a little more about your situation though, it all depends on whether you have someone you can trust who will be able to have her over for the odd weekend every now and again and somewhere she's comfortable and enjoys being. Afterall, teenage girls can be quite the drama queens which would win them a gold logie award, so if it's not fun for them, they might make you feel guilty about it.   If she has some issues, maybe a bit of respite every now and again to recharge your batteries is a good idea, so hopefully you have someone you can arrange something with.   I know there's no real bright ideas in there, but hope it sparks something for an idea.   Good luck.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Taking on a 16 year old! Hats off to you. I know it sucks and sometimes life does get in the way of our plans. But hey..she will not be 16 forever and as each week passes she will want more and more independance anyway. Like the others said..organised sleep overs at the house of some of her friends (get to know the parents though because at that age they are not above telling a lie or two) Having numerous teenaged girls in and out of my home on a daily basis...I can tell you that most of them are a long long long way from adulthood. Oh they think they know it all and would be totally grossed out at the thought of you guys having sex with each other, let alone other people. I do agree that she is old enough and will benefit enough from the concept of you having a little "me" time. Before I met my current partner, I had four teenaged girls in my care. Not mine though. I used to arrange respite for them...off they would go to another carer for the weekend or the week and I would zap down to Sydney every few monbths for that time. It is important to take that time out. Even if the child was your own you need that space every now and then

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  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    13 years ago

    Hi Rockers, you will get many suggestions from fellow RHP ers as to what you should do. There is no simple solution and everyones situation varies from person to person.We started this sideline to our normal life with young children so know no different.All we know is that it takes more strategic planning that the Normandy invasion.A few white lies to family also may we say!If we have two children staying at a friends sleepover party ,we still have another two at home.Very hard to billett out four at a time so our playtime with others becomes very limited. It will be hard. It will be frustrating. It won't be forever. Have fun, Mr Luvsilver

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