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Sexual Chemistry Versus Mental Chemistry
February 14 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
be on to something there Nudie, I feel exactly the same these days. It doesn't matter how physically attractive the person is, if i don't like who they are as a person or they're head space doesn't excite me.....then I am left feeling all blahhhhgggggg and uninterested, and I won't be finding out what they may be like between the sheets.I think as you mature you come to realise and appreciate all the extra dimmensions that can make sex so much more than a roll in the hay.Naturally there are always the exceptions to the rules.Cheers Nev.....mumbles something about old heads and young shoulders.....lol
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erotictouch4u
15 years ago
Mental chemistry is definitely more important because it fills in the time gaps while we rest between the sex periods. As you say NR2, you can always turn mediocre sex into fantastic sex with some mutual teaching. ET x x x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stimulate the mind and the body will follow.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'GirlTuesday' Sexual chemistry alone isn't enough to sustain a passionate female in the 21st century. Perfectly stated - great sex is essential to maintain a viable exciting relationship........ BUT it is only a part of the whole.great sex can be learnt/taught - a great personality or the ability to maintain a relationship other than a 'horizontal' one takes some depth of character, and that comes with maturity. When you find the 'right one' the T's will be crossed and the I's will be dotted.... Im not saying perfect, but good potential to grow together mentally and sexually !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Being somewhat differently sexually aligned there is no way I could sustain a vanilla sex life so the sexual chemistry HAD to come first. On the other hand, I couldn't stand to be with someone that did not stimulate me mentally. I have found both with my current partner and I consider myself very very lucky.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hard to say...but...If it is just a sexual encounter....I would rather them shut up and fuck me! I met up with a cute hot young guy yesterday and he laid there and talked for ages...When all I could hear was blah, blah, blah...just stfu and have sex with me already!! In the end I just said to him, "So, we going to have sex or keep talking"? I mean, I had places to go and people to see! < If it is someone that I am seeing on an ongoing basis then Mental stimulation definately comes into it...but having said that, if he is just there for sex...I don't care what his IQ is...as I just want the sex...and not the talk! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Funloving is Spot on
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' I don't care what his IQ is...as I just want the sex...and not the talk! We don't have to say a word...and I would never tell.
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
Mental chemistry is hugely important to me. I like to consider myself a reasonably intelligent person, and while someone may be smokin' hot, if they can't keep a conversation and/or excite me mentally as well, they tend to lose their appeal for me. I think Fionabee said it best... Quoting 'fionabee'Stimulate the mind and the body will follow. It also works in reverse. While i've found some people might physically be not something I would jump at (or want to jump) immediately, they have mentally stimulated me enough to want to still give them a chance...And it's always been worth it! Dida xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was really only fooling around before...for me the order importance runs like this: | EQ ...I like to be on the same maturity wave length regardless of age. The chronological number can look after itself if this one matches up. This one to me is the chemistry part of it all and whether we are going to have fun having fun. Age does not measure that. | IQ...clever, not just smart. In fact, clever people usually leave smart people in the dust in most any situation...or end up working for them. It's also fun to be on the same page here and not be at all impressed or depressed about education as long as you can carry on a good conversation and know what the other person is all about. | Anantomy...there was a thread on "types" so won't repeat all that (quiet...I heard that!) but think we are on an adventure so will not limit myself to stereo type think. Turn up the quadraphonic sound and blow me away. | Oh yeah...and nice shoes. Just thought I would throw that in.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT'Being somewhat differently sexually aligned there is no way I could sustain a vanilla sex life so the sexual chemistry HAD to come first. On the other hand, I couldn't stand to be with someone that did not stimulate me mentally. I have found both with my current partner and I consider myself very very lucky. kind of anyway...lol...just flip the other side of the coin for me.. . Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to admit I do sometimes flip my own coin and follow your orientation Focus, but only with my partner. And as for Midnight...is that a shoe fetish coming out?
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RHP User
15 years ago
...Mind. . I have to say that for me, mental chemistry is sexual chemistry. I find an intelligent and interesting woman much more attractive than someone who can't carry an intelligent conversation. . Fantastic sex without mental stimulation, nuh uh. Sorry I don't see it happening. As has been said above, an intelligent and interesting so-so lover can learn to be an intelligent and interesting great lover. A bit hard for the reverse. . Good sex can be had with a hook up or one nighter but that's where it'll end once I find out that there's no mental spark. . As for it being a product of getting older. I think it's more finding out through experience what works for you and what you want at a point in time. . That's just the view from my place. . Cheers Rusty
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RHP User
15 years ago
..That's why I love the forums. . It's where all the smart chicks hang out. . Cheers Rusty
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RHP User
15 years ago
For me...there has to be some amount of sexual chemistry for me to be interested in pursuing things further, but I agre...if there's no mental chemistry then it's not going to end up going very far. I absolutley have to be able to have a conversation and laugh with a date or I'll just get bored and move on.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks for the Replys....i Love the forums always a Mixed bag...Of people...wants....needs...and desiresRusty......... i totally agree with your statement that Mental Chemistry IS Sexual Chemistry....I have found myself on occassion to be so stimulated by great Mental Chemistry thatI have wanted to Bang him so hard and so well that even the neighbors would feel the need to have a cigarette.
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RHP User
15 years ago
..with the masses. It's a whole package kind of thing BUT sexual chemistry alone would never do whereas it can develop from mental chemistry. Ever got to know someone and then POW you find yourself suddenly fantasizing about them?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2'I have found myself on occassion to be so stimulated by great Mental Chemistry thatI have wanted to Bang him so hard and so well that even the neighbors would feel the need to have a cigarette. Mmmmm.... Now the mental imagery you've inspired is definitely sexual. . Cheers Rusty
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elfin7
15 years ago
Sexual Chemistry Versus Mental Chemistry I agree with DidacticTactics sex with no brains is no fun, simple
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