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Sexual compatibility and age
September 27 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally I don't think that age is such a big thing.....I am currently dating a man 20 years older than me!!! I have always been more attracted to older men as I find them more understanding of my circumstances. Plus I have found the older guys I have dated aren't likely to want me to go out partying till all hours of the morning like some of the younger fella's!! Partying is hard when you have a small child....I prefer to hang out at home and enjoy someone's company rather than shout over extremely loud music!! So in answer to your post...personally I don't find it embarrassing to be with an older man.....it's rather a turn on!!! And I do like the shocked looks we get when we are affectionate in public!!! lol Oh and just wondering how your relationship with this girl started? Didn't she know your age when you met?
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Bubbaj
15 years ago
if i went for a guy older than the 40's+, its like a daddy figure.....but on the other hand you can pick and choose online. truthfully for me though, if i was to meet ppl over the 40's at parties, i dont ask them there age and get along well with them. but it being online, its like judging a book by its cover unfortunately...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Older guys definitely float the boats of some women, but when the guy is 40+ I just can't get past the fact that he's closer in age to my parents than me. I don't mean to offend anyone!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
As a society we're conditioned at a very early age to think if a person is older by 10 or 20 years' something's wrong and its a no no to even think that way... OK' I can understand the perception a older person is closer to falling off their perch than their younger counterpart... Ideally' we find someone the same age or there abouts as ourself ' get married have children and live happily ever after.. Right ? If that's the case ' why is there so much disilusion and marraige breakdowns amoung todays socieity. ? The majority of these people naturally married into their own age group and still ended up kaput.. Personally' I would rather be married or attached to a person who I am compatible and happy with' be it older or younger? There is a 9 year age difference between Mr JJ and myself and unless we mention it no one is any the wiser .. Its always been that way.. In fact' Mr JJ still attracts ladies much younger than himself' so I never seen my self as being any different.. My advice is never say never..If the person has a warm heart and a happy nature' keep your options open...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I always seem to attract the younger ladies, well younger than myself anyway, as long as they are cool with the idea I don't care what others think, as long as we are both happy. The ex was 7 years younger than myself and the lady I was seeing until last week was 10, so age is just a thing , be happy and go with the flow
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had generally gone for younger guys pretty much because I had this issue with guys closer to my mothers age than my own but having relaxed that concept lately and lets face it my Mum isnt that old so its likely we ewould be attracted to guys around the same ages I have found that the best sexual compatibility I have currently is with a guy who is 44...10 yrs older...but I wouldnt change it for anything...well not the sexual compatibility anyway I have an awesome time Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
A connection is just that, for me it can happen at any time with anyone, sometimes it s not always sexual, sometimes it builds in snippets, other times it's right there in front of my face. It's a knowing look, a biochemical response and sometimes it has more power than 10, or 15 years. A physical response for me is often directly proportional to the way a woman carries herself, they are are often subtle cues. A confident woman who puts herself out there at any age is engaging and attractive. I don see it too much in younger women tough under 25s they seem to be cute. It depends on my lense on the day too. Age for me is not always proportional to my ability to see feel and connect with another, different aged women are attractive in different ways, young hot chicks who strut their stuff in a very overt way, it is what is often raw, and hey that's great; but I think its also really comodified, and i think its easy to overlook what I find attractive about a specific woman when they are generically sexual. Some older women do it well they just carry themselves and hold a more personal expression of their sex, thats hot too. mmmm can't decide perhaps it's just what i likewhen I meet someone and there is something there...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Whats with the old Snow shoe. Judging by the ages of forum contributors I would suggest that there are a hell of a lot of us 40+ on here. I for one am just hoping that in 10 years all these lovely ladies are still here and we can all still continue to live our lives freely. Personally I don't think that age has anything to do with it. It is feels right, go for it. And there are plenty out there that seems to think the same. Just hang in there, it will happen
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RHP User
15 years ago
I must be the odd one out, I have more luck with the young ones than I do older women. I seem to attract women in their 20's and early 30's for some reason and women 40+ don't seem to want to know me. I very much treat younger people as equals and I'm always complimentary so I guess I'm better for their self esteem and confidence than many guys their age. Some young ladies have worked out that older guys are likely to be alot more experienced and we know how to treat a woman. Look at the surprised expressions on young women when you open doors for them or something chivalrous, they just don't expect men to do those things any more.
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RHP User
15 years ago
has illustrated the point pretty well. As she intimated her immediate and deciding perceptions are age related, not who or what the person is, and i reckon that is quite the norm with women, and is clearly a hang up with most. Where as men tend to be the opposite.Its probably quite sad, because younger women don't get to experience mature men and the difference and benefits that sometimes go with that, and mature men don't get to experience the refreshing outlook and vitality that sometimes accompany a younger lady.Isn't it a fact that libido is most closely matched with younger women/older men and vise a versa?Though the long and the short of it Snowshoes is that women will have what women will want, and there aint nobody gunna change their minds!Probably best to build a bridge, or hope that you find that rare young woman who has it worked out!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mrs JJ told me she posted something in this forum and after reading what she had to say I felt compelled to add my bit. I agree with what Ruggedly_Rugged had to say.. I also get attention from younger females' 20 - 35 more so than the 40 + .. I too' never lost what was very common practice when I was growing up and that is the basics of how you treat a lady. Manners.. and a good sense of humor.. As Rugged said in his post' a younger woman really gets surprised when a man opens a door' or pull thier chair out for them at a resturant.. I have witnessed alot of the younger people these days sadly missing these basic skills once so common.. But in saying that' you cant lose sight of the fact there will always be that ' something ' that animal instinct' that attracts 2 people to each other.. and age has no boundrys.. Only today' I saw a stunning looking young girl crossing the road towards me' our eyes meet and the gaze was held til we passed each other... When I reached the other side of the road I felt compelled to turn around only to find she did the same.. ??? Words cant define that but of course it is some sort of chemistry.. The only other observation I have is that there are 40 year olds and there are 40 year olds.. Many of the people I grew up with think of themselves as old and so they are... Im sure you all know someone the same. They think' they talk and they act old.... If you think healthy in body and mind' it shows and thats the way people will accept you..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Older men often want younger women because it's good for their egos. A status symbol, the sign that they are perhaps not getting old ..........or at least are going very well for their age. Women of my age often want younger men for the same reasons......."look what i can get" :) It's all about egos. If i were looking for a life partner it would be a whole different story but i'm not, i have my life partner and he happens to be 7 years younger than me and hot. All i'm looking for is a bit of fun and right now it's all very shallow and more often than not hot fun comes in the form of young and hot and unfortunatly for older men just because you are older doesn't make you a better lover than a younger guy, 28-38 has come a LONG way and by golly he does a VERY nice job of things including (if you choose correctly) opening doors, after cuddles and getting breakfast. Mrs S HE HE Sweetie, We agree with you 100%, top marks! All this talk about a 10 year rule for swinging we dont think so....only younger. We also think this settles down to reality as couples hit around 50, if everyone insisted on younger no one would play! We look for a couple where the oldest is no more than 2 yrs older than us. the youngest is no more than 2 yrs younger than us. Going older than 2 yrs we think what happens if they have just been too busy to update their profile for 10 yrs! younger than 2 yrs .....we are wasteing our time so we wont even try.... Might just send a cheeky flirt as a compliment but we had no intention of ever talking and playing! As for the occasional offer from a couple 30 years younger than us, we havnt responded to date but it is a tease on the mind every now and again!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well there is an 11 year age difference between my bf and I.. I have gone for men about 5 years older than me and when I met him it was just amazing we connected on all aspects, sexually we have the same kinks etc and our outlook on life is the same... If I was with someone the same age as me I think i would go insane the immaturity of the guys I have dated my age is mind-boggling... The only time I see age as a problem is when they are as old as my father or older... Its not that I don't find some older men attractive (I have had a fling or 2 with 40+ men) but at the time I was looking for a relationship and they couldn't offer that to me. But my thoughts are if you are happy with the person you are with and you can see past the age stereotype then F**K everyone else and their narrow mindedness :) :)!!!! Mrs Curiouslykinky72 xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have read all the comments above and everyone seems to have made good points. But I would have thought that the preferred age option on your profile would solve the problem. If a person only wants to meet other people in a certain age group, then specify that age group in your profile. If a person outside that age group sends you a message, then they are an idiot. Nothing worse than looking at a profile and seeing the age range of "18-99". I haven't been able to meet anyone yet but I suspect that it is because I am overweight and not because of my age.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i just go with the connection and fun whatever the age...not set rules for me..i do know my limitations though..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Whilst at a recent gathering, most people convinced me or tried to convince me that a 26yo was ok with me a 45yo, mind you soon to turn 46 day after melb cup day....I was horrified, he was old enough to be my son ffs....I am broad minded and never close any attractive door but please!!!! Absolutely fantastic guy in every way although I have my limitations too. I like the 10yr gap either way and oh Snow you are far from old xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Anymore is a difference mentally! also gotta think us with kids often have a rule must be closer to my age than my oldest child. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes yes yes absolutely agree Like I am talking fleetwood mac and they are talking some other language lol xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Damn!!! That puts me out of the running for some serious hotties on here sigh...... Seriously though i do understand the close to my parents age thing not so much the same age as my kids one (lol) but Snowshoe all it takes is one woman enlightened enough to realise that there are some serious benefits with playing with an older man..... Kisses Focus
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