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Sex drive, too high?
February 19 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
You are 24 - relax its perfectly normal! Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nooooooo! 24 yrs old, 44 yrs old, sex once a day (twice, three, four times etc) is perfectly normal. Sex once a month is also perfectly normal for some people. The trick is, finding some whose 'normal' matches your 'normal'. And also being prepared for the very likely possibility that your 'normal' will change over time, sometimes you'll want a lot more, sometimes a lot less. I speak from experience when I say that if your 'normals' don't match, no amount of pleading, begging, pouting, or hoping will change that. Respect what works for each other and decide if you love each other enough to accept it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Perfectly healthy sex drive there Nick, and normal so don't worry about it. :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I used to be with a guy that would quite happily wank beside me in bed if I wasnt into it that morning/night and nothing more than sheer tiredness (although hey that just used to get me going!!!), and still wanted more through the day if I was at home. He literally didnt get out of bed to start a day without a wank or sex. And there's plenty who are older want it that much and more..............wow for the women who like it and meet up with you. Nothing to worry about, have to agree, your normal, great sex drive and may you be blessed to find people that enjoy it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks guys. I know it's not too bad but I just don't know anybody in real life with my kind of sex drive, which is why RHP is great because I think I'm on par and if not below most people heh.nick
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RHP User
14 years ago
does that make his ex the one who should see a doc?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've worn out 5 partners. 4 x 3 yr relationships which couldn't keep up and they fizzled out. 1 still going 9 yr relationship. I struggle with my high sex drive and get frustrated often. My partner allows me to play on the side as long as it doesn't interfere with her time. This is easier said than done though. The only time available is mornings before work on a wed and fri or lunch times during work. That makes it difficult to catch up with many. So basically a pull is the replacement. Unless you have plans to have a new relationship every few years like I did for the first 4 then the sex slows down at some point in my experience. There are good and bad weeks but they ares sometimes few and far between. If i'd learned to live with it, I don't know how long those relationships would have lasted either way. I broke up with 3 and 1 broke up with me. Looking back I only really think 2 could have lasted. Find the 1 that is for you and find a way for it to work. Try not to take as long as I did to settle down, it costs a lot of money and emotional time. Good luck
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RHP User
14 years ago
its all good mate, i have to have at least two wanks a day and ill take sex as often as i can get it so we are in the same boat.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You guys just weren't suited libido-wise. Don't worry there are plenty of girls who can match you and then some!! I've always been the one with the higher sex drive in all my relatiionships, so we do exist.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Can you imagine living in a society where people are not expected to have sex unless they're married? Or worse, only have sex to have a child? Talk about self flagellation! Just imagine your frustration when you finally discover that the love of your life has the sex drive that doesn't come close to matching your own. "Stop pestering me for sex you sick bastard". ... versus "damn I need to cut loose or my head will blow off".... it's a serious problem in any relationship.... even those where a couple might have a sex drive that initially was perfectly matched... things change over time.... children interfere, stress, health, self image... lots of external influences make changes to your sex drive which can cause a miss match between couples at any given time. If you're in love, I suppose it's too late to discover there's a natural mismatch... and then there are those people, women mostly, who use sex to manipulate their partners.... it's a relationship normality to have a mismatched sex drive every now and again, or perhaps permanently. Rest assured yours is healthy so there's no need for you to be concerned. However, that's part of life. You'll need to deal with it when it happens in a way that suits you... like we all do. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your sex drive sounds fine to me. Myself i could quite happily have sex 2 or 3 times a day (if i could find someone to keep up with me) My ex was very similar to yours our sex life started out great twice a day but over the years it turned into twice a week to once a fortnight to basically nothing at all and i also found myself masturbating every night to forfill my needs. There is no need to see a doctor you just sound like a healthy sexually active guy
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RHP User
14 years ago
I recently broke up with my partner of 3 years for a number of reasons and one being the lack of sex. My sex drive is extremely high ( i have cum up to 5 times in one day) and i would get frustrated at having to innitiate the sex everytime. I think i focus on the sexual side too much and dont know how to actually "talk" to a woman. I know exactly how to please a woman sexually but not so good at the conversation that turns their mind on. Putting my thoughts into writing is much harder for me than giving them a wink and a smile to see where it leads.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sexual desire is also based on a big difference with men and women. Most if not all men get the big O every time they fuck. They can stick it in a cantaloupe and get the same results. If women came as easy as men, and I mean all the time, even after having kids and lack of sleep and hormone levels. We would be fucking everything in site. My sex drive was down to zero for a long time, and I just did not want to even bother to kick start it again. Talk to women and they will say, fuck I wish he would go stick it some place else, I am tired of it waving in my face. A twat, is not an inverted cock, god knows I wish it was. Most men will tell you they do not get enough sex, women will tell you the guy just will not leave me alone. RHP is a whole different kettle of fish , its not about relationships and the balance of life and sex and kids and work. Though it can happen no doubt but me thinks this is rare. My x when we first met fucked me nine times in a day, not shit he came home from work on his tea breaks and lunch and I got a bladder infection due to his never letting up on me. My idea of hot sex now is get a hotel for me, order in room service., Let me have a hot bath and slip into something sexy before you get there. Spend time in the sheets , getting to explore each other.Then walk out the door. I am then not burdened with having to cook, clean wash your undies, all the shit of reality that gets in the way of good sex. Do that my libido will go through the roof, turn me back into your housemaid , dishwasher , and everybody mummy then my libido will go back to hibernation.
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RHP User
14 years ago
At least you had the maturity to realise that your sex drive did not match that of your partner and could see it becoming an issue in the future. Congratulations. Many get married and then find out.....too late.....that they are not sexually compatible. It is perfectly normal for a young man of your age to feel the need for sex three, four, five times a day. My husband and I often had sex two or three times a day, for many years. It wasnt until early forties than this began to slow (just a little). No need to visit a doctor. Just find someone who does have a sex drive to match. There are plenty of them out there and if one is not enough, be honest with them and go for three or four. After all...variety is still the spice of life.
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RHP User
14 years ago
So there you go nicky ... spanking the monkey , jerking the gerkin or knocking the Top off is Normal 38 times a day is normal and your ex well she is normal too from the sonds of it... So why are you HERE after all this is where the Freaks Show hangs out So on your way nothing to see here Normal Boy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Great input guys, good to know I'm not a freak after all haha! To the ladies who have/had men who cannot keep up with them. This has restored me faith in that there is such thing as a female with a high sex drive!Nick
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RHP User
14 years ago
Not below average anyway... | | Other than on the weekend...or during the week.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the idea of nomality is a myth. Normal can in my opinion be anywhere from two or three times a month to twice ( or more ) a day. Ihave just turned 60 and still would average ten to twelve orgasms a week. On good weeks three quarters of them will will be fucks, on other weeks they might all be wanks.And Im still quite happily married (36 years) so we have found ways around our mismatched sex drive. She allows me to be on rhp for example. So keep having as many orgasms as necessary or you want or can mananage be be careful about claiming normality. I get told Im not normal for all sorts of reasons.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' So there you go nicky ... spanking the monkey , jerking the gerkin or knocking the Top off is Normal 38 times a day is normal and your ex well she is normal too from the sonds of it... So why are you HERE after all this is where the Freaks Show hangs out So on your way nothing to see here Normal Boy haha I wouldn't consider anybody to be normal, only the actions they take?;)Nick
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RHP User
14 years ago
Throttling the Lizard or Gagging the Maggot that many times sounds an average if I ever heard one. But whats the silliest place you've Flogged the Mutton? . This always amuses me. If you care to answer of course as it's a little off topic?
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