Sexual behaviour, social norms and promiscuity.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Customer, thank you for sharing. Yes I agree...our brains are developed and with that comes the potential for endless possibilities and that includes sexual choices. It makes the double standards that exist in society that much more difficult to comprehend, given that premise. Good Luck in your pursuits

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  to say that yes, we are forced "underground" to live out our sexual proclivities. This site is testamount to such behaviour with so many profiles without pictures and pictures not showing faces. oops just realised I don't have a pic up atm but have had in past and will do again in future.lmao IMHO everything was going along fine and then the Victorian era of history. Whoops everyone behind closed doors, cover our bodies, ssssh sex is a taboo subject. I do not believe we are monogamous creatures. "For life' when it originated was when life expectancy was late thirties at best. Interestingly though this approach is seen in many cultures and societies. Several of which there is no evidence of a meeting of said societies or cultures. Overly religious and harsh backgrounds including abuse have led to a lot of women seeing their sexual behaviour as promiscuous. Some people also grow up with the belief that they are only cherished or loved by others if it is of an intimate physical nature. As stalky has often mentioned in these forums get out and meet the "real people" involved in the swinging scene. Then I believe you come across what I would describe as uninhibited,confident men and women. They accept sex as a naturally occurring phenomenon and explore their sexuality without exploiting. We are all a product of our genes,our experiences both good and bad, our parents,our culture etc.We have all arrived at "thisr place" for differing reasons. "Judge not and you be not judged". If only that were true, even here it goes on. Another quote "Treat people as if they are people to be met" and a paraphrase "if meeting people is the goal there is a chance that a connection could be made and the result is always a two way street." Take a chance get out to the meet n greets. Meet other like minded people.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I think that life is always hard and difficult it is our choices that make us who we are. if you think to much about who or what we are, then we will self destruct. You need to step back and think our live is based on the past present and future so take hold what we have become and enjoy and never second guess our choices. You never gonna please everyone, but please you and the people in your life that are important. Mrs Candy

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I sometimes wonder. Am I overtly sexual by reason of experiencing abuse or was I always overtly sexual which attracted abuse.... Regardless, I think it's important to explore and become comfortable with your sexuality and, if you tend to be promiscuous, then feel comfortable with that. We are who we are. What other people think... well people who think alike tend to find each other... there's a connection. Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I have never been unlucky enough to experience abuse but I have met several guys whose hypocritical attitudes to female sexuality and ridiculous machismo meant that they wanted to sleep with me but judged me for feeling the same. So this convinced me that pretending I'm a cute, sweet innocent little angel might only get me where I don't want to be- with a tool who thinks it's his god-given right to screw around and my god-given duty to let him. So I might as well be honest about the fact that I like my body and I enjoy sex, because let's face it, in our prudish popular culture women are still all too often lumped with the 'choice' to be either a Madonna or a whore. So I figured I might try my luck on here, and while I was happy doing whatever I want I might even meet some guys with refreshingly liberal attitudes toward sex. So far my evil plan is working, mwahahaha!!!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Quoting 'stalky' I sometimes wonder. Am I overtly sexual by reason of experiencing abuse or was I always overtly sexual which attracted abuse.... Regardless, I think it's important to explore and become comfortable with your sexuality and, if you tend to be promiscuous, then feel comfortable with that. We are who we are. What other people think... well people who think alike tend to find each other... there's a connection. Hugs Stalky Taipan posted bout what mkes ya happy..you got it man. we all from different walksof life and yet all still drawn here.gotta love it man, feel the luuurrve.ahahahahaahahhahahahahahahhahahahahaEarl

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Most people assume that I hate men because I like to dominate and inflict pain on them. Nothing could be further from the truth. I too suffered abuse and have been raped but I still love men. I understand them and what motivates them. If they don't like what I do why come back for more? I don't have a good time if they don't have a good time. Am I promiscuous? I don't think so. I don't go with just anybody, I pick and choose who I play with very carefully. However my sexual lifestyle is generally regarded as unacceptable despite it being done in a safe, sane and consensual environment.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Promiscurity, unacceptable, harsh.....they're all negative judgement values, deemed by somebody about something, and if the value is held by a large number of people - does it make it valid? Newspapers think it does, and they would know, right! So you know all this already but it does not stop the self guilt of your own free thought, inspired by your peers, observed by the authorities and distributed by the media. All created for our own greater good. I think it's gotten outa hand, this sensationalist wider held opinion about everything and everybody. And sexuality is right in the firing line - coz as mentioned above - it sells. We all know whats right and wrong (hopefully) and your own sexuality is a private matter between consenting adults of your collective choosing. I think that's about the best 'Base Line' I can construct. Any other opinions, widely held or not, are just points of view. As for incidents that happened to you personally, they happened allright, can't change the happening. How you're going to be about it - well thats a whole different story. We are all free to choose and that's a fact.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Life - be in it! If it feels right, it is right. Question always, push limits, think laterally and conform only when necessary (like not speeding *note to self*) Awareness is something that people need to "come" to. When the majority of people become 'aware' then societal norms will change. Standing alone requires courage. But it also provides freedom. Jx

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