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Sexual limits?
November 01 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Interesting question. I have my limits, and I also have things I like to do sexually but those things would only be with someone that I have known for sometime and really have built up some trust with. I know it is a case of each to their own, but i get annoyed when guys expect too much when we have first met. A case in point is when i was chatting on the phone to someone I hadn't met and it was our first phone call and he asked if I was up for anything and i said "like what?" He said "oh you know, anal, bareback, swallowing,cum on my face etc"" Needless to say I did not meet him. I'm happy to go along with oral play etc and of course intercourse, with a condom but i really don't think that a complete stranger should expect anything and everything. Yep and i agree no cum on my face no matter who it is. Very degrading!!!Oh and i wouldn't give someone a miss because of the fetishes that they have listed unless they were really into BDSM and wanted to go down that road.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm not into watersports yet, or scat.... And unlikely to be. And drunks annoy me, as do people off their scones with drugs. I will remove myself from any kind of rape fantasy and I will react violently to any forced or abusive situation. Otherwise I've been tolerant of all the adult fun I've been exposed to. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
well, i guess I would still make contact. It could be that the listed "fetishes" is just there to get attention from people who are more experienced in those sort of things - maybe just after the experience (like mount fuji - once you've climbed it, you never do it again sort of thing)... besides, a woman or a man can always say "NO" at any point in time.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Much the same as the opening 3 lines in this thread, and most people will be. No Children, Animals, Excrement, blood... and definitely won't play with anyone on drugs.Apart from that, not much else. We're open to trying anything, but the "No rule" is there for a reason. Every situation is different with every playfriend/s. there's some we'd feel more comfortable doing certain things with, and some we wouldn't even consider anything other than standard play with. And some things we keep between ourselves.We are pretty well accepting of other peoples likes and dislikes, fantasies and turn-ons though, and we're much in the frame of mind that we don't have to enjoy it, but if they do, so what... that's in a purely observant situation though, we're not saying we'll do something we don't like just to keep someone happy...
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RHP User
16 years ago
It constantly amazes me when I read the topics on this forum. Do people really not understand the terms mutual pleasure, respecting others. "steel capped boots' ...what about a nice pair of casuals or even barefeet, washed of course.... Hopefully a lot of these idiots are tinewasters and don't actually intend to meet anyone..but ladies glad to hear you don't take the chance and meet them. What is the obsession with "cum on face'..don't know I'd feel comfortable even if asked but then again no woman ever has. Maybe I'm old fashioned or its just my personal preference...I feel more comfortable if we move at the ladies pace..won't stop the flirting or sexual innuendo,,, or me letting them know I'd like to go further. Always a gentle touch unless asked for more.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well i'm fairly along the lines of Gaz. However being straight I don't want any male to male contact (sorry Gaz). I think you need to find your partners likes and dislikes and respect that, and hopefully they will learn to trust you enough to be willing to try things they don't do with strangers, thinking of Anal in particular here, but there is more than just that. Its one of the reasons i'm looking for something on-going rather than one-off liasons.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with all of your comments. I think initialy you have to respect a new partner and it takes time to find out somebodies likes and dislikes. With some people you might feel happy to push your bounderies a little more and others you might just wanna keep in simple. Draw the line strait away and then go with your feelings. I am also with trishl on the toilet thing. Keep the fun clean and within your limits. Have fun all.
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RHP User
16 years ago
it is a simple mater of communicating, if she likes cum on her face go with it if she doesn't respect that, know that you are able to do what you want togeather if you both agree and only then. suppose thats where you work out if the person your with is a dissrespectful knob or a mutual participant. cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is an interesting question and agree with everyone about limits... we all have them...and I personally agree with HotOz for my Hard Limits that are never acceptable. Limits are an interesting area in the kind of role-play that I sometimes like to act out with the right person. In a D/s relationship, its the submissive who sets the limits... what kinds of things can be done, how much, and for how long. But there is more than one kind of limit in D/s role-play. There are Hard limits and Soft limits. Everybody has Hard limits--things that they absolutely will not do, and will not even consider. Some people like to be tied up but don't like the idea of being whipped... if they won't allow themselves to be whipped, ever, that's a hard limit. Then there are Soft limits--things that someone won't do under ordinary circumstances, but will allow to be "forced" on them in the context of a particular scenario that's being acted out. Between soft limits and hard limits lies an interesting psychological territory to explore. And that’s the best and most fun and fascinating part for me. D/s is all about testing limits. A submissive always gets a way to opt out though... usually with a safe word or sign... if the submissive uses it, they've had enough and the scene is over. This is especially important if you're engaging in any kind of "edge" play, such as resistance play, because you need a way for your partner to be able to say "stop" and mean it. (I've paraphrased here and there, from someone I admire, because I couldn't put it any better myself :P)
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playfulminx
16 years ago
I'm wondering if with everyone being wonderfully open minded on RHP that our sexual limits are much broader than non-RHP users :P It always makes me giggle when mainstream radio. mags and TV pose 'ooh ahh' questions to the vanilla public hoping to get outrageous stories about public sex, threesomes and bondage.And look at us! We're struggling to find things we wouldn't do (other than the gross/indecent obvious) :O
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RHP User
16 years ago
You never mentioned gay stuff. Does that mean you have no problem with sucking cock?.... lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Imagine the scandal if footballer types that have been in the news of late played with poo, and not just girls in hotel rooms! lovebitten xoxoxoxo
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RHP User
16 years ago
In answer to your questions.... in limits... in line with your friend really...having the right people at the right time though.. well thats a different story lol.... To the dilemma you pose - it would not put me off the person and in fact could ensure my interest...there is something about that person who has the potential to add dimensions to my life - and thats exciting 2me. Gd Post :) 2b :)
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