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Sex lies and cyberspace
March 14 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quiet weekend Freya ? Actually I thought it was a rejection process.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As you see, the answer is somewhere between your delusion and my cynicism. Or vice versa. 😝
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RHP User
11 years ago
As someone who has been lied to throughout my entire life (pretty much like a lot of others, I would guess) I don't put much value in words, especially when it comes to relationship stuff, like feelings and trust and intentions etc. I find a persons actions tell me more than I need to know. When it is exaggerating something, it depends on the circumstances. My kids used to get upset when I exaggerated a story, so I stopped. But now they say "No! Tell it how you used to...It used to be funny!" Lying by omission or using words that convey different meanings are two of the worst ways to lie, IMO. Please, if you are going to lie to me, just do it to my face, point blank, don't pussy around it! I always find out the truth sooner or later! So to answer your questions Freya, I think people believe what they want to believe. Truth or lies. xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
is that people believe half the shit they spout. I try to be polite enough not to call them on it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I expect everybody to lie to some extent. And especially on sites like this, most people have their own agenda as a priority and will say and do whatever they feel they need to to get their desired result. So therefore I am quite cynical and have managed to offend some people by not believing everything they say. Too harsh? Or just self preservation? Should I just believe everything I'm told? I don't know. My head hurts 😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am way too honest and also way too trusting as I like to think everyone is like me! However I think I am becoming more jaded especially after the last couple of weeks when a very close very old friend has been deceiving me for a very long time! This is someone I thought I knew very well, and now I feel like everything is a big lie. It's very demoralising to think people do not think of how they are hurting others by lying, whether it be intentional or not. I will continue to be honest as that is all I know and how I have always been, but I'm less trusting now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm way too honest but I know that pretty much everyone I speak to on here isn't. I've always thought I need to play "the game" a bit better but alas, I am who I am and I can't be fake or dishonest
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RHP User
11 years ago
Crap weekend, 50zkool? Freya, I tend to believe people until they give me a reason not to. As for opening up myself, I'm quite guarded with personal things until others have shown they're trustworthy. In my experience people show who they really are quite early on, though I've certainly been duped as well.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Actions will always speak louder then words... There is always 3 sides to a story - your side, their side and the truth...
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
either on line or in real life. The chances are you will get caught, and the sooner the better. The longer a relationship built on lies survives the more it will hurt one or both parties when in falls apart.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think people try to make themselves look as good as they can to get the desired result. We all do lie in one form or another but blatant lying I have no time for. I actually like a bit of cheeky exaggeration where you know it is a lie but I would consider that more of a sense of humour rather than lying as such. I am quite trusting and like Mea, trust until someone has given me a reason not to trust them. I don't like being cynical, it is wearing and not an attractive trait to me. If someone questioned everything I said, then I would get sick of that very quickly so I don't like to do it to others. I find that having to second guess what someone is saying all the time is too much effort and not the energy I like to put into someone, there are much more fun ways to invest your energy ;) And I agree that actions speak louder than words and I do prefer people to do what they think is right rather than say it. The proof is in the pudding.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Actions speak louder than words. A whole life of talk and no action. Promises and no follow through makes me a bit jaded when it comes to relationships. Finally I know what I want. I don't exaggerate as it will come back to bite you in the arse and not in a good way D XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Shells yes my blinkers were well and truly on! Never again though, never ever again. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
People believe what the want, why because if they found out a truth the bubble will burst. I have tried to tell others the truth on here, I have learnt my lesson on that one. So now if i see a guy slobbering over a false profile, I do not ever say a thing. You take of a persons rose coloured glasses, they are often blind anyway, or get bent out of shape and will often go on the attack. You see a woman's husband playing up, keep your mouth shut. We lie to ourselves, we lie to others and of course we want to put ourselves up with all our positive attributes. If you put up all your shit stuff, it means you only see the shit side of yourself and then your low self esteem might be running the show. I embellish, what good story teller does not do that? My kids say I am like the main character out of the movie BIG Fish...so lets see who turns up to my funeral and surprise everyone Lies are food for emotional need.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear as they only listen to the parts they want to listen too, and whether they are in here or out in the real world, they act in way that they want others to see them, go figure hey..... Me, I analise everything, every word, every expression, every conversation, it comes from watching people for many years.... 💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Believe what they want to believe, hear what they want to hear as they only listen to the parts they want to listen too, and whether they are in here or out in the real world, they act in way that they want others to see them, go figure hey..... Me, I analise everything, every word, every expression, every conversation, it comes from watching people for many years.... 💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fyck it... I am 64 not 59 that was a drop down thing and I can't be bothered to change it. I am Fat, I just hold my breath when taking selfies. Oh ok Ok I am crap in bed... I always cum first , then I lesp up and shower. Ohhh alright ... I will promise to blow you after you eat my peach... Then I cum and won't blow you..., Well if you must know.... You know that funny smell in the bedroom the other night? Yeah the one like burnt cabbage? Well I really don't own a dog.....☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sammyfunxo' Shells yes my blinkers were well and truly on! Never again though, never ever again. - Posted from rhpmobile I understand your distrust Sammy; however believe it not fair to carry that mistrust onto another relationship. My ex's ex-husband cheated on her. I met her 10-years ago and in the 10-years I was with her she never really trusted me because of her past. Always looked for angles or mistruths in what I said or did. I never gave her any reason except for the (yes you look lovely, after the 4th wardrobe change to go out for dinner, and that wasn't a lie as far as I was concerned she looked lovely for all of them), Anyway, wore me down after awhile, and the rest is history. The point is (in my opinion) mistrust is as damaging to a relationship and dishonesty.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan3' Fyck it... I am 64 not 59 that was a drop down thing and I can't be bothered to change it. I am Fat, I just hold my breath when taking selfies. Oh ok Ok I am crap in bed... I always cum first , then I lesp up and shower. Ohhh alright ... I will promise to blow you after you eat my peach... Then I cum and won't blow you..., Well if you must know.... You know that funny smell in the bedroom the other night? Yeah the one like burnt cabbage? Well I really don't own a dog.....☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile Does that not feel better that you have cum clean and been honest
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great topic 😊 I have been pondering this exact same thought for awhile now. Do I let the little white lies slide? Or trust my instincts, knowing there are bigger lies I'm choosing not to see, knowing that once I acknowledge them things will change 😢. Great insight Shells xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
All memory is a lie to some degree. We have all seen the gorilla in the room experiment. you are told to watch two individuals in a video. Then after watching you are asked if you saw anything unusual on the video. Most people say "No nothing unusual". When told that there was a gorilla in the clip they have to be shown to believe. Sure enough there is a gorilla plain as day in the background. Is it a lie when you recall no gorilla? Our memory and recall of past events are far from accurate. Does that mean we lie. No and Yes. We don't lie because we tell as we remember, and yes we do lie because many of the details are made up as we tell the story. We are not aware to the extent of the imaginative extensions we add to all we recall. We also add to the memory during recall, our lies become more real. Some people do this to a greater extent than others. Nothing you hear should be taken as fact, nothing you remember is perfect. We all lie to fill in the details, how imaginative that assumed detail is the greater the falseness, but it is an active and conscious lie. Hence we use the term "anecdote" when we recalling a past adventure. An approximation of the past not necessarily the truth. There is also the lie of intent. To predict your own future actions is a lie as you can not know. You say "I will be there.", you have every intention to be there, at the time you do everything you can to be there, but in the end you are not. It is a quibble for sure, but unless you are 100% sure, not 99.99999% sure, you are actively creating a lie. It is possible not to lie, but that creates a very bland individual, incapable of expressing commitment, sparse in interesting stories. Personally I prefer the lier, as I take all with a sprinkle of salt, and I enjoy a good fable. Sure the fish was yay big, of course you are going to climb that mountain, yes I know your willy can hammer a nine inch nail through a 4 by 2. Lie a little or a lot, lie knowing you do or not, makes no difference to me, as i will simple renounce your reality and substitute my own. Makes my life easier. I have missed the one lie that matters. Deceit, the lie to exploit. That type of lie comes from ugly individuals, it taints all they do and say. Luckily they are easy to spot, even when not engaged in lies. They seek gain at your lose, their lies are planed and practiced. I avoid such people and do feel sorry for their suffering, but I can not help, and they are to dangerous to know. I have always wondered why some people pick that path.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Waste of time lying no matter what. Firstly one is eventually found out and looks like a dick and secondly not only are you lying to yourself it also shows a bit of weakness in character to me. Cheers all
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do some people tell lies after I have said that I need you to be honest with me.....I am a human lie detector,...🐞xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
she would prefer a thief in her house than a liar. A thief will take your possessions, a liar can ruin you. Having been married to liar, I know all too well the damage they can cause and I still probably got out of it much easier than others.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
I find it's the unspoken things that are the key to the truth. When you get to know someone you can sense the things that are left unsaid, where the space in the conversation can be an indicator of lies being prepared, or a deceit in the making, a half truth being prepared, a convenient yet false excuse being tried on for size. Most people listen to others with the intention of replying so they miss many flags and indicators that appear in a conversation. If you listen, and stay silent and still, you can find the gaps - the things unsaid - and that is where you may find the truth.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79'(Why) Do some people tell lies after I have said that I need you to be honest with me.....I am a human lie detector,...🐞xxFreya The irony is.... you only say that when someone has left you sensing they've lied in the first place. And, knowing they've lied... can you really trust them to tell the truth when you put them on the spot. Pattern set.
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RHP User
11 years ago
They don't see me again..simple xxFreya
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